Do Cancerian Men Cause Women to Become Psychotic? (Page 2)

try this. stop calling him. i bet he justthought you were being annoying.

"whats with that anyway? the cancer i knew was super persistent with me and him getting together. and then it happened, and it went well and then he withdrew without a word. i didnt say anything to scare him, well, probably not until after he left. and from there, it kept going back and forth until january. i haven't been intimately involved with him since, and he's been on my mind still. but i won't allow myself to get hurt again. i'm trying to let go and throw this one back into the water but my rising in cancer has got a really tight grasp on him."


- Well my cancer sweetie was like that when we first met. I have never been pursued like that ever!! I mean he came on strong. However, I had been in similar situation before such as yourself so I didn't want to get hurt either. Well, I pulled back before it could get serious because I didn't want to get hurt, which shocked the hell out of him. In fact, when I started to have feelings for him I told him I no longer wanted to seem him and that we couldn't be friends.(I know it was phucked up what I said, but I didn't want to get hurt). However, he didn't give up on me. Well needless to say I realized that he wasn't playing with my emotions and he was for real. We've been together for 6 years now and going strong. I think why some cancer men move so fast is because generally they like what they see. Then when the relationship gets serious they back off because they start wonder did they choose the right mate. Or it could mean that they found someone else to occupy their time. I'm a pisces too btw 🙂.

Posted by LibertarianVirgo
Unfortunately, I have no interest in a guy who cannot mentally challenge me. Virgo men seem to fit what I like. Capable to using their brains but not evil. Opinions anyone?

Are you saying that we can't mentally challenge you? I want to be clear here.

Maybe fall in love and be in awe of their love. Maybe psychotic with possessiveness. Most Cancer men are very moral men and gentle men.
Now psychotic in any other form... try Scorpio and Gemini men. I hear of these two causing that the most.

Do Cancerian Men Cause Women to Become Psychotic? Yes

Posted by Bollyhips
Hi Moon_eyes,

Thanks for the checkpoints! The thing with me is that I am attracted to Cancers and can't get enough of them. Your post really does make sense and I have been in relationships with non Cancers too. There was this Aquarius guy who I dated and found out that he got married to someone else without me knowing. I was sooo jilted! Yes, men in general can push our buttons and make the worse come out in us all.

But Moon_eyes, why would some Cancer men want to throw the bait?

Good question..."why would some Cancer men want to throw the bait?"

REDRUM REDRUM 🙂

LOL I don't get it.

what do you mean "once they have sex with us"—?

This thread is funny......

Lol Maybe the woman is just Psychotic and it has nothing to do with the Cancer...

But water signs are emotionally manipulative. All three of them. Emotions just happen to be what they understand better than any other sign.lol

Your best defense is to know yourself and your motives, better than anybody else.

In regards to the other comments- why be with (want to be with) someone who makes you feel bad, unsure, insecure, confused...? What's the point of that? Just leave. Why is "pretending" to be powerless so common? You have free will! LEAVE. I guess the whole- hot/cold, messing with your head, cancer trait- can leave a person in this ambiguous territory of, he loves me/he loves me not. But personally, the hot/cold treatment would leave me permanently cold, not YEARNING. And most certainly not Psychotic/Angry/Confused/Nuts. If you're consistently hot/cold then you're consistently unstable. Instability is a big ass red flag that I need to charge right through you and never look back.

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Posted by RoseTheTaurus
Lol Maybe the woman is just Psychotic and it has nothing to do with the Cancer...

But water signs are emotionally manipulative. All three of them. Emotions just happen to be what they understand better than any other sign.lol

Your best defense is to know yourself and your motives, better than anybody else.

