Hard to talk to cancer woman when not in person
Posted by Argentumyeah...it's going to be 6 months before we can have an opportunity to see see other. I am going to fly to the country she is in this january 2018 so that i will be there for her to support her in her ultramarathon. the last time we saw each other in person was 1st week of july 2017. But it's not as if i don't want to see her or be with her...it's just that it's complicated. but i communicate to her literally everyday and she reads my messages (at least i know that she does)
In another thread that you opened and asked for help, you said that you two have LDR.
How long is it now, 18 days (since you opened this thread) and she is not responding?
Ill just copy paste what I told you back then:
In the situation you are right now (long distance relationship), you are doing everything right. You seem like nice guy that really cares about her. Fuck if you are traveling that far to see her and your understanding for her, that's a big thing and tells a lot about you.
But the fact is, that if you are not physical close, felt by touch, smell, eye contact connection (ooh yea), energy, sex, fun, fight, fascial and body mimic...., she can not read you (read that as feel you). She is cancer, only what we feel is true for us. Only verbal, video or written communication is abstract for us. And then the fears come and they can and will overcome any verbal reassurance you provide. And in this situation she is going nuts inside, overdrive of emotions can occur sooner or later.
Serious long distance relationship is IMHO for two water signs almost impossible. We bond and connect deep, we love it and we need it. The need for emotional connection achieved also trough physical contact, is just too strong to be far apart for too long. At least from my cancer point of view, and I'm a man, women cancers need that even more intensely.
You two need to find a practical solution how to be physical closer together if you want to make it work.
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Sorry
My body literally craves meat.
O blood groups need meat and vigorous exercise and A's need a vegetarian diet with gentle exercise such as yoga
I very much admire people that can go without meat and fish......very difficult and takes strength and discipline. I take my 🎩 off to them
I grew up having a vegetarian parent for about 15 years before they very gradually started meat again. Stopped meat for health reasons and started again due to same.
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I have coworkers and friends who are pure vegan and strict vegetarian now- I have no issue eating that when I'm out or at theirs, but I find I don't get full from what they make.
I'm also very physically active and I find I need to eat meat once a day.
I've avoided fake sugar for years though. Fruit is my go to for that. I also don't eat pork regularly (I really like bacon), but my body feels unnaturally full from it. So I limit that type of meat due to.
My body knows best, I find.
And that's crazy about dreaming of meat- that's a sign for sure!
Personally I have tried changing my habits and I need meat.
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Posted by jeaneYou argue with such grace. I got a lil hysterical myself over your responses. Dude is loosin his giblets and you're as cool as a cucumber.Posted by Cvurko8Posted by jeaneI share your view and dislike militant vegans too. Your attitude towards the issue is probably the most constructive one.Posted by Cvurko8Posted by jeaneTotally agreed.Posted by Cvurko8Sure. And that's your opinion but in truth, I don't imagine many meat eaters really care what you think. Just like a lot of them don't care that you think eating animals is wrong when their opinion is it isn't.Posted by jeaneYup, people thought earth was the center of the solar system for a long time too. Now they just think they are the center of earth.Posted by bricklemarkPosted by jeaneIt's not the same!!!! If it's habit, theres No justification for it!!! You can simply get used to something else!!! Have you seen how much those animals suffer???? Get real you fuckin selfish idiot!!! Wake tf up!!!!Posted by bricklemarkPosted by jeaneIt's not taste, it's habit. Gradually switch to a vegan diet, it's the same, just your habits will have changed...Posted by BoomShakalakaBoomPerhaps its not as complicated as a psychological issue but more they like the taste.
As I said in my first post on this thread, I don't believe full veganism is for everyone even though a plant-based diet can have great health benefits for many. Compare your medical check-up results of cholesterol, vitamins, minerals before and after implementation of a plant-based diet and you will see it for yourself, I'm not asking you to believe me. Rather than advocating for veganism, I'd prefer if people truly start evaluating their own relationship with food and how their emotions, rather than conscious choices, play a role in it. In other words..your unhealthy food choices actually just emphasize much larger emotional and possibly psychological issues that should be dealt with, not pushed to the background by eating shit because it gives people a quick and temporary relief.
