Gave the Aries a piece of my mind on our situation

This topic was created in the Aries forum by LinoleumGirl on Thursday, November 2, 2017 and has 55 replies.
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After not talking for 2 days, which is not normal for us, I text him and I asked him what's going on?


He said he's been busy with work. Work all week this week. No days off. And he apologized many times.


I asked him what he's doing tonight. I wanted to say I'll stop by after work like I do sometimes.

He told me he's going to the bar. So, I said: 'There's something going on between you and your boss right?' And he said: Yea she drinks too much.


So I asked him why he's going to the bar again then? And another text saying: You're going to see her right?

(I asked because he stopped going out every night years ago. Only does so once every 2-3 months now. But lately? It's way more)


He said: To get a drink (last 2 times he said that, he got really drunk)


So, I said this to him: I know I sound jealous but it's not that at all.

I don't act the way I act with you with just about anyone. The sex and almost living together. Making long term plans. You need to be really fucking special for me to do that. If that girl means a lot to you and you're working on getting her. Enough for you to make a Snapchat and getting angry and drunk over her having a man? I'm really happy for you. I hope it works out with her! You're a great man and she's going to be a lucky girl! But we'll just friends.

If not? I really miss you and wanna see you tonight or tomorrow


He hasn't read it yet
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I’m genuinely curious about what his response will be but either way, I would advise to pull back with all you got and forget about this piece of work.


This is exactly why I don’t do Aries guys.
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Posted by SourPie
I’m genuinely curious about what his response will be but either way, I would advise to pull back with all you got and forget about this piece of work.


This is exactly why I don’t do Aries guys.
What do you think his answer will be, based on him being an Aries?
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Posted by SourPie
I’m genuinely curious about what his response will be but either way, I would advise to pull back with all you got and forget about this piece of work.


This is exactly why I don’t do Aries guys.
What do you think his answer will be, based on him being an Aries?
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My first bet is that he will not respond. If he does, he’s going to give you some lame excuse and make it seem like you’re seeing things that aren’t really there.

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If you're making passsive aggressive ultimatums with ANY dude at this stage, he's not the right guy for you - his answer is irrelevant .... find someone who makes you feel secure babe
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Posted by tiziani
What you wrote sounds pretty disingenuous to me, even though I don't know the story. And you have very little chance of being persuasive by text anyway (anyone in general).
What part sounds disingenuous to you?
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Posted by wagtail
If you're making passsive aggressive ultimatums with ANY dude at this stage, he's not the right guy for you - his answer is irrelevant .... find someone who makes you feel secure babe
What part to what I said is passive aggressive?
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What you wrote sounds pretty disingenuous to me, even though I don't know the story. And you have very little chance of being persuasive by text anyway (anyone in general).
What part sounds disingenuous to you?
The "if"s and "but"s of it. Anyone using logic isn't really THAT into what they say they want.


And then "i'll be happy for you" how many times have we heard that old chestnut before?


Having said that, even if you don't get what you want from him, it sounds like you'd be dodging a massive bullet not getting involved with him more than you both are already. Someone having a love affair with alcohol and drugs is rarely pretty.
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I know you don't know me but I'm a very independent woman. When I say I wish him well with that girl? I mean it.


As for drugs and alcohol. What he was in the past is in the past. He worked hard to be a better person. That doesn't make him a monster for having tried and done all drugs available. He learned from it and judging someone based on that is pretty stupid. People improve

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Posted by WolfInRamsClothing
Maaan, I hate when women do that. We better tie our hands when we are about to send a message like that (((
Why are you saying that?
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What you wrote sounds pretty disingenuous to me, even though I don't know the story. And you have very little chance of being persuasive by text anyway (anyone in general).
What part sounds disingenuous to you?
The "if"s and "but"s of it. Anyone using logic isn't really THAT into what they say they want.


And then "i'll be happy for you" how many times have we heard that old chestnut before?


Having said that, even if you don't get what you want from him, it sounds like you'd be dodging a massive bullet not getting involved with him more than you both are already. Someone having a love affair with alcohol and drugs is rarely pretty.
I know you don't know me but I'm a very independent woman. When I say I wish him well with that girl? I mean it.