In regards to the other comments- why be with (want to be with) someone who makes you feel bad, unsure, insecure, confused...? What's the point of that? Just leave. Why is "pretending" to be powerless so common? You have free will! LEAVE. I guess the whole- hot/cold, messing with your head, cancer trait- can leave a person in this ambiguous territory of, he loves me/he loves me not. But personally, the hot/cold treatment would leave me permanently cold, not YEARNING. And most certainly not Psychotic/Angry/Confused/Nuts. If you're consistently hot/cold then you're consistently unstable. Instability is a big ass red flag that I need to charge right through you and never look back.

Posted by ecent

I don't think the main poster was being insecure. The most she did was showing honesty and how to aproach a situation like this.this wine up being a debate.I had got into many debate where people kept on telling me I handle something wronge when I no I done the rite thing. And seen many times when the table has turn over the have aproach the situation the same way I did but now they are right. People dig into things to find a insecure when they no the person is rite. Stay sure and confident and say fuck wat u think.she had every right to put this shit out here that's why this is a blog, for many topics

pfft!

Ecent is right. People come by us Cancers' way of thinking eventually.
They disagree, then they paraphrase everything we said in their own way, may or may not put down Cancers as a whole while they preach, forgetting it was a Cancer who stood by this ground first. A little credit, would be nice.

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--->"In regards to the other comments"

*cut me off :/*

Are you assuming it's cancer women they're making psychotic and "insecure"? That is the only way I could have been putting down Cancers as a whole. Anyway, I was referring to women and men in general- if your not happy, then LEAVE and find happiness.

Ok I am a cancer man and everyone gets us completely all wrong. The reasons for are head games is we seek security, so we are going to push you psychologically to find out what makes you tick. We need to know that you can take us at our best and worse and vice versa. We are trying to setup our one stable partner all for ourselves and no one else; only after we will give our undying and completely loyal selves. All other signs go in blind and hoping for the best, not good enough for cancer, we are very good at reading people and know everyone is not " the one", hence why we push. Years of seeing other relationships and our own fall apart we can't help but to dissect every single thing that went wrong. We live in the past and when a mistake of a previous partner come into play into the new relationship we are going to make it harder for you to want us, not because we don't like you, but its either watch the same mistake happen again or see if they love you at your worst. It's a constant test of loyalty and once we get the one to pass our tests, that's when we're happy. We seem unstable and we are but there is always a reason for everything and we pick up on everything. We feel too intensely and get so caught up in hiding our emotions that when shit hits the fan we go all out. problem is what emotion is it going to be? Alls we want is unconditional/faithful love; once proven cancers cannot be happier, but you might not know because we might be still in our shell. Cancer is super complex, super fragile, super emotional, and all of its bottled up. Pass the tests and learn to handle the emotions, and you will have love for life. IMO no one will love you more intensely, but no one will test you more.

yikes! for serious? cancer men really? I had no idea.

I would rather not date another water sign. too many emotions within the relationship. my emotions are enough to deal with. Give me some fire, hell even air. I need some balance. I need a challenge and not a manipulative one either. game recognize game....

Cancer's are very strong, it's in trust and loved ones will you find them to be weak. Minipulating is a harsh word, everyone you ever meet will push the envolope to test your boundaries, there is no difference between cancer and all other signs when seeing what a person is made of, it's just we are reading you much closer. Cancers are loyal and loving; trying to find out if you are the same. It's not a mind trick, alls it is a a reading of your emotions. As far as losing your sanity because a cancer might push buttons every once in a while depends on you. Not everyone is the same. IMO you need to know your loved one emotionally/physically to have a great relationship; keep in mind the perfect person don't exsist, find what makes you sad, mad, and happy, to the level you can handle because everyone will do this.

