Aries girl and a scorpio guy

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Just want an advice on how to handle things better since i'm getting involved with a scorpio guy. I was involved with one before a long time ago and they are very different. Not like traditional "bad reputation" of an aries i'm very patient and can be deepsmile So, here is a brief story. We've known each other for a short period of time but it feels very comfortable and right. Talking, hanging out and other stuff. We seem to have similar views on many subjects but haven't touched any really deep topics. I like to take things a bit slow and let them develop naturally and see where it takes us. Both of us just began opening up to each other a bit. I feel like doing nice stuff for him (which i love to do for my friends/family/people i like) but keep stopping myself since i've been burn before and some people misunderstand good intentions. He's been nice to me, so farsmile and got me flowers once. So, just want to find out what to do/not to do to create any unessary frictions or stupid misunderstandings. I know that scorps like to assume and can be overly sensitive. I'm kind of very sensitive myself but keep it inside and i can overeact and walk away/give up without getting an explanation.
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Do a synastry test, there are free sites on the net. See if it matches or makes any sense. Find out his moon, venus, mars signs are; they offer quite a bit of info. See how his moon, mars & venus matches with yours. From your profile, I see fire & air mostly, I wonder how he matches up with you. I'm not saying signs mean everything but it can give an insight if you need it.
My boyfriend is a Scorpio but he does have quite a few fire signs which seems to help. The bottom line is with us Aries people (men or women) we can't help being ourselves, so do just that, be yourself. If he loves you for it. Great, if not, well, so be it.
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Yea i agree with Roxi, it all boils down to communication.... i kno this for a fact! i had a huge wacked out moment with one of my bfs friends (who came on to me heavily), i told him over the phone everything. that his friend tried to seduce me and how i felt weird... and akward and a bunch of other stuff, i was a mess over the phone. but scorps adore honestly and i told him everything as i could calmy (he kept up well) and we ended up on a 3 hr convo on everything under the sun. It's probably the longest convo we've ever had, honestly they appreciate honestly and think clearly as possable. its true we have difficulties in explaining ourselves, but think about it, aries are very direct, we dont hold out. just try not to come on to strong and explain it, even if it sounds dumb... its worth hearing.
i honestly went on even to say this 'Yes, I am overwhelming, Yes, I am ridiculous, Yes, I have issues, but i dont think im wrong in saying who i am.... if u cant deal with it then fine... this is me and im sry thats all i can be'.
surprisingly, he was fine and then cheered me up and is taking me on a little mini weekend getaway. scorps are wonderful people, just pull a madonna and express urself!
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Thank you! Great points
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Should i be ok or worry if i text my scorp yesterday with a playful and sexy text and he hasn't responded yet. Not that i don't have patiencesmile but i think it's a bit rude or not caring of him to get back. Usually, he does.
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he will, just give him time. i've kinda taken on the 'eh forget it' mind set for my scorp. he'll get back to u, he just probably hasnt found anything witty or hot to say back. They don't like embarassment, mine has a tendancy to call me sexy and 'attempt' at being cute, which i recently found out is a lot harder for him to be then i thought. he's a stiff... cant do anything about that. But when i do message him out of random he usually takes a bit to respond unless its an actualy question or something. just do what aries arent prown to doing... take a step back and let him lead on occasion. trust me u'd get better results and it means u can get other types of work done while he figures himself out.
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thanx pb26. i asked him how he was. recently he'd get back to me right away. and he initiated texting almost every day. he's pretty witty himself and i'm the one who has to come up with some "cute" stuff to write back. i have no problem with him leading. he asked me if my friends know about him. not sure if he's playing games or serious and i don't want to get my hopes up and get hurt
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Run!!! Scorp guys and Aries girls are a lethal combination. While both are adventurous, spontaneous, love excitement, and are very passionate, that is where the similarities end. Dated several and one long term, all were different but in the end had the same problems. While he will initially be attracted to your strength, independence, and wildness, he will eventually grow suspicious of the same, despite the fact that we are too damn honest to be deceptive. His mind is sharp, but calculating and manipulative, and while the ego often hides Aries sensitivity, his emotions run deeper and more illogical than yours.