As for drugs and alcohol. What he was in the past is in the past. He worked hard to be a better person. That doesn't make him a monster for having tried and done all drugs available. He learned from it and judging someone based on that is pretty stupid. People improve

You don’t have to save face with us. It’s clear that you didn’t mean what you said because deep down it hurts. Otherwise you wouldn’t have made a big deal about it. Someone who truly doesn’t care will be indifferent to the situation not emotional, hence your reaction vs his.
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I'm not saving face. I'm being my true self here. As much as I love this guy and where we are or were heading, I'm too independent to be upset over him picking another woman. And I'm too rational to be emotional. He doesn't like me enough to talk to me and include me in his life since she's in his.


There's nothing more I can do. I told him how I feel. I told him how it makes me feel. I told him I wanna go to the event with him. We are or were planning and saving money for a trip to Europe. We spent hours and hours talking about what we both love. Talking ideas and watching movies about it.


If he prefers going out to get drunk instead of spending time with me? What else can I do?


Put a leach on him? Send him texts and call him when he's with her?


He already picked her as the winner between us. She drinks too much. He's back to being self destructive again.

I'm not his mom
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He would've been called if he were truly interested. I don't like texting I need to hear you to know what's really going on...
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Posted by miriyahhh
He would've been called if he were truly interested. I don't like texting I need to hear you to know what's really going on...
He hates phone calls
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What you wrote sounds pretty disingenuous to me, even though I don't know the story. And you have very little chance of being persuasive by text anyway (anyone in general).
What part sounds disingenuous to you?
The "if"s and "but"s of it. Anyone using logic isn't really THAT into what they say they want.


And then "i'll be happy for you" how many times have we heard that old chestnut before?


Having said that, even if you don't get what you want from him, it sounds like you'd be dodging a massive bullet not getting involved with him more than you both are already. Someone having a love affair with alcohol and drugs is rarely pretty.
I know you don't know me but I'm a very independent woman. When I say I wish him well with that girl? I mean it.


As for drugs and alcohol. What he was in the past is in the past. He worked hard to be a better person. That doesn't make him a monster for having tried and done all drugs available. He learned from it and judging someone based on that is pretty stupid. People improve

You don’t have to save face with us. It’s clear that you didn’t mean what you said because deep down it hurts. Otherwise you wouldn’t have made a big deal about it. Someone who truly doesn’t care will be indifferent to the situation not emotional, hence your reaction vs his.
I'm not saving face. I'm being my true self here. As much as I love this guy and where we are or were heading, I'm too independent to be upset over him picking another woman. And I'm too rational to be emotional. He doesn't like me enough to talk to me and include me in his life since she's in his.


There's nothing more I can do. I told him how I feel. I told him how it makes me feel. I told him I wanna go to the event with him. We are or were planning and saving money for a trip to Europe. We spent hours and hours talking about what we both love. Talking ideas and watching movies about it.


If he prefers going out to get drunk instead of spending time with me? What else can I do?


Put a leach on him? Send him texts and call him when he's with her?


He already picked her as the winner between us. She drinks too much. He's back to being self destructive again.

I'm not his mom
You’re still not getting my point across. If you say you don’t care, then why ask? If you see he’s pursuing her, then why be there? If you say you don’t wish to put a leash on him, then why are you being passive aggressive?


I think you’re too attached to his words rather than his actions. His actions are saying something completely different now. Doesn’t matter what he did in the past, it’s the present that counts. And currently, his present isn’t involving much of his attention on you.


You’re in the right mindset, but very few actually are in the right action.
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I get your point. I don't think you're getting mine. Why would I ditch a relationship I love being in with someone I love without looking for a solution first?

Imagine the amount of divorced people if everyone walked away after 1 weird thing happening.

We've been together for a long time. Our dynamic worked for a long time. Until he started looking at this girl and developed something for her at work. He's a text book Aries.

I came here to know how to possibly find a solution based on that. Why? Because I got tired of being left on read by him.


I know him. I know he's lonely and bored often. If I don't talk to him for 2-3 hours? He text me to get my attention. If I'm at work? He will show up just to see me.


Then, the drama with this girl happened. And he started being distant. Less texting, going out a lot more. Drinking. Calling in sick because of a hangover. Something he hates to do.


