Posted by Namy
Every other sign , I've noticed are extremely patient with Cancers. As a Cancer, if you disappear, I'd go missing. Honestly, I'd delete your existence.
If you ever decide to come back, you must have a reason like I lost a family member kind of reason if not remain lost. I don't know how to cope with such inconsistencies but we can't all be the same.
Posted by Arielle83Posted by arieswoman27Posted by Namy
Every other sign , I've noticed are extremely patient with Cancers. As a Cancer, if you disappear, I'd go missing. Honestly, I'd delete your existence.
If you ever decide to come back, you must have a reason like I lost a family member kind of reason if not remain lost. I don't know how to cope with such inconsistencies but we can't all be the same.
Easy to say! But as it turns out on this forum, most Cancer men DO disappear on the women they are dating. And these women are left scratching their heads and wondering what the hell is going on... Now guess what, in my typical Aries style, I once got pretty impatient with the object of my desire (Cancer man, ahem ahem) and gave him a little "nudge" so to speak after not hearing from him for about a week and a half. The Cancer male reacted pretty annoyed to say the least. In a huge paragraph he wanted to let me know how he did not respond well to accusations or force. hahahaha...AWESOME! I sent an apology and thought he hated my guts...After that I just left him alone. A few days later I hear again from him asking me when I was free to meet up. Finally we met and had an amazing dinner and drinks. But hey, what a rollercoaster!
If you ask me, these little naughty souls (Cancer men) love to pull off mind games on women. What they fail to realise however is that nobody owns an inexhaustible source of patience.
All you basically said is that your sense of pace trumps the cancers sense of pace, so they better hurry up to match yours.
You sound like another entitled woman who believes she needs to speed along a relationship. Your needs are only half of a relationship. No wonder he was annoyed. Cancer men don't like dealing with demanding women.click to expand
Posted by Arielle83
@arieswoman27
You probably should of dumped him for not meeting your demands.
You can't change ppl, so you'll just be constantly disappointed.
Posted by arieswoman27Posted by Arielle83
@arieswoman27
You probably should of dumped him for not meeting your demands.
You can't change ppl, so you'll just be constantly disappointed.
Well, thanks for your valuable advice. Whether I will dump him or not is irrelevant here.
One more thing: Since when being a Cancer woman makes you an expert in Cancer men?click to expand
Posted by narb
i wouldnt give up as yet cancers are scared easily i would just give him space and time to think..... give it some time if he does not reach out to u in 3-4 wks i would attempt to reach and if he does not respond then let it go. and keep in mind they are slow..
Posted by MiZLeo
Why were you cooking and cleaning and buying him gifts? Your not his mommy.
Posted by Goldigold
No she is 100% right!! He probably thinks something is wrong with you mentally. And you are no challenge for him. Women think that because cancer men are emotional that they are irrational, wrong!
Stop acting so desperate! Giving out the goods so fast and an emotional mess....get it together. They like to conquer.
Posted by SensitiveBlues
I need to treetruk a crab cause if it leads to this kind of insanity it's worth it!
This board is ridiculous
Crab men got the voodoo dick
Or something but I want a taste
Posted by AquaCancerMoon
People should get to know each other before sharing their feelings. It would save a lot of heartache and damaged self-esteem.
As for Cancer men or men in general, I think it's rude and immature to just ignore someone because you think a woman is falling for you too fast.
Be an adult and let the person know it's too soon for you. It might hurt her feelings, but at least it's better than disappearing and saying nothing and hoping that she's a mind reader.
Posted by FinbuffPosted by Admiral
I have a disdain for most American men and women not using the chances they have. Spoiled brats are what I see and they make the guys that are actually doing something look bad. But fuckit.
Well I know for a fact you are correct about the majority of American women. For the most part they don't even need men these days because the family has programmed them to believe a career is the top prority. I find Eastern European women to be blessed with far more humility.click to expand
Posted by dewiklaessen1991
maybe for him it takes time so taking a step is the best you can do also cancer men often are afraid to get rejected or hurt they feel very intense for you but normally if it's mutual you wouldn't have to hold back me and my sagg boyfriend were head over heels at eachother from day one and it was mutual he has is moon in cancer but i had a cancer before and believe me if a cancer let's you wait don't do anything because you will always be the one chasing him and taking the first step they are not the type to do that. once you let them go they'll come after you show him you can be without him but talk about the things you did together that you had a good time etc
Posted by tiziani
It's not about desperation but sincerity.
Posted by Arielle83Posted by tiziani
It's not about desperation but sincerity.
Yep that's how I see it.
I had an Aries tell me he loved me after two weeks. He was clingy and it weirded me out, so I broke up with him. He thought I owed him something cuz he claimed he loved me. So a barrage of verbal abusive texts followed until I sought a restraining order.
