Hard to talk to cancer woman when not in person

Posted by edgelord
she doesn't seem that into you tbh

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Posted by scorpio04

Posted by edgelord
she doesn't seem that into you tbh

why do you say that? to me i see it as she is playing hard to get. i feel like she wanted me to pursue her to make her feel loved. because there are times before that she was making effort to be with me (being indirect about it) but i declined so i felt like she is second guessing if i love her (because i declined her offers to be with me in an indirect way) my problem was her indirectness.. but i already told her before that i love her and she told me that she loves me too...

imagine it was your best friend writing the op and you were giving them advice. without your own biases because you're sure that feelings are there. what would you say to your friend?

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Posted by DarknessDoll
Show up with a homemade dinner for two.

Posted by scorpio04
she doesn't respond to text messages (she just reads them) so i don't know what her response is to my message. Recently she answers my phone call but doesn't speak just listens. as a scorpio i feel via my intuition that i can have a proper conversation with her in person than texting her or calling her. i would like to know if you cancer women are like her and why do you guys do that? she's the 1st person i have a relationship with. thanks.

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Posted by scorpio04
she doesn't respond to text messages (she just reads them) so i don't know what her response is to my message. Recently she answers my phone call but doesn't speak just listens. as a scorpio i feel via my intuition that i can have a proper conversation with her in person than texting her or calling her. i would like to know if you cancer women are like her and why do you guys do that? she's the 1st person i have a relationship with. thanks.

Does she respond with rhythmic breathing of sorts?

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Posted by Mariah
Definitely in her shell. Hate to tell you... But I am like this if I'm either REALLY not sure about my feelings for a guy and not head over heels.... Or even not interested at all. Because, I know the minute I see a guy if I'm feeling him. And though I might be observant the first two times I see or have contact with him. When I feel comfortable or I like him Im a chatterbox.

But I am not every woman and every cancer is different.

Maybe ask her??? In a sweet non judging way??

Posted by butterfly30
Sounds like she like you but she feel like you are off or playing games.Saying you love her but declining her offer because she was indirect ...so u being indirect is a game aND she felt it. Her indirect behavior was her way of wanting you but being cautious. Your indirect behavior was away to get her back because you didn't like the tactics she use of being cautious.

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Posted by Mariah
Definitely in her shell. Hate to tell you... But I am like this if I'm either REALLY not sure about my feelings for a guy and not head over heels.... Or even not interested at all. Because, I know the minute I see a guy if I'm feeling him. And though I might be observant the first two times I see or have contact with him. When I feel comfortable or I like him Im a chatterbox.

But I am not every woman and every cancer is different.

Maybe ask her??? In a sweet non judging way??

thanks for your input. my cancer is a little sporadic and unpredictable --- she's a cancer-leo cusp so there's a lot going on inside of her than a typical cancer... i feel that i know her with my intuition in such a way that i can safely make guesses about her and be correct because for the most part she is consistent about most things. she actually doges direct questions most of the time. she plays dumb a lot. she always just want me to stick to her like literal glue (i am always by her side like our bodies are glued together while we're walking especially) but recently she doesn't talk much. i feel that she is shy to me about something she did before that i forgave her constantly about. she was giving me very severe mood swings but i kept my cool, never got mad at her and always told her that i forgive her. i also feel that she is afraid of what i will say if we talk. because we are at the point where she is super sensitive to me --- light the slightest thing i say/do/didn't do would hurt her and she does passive aggressive by instinct. i feel that she is afraid that what i will say would hurt her if she talks to me... have any of you cancer females been in a relationship at that level? like you are so involved with the person you are with in such a way that you are super sensitive to that person? my cancer wasn't like this before...she was sensitive to me before but not as extreme as she is now... thanks.

Oh she sounds like one of my closest friends. She is a sweetheart. Very emotional.

However, even though our birthdays are one day apart, we are veryyy different with most things. When it comes to opinions, morals, standards we are exactly the same. But with expressing our feelings, we are different.

I'm very outgoing, energetic. Sometimes too much.

She can be extrovert, when we have a drink

But most of the times she is calm

You can't always read what she is thinking.

But the cancer you describe is, well, more like we are only one day in the month. 😂😂 when our period sets in. Lol!!!