Aries are the baby of the zodiac. They're adventurous. I know what he sees in her. She's the girl du jour. She's fun. She's as self destructive as he was.


If one person here had told me to fight for him, I would have. I would've gone to that bar and kiss him in front of her. I would've shown my strength. I can be a bulldozer if I want to. I would've show up at his work and leave cute messages for him. Never done it, he likes his women independent. But I would've done it. Everyone told me to ignore him. And I assumed, based on his sign, you told me to do so because Aries react better to that.
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What you wrote sounds pretty disingenuous to me, even though I don't know the story. And you have very little chance of being persuasive by text anyway (anyone in general).
What part sounds disingenuous to you?
The "if"s and "but"s of it. Anyone using logic isn't really THAT into what they say they want.


And then "i'll be happy for you" how many times have we heard that old chestnut before?


Having said that, even if you don't get what you want from him, it sounds like you'd be dodging a massive bullet not getting involved with him more than you both are already. Someone having a love affair with alcohol and drugs is rarely pretty.
I know you don't know me but I'm a very independent woman. When I say I wish him well with that girl? I mean it.


As for drugs and alcohol. What he was in the past is in the past. He worked hard to be a better person. That doesn't make him a monster for having tried and done all drugs available. He learned from it and judging someone based on that is pretty stupid. People improve

You don’t have to save face with us. It’s clear that you didn’t mean what you said because deep down it hurts. Otherwise you wouldn’t have made a big deal about it. Someone who truly doesn’t care will be indifferent to the situation not emotional, hence your reaction vs his.
I'm not saving face. I'm being my true self here. As much as I love this guy and where we are or were heading, I'm too independent to be upset over him picking another woman. And I'm too rational to be emotional. He doesn't like me enough to talk to me and include me in his life since she's in his.


There's nothing more I can do. I told him how I feel. I told him how it makes me feel. I told him I wanna go to the event with him. We are or were planning and saving money for a trip to Europe. We spent hours and hours talking about what we both love. Talking ideas and watching movies about it.


If he prefers going out to get drunk instead of spending time with me? What else can I do?


Put a leach on him? Send him texts and call him when he's with her?


He already picked her as the winner between us. She drinks too much. He's back to being self destructive again.

I'm not his mom
You’re still not getting my point across. If you say you don’t care, then why ask? If you see he’s pursuing her, then why be there? If you say you don’t wish to put a leash on him, then why are you being passive aggressive?


I think you’re too attached to his words rather than his actions. His actions are saying something completely different now. Doesn’t matter what he did in the past, it’s the present that counts. And currently, his present isn’t involving much of his attention on you.


You’re in the right mindset, but very few actually are in the right action.
I get your point. I don't think you're getting mine. Why would I ditch a relationship I love being in with someone I love without looking for a solution first?

Imagine the amount of divorced people if everyone walked away after 1 weird thing happening.

We've been together for a long time. Our dynamic worked for a long time. Until he started looking at this girl and developed something for her at work. He's a text book Aries.

I came here to know how to possibly find a solution based on that. Why? Because I got tired of being left on read by him.


I know him. I know he's lonely and bored often. If I don't talk to him for 2-3 hours? He text me to get my attention. If I'm at work? He will show up just to see me.


Then, the drama with this girl happened. And he started being distant. Less texting, going out a lot more. Drinking. Calling in sick because of a hangover. Something he hates to do.


Aries are the baby of the zodiac. They're adventurous. I know what he sees in her. She's the girl du jour. She's fun. She's as self destructive as he was.


If one person here had told me to fight for him, I would have. I would've gone to that bar and kiss him in front of her. I would've shown my strength. I can be a bulldozer if I want to. I would've show up at his work and leave cute messages for him. Never done it, he likes his women independent. But I would've done it. Everyone told me to ignore him. And I assumed, based on his sign, you told me to do so because Aries react better to that.
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The thing is, you’re not really together.
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Run for your life .. I know u say u love him .. he doesn't sound too serious about u if he's spending more time out with this girl .. your message might annoy him .. let us know what happens 😊
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For an aries what matters what you can provide for him. If you make him happy and satisfied of the relationship, there is no reason for him to get involved in affairs. We are very simple and always let you know clear what's up. If you don't listen that's your problem from then.