Back the fuvk up.click to expand
Posted by Cg2016
Damn homie. Be patient and see what he does. I rushed with a cancer too. They love their punkass shell lol. He'll come back out of his shell. Yall need to see each other in person and maybe talk out what happened. I think disappearing acts are so rude. I always feel disrespected lmao. Like no you didn't just abandon me like that. But I'm some emotional scorpio so lol
Posted by Arielle83Posted by LeonessaPosted by Arielle83Posted by tiziani
It's not about desperation but sincerity.
Yep that's how I see it.
I had an Aries tell me he loved me after two weeks. He was clingy and it weirded me out, so I broke up with him. He thought I owed him something cuz he claimed he loved me. So a barrage of verbal abusive texts followed until I sought a restraining order.
Back the fuvk up.
Being rejected drives fire signs crazy. We become more demanding.
Yeah that's what I see. The difference is cancer needs stability and security, so you become demanding and we see it as you trying to control.
So we bail.click to expand
Posted by narayana
Sounds just like a passing attraction for him and you had way too much expectations. I'm not saying he's not into you anymore, but it might be just sexual and you probably scared him away with the intensity.
Idk if it's just me or I see many people expecting a Cancer to certainly fall for them once something intimate has been going on, just because Cancers are known to be emotional. Yes, we are, but we can easily toss aside our moments' desires and move on without catching feelings. We do not necessarily fall in love with everyone we fvck, the chances are even slimmer if the other turns out to be too demanding.
Just give him some time and don't be pushy or he'll just disappear without a trace.
And please kill all your expectations...
Cause nothing in life is promised except death. /Yeezy/
Posted by JkatsPosted by narayana
Sounds just like a passing attraction for him and you had way too much expectations. I'm not saying he's not into you anymore, but it might be just sexual and you probably scared him away with the intensity.
Idk if it's just me or I see many people expecting a Cancer to certainly fall for them once something intimate has been going on, just because Cancers are known to be emotional. Yes, we are, but we can easily toss aside our moments' desires and move on without catching feelings. We do not necessarily fall in love with everyone we fvck, the chances are even slimmer if the other turns out to be too demanding.
Just give him some time and don't be pushy or he'll just disappear without a trace.
And please kill all your expectations...
Cause nothing in life is promised except death. /Yeezy/
Well my situation is confusing, because my Cancer guy was the first to say I love you, I know that he's in love with me, says that he wants to marry me and for him to have his baby in the future, yet he won't commit to me. Wtf is all that about?!click to expand
Posted by JkatsPosted by narayana
Sounds just like a passing attraction for him and you had way too much expectations. I'm not saying he's not into you anymore, but it might be just sexual and you probably scared him away with the intensity.
Idk if it's just me or I see many people expecting a Cancer to certainly fall for them once something intimate has been going on, just because Cancers are known to be emotional. Yes, we are, but we can easily toss aside our moments' desires and move on without catching feelings. We do not necessarily fall in love with everyone we fvck, the chances are even slimmer if the other turns out to be too demanding.
Just give him some time and don't be pushy or he'll just disappear without a trace.
And please kill all your expectations...
Cause nothing in life is promised except death. /Yeezy/
Well my situation is confusing, because my Cancer guy was the first to say I love you, I know that he's in love with me, says that he wants to marry me and for him to have his baby in the future, yet he won't commit to me. Wtf is all that about?!click to expand
Posted by Arielle83
Women on dxp never actually want to UNDERSTAND why they do this. You all just come here venting your stories where you all make the same mistakes and expect to be catered to.
Don't tell a Man U "love him" when you're drunk.
- cancer DOES NOT see that as SINCERE. He sees that as you have no control over your feelings. Maybe even desperate for love because they know women push that shit to hear it back.
A cancer man doesn't DISAPPEAR, he's simply busy.
- with PRIORITIES IE: work, family, money, home. These are all things a cancer puts first before you think you can score a prominent place in his life. You better be stable and not crazy (see above point about "drunk I love u")
When he's away from you he's probably questioning why you said such things so fast!
- he's thinking about u, but not calling u because he doesn't get where you stand or what you want. You were casually dating and now you've put him in a position where he's like "what the fuck?" I'd be thinking this chick is clingy.
And when you're clingy you interfere with our priorities. Fire sign women are hit and miss because you all need his attention and when you don't get it you demonize him.
Byeeee
Posted by rakacPosted by JkatsPosted by narayana
Sounds just like a passing attraction for him and you had way too much expectations. I'm not saying he's not into you anymore, but it might be just sexual and you probably scared him away with the intensity.
Idk if it's just me or I see many people expecting a Cancer to certainly fall for them once something intimate has been going on, just because Cancers are known to be emotional. Yes, we are, but we can easily toss aside our moments' desires and move on without catching feelings. We do not necessarily fall in love with everyone we fvck, the chances are even slimmer if the other turns out to be too demanding.