Not everyone shares your personal judgement that steak, chicken and fish and eggs is shit food.
Taste or habit, their preference is to continue eating it because they enjoy it. Again, it's a personal preference. It's not a psychological issue, it's not because their mothers dressed up as a cow one Halloween, it's a personal choice they have made. It drives you nuts doesn't it that people have different opinions to your own.
jesus, are you being sponsored by exclamation marks? get a pound for every one you use?
this is the crux of the matter. people simply don't care or they don't feel that an animal's suffering is that bad because it has no understanding of its life. they don't agree with your value judgements.
it's a difference of opinion where they value their needs (ie a meal they enjoy consuming) above an animal's experience of its life (the conditions which an animal lives and dies).
as someone said to me many many moons ago "god put animals on the earth for us." people feel that while we are for the most part, on top of the food chain, humans have a right to eat another animal if they wish.
you feel it is selfish but for them, these animals are bred to be slaughtered. why feel bad when they serve their purpose? they see little difference for us to eat animals when lots of animals eat other animals. it's the way of the world.
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Opinions are subjective. Everyone is entitled to have its own but not everyone should be respected for it. Much like i dont respect jihadists who base their opinion on ignorance and destructive philosophy based on false facts, i cant respect the "personal choice" of non vegans, because for the majority of meat-eaters their decision is neither personal (they were thought to eat meat when young, much like religion), nor informed (ignorance and weak will is the source of this choice for most).
As an american physician once said "I am vegan just because there isnt a constructive argument eating meat is better in any way"
The large majority of people don't wish to be converted. Not to Islamism and not to veganism.
I aint trying to convert anyone tho, just trying to be objective and point out false info and old ideas concerning a subject that i deem important for life on this planet.
That's cool.
My initial point was there is a place for veganism. I just wasn't in favour of the militant vegans who bang on about it all the time.
Changes are slowly happening and that is a good thing but people have to ready to hear and receive the information. Banging on that people are selfish or a dumb fuck really doesn't lead to any sort of constructive conversation.
There is no way I could convince my partner to stop eating meat. All the facts and the logical reasoning in the world would fail but instead I'm slowly introducing these foods into his diet and leading by example. If he eats one less meal without an animal in it then I take that as a small victory.
What are your placements?
Thanks. In reality, I am very committed to the cause. I would love to see everyone be vegan! I would love to see the end to animal exploitation. I would love to the world realise that we are all part of one giant system where everyone has a part to play and where eating animals while living in western urban areas is not essential to life.
But thoughts about food are embedded in emotional thinking. The turkey at Christmas, the bacon butties on a Sunday morning, the steak pie at a football match. They tap into people's pleasure centres and that is really hard to overcome.
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Posted by SmidgeWhere do you get your Omega 6's? Fatty acids? D3, K2? vitamin A? B12?Posted by sultrykittyI'm perfectly healthy.
Pure veganism long term just isn't healthy, and you have to supplement with quite a few things to get the appropriate levels of certain vitamins, minerals, and amino acids. Many of those supplements aren't in the most bio-available forms, either. Our bodies evolved to eat everything; meat, vegetables, and fruits. Some could argue of all the foods we eat, the two we *aren't* well suited to digest (unprocessed) are grains and legumes--foods that are disproportionately high in vegan diets.
I take almost no supplements in my diet.
You can't just go vegan, you need to study up on nutrition and be on top of your diet, if you do that there's no reason you can't be perfectly healthy, if not healthier than non-vegans.
Our bodies did evolve to meat somewhat, I'll agree with that but we also evolved with the ability to feel compassion and empathy. We have those emotions for a reason.click to expand
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