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Thanks FAA. Is it from personal experience if you don't mind me asking? I know scorps are more emotional and definately more manipulative than aries but i thought aries are way more illogical then scorpssmile i just wish there was less of push/pull thing.
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yea i'd agree scorps seem much more illogical. reason being... cuz we're much easier to read, they're not. every relationship has its problems, some a little more difficult than others. i cant say you should avoid the aries scorp pairing, considering im in one myself... but at the same time u need to go into it realizing theres a lot of things u might not agree with and a lot of give and take. in recent times i've come to realize they like knowing they are known, my bf just introduced me to his closest of best friends and they're known about me since i first arrived way back when. they like knowing ur background and where u stand, he knows all the names of my friends and if he questions it then just explain. its a sign thats not very trusting and always asking questions, so let him. aries have nothing to hide, theres no hidden agenda... i honestly dont think we have time for such trivial things.
the push / pull thing... not sure how long that'll last, all i kno is that the deeper u get sucked in... the more i find reasons to stay.
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have to agree with you that aries are very open when we want to be. i don't lie or play head games unless i'm pushed into it. it's too trivial and pointless at the end. it's hard to find someone that you're always agree with unless you're dating yourselfsmile he asked me couple random things that made me feel like he wants to get to know me better but he doesn't really asks anything. recently he started telling me more about him and some of his plans that are work related. you're right about all relationships have some issues and some are solvable if both of you know what they are. how did you figure out that he really likes you and wants to be with you? i'm not pushing this situation by any means but don't want to get hurt if i'm setting myself up for something that isn't there. just being an honest ariessmile
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It's either there or it isn't with a scorpio. Don't push it, just let it happen and if it works, just let it work. Scorpio's will run if an Aries pushes them too hard about anything. I've dated them before and the one I'm with now and I didn't have to 'do' anything, he was ready and so was I so it happened.
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normally the scorpio guy does the chasing....they are very closenit and love being around you...especially if they really like you...i was with a scorp guy for 5 years and he was all over me...thats why we broke up...he wouldnt let me breathe.....
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honestly i always felt in the dark and had one of my aries moments.... i like freaked and just gave up being strong, just for a sec. we kinda got into the relationship (me unknowningly) by him expressing that he wants to be with me forever.... me thinking 'you've drunk right?'... then he just started putting a serious effort, not a day went by without a call or text. he started getting into my life... i was shocked. the finally i asked wtf are we doing.. and he said we were dating.
So how do i kno its for real? about 2 weeks ago i went to a party he couldnt attend (his uncle was in the hospital...but told me to go). his friends talked shit cuz they were pissed and one of his friends tried hooking up with me...and another went on telling me horrible things about him. I think they wanted me gone, cuz i was opposed to his upcomming decision. anyway to make a long story short the next day i didnt kno what to say, i didnt want him thinking i would make it up, or try to ruin his friendships... so i panicked and kinda ended up talking about it shakily. i didnt kno how he'd respond, along with the fact that im mentally tramatized from my last relationship. so i just blurted everything out and said anything that came to mind. nothing had happened, nothing would happen, but i didnt want him thinking anything could or would. we stayed on the phone three hours, him calming me down and then he attacked his guy friends the same night.
we're all okay now, but he was surprsingly protective of me when i didnt think he would be. he just gave me something i didnt think he would. he made me feel safe and ok, and made me feel like me again, its horrible to feel helpless and lost and he made me feel back to my ol' giggly dorky amazonian self! thats when i new he was real. cuz he wouldnt let me fall when i almost did. he didnt let me feel alone.
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also of recent times, nothing major, but we went to bed the other day... midway passing out i jolted. like i just shook really hard for some reason when i was about to fall asleep and woke up out of it. he litterally pulled me into his arms the min i jolted and started kissing my forehead and rubbing my back and asking if i was gonna be ok and that he was there. expect the unexpected, i felt so safe and we stayed that way the entire night, i love cuddling!!