Posted by Cbo
Ok I am a cancer man and everyone gets us completely all wrong. The reasons for are head games is we seek security, so we are going to push you psychologically to find out what makes you tick. We need to know that you can take us at our best and worse and vice versa. We are trying to setup our one stable partner all for ourselves and no one else; only after we will give our undying and completely loyal selves. All other signs go in blind and hoping for the best, not good enough for cancer, we are very good at reading people and know everyone is not " the one", hence why we push. Years of seeing other relationships and our own fall apart we can't help but to dissect every single thing that went wrong. We live in the past and when a mistake of a previous partner come into play into the new relationship we are going to make it harder for you to want us, not because we don't like you, but its either watch the same mistake happen again or see if they love you at your worst. It's a constant test of loyalty and once we get the one to pass our tests, that's when we're happy. We seem unstable and we are but there is always a reason for everything and we pick up on everything. We feel too intensely and get so caught up in hiding our emotions that when shit hits the fan we go all out. problem is what emotion is it going to be? Alls we want is unconditional/faithful love; once proven cancers cannot be happier, but you might not know because we might be still in our shell. Cancer is super complex, super fragile, super emotional, and all of its bottled up. Pass the tests and learn to handle the emotions, and you will have love for life. IMO no one will love you more intensely, but no one will test you more.

I read this twice lol. Please continue to educate us about cancer men.... This is very great information 🙂

So the whole thing I'm getting is, when they start trying to manipulate/play mind games, do nothing. It seems they are use to people freaking out, getting mad at them and such, so the person that would stand out is the person that gives them space, and when they return calmly let them know it wasn't appreciated and shut their asses down cold. Just because they are Cancers doesn't mean they get to treat people any kind of way, they are only sensitive to themselves. A very smart woman whom I??ve met on this forum has told me that about cancers. She's dating one. When he was hot and cold she told him flat out she didn't like it, and she straight disappeared making him chase her down to explain himself. I'm a Libra and so is she, so we think exactly alike. I have not uttered a word to my cancer, while he is on this hot/cold tip. Oh but, best believe thanks to this post I know how to handle him when he does decide to resurface, because they ALWAYS resurface.

My best advice would be to to show him that you care even when he is angry. He might be throwing a fit to either find out how you will react or just lose of control. Hot and cold is just a mood swing, unless he feels you have done something that he don't like. If you want to love and have a cancer love you, alls you have to do is wait till they gain composure and then talk about his and your feelings. Even if he still mad about a topic he will love you so much more knowing you want to understand him and actually work on the relationship. We just want security over and over, because people change and the cancer won't change as long as you don't. Treat them as you prince and we will be your prince, treat us like your our mother when we act like a child, otherwise if you don't understand and care we lose it. Cancer are very difficult to figure out, but once you do, we will love you like a child loves a mother when we are emotional, and we will go to the moon and back for you if you treat us like your prince. The point is security when stable and unstable, and if a woman can achieve this, we would die for you. Show us you don't want to leave or want another; I promise we will make any wish come true for you. I have had good and bad relationships just like everyone else, and the good ones I did my upmost to please the woman I loved. They have always been the one to return to me, once they find the grass is always greener. Other signs might be more stable and calm, but no one will love more intensely and loyal than a cancer. We are dogs, loyal, loving, best friends, and heart broken when your gone.

@cluelesscancer I was referring to cancers are only sensitive to their own feelings.

Posted by Cbo
My best advice would be to to show him that you care even when he is angry. He might be throwing a fit to either find out how you will react or just lose of control. Hot and cold is just a mood swing, unless he feels you have done something that he don't like. If you want to love and have a cancer love you, alls you have to do is wait till they gain composure and then talk about his and your feelings. Even if he still mad about a topic he will love you so much more knowing you want to understand him and actually work on the relationship. We just want security over and over, because people change and the cancer won't change as long as you don't. Treat them as you prince and we will be your prince, treat us like your our mother when we act like a child, otherwise if you don't understand and care we lose it. Cancer are very difficult to figure out, but once you do, we will love you like a child loves a mother when we are emotional, and we will go to the moon and back for you if you treat us like your prince. The point is security when stable and unstable, and if a woman can achieve this, we would die for you. Show us you don't want to leave or want another; I promise we will make any wish come true for you. I have had good and bad relationships just like everyone else, and the good ones I did my upmost to please the woman I loved. They have always been the one to return to me, once they find the grass is always greener. Other signs might be more stable and calm, but no one will love more intensely and loyal than a cancer. We are dogs, loyal, loving, best friends, and heart broken when your gone.