The more you chase him now the worse. His driven by his imagination of the other woman and in hunting mode. He might get some reality check if it doesn't happen on his way and try to retreat back to you. How old are you both? If you in your twenties it might he not mature enough and adventurous yet. If he know himself well what he want he not doing such things.

Aries mature relative late due it's playful attitude to life but can be the best and most loyal husband or partner when they clear with what woman they want beside them.


For aries the best match is strong woman because he can keep chasing her and it keeps the spark also he have respect for the woman. It's very important factor.

I am surprised on the statistics about capricorn woman and aries man is hard match because I think it's really good match actually. Capricorn has the structure and determination towards life and brings stability for an aries life also keep him motivated. Strong character but still emotional and reserved.
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Posted by aquarius_man
omg i just read the text. i wouldn't reply to it. very clingy & desperate to send a text like this when you know the man's out getting wasted. in company of another woman. why did you send this?
You're an aqua. He's an Aries. I need aries opinions here smile
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Linoleumgirl, you wrote: "Everyone told me to ignore him."


so what you did instead? instead of ignoring him (backing off), you sent him a passive-agressive text (emotional text and mainly: toooo long text)


on your last thread, one Aries man gave you a very good advice: kick him out, otherwise you will not have his respect


if you love him, you have to back off.... after he gets bored with this fun girl, he may see more clearly what a gem you are smile


PS. I am not sure you two are compatible enough..... you are too serious for him, I think... they love a bit of light-hearted fun in my observation


but maybe he will like the drama (your emotional text)... we will see
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For an aries what matters what you can provide for him. If you make him happy and satisfied of the relationship, there is no reason for him to get involved in affairs. We are very simple and always let you know clear what's up. If you don't listen that's your problem from then.

The more you chase him now the worse. His driven by his imagination of the other woman and in hunting mode. He might get some reality check if it doesn't happen on his way and try to retreat back to you. How old are you both? If you in your twenties it might he not mature enough and adventurous yet. If he know himself well what he want he not doing such things.

Aries mature relative late due it's playful attitude to life but can be the best and most loyal husband or partner when they clear with what woman they want beside them.


For aries the best match is strong woman because he can keep chasing her and it keeps the spark also he have respect for the woman. It's very important factor.

I am surprised on the statistics about capricorn woman and aries man is hard match because I think it's really good match actually. Capricorn has the structure and determination towards life and brings stability for an aries life also keep him motivated. Strong character but still emotional and reserved.
Thank you. He is clear about everything. Today, we talked and he told me he understand what I said. About us, our relationship and where it's going. It made me happy. He doesn't hold back when he needs to say something and neither am I. My text to him, was my way of being strong and independent. He always loved that about me. It was my way of saying: "Look, I'm not gonna wait around for you to get home while you get drunk, I'm independent. If that girl is what you want, then go! I'm not gonna waste my time while you chase someone else"

He knows that now. But I also know that he doesn't like to hurt my feelings. He's usually very blunt and clear but when it comes to me, he tends to hold back. Because he knows himself. He knows that if he tell me something and I don't like it, I'll walk out. Doesn't that mean he doesn't want to lose me?


With his past, I know he tend to fall into his old pattern. But as a Capricorn, I'm a rock. And I'm driven. He accomplished 2 of his dreams since we've been closer. 2 dreams he never thought possible. And I know that made him really happy, so I know I can be good for him.


I have some Sag and Gemini in my chart. I'm really adventurous and random. He's good for me for that.
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I am sorry, but in my opinion that text is too soft and controlling. You are like the annoying ‘mom’ that doesn’t let his ‘child’ have fun. He knows you will be there, and that when he gets bored with her he will be able to come back to you. He is not respecting you. You are letting him do it and he will do this again and again from now on... because he knows he can get away with it.


The only way he will get your respect back is if you leave him, and when he comes back you say no to him. Maybe then he will prove to you with time that he can change.


He knows you wish him well, that you care for him, that you will be there as friend, and that he will be able to go back to you.


He needs to know that you won’t tolerate this and that he will lose you forever, totally. That is you only chance.


But I am sorry to say that I think you are better off without him. He is going to break your heart again and again.
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He knows you will be there, and that when he gets bored with her he will be able to come back to you. He is not respecting you
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He take you granted, which is really bad.