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good poing Mistery. "It's either there or it isn't" with aries as well. i guess i'll just pull back and see what happens. i'm not into pushing since i was pushed in some relationships before and it's a horrible feeling. wouldn't do it anyone.
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dward417 - i'll let him do the chasing from now on. anyways, he does it most of the time. just wondering if i should see other people meanwhile. i usually see one person at a time. not a big fan of dating around.
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phoenixblaze26 - sorry about his friends. that just shows how bad some people are. particualarly friends. one of ex's friends was at my house the same day we broke up asking me for a date while the guy was dating one of my best friends at that time. don't pay attention to his friends they might just want you to themselves and jealous of him. you know how irresistable aries women aresmile i guess i'm having a low moment when i'm not sure and need some reassurance. there are times he gets in touch every day telling how great i am and sometimes he dissapears. i just don't like to played if he sees 5 other girls on a side. i love being protected by a man and cuddling as wellsmile i'm glad to hear that's it's happening to you - gives me hope!!! purely selfish reason heresmile
sometimes aries can be spaced out and not notice certain things. unless the guy tells us to our faces- i like you and want to be with you- we won't really take it seriously.
i think i'm craving stability at this point of my life.
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"I feel like doing nice stuff for him (which i love to do for my friends/family/people i like) but keep stopping myself since i've been burn before and some people misunderstand good intentions. He's been nice to me, so far and got me flowers once. So, just want to find out what to do/not to do to create any unessary frictions or stupid misunderstandings."

lol, ariesgirl402 .... think about the above for what it really means, and all of this will go away, for you will have insight into your motives .. which in essence, has caused all of the misunderstandings.
To give to another from the heart, has no expectations of anything to come back in return to even get burnt. Giving something because an antipication to recieve something back, and which was NOT recieved back, actually causes this heartache .. because it wasn't given with good intentions FOR the other person to be happy, rather .... for you to recieve something back.
Everything is good .... he has been nice so far by giving you flowers.
You're attempting to make an impression upon him to gain something in return ... which negates giving to people for a reason of wanting them to be happy.
You give to make yourself happy ..... and when it isn't recieved within this expectation, then you feel misunderstood.
In other words .... your gift is superficial, because it's for you to feel good about yourself and not sincere for the other person to receive a beautiful gift from you.
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What makes him nice is buying you flowers?
And how you equate wanting to be nice to him is buying giving a gift, which you are holding back because you're afraid of being burnt.

In reality ... this connection isn't deep at all, and lingering on the superficial level from your perspective because your processing intentions materialistically.
Scorpio's are deep, and very intuitive .... what you should do right now is forget about gifts and flowers, for if he senses this, he might pull away no matter who much he fancies you because the connection isn't deep enough.
But, that's not to say that it can't delve deeper .. however, you'll have to start "feeling", rather than "thinking" in terms of measuring people according to material sparkle motions .....
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P-Angel - i get your point. it's not about being materialistic. it's about doing some nice tangible things, hence gifts, flowers etc. and it isn't about getting things in return - it's just a return of attention. to me a process of buying a thing for someone i care about means: thinking about him, thinking about what he would like, would he enjoy it? it's about him and not me. and i'd like him to take it that way. and if he decides to return the gesture- it means he went through a similar thought process if he's indeed a deep person. that's what gifts and flowers and other material stupid things mean. what's your definition of deep emotional connection? pretty words of romance and non-sense whispering in each other ears?smile
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"and it isn't about getting things in return - it's just a return of attention."
It's normally not a deliberate thing .. this usually sits on the unconscious level, in which is the actual motivator. For instance: the giving of something in return for a gesture is what will make you view him in a certain light = depth.
Kind of like at Christmas .... say for several years, you give a person a gift because it's Christmas and this is what you are supposed to do if you care about somebody .... but, this somebody never gives one back to you. After a couple years, you will begin to view this person differently, based off of whether a gift was given back to you.