I like this too lol.

The take home message is love your crab just the way he is.

The one thing I've found with my crab is that the more I treated him like my Hero the more he started acting like one. The more I treat him like the man the more he acts like it. I let him know how much he impresses me very often. The result, He wants to do things that impress me & wants me to notice ALL of his accomplishments now. We use to be proud homebodies & now he wants to do things that show off his hard work or skills. Anything he does I give him lots of praise & he just glows. My point is, you have to trust his lead...He will shine for you when you do that.

Does my crab have moods? Absolutely yes lol. What helps greatly is that I don't fear his moods or "challenges". I dont overreact either. I literally told my crab he doesn't scare me... I confidently said, "Anything you want to throw at me, I can handle it". I actually, told him his 'little attitudes' turn me on haha. I give him the complete opposite reaction of what's expected if he misbehaves. I don't assassinate him with my words. I manage to still admire him even when he's upset. My positivity makes him more positive & not so crabby lol

As for the title of this thread: My opinion is Your crab will only make you psychotic if YOU allow him to! You are in charge of your own feelings.

@rapunzel you are definition of what a cancer needs. What sign are you?

Well it's right next to you name...

@CluelessCancer well that's how the ones I??ve met act. They only care when it's their feelings that are getting hurt. I??ve only met one other cancer that seems to care about everyone until they cross him. Other Cancer, majority act like the world is against them or out to get them. But hey, you may be different cant speak for them all.

Posted by Rapunzel
The take home message is love your crab just the way he is.

The one thing I've found with my crab is that the more I treated him like my Hero the more he started acting like one. The more I treat him like the man the more he acts like it. I let him know how much he impresses me very often. The result, He wants to do things that impress me & wants me to notice ALL of his accomplishments now. We use to be proud homebodies & now he wants to do things that show off his hard work or skills. Anything he does I give him lots of praise & he just glows. My point is, you have to trust his lead...He will shine for you when you do that.

Does my crab have moods? Absolutely yes lol. What helps greatly is that I don't fear his moods or "challenges". I dont overreact either. I literally told my crab he doesn't scare me... I confidently said, "Anything you want to throw at me, I can handle it". I actually, told him his 'little attitudes' turn me on haha. I give him the complete opposite reaction of what's expected if he misbehaves. I don't assassinate him with my words. I manage to still admire him even when he's upset. My positivity makes him more positive & not so crabby lol

As for the title of this thread: My opinion is Your crab will only make you psychotic if YOU allow him to! You are in charge of your own feelings.

Agree 100% !!!!! I love my moody crab too, he makes me happy everyday 🙂

Wow this thread is a riot. So what I'm gathering is we make people psychotics. It's our fault right? Sigh....

@truecancer I swear I just resisted the urge to burst out laughing at your comment. (im at work. lol), You sound EXACTLY like my cancer. When I square in on him and and lay his pile of b.s before him and don't let up, he always says "Okay, blame me". Its his FAVORITE line. I swear. smh.lol. I will go soft and baby him eventually depending on how small the issue is, but when he says that I know I've gotten somewhere. lol no need to continue pushing.

Don't worry hun, we don't mean all cancers are like the ones in the post. I LOVE Cancers. Well one in particular anyway. Still trying to figure out the one i'm currently seeing... I want to see that soft passionate side of him that he shows his family and people close to him. I want to be close to him, because I know the hardcore exterior is just a front. It has to be. I hope it is. I sensed it before I even got on the internet to read up on them. Plus like I said, I've see it. I just hope he shows it soon 😢

and even more important, I hope it's not ONLY reserved for those he alreadys shows it to.

Posted by Cbo
@rapunzel you are definition of what a cancer needs. What sign are you?

*Blushes* Wow thank you!

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Posted by Rapunzel
The take home message is love your crab just the way he is.