The moodswings and all.

I can't help you with that, cause I am not really 200% cancer with that. I tend to keep that to myself. And usually im upbeat all day.

I am very much in touch with my feelings. However the bipolar thing, is not something I have during the day.

Cancerians, who have alot of water placements do tend to.

I have alot of Sagittarius in my placements and airsigns too.

Do you know her natal chart??

Cause she sounds like a 200% water sign 😉😉😉

Coming back to your approach... I think she is very lucky. You have a lot of patience with her my friend.

Awesome! Most people have a really hard time dealing with our deep emotional side. No matter how our level of moodswings are.

I feel like something is really bothering her.

Unlike many people think, sensuality and sex are very important to us crabs.

We tend to seek a deep connection in sex and if we just had that earthshaking deep connection with the one we love we are in a very safe place. A place where we would open up more. Try to gently bring it up in that moment. And try to avoid remarks that might give her the idea it's something she did wrong. Simply just say something like honey I can feel that something is weighing heavy on your mind. Can I help? And then just listen. But I think you guys will be fine. If you have that much patience you must love her!!!! So sweet

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Posted by scorpio04
she doesn't respond to text messages (she just reads them) so i don't know what her response is to my message. Recently she answers my phone call but doesn't speak just listens. as a scorpio i feel via my intuition that i can have a proper conversation with her in person than texting her or calling her. i would like to know if you cancer women are like her and why do you guys do that? she's the 1st person i have a relationship with. thanks.

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Posted by edgelord
she doesn't seem that into you tbh

why do you say that? to me i see it as she is playing hard to get. i feel like she wanted me to pursue her to make her feel loved. because there are times before that she was making effort to be with me (being indirect about it) but i declined so i felt like she is second guessing if i love her (because i declined her offers to be with me in an indirect way) my problem was her indirectness.. but i already told her before that i love her and she told me that she loves me too...

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Posted by Argentum
In another thread that you opened and asked for help, you said that you two have LDR.

How long is it now, 18 days (since you opened this thread) and she is not responding?

Ill just copy paste what I told you back then:

In the situation you are right now (long distance relationship), you are doing everything right. You seem like nice guy that really cares about her. Fuck if you are traveling that far to see her and your understanding for her, that's a big thing and tells a lot about you.

But the fact is, that if you are not physical close, felt by touch, smell, eye contact connection (ooh yea), energy, sex, fun, fight, fascial and body mimic...., she can not read you (read that as feel you). She is cancer, only what we feel is true for us. Only verbal, video or written communication is abstract for us. And then the fears come and they can and will overcome any verbal reassurance you provide. And in this situation she is going nuts inside, overdrive of emotions can occur sooner or later.

Serious long distance relationship is IMHO for two water signs almost impossible. We bond and connect deep, we love it and we need it. The need for emotional connection achieved also trough physical contact, is just too strong to be far apart for too long. At least from my cancer point of view, and I'm a man, women cancers need that even more intensely.

You two need to find a practical solution how to be physical closer together if you want to make it work.

Posted by Argentum
Ok... Just to make it clear... How long is it since she last comm. with you? Respond to your msg,, initiate conversation etc.?

Posted by scorpio04

Posted by Argentum
Ok... Just to make it clear... How long is it since she last comm. with you? Respond to your msg,, initiate conversation etc.?

she doesn't respond to my messages lately.

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Posted by scorpio04

Posted by Argentum
Ok... Just to make it clear... How long is it since she last comm. with you? Respond to your msg,, initiate conversation etc.?

she doesn't respond to my messages lately.

If you can be little more specific pls.. How long, since her last respond to you? Word lately tells me nothing, its to subjective.

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Posted by Argentum
Man you are indirect on a direct question. I’m getting impatient 🙄. Ok her last initiation was in july and her last whatever (mail, msg., call...) response to your whatever attempt to comm. was...when (week, month, 10,18,22 days?....)

And how old are you and her?

You dont need to write essays, plain short anwser will do 😉

Posted by Argentum
Lets try again. Date of her very last msg, direct or indirect, doesnt matter? Any kind of msg..

And ages pls.

Cant give you proper advice without that data.