So, though, it's not intentional (this basing people off of material), it happens .. it influences us to form our opinions of how we regard other people.
"and if he decides to return the gesture- it means he went through a similar thought process if he's indeed a deep person. that's what gifts and flowers and other material stupid things mean."
Gestures don't equate to stupid meanings in my interpretation.
With you, because you have experiences in which you have been taken advantage of for giving things to people .. you now process whether he is deep or not, based off of whether he can return this same kind of attention to you .. and that's an expectation.
Expectations are killers of most every relationship .. because a person can only give what is in their heart to give .. this is where I bulk against the mind-set of ....
"Treat others as you want to be treated" ...
For the fact of the matter is .... others aren't you, nor are you them .. and they should be treated the way THEY need to be treated, not the way YOU need to be treated. To only treat others the way you want to be treated is actually being selfish because it says that you will hold them to have to live life according to your standards and not their own.
Being a Pisces .. it's not likely that I will ever regard "giving", with any kind of following condition in place. If I give of myself to somebody .. there are no if's attached.
My idea of a deep connection is giving of yourself with no expectations .. if whispering sweet nothings (which apparantly is non-sense to you) is apart of this giving .. then yes, that is inclusive. However, to whisper these sentiments, also holds no expectation for it to be given back.
material gestures are stupid?
whispering sweet nothings is non-sense?
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It's not just you, Ariesgirl402 .. so don't think I'm targeting you exclusively. This disturbs when every person has such a mind-set, and I tell them point blank ... just as I'm telling you.
99% of relationship based threads in here are about people expecting something in return for what they've done .... and they are in here crying about it ..
What should they do?
How should they act?
Why didn't he do that?
He looked at somebody else?
What should I say next?

And the answer to all their questions are the same, and it's so simple that it is elusive to the reasonability.
Live from the heart .. what should you do? Whatever your heart tells you to do, and that's all. If a plan has to be formulated, or some hints have to be given, or some obstacles have to be identified ....
.. in reality, a manipulation is being put in place, beit to control him or yourself, for an expected outcome.
A deep connection of the heart and soul doesn't have to ask questions, or give gifts to see if it has depth .. if it has depth and if it's real .. then it just is, without any planning to avoid something. Like for instance: tension .. you wanted to know how to avoid tension.
lol, there is no tension in a connection .. there is only tension when an expectation hasn't been fufilled.
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Correction .. you said friction, not tension.
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thanks for letting me know that you're not attacking mesmile
my best friend is a pisces as well. she looks at everything with rose colored glasses on and tells me how she doesn't care about material things - but resides in an amazing place and demands the most expensive things. also, she tells me that she has no expectations of her husband but throws hissy fits when he gives her wrong flowers and doesn't make plans for her b-day. and she always expects him to do stuff for her. and her husband is an aries and similar to my personality. also, re: manipulation - she tells me that everything has to come out naturally but she teacher her daughter how to manipulate men and other life situations to get the best and most expensive.
so Pisces like to live in a fantasy land but when it comes to reality they're just like the rest of ussmile
but you do make some very good point and i'll definately take some of your advice in consideration. thanks for attacking mesmile
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Yea it's not about the flowers and all that crap, my bf once bought me a flower and it was just because he knew he had been an ass and figured 'im sry quick fix?'. Yea i threw it at his face for being a total dick. i'd agree with p-angel, everyone 'expects' something and thats the problem... dont expect anything. dont give just to be given, give if u randomly see something they might like. your an aries, we do that anyway! be happi for who you're with and how its going, i know it can be difficult sometimes just having insecure moments of 'i'm lost'... trust me i get that a lot, or used to. its like the deeper they allow u in, the more u shall see. it eventually just comes to a point where u wont have a doubt in ur mind because u kno the person well enough to know their reactions to things.
but, of course before u get to that point.... your head might cave in, your emotions will be out of wack... you'll be a puppy wanting to run here and there and you'll most likely want to kick him to back to hell... and then 'it' will happen and you'll be back smiling like an idiot while half kicking urself for dealing with it all.
enjoy!