The one thing I've found with my crab is that the more I treated him like my Hero the more he started acting like one. The more I treat him like the man the more he acts like it. I let him know how much he impresses me very often. The result, He wants to do things that impress me & wants me to notice ALL of his accomplishments now. We use to be proud homebodies & now he wants to do things that show off his hard work or skills. Anything he does I give him lots of praise & he just glows. My point is, you have to trust his lead...He will shine for you when you do that.

Does my crab have moods? Absolutely yes lol. What helps greatly is that I don't fear his moods or "challenges". I dont overreact either. I literally told my crab he doesn't scare me... I confidently said, "Anything you want to throw at me, I can handle it". I actually, told him his 'little attitudes' turn me on haha. I give him the complete opposite reaction of what's expected if he misbehaves. I don't assassinate him with my words. I manage to still admire him even when he's upset. My positivity makes him more positive & not so crabby lol

As for the title of this thread: My opinion is Your crab will only make you psychotic if YOU allow him to! You are in charge of your own feelings.

Agree 100% !!!!! I love my moody crab too, he makes me happy everyday 🙂

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Thats great he makes you happy.
I'm sure you make him happy too 🙂

Posted by Rapunzel
The take home message is love your crab just the way he is.

The one thing I've found with my crab is that the more I treated him like my Hero the more he started acting like one. The more I treat him like the man the more he acts like it. I let him know how much he impresses me very often. The result, He wants to do things that impress me & wants me to notice ALL of his accomplishments now. We use to be proud homebodies & now he wants to do things that show off his hard work or skills. Anything he does I give him lots of praise & he just glows. My point is, you have to trust his lead...He will shine for you when you do that.

Does my crab have moods? Absolutely yes lol. What helps greatly is that I don't fear his moods or "challenges". I dont overreact either. I literally told my crab he doesn't scare me... I confidently said, "Anything you want to throw at me, I can handle it". I actually, told him his 'little attitudes' turn me on haha. I give him the complete opposite reaction of what's expected if he misbehaves. I don't assassinate him with my words. I manage to still admire him even when he's upset. My positivity makes him more positive & not so crabby lol

As for the title of this thread: My opinion is Your crab will only make you psychotic if YOU allow him to! You are in charge of your own feelings.

this can be applied to any male sign. good stuff.

This sentence reveals the truth of the matter:

"I think that they fool around, but she hates it when he speaks, flirts, and comes over to my workstation."

Of course she hates it when he flirts with you b/c she's in love with him too. And women can certainly become jealous and act crazy in those situations. Maybe it's just "fooling around" for him but it sounds like this guys a dog whose looking to catch as much tail as possible and doesn't care the emotional pain it creates. If that's the case, you're just as lost as she is for being in love with this man. Why do we blame the women for men's doggy behavior? Why do we mack on men who "fool around" right under our noses. If he's willing to let you see that, he's not in love with you like you are with him.

PS: No lie. I knew this cancer male who had his official girlfriend over for thanksgiving dinner and then had his "ex" girlfriend over for dessert that same day. And both women would have gotten into a huge catfight over some POS who respected neither.

And yes he was banging both chicks at once. I know b/c his mother & I were good friends and she knew the deal. Just saying, cancer men can be pigs. Be careful!

xMoonMan, He also lived in the same house with us and I saw his game in action all the time. He came home with them and he ran through women like a baseball team runs thru a rotation of pitchers. There's alot more backstory than I'm choosing to reveal. Trust me. He was boning both babes cuz that's how he rolled.

XMoonMan, I was out of line in my comment on cancer men being pigs. That guy was just super arrogant and that had nothing to do with his sun sign. Her question just reminded me of him. It was sad to think about all the hearts he broke and the callous way he treated women. From her question, I don't know if he's that kind of guy but I hate seeing women compete over a man whose prolly not committed to anyone but himself. And if he's young and that's where he's at in life, I prolly shouldn't be judging him either. I recently came back to the online message board world so my "expression" is a work in progress. Thanks for the honest feedback. I appreciate it. Love your pix btw.