If he knows what he want, than even worse because then he lost interest especially if you have achieved targets together it doesn't sound good at all. Sorry for the question but does your sexual life works? Aries need lots of sex. Problem might lurking there. If no emotional attachment, it doesn't matter anymore what you achieved together. Dead fish then
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Your text to him was: "So, I said this to him: I know I sound jealous but it's not that at all.

I don't act the way I act with you with just about anyone. The sex and almost living together. Making long term plans. You need to be really treetrunking special for me to do that. If that girl means a lot to you and you're working on getting her. Enough for you to make a Snapchat and getting angry and drunk over her having a man? I'm really happy for you. I hope it works out with her! You're a great man and she's going to be a lucky girl! But we'll just friends.

If not? I really miss you and wanna see you tonight or tomorrow"


and then you said: "It was my way of saying: "Look, I'm not gonna wait around for you to get home while you get drunk, I'm independent. If that girl is what you want, then go! I'm not gonna waste my time while you chase someo-ne else""



Is it only me who thinks your text message and what you allegedly ment are not the same?


If you had to text, you should have used the second one, if that is what you ment (minus the "Im independent" part) the second one is giving a piece of mind, the first one is clingy, confusing, cringworthy...


your words (Iam independent) and your actions (texting him, accusing him) are not in synch..... dont tell him you are independent, act independent




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Why didn’t you join him? Instead of making things awkward with your text. You should have gone to that bar with him. See how their relationship is. Look sexy. Make her jealous of you. Not the other way around.


#strategy #playthegame
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"He knows that if he tell me something and I don't like it, I'll walk out. Doesn't that mean he doesn't want to lose me?"




Nope

It means he knows you. He don't trust you to speak out, because he better off with his mouth shut,he expect no understanding so he doesn't even try. Aries hate dramas, and he not brings dramas in, if you do, you push him away. Same with negativity.


Here is the thing.

Your aries started drifting away a while ago but you didn't noticed as he was hide it. So he wasn't actually brave enough to tell you as it is. He may did at the beginning or at early on but you probably reacted the way he realised there will be no compromise between you two.

1) he will Ditch you at any point once see enough commitment from the other woman he focus on

So you play as a backup and you have not much time left,

2) he rely on his gut as he wonder around and you keep forgive him so he entertain himself as lack of your care of his needs and vica versa.


In both case regardless, you missing a major point if you don't mind. Doesn't matter what was in the past, relationship requires effort constantly even if it's exhausting sometimes. When some feels it doesn't worth the effort anymore that's the beginning of draining

And no-because you think you make efforts it doesn't mean he thinks the same way. Unfortunately is up to the other what they consider as effort.
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Yeah I have Aries friends and those guys are going to do whatever they want to do. It's hilarious to a Libra/Cap man. They're always creating their own mistakes in one way or another. With no regards to how their actions affect others. Who knows, the boss lady might not even like him. That's how these guy are. He's too immature for you hunny, it's never gonna work.
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Posted by pinkbird03
Why didn’t you join him? Instead of making things awkward with your text. You should have gone to that bar with him. See how their relationship is. Look sexy. Make her jealous of you. Not the other way around.


#strategy #playthegame
that's funny, that's exactly what my Aries girl did. she would join and do the absolute most to mark her territory.
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Why didn’t you join him? Instead of making things awkward with your text. You should have gone to that bar with him. See how their relationship is. Look sexy. Make her jealous of you. Not the other way around.


#strategy #playthegame
that's funny, that's exactly what my Aries girl did. she would join and do the absolute most to mark her territory.
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Lol did you like the other girl at all? Be honest. How did you feel when she did that? How did the other girl react? Did you continue hanging out with the other girl after that?

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If one person here had told me to fight for him, I would have. I would've gone to that bar and kiss him in front of her. I would've shown my strength. I can be a bulldozer if I want to. I would've show up at his work and leave cute messages for him. Never done it, he likes his women independent. But I would've done it. Everyone told me to ignore him. And I assumed, based on his sign, you told me to do so because Aries react better to that.