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"thanks for attacking me" .... you're welcome smile

Ironically ... my Aries DIL and her Pisces mother are very similiar to what you just described. The Piscean mother has taught the Aries girl to act like a princess and demand that every person bow down to her because being a female affords her this rightly position. And the Piscean mother (married to Cancer man) ... behaves much like you said, so I can see where you would come to this conclusion.
It's all about being aware .... aware of what really is motivating you. Like with this Piscean mother and the way she raised my son's wife ... it's because she was neglected as a child by the male figures in her life. Her father molested her.
I've tried to tell her this ... and her response is always, "I loved my father, and he loved me. Don't say such horrible things to me, Angie" .... what the holy fuck ????????
The mind closed to all rational and sensibility because it only wants to comprehend what it desires, rather than what it actually means.
There is no awareness in her mind that the reason why she demands to be put on a pedalstool by men, and has influenced her daughters to be the same is because she actually HATES her father, and so all men will be punished for it.
Unfortunately .. most people can't see themselves and what moves them to do and say things .. and it's very disturbing.
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P-Angel: Ironically ... my Aries DIL and her Pisces mother are very similiar to what you just described. The Piscean mother has taught the Aries girl to act like a princess and demand that every person bow down to her because being a female affords her this rightly position. And the Piscean mother (married to Cancer man) ... behaves much like you said, so I can see where you would come to this conclusion. - its funny - my friend's is pices and her daughter is a scorpio who thinks and was brought up to think that she's a princess, the most beautiful and the smarters and the sexiest and one of the biggest manipulators i've ever met.
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PB26- i think i'm "having just having insecure moments of 'i'm lost'.."
thanks for the "head might cave in, your emotions will be out of wack" warnings. not sure if i'm looking forward to thatsmile i'm kind of in the "running around puppy" stage...
btw: who would i want to kick to hell...the puppy or the scorp?smile just want to make sure the right one gets the boot
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lmfao, probably and most likely the scorp! seriously they're to many stages in the relationship, the beginings the irritating part.... that one will dwell, but when he finally realizes your not out to get him (kill him), then things will go better. and if you get really good, the 'admiting part happens'... not exactly all the things u might WANT to hear... but more like the things u DIDNT WANT... to know will come up. like im probably at that stage, he admitted to me that the reason we didnt date (and i had the feeling) way back when was cuz he got into some huge thing with his ex, sent her flowers... then she blew up at him cuz she found out my name and what i looked like (turns out she loved 'lilies', and that happens to be my name...lmfao. so yea long story short i found out he had eventually got back with her... and yet still couldnt stop talking to me.
once again, things i knew but did NOT want to hear.
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it's always about someone to get them or some other weird power struggle? i think sometimes men admitt to the worst they've done to a woman because, for some weird reason, they want to come out clean to her. not sure if we want to hear all of that. are you with him now?
"turns out she loved 'lilies', and that happens to be my name."- well, all i can say it's a sign for him that he should be with you and not hersmile
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lolz yea we're together, he told me this over our little getaway weekend. he actually told me cuz his ex was aparently comming down and he wanted to let me know whats up. i was like 'hey if u wanna go for her, dont let me stop you' (yea a bit ballsy, but hey if he wants her go for her and i'll just disappear, i dont wanna be somewhere im not wanted)... then he responded... 'no way, im just letting u kno she hates u...' me:'but everyone loves me! i'll fix that!'....him:'not her...*gives explaination in more detail*'....me:'okay well i dont wanna be in ur way'....him:'hey, im here with you and you are my gf, so im gonna show you off... i just dont want you to feel uncomfortable'...me:'*grinz OKAY!'
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i'm glad it worked out for you. i'm sure he mentioned the ex just to piss you off and see how you're going to react. "i'll just disappear, i dont wanna be somewhere im not wanted)" -i'd do the same exact thing. how long have it taken him to reasize you're the gf for him?