Moon man you wrote down crap and you know it. She is fucking right. Crabfuckers can be the most arrogant ( you are a good example) manipulative bitches ever.
And don't try to act like cancers wouldn't gossip about everyone. All you cancers suck.

They gossip about everyone. They are so fucking fake. Backstabbers. Plain and simple.
To all women out there. Don't fall for these little bitches. They are actor's.
Think of O.J Simpson. Use them and then throw them in the garbage.

^^^ lmbo!! @xmoonman

Posted by xMoonMan
Hi Eisregen, nice to meet you too.

Has anyone told you that you look so cute when you get angry?
Your nostrils flare a little and you get a cute little crease in your brow.

Anyway, all the best, hope you find a nice man one day who is right for you.
Life is a crazy journey!

Shut the hell up you fake bitch. Nice to meet you my ass!! You're not funny.

And phoenix what did you write? Im curious.

Ohh little cancer boo boo can't take the truth.
Sorry hun someone had to say it.
And I really dont give a fuck about you and your attention towards me.

Listen up ladies. Get yourself a real man and not a fucking whiny sissy cancer boy.

Spread the message ! 🙂)) haha!!!! Look at how this ridiculous fucker thinks he's
Sooooo much smarter then me hahahaaaa
You smoke to much crack honey if you think that :'D

@eisregen you want a man without emotions, full of emotions, or just perfect? I'm the most manly person, and yet the majority of my friends, say I'm their best friend. I love hard/fight hard; you say sissy cancer, then go get a man that don't show high emotions, so get a dull man, or a man that don't give a shit about you, be ause anyone that don't get emotional with you, never cared much in the first place. This is why girls like assholes over the nice guy, the assahole don't care about you or what what you do, and the nice guy that cares, so when you do something inappropriate, a fight starts.

Grow up

@ EISREGEN

Lighten up a little, I think xMoonMan was being tongue in cheek and frankly it was quite adorable (got to give the man credit in regards to the anger description) 😛

Take the good with the bad, I am sure there are quite some manipulative, psychotic, completely insane Crabs out there as there are Stingers and Merfolks. No need to diss any sign due to any bad experience, I have had my own share with Water Elemental Creatures to be able to say this and this is coming from a Stinger, the bad ones are truly bad and the good ones, heavenly. Take what you will, an experience and make use of that, turn it into a lesson filled o the brim with a wealth of wisdom. Be thankful that way, just a small change in perspective will leave most much less angry and bitter...

Here, a complimentary 🙂 and a hug, they work wonders and please breathe, relax.

She tripping. My cancer man drives me nuts, but I'm crazy about him. He's like sour patch candy. Distant, moody sour, and self-absorbed one minute, then soft and mushy and sweet as a tart in the next minute. I'm a Libra and I constantly change my mind as it is, so you can see how we clash right here. When he's being a butt-head I'm sure in my mind that I'm gonna leave his azz flat out, then soon as I get ready to, he's wooing me right back in. -_- it's irritating to say the least, but I care about him and it certainly keeping me on my toes. He's like puzzle that I can't wait to put together.

Ahhh it's so good to know I'm not the only one that can't get over a cancer man. He recently broke things off with me about three weeks ago and I've done everything I can to forget him (deleted his number, removed from facebook, Instagram) luckily he lives two hours away. I'm just hoping that he does come back to me. we had such a strong emotional and mental connection.. the distance just got hard and his ex girlfriend had come back into the picture(which is shocking to me because she cheated on him and did some nasty things). I'm hoping he realizes that what we had was the real deal and that one day when the time is right will want to hive it another try.. it's just so hard to not want to contact him, just a virgo girl lost in my own mind over this crab 😢

Question though, If he has started following me on things and adding me back does this mean hes curious about how I'm doing? and is possibly rethinking things?

LOL