Ok so this is how I know you are a Cap. Because once when I first met my cap guy we were not exclusive at all and we're dating at work. He pulled up in anouther girls car they had went to lunch and I questioned her...( I also was still going to lunch with coworkers also). He said if I had kissed him in front of her he knew that day that's when he wanted to marry me.


Even though y'all act cold y'all still want mass displays of affection and love. I don't understand this aside from y'all acting so detached...


Your aries doesn't know u really like him because u probably pull that hot and cold mess. Us aries register that as uninterested and move on quickly. If u really like him honestly he already has a plan for this chick at the job your gonna have to wait that out. Next time y'all are together if u like him let him know. We don't like that extra kiss me in front of people and fight for me shit. Just be consistent and don't act like you wanna lose us.

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omg i just read the text. i wouldn't reply to it. very clingy & desperate to send a text like this when you know the man's out getting wasted. in company of another woman. why did you send this?
You're an aqua. He's an Aries. I need aries opinions here smile
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But this is unrelated to astrology.


It’s clear he’s just not that into you.
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But side note. If she sent me a crazy text like that aries male or female I'd kinda like it. Like oh aye crazy I'll be right back lol
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"Us aries register that as uninterested and move on quickly."


Exactly. That is because we always straight like the nail without head. Our other half always knows whats up. We expect the same as to solve any problem quickly and targeted, and open to listen and understand.

Silent treatment and other crap just drift us away

We believe in communication and if you don't do the same we take as lack of intention and effort towards solutions from your side, means you don't care.

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Why didn’t you join him? Instead of making things awkward with your text. You should have gone to that bar with him. See how their relationship is. Look sexy. Make her jealous of you. Not the other way around.


#strategy #playthegame
that's funny, that's exactly what my Aries girl did. she would join and do the absolute most to mark her territory.
Lol did you like the other girl at all? Be honest. How did you feel when she did that? How did the other girl react? Did you continue hanging out with the other girl after that?

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nah at the time I knew I wanted the Aries. It was flattering when she acted possessive. Any man worth having will appreciate that. Don't go overboard though. The other girls fell back I guess. They're still around now that I'm single.

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So, me telling an Aries I like him and miss him is "toying" now?

Hahahaha

Way to see something when it's not that at all
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God OP, you are sad and desperate. You should be embarrassed for yourself.
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Posted by LinoleumGirl
So, me telling an Aries I like him and miss him is "toying" now?

Hahahaha

Way to see something when it's not that at all
toying is that you texted him you are happy for him to be with that girl, for example... (in my book, in the context of your text message)



some self-reflection is needed here on your part (but I know, its hard with Aries)


so many good observations, advices, opinions here and you are in denial






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So, me telling an Aries I like him and miss him is "toying" now?

Hahahaha

Way to see something when it's not that at all
toying is that you texted him you are happy for him to be with that girl, for example... (in my book, in the context of your text message)



some self-reflection is needed here on your part (but I know, its hard with Aries)


so many good observations, advices, opinions here and you are in denial






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Some women are just pathetically desperate to keep a dick in their hand. That good ol' outdated mindset that a relationship status is some sort of standing in society.


Once some women get a guy, they cling on for dear life because for some moronic reason, they think he's the only dude they'll ever get with and that there's, you know, BETTER guys out there for them. So they cling on to assholes.
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Posted by LinoleumGirl
So, I said this to him: I know I sound jealous but it's not that at all.

I don't act the way I act with you with just about anyone. The sex and almost living together. Making long term plans. You need to be really fucking special for me to do that. If that girl means a lot to you and you're working on getting her. Enough for you to make a Snapchat and getting angry and drunk over her having a man? I'm really happy for you. I hope it works out with her! You're a great man and she's going to be a lucky girl! But we'll just friends.

If not? I really miss you and wanna see you tonight or tomorrow


He hasn't read it yet
I would've had this convo in person.
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The only thing with ultimatums is you need to follow through. I hope you stick to your word and cut this dude loose.
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Lol at all the asinine comments on fighting for your territory and man! Aries don’t like that shit. Especially Aries males. They hate drama. They actually enjoy a woman who’s willing to walk away and not put up with their crap because it gives them something to do... like chasing which they love. If you come to them, that’s too easy and boring. Hence why he probably isn’t really interested in the OP, she’s too square for the adventurous Aries and too restricitive and demanding, and they’re not even officially together!