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honestly, i have no idea. i remember the first thing he ever said about me 'Your the most amazing girl i've ever met, you did everything i wanted my ex to do in one night, that took her three months'. I think that would be tip off, yet he still went back out with her after we met... so no idea. honestly yea i hate the back and forth thing, he doesnt do it as much now... but yes they will test, tease, and poke you. sometimes i recall feeling like an experiment...but you just gotta push past it. trust me your guy will come around, one day all of a sudden it'll change, he'll be on ur butt like white on rice and you wont be able to figure out what happened. i swear when that happened i was completely lost and wanted to question everything... but honestly at that point, ur just tired of questioning u just go with the flow and thats when everything gets AMAZINGLY BETTER! yea my guy is always in touch, never to far away, messages me b4 he goes out, everything. hes considerate and sweet, but does still poke me here and there. with them its a give and take, u get the good with the bad and if worse comes to worse... be a girl and get completely flustered and confused and explain ur fears, hopes, dreams and 99% he'l be right over to calm you down and make u feel all better. yea thats kinda mushy, but hey this is a sign that likes to be dominant, so sometimes u have to be the damsel. other times he'll be amazed by your warrior woman outlook!
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thanks for giving me hope and a word of good advice. i'm just going to let it go and see what happens naturally. the balls are in his court now. i'll try to be a girl- it's hard for me since i'm used to being strong all the time. damsel in distresssmile
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This goes for any astro combo in the first stages of a relationship; take it slow!!! Don't make a big deal out of anything! That includes what he/she gives you or says to you, about you....it's all seduction.
The best thing to do is to be gracious (accept gifts, compliments graciously without assuming you will marry this person) and continue to see this person while trying to maintain an objective stance. Continue to date others unless the discussion of exclusivity comes up and then, BE HONEST! But never apologize or lie about dating others. A truly desirable, confidant candidate will not be shocked by this but will probably assume that you are dating others and will broach the subject at an appropriate time (you need to use common sense about this). BTW, this shouldn't happen on your first date or even 3rd. You need to determine if this person is actually interested in YOU or just interested in control. If you're not sure about things, it's always better to err on the side of caution; meaning, TAKE YOUR TIME! There is never a rush and don't let anyone ever rush you into a commitment or promises you're not ready to make. The right one in your life will understand. The one who insists and pressures you may be doing it more for their ego needs and might not be healthy emotionally for a relationship.
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very true, but thats an obvious thing. never stop accepting phone calls unless you're offical. just because you're 'dating' doesnt make you naturally a couple. once its spoken of and both parties have decided then and only then are you exclusively dating.
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thanks for the words of wisdom guys. makes a lot of sense. i'm jut going to step back and try to stop worrying and analizing things. it should develop organically. i won't bring up any exclusivity or couple thing, won't ask if he told anyone about me. it'll come from him. lately he's been hinting if i told anyone about him. i'm tired of pressures and expectations but it's not that easy to let it gosmile
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So I'm what's he like? I mean do you see each other often? Do you guys live around each other?
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So I'm what's he like? - obviously, he's not what he seemssmile still trying to figure it out. very affectionate, everytime we see each other he's more open. i make him laugh and put him in a better mood. it's very weird but since the beginning both of us are comfortable with each other. there is no akwardness or uncomfortable silences. feels like we've known each other forever but just a bit over 4 months by now. we see each other only 1 or 2 a weeks since both of us have weird schedules and we live not that far away from each other. randomly we finding out that we have similar outlook on many things. also, there are tons of things we don't know each other. when we started i told him that i was kind of pushed into my last relationship and he randomly said that he wasn't interested in a serious relationship right now. maybe, that's why there is no pressures. honestly, i didn't expect it to last that long since i assumed it's only a physical thing. even with sex it's like i know what he likes without asking and he's feeling my needs as well. now, i find myself thinking about him and he started to talk about his family, work, friends what's bothering him etc and he asks me about some things too. i know i'm stressing and a bit confused but i have a tendency to sabotage things and can be reactive to some actions or words. we're aries are very sensitive as you know and can overreact in non-speaking way. all i know is that i don't want to play head games with him and told him not to do that with me. does it make sense to you? can you make sense out of it for me?