Don’t play games with an Aries, they hate that shit and despite their simplicity, can read through your bullshit. They won’t say it to your face - but they’ll surely laugh behind your back. Annoy them enough and they’ll blow up and humiliate you.


Do NOT toy with an Aries.
Haha, so true!
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Why didn’t you join him? Instead of making things awkward with your text. You should have gone to that bar with him. See how their relationship is. Look sexy. Make her jealous of you. Not the other way around.


#strategy #playthegame
that's funny, that's exactly what my Aries girl did. she would join and do the absolute most to mark her territory.
Lol did you like the other girl at all? Be honest. How did you feel when she did that? How did the other girl react? Did you continue hanging out with the other girl after that?



nah at the time I knew I wanted the Aries. It was flattering when she acted possessive. Any man worth having will appreciate that. Don't go overboard though. The other girls fell back I guess. They're still around now that I'm single.

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Aw that’s sweet. Luckily I haven’t really had to do that on purpose. Only once but I didn’t really try to hard. I’d say my bf claims more territory than me. For example I went out with him and his friends to the bar. I sat with two of the girls while the guys stood behind us. And there were other random men sitting corner to me. My bf had his arm either on me or resting against my chair the whole time... I secretly adored this!
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Why didn’t you join him? Instead of making things awkward with your text. You should have gone to that bar with him. See how their relationship is. Look sexy. Make her jealous of you. Not the other way around.


#strategy #playthegame
Smart fellow cancer girl 💗😈

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Lol thank you 💕
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Millions of men in the world and you're worried about this loser who doesn't worship the ground you walk on.



Give it up Goat. Kick him to the curb.
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Lol at all the asinine comments on fighting for your territory and man! Aries don’t like that shit. Especially Aries males. They hate drama. They actually enjoy a woman who’s willing to walk away and not put up with their crap because it gives them something to do... like chasing which they love. If you come to them, that’s too easy and boring. Hence why he probably isn’t really interested in the OP, she’s too square for the adventurous Aries and too restricitive and demanding, and they’re not even officially together!


Don’t play games with an Aries, they hate that shit and despite their simplicity, can read through your bullshit. They won’t say it to your face - but they’ll surely laugh behind your back. Annoy them enough and they’ll blow up and humiliate you.


Do NOT toy with an Aries.
Haha, so true!
I unfortunately know a little too well the Aries man. My ex and I used to have these conversations all the time, how he'd just sweet talk a woman because he was bored or just to have fun. He'd keep them on a leash because he had nothing better to do and they were too easy and attainable for him. That was always something he said, "I can have any girl I want. All you have to do is be an asshole and sweet talk them and they'll still be there... and it's not what I want". Luckily I never put up with his sht so he behaves without me asking too.
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Not all of us like that. There are many decent one doesn't even want to look at other females as you got everything he wants. One thing for sure. Aries likes when you make efforts. If they see you make efforts, they make twice as much. Take care of him, will treat you as queen.


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Lol at all the asinine comments on fighting for your territory and man! Aries don’t like that shit. Especially Aries males. They hate drama. They actually enjoy a woman who’s willing to walk away and not put up with their crap because it gives them something to do... like chasing which they love. If you come to them, that’s too easy and boring. Hence why he probably isn’t really interested in the OP, she’s too square for the adventurous Aries and too restricitive and demanding, and they’re not even officially together!


Don’t play games with an Aries, they hate that shit and despite their simplicity, can read through your bullshit. They won’t say it to your face - but they’ll surely laugh behind your back. Annoy them enough and they’ll blow up and humiliate you.


Do NOT toy with an Aries.
Haha, so true!
I unfortunately know a little too well the Aries man. My ex and I used to have these conversations all the time, how he'd just sweet talk a woman because he was bored or just to have fun. He'd keep them on a leash because he had nothing better to do and they were too easy and attainable for him. That was always something he said, "I can have any girl I want. All you have to do is be an asshole and sweet talk them and they'll still be there... and it's not what I want". Luckily I never put up with his sht so he behaves without me asking too.


Not all of us like that. There are many decent one doesn't even want to look at other females as you got everything he wants. One thing for sure. Aries likes when you make efforts. If they see you make efforts, they make twice as much. Take care of him, will treat you as queen.