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Ok i think we're exactly in the same boat then. Yay boat buddy! ok, so right off the bat u tell him about ur previous relationship and he says hes not ready for something serious. thats ok as long as you dont ever become jealous, so basically u can still date around but hes still kinda ur main squeeze. yea from what i've noticed whatever you tell a scorp, they tend to retain forever. so that said hes not gonna put pressure on u, just keep emotions in check. think of it this way just breeze by into this and be calm. yea its kinda shocking when u realize how long you've been together, obviously hes still around and if hes mentioning his family and friends, that means hes getting a little more serious. not to much that you'd jump right into it, but hes getting closer... so still sit back and relax, because its still gonna be a while.
Yea don't sweat it you're in the good, and trust me i've totally sabotaged things b4 and probably will over and over. oh an definately hate when ppl say aries arent sensitive! we are we just dont show it off like a cancer or pisces person. like just because we dont have our hearts on our sleeves doesnt mean we dont feel things. as long as u dont try to trample on his heart you'll be fine! otherwise make sure he knows u have a heart and try not to second guess urself, thats what'll get you in trouble.
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row...row...row the boat buddy pb26smile
i sort of mentioned an ex for a sec and then said i don't want to talk about it. he mostly mentiones his exes. re: jumping into family situations- i'm usually the one who avoids the family situations on both sides. i know more about his then he does about mine since he's the one who talks about the family. few times i jokingly (you know in an aries joking way 50% serious 50% joke way) mentioned some things that were bothering me and the next time he made a pointed out that he did or not do them. he gets more comfortable around my place as well. there are some thing i do and he says he should be doing that not me which is fine by me.
"dont ever become jealous" - he mentiones some girls as his friends and goes out with them and he likes to meet new people all the time. is that an indic other times he says i don't want to go out and wants to stay home.
you know it's hard for us to be just dangling and waiting. not that i want to jump into anything but i'm not going to be waiting around for a year for him to come to me either.
did you get invited to a vd by your scorp?
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Ha! the ex's talk... why is it they bring up ex's im not sure... i once called him on it saying 'you kno i have ex's too!', then decided to rub one in by talking about a sexual experience in the kitchen with his guy friend... he kinda fliped and i responded with 'you kno i told u this story when we first got together'... which he fails to remember. i kno the half joking half not game... it never goes well, honestly i told him things he STILL keeps track of, like what is it with these men? Selective hearing is definately in their cards and what they 'choose' to remember... NEVER goes away.
I hate the dangling game, i went back and forth with mine for almost 2 yrs! most of last year i just avoided him and he would leave me messages all over the place. from emails, txts, telling my friends to say hi, to voice mails. Then when u try to contact them back... 'im busy ttyl'... which i eventually just let him attempt at reaching me in every way. it lucks out we have mutual friends so we eventually ran into each other and thats when everything goes crazily amazing! yea im kinda happy mine doesnt kno anything about my fam, but i definately know his parents very well, they adore me! the way it should be :-P!
Sadly no V-day with my scorp his company had a going away party for him and im ubber sick so i had to stay home. Sad
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btw when i said date around b4, do it as long as u don't get caught. im not saying rub shit in his face, im saying scorps dont trust ANYONE... therefore enjoy your time and take him lightly, it's better enjoy ur time dating around then staying home waiting for a phone call. sometimes be sweet then sometimes be spicy! I'm a total a** when its comes to the 'aries aloof' nature, i told my scorp i got tested for everything under the sun yesturday and his response 'What, are you sleeping around on me?'... my response 'Nope, just making sure you're not! ^_^'... kill them with ironic kindness... honestly scorps like strong women (exactly what we are), dont be afraid to be bold, just dont trample them.