Yeah that’s what I said. As long as you’re the one for an Aries, (whole package) then he wouldn’t stray or entertain other women. But that’s not the case with the OP. He’s stepping all over her and it’s most likely because he’s not as into her.
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And that she's very much like her username- something to walk all over, hence "linoleum girl." It's sad how fitting that is, even though I doubt that's why she really chose the name. Oh, the irony.
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What you wrote sounds pretty disingenuous to me, even though I don't know the story. And you have very little chance of being persuasive by text anyway (anyone in general).
What part sounds disingenuous to you?
The "if"s and "but"s of it. Anyone using logic isn't really THAT into what they say they want.


And then "i'll be happy for you" how many times have we heard that old chestnut before?


Having said that, even if you don't get what you want from him, it sounds like you'd be dodging a massive bullet not getting involved with him more than you both are already. Someone having a love affair with alcohol and drugs is rarely pretty.
I know you don't know me but I'm a very independent woman. When I say I wish him well with that girl? I mean it.


As for drugs and alcohol. What he was in the past is in the past. He worked hard to be a better person. That doesn't make him a monster for having tried and done all drugs available. He learned from it and judging someone based on that is pretty stupid. People improve

You don’t have to save face with us. It’s clear that you didn’t mean what you said because deep down it hurts. Otherwise you wouldn’t have made a big deal about it. Someone who truly doesn’t care will be indifferent to the situation not emotional, hence your reaction vs his.
I'm not saving face. I'm being my true self here. As much as I love this guy and where we are or were heading, I'm too independent to be upset over him picking another woman. And I'm too rational to be emotional. He doesn't like me enough to talk to me and include me in his life since she's in his.


There's nothing more I can do. I told him how I feel. I told him how it makes me feel. I told him I wanna go to the event with him. We are or were planning and saving money for a trip to Europe. We spent hours and hours talking about what we both love. Talking ideas and watching movies about it.


If he prefers going out to get drunk instead of spending time with me? What else can I do?


Put a leach on him? Send him texts and call him when he's with her?


He already picked her as the winner between us. She drinks too much. He's back to being self destructive again.

I'm not his mom
You’re still not getting my point across. If you say you don’t care, then why ask? If you see he’s pursuing her, then why be there? If you say you don’t wish to put a leash on him, then why are you being passive aggressive?


I think you’re too attached to his words rather than his actions. His actions are saying something completely different now. Doesn’t matter what he did in the past, it’s the present that counts. And currently, his present isn’t involving much of his attention on you.


You’re in the right mindset, but very few actually are in the right action.
I get your point. I don't think you're getting mine. Why would I ditch a relationship I love being in with someone I love without looking for a solution first?

Imagine the amount of divorced people if everyone walked away after 1 weird thing happening.

We've been together for a long time. Our dynamic worked for a long time. Until he started looking at this girl and developed something for her at work. He's a text book Aries.

I came here to know how to possibly find a solution based on that. Why? Because I got tired of being left on read by him.


I know him. I know he's lonely and bored often. If I don't talk to him for 2-3 hours? He text me to get my attention. If I'm at work? He will show up just to see me.


Then, the drama with this girl happened. And he started being distant. Less texting, going out a lot more. Drinking. Calling in sick because of a hangover. Something he hates to do.


Aries are the baby of the zodiac. They're adventurous. I know what he sees in her. She's the girl du jour. She's fun. She's as self destructive as he was.


If one person here had told me to fight for him, I would have. I would've gone to that bar and kiss him in front of her. I would've shown my strength. I can be a bulldozer if I want to. I would've show up at his work and leave cute messages for him. Never done it, he likes his women independent. But I would've done it. Everyone told me to ignore him. And I assumed, based on his sign, you told me to do so because Aries react better to that.
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Just wondering how old this guy is?
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It doesnt matter how hard you try, you cannot convince someone to love you. Love yourself and find someone who shows 100% interest in you and you alone.
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He knows that if he tell me something and I don't like it, I'll walk out.


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You say this but you didn't like that he went out several times drinking with this girl and you didn't walk.
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Aries keep people around who can do things for them, work for them and everyone knows Capricorns work hard.
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