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sorry you were sick for vd. it's kind of a stupid you have to be romantic holiday. i'd rather be romantic with my partner all the time and not just one day. wishfull thinking, rightsmile not a fan of dating game either. are you planning on being in an exclusive relationship with you scorp or just playing our little aries girl game with him (wink wink) have you guys talked about not playing games and just be honest and open with each other.
it feels great when everything is good but when you feel like you're dangling it's a nightmare. doesn't make you want to run awaysmilei just hate when my mind start to wonder about things when i think about the situation. i do take it easy and try not to expect anything and sometimes i wonder if he's playing me by the book and behaves in the way he think i might like. don't like to played withsmile perhaps i'm just having one of those weak, vulnerable and anxious momentssmile
does your boat rocks the same way?smile
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Oh yea.. big time with the paranoia 'well what if it's all a game?'. It's the worst when that idea is rolling around in your head. When my scorp and i started going for each other it was just casual and everything was great.... until my gf put that idea into my head... which drove me crazy, because i think i kno him well enough to realize its not a game. This guy doesn't play games unless hes teasing you (typically when im in 'attention needing' mode), oitherwise hes very straight laced.
We've been offical for about 2 months (unoffical for almost 3) now and have been growing from it. Originally with my aries 'no bs' shield up i took it as 'whatever', i dated around and didn't care (i.e. the first month we were suto dating). Then one night i was going to our old pub to hang with some friends and he stated very clearly 'Can you not go for any drummers?...how about guitarists?...no....how about bassists??....no....how about singers?...NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!'
After that convo i stated if that goes for me, then it goes double for him (on any female on the PLANET!!!!!). He said fine and a week later he was being all clingy and possesive so i just asked why he was acting this way and then we talked it out and have been 'offical' ever since.
yes there have been days where i kill myself wanting to talk to him and be all up in his face and everywhere he is. then there are days where i find him annoyingly sarcastic and want to kick him in the nuts. then there are days hes the most amazing person on earth....then there are 'those days'.... the days when he mentions other girls and frequent ex's and millions of other things i REALLY don't want to hear!!!! then there are those days where i do it right back and he becomes the possesive and controling man i adore
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i'm glad you're official now! so, i assume he got you chicken soup when you were sicksmile it's nice to "official" convo with the right person. i have my ups and downs with mine. i'm kind of getting confused with if he likes me or not and in response i'm putting my guards up even if i'm trying to not to think about it and take it easy. it seems like the closer we get the less he tells me how great i am. before he'd tell me or text.
i love your description of how he makes you feel! i can relate to most of it
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Yea definately glad to be of help! its great to be offical and be assured that, but yea i hear ya on the constant compliments... used to get tons now... not so much. but then again how many times can u hear that your amazing? lolz granted its great to hear, but i dont need a worshiper. the closer we get the more i enjoy his company and the more i just feel ok, like you ever had a day that you felt you were completely off and lost sight of who you once were? He keeps me grounded and just listens to everything and gives insight and thoughts on things i didnt even notice. granted he's driven me to a mental point of no return, but hes also made me connect to things i thought i'd lost.
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it's so great to have someone like that in your life! recently i got sick and mine scorp took care of me and was so nice and sweet and loving. i try to take it as it goes and stay positive and enjoy the moments but you know that stupid sabotaging thought on the back of the mind that tells you that it may not continue for long. i wish i could just kick it somehow. i really want to concentrate on the positive only!!! any ideas how?
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honestly... i've had that sabotage idea b4, its difficult to break out of, hence why i said date around until you know its offical. cuz at least with another person on your mind you dont have time to kick urself in the a $ $ about anything. like seriously just get moving, do anything fill your day with misc things to do, keep occupied. from what i've heard they like strong and independent women, therefore get urself busy so u dont have those ideas in ur head. if hes close to getting you jealous flip the convo, therefore your head once be where it was. just always have something else on ur mind, mine just went away for the weekend to see his sis out of state, i kept myself busy. he was supposed to come back sunday night... he didnt call and i got a little worried and i txted him. no answer, and then i got a huge message in my inbox yesturday saying he forgot his cell in virginia and a bunch of lovey stuff. its like 'freak out worried moment, then calmed'... they like kicking out emotions around.
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