Just give him some time and don't be pushy or he'll just disappear without a trace.
And please kill all your expectations...
Cause nothing in life is promised except death. /Yeezy/
Well my situation is confusing, because my Cancer guy was the first to say I love you, I know that he's in love with me, says that he wants to marry me and for him to have his baby in the future, yet he won't commit to me. Wtf is all that about?!
what do y mean he won't commit,what behavior of his shows this ?click to expand
Posted by JkatsPosted by rakacPosted by JkatsPosted by narayana
Sounds just like a passing attraction for him and you had way too much expectations. I'm not saying he's not into you anymore, but it might be just sexual and you probably scared him away with the intensity.
Idk if it's just me or I see many people expecting a Cancer to certainly fall for them once something intimate has been going on, just because Cancers are known to be emotional. Yes, we are, but we can easily toss aside our moments' desires and move on without catching feelings. We do not necessarily fall in love with everyone we fvck, the chances are even slimmer if the other turns out to be too demanding.
Just give him some time and don't be pushy or he'll just disappear without a trace.
And please kill all your expectations...
Cause nothing in life is promised except death. /Yeezy/
Well my situation is confusing, because my Cancer guy was the first to say I love you, I know that he's in love with me, says that he wants to marry me and for him to have his baby in the future, yet he won't commit to me. Wtf is all that about?!
what do y mean he won't commit,what behavior of his shows this ?
We rarely see each other, maybe 2-3 times a month, and only for sex. Yet we talk about baby and marriage quite often. I had a pregnancy scare back in December, and he was so happy. He has expressed to me that we're not official, and that he knows how we view our "relationship" is not in sync, so I guess I am the stupid one to expect more than he is willing to give at the moment.click to expand
Posted by rabidtalker
Yeah I will back up arielle too, she's pretty spot on
Posted by Leonessa
May I sound like a leo? Hey guys, it is my post. Dear Jkats, they stopped talking about me and started talking about you. Move your relationship to another post please.
Posted by JkatsPosted by Leonessa
May I sound like a leo? Hey guys, it is my post. Dear Jkats, they stopped talking about me and started talking about you. Move your relationship to another post please.
So sorry Leonessa, I didn't mean to take away from your post, my apologies.
These damn Cancer men lol!click to expand
Posted by LeonessaPosted by JkatsPosted by Leonessa
May I sound like a leo? Hey guys, it is my post. Dear Jkats, they stopped talking about me and started talking about you. Move your relationship to another post please.
So sorry Leonessa, I didn't mean to take away from your post, my apologies.
These damn Cancer men lol!
) Help yourself. I hope you figure out things with your cancer. I am about to give up.
click to expand
Posted by JkatsPosted by LeonessaPosted by JkatsPosted by Leonessa
May I sound like a leo? Hey guys, it is my post. Dear Jkats, they stopped talking about me and started talking about you. Move your relationship to another post please.
So sorry Leonessa, I didn't mean to take away from your post, my apologies.
These damn Cancer men lol!
) Help yourself. I hope you figure out things with your cancer. I am about to give up.
Lol, i'm a Virgo, I rarely give up on something I want. If it makes you feel any better, i've been on this rollercoaster for about a year now. What i've learned with Cancer men is, either you gotta deal, or shut up and get the hell out haha! My guy once didn't talk to me for 10 days, what for I still don't know.click to expand
Posted by Finbuff
@Jkats - Cancers have a hard time committing, particularly before 35-40. I would just go along with things as they are and be patient. Him saying he loves you is a big thing for sure, so focus on the postives associated with that statement. It all starts there, so that's a great foundation to build upon. Typically we don't do anything until the time is financially, physically and emotionally "right".
Posted by JkatsPosted by narayana
Sounds just like a passing attraction for him and you had way too much expectations. I'm not saying he's not into you anymore, but it might be just sexual and you probably scared him away with the intensity.
Idk if it's just me or I see many people expecting a Cancer to certainly fall for them once something intimate has been going on, just because Cancers are known to be emotional. Yes, we are, but we can easily toss aside our moments' desires and move on without catching feelings. We do not necessarily fall in love with everyone we fvck, the chances are even slimmer if the other turns out to be too demanding.
Just give him some time and don't be pushy or he'll just disappear without a trace.
And please kill all your expectations...
Cause nothing in life is promised except death. /Yeezy/
Well my situation is confusing, because my Cancer guy was the first to say I love you, I know that he's in love with me, says that he wants to marry me and for him to have his baby in the future, yet he won't commit to me. Wtf is all that about?!click to expand
Posted by JkatsPosted by rakacPosted by JkatsPosted by narayana
Sounds just like a passing attraction for him and you had way too much expectations. I'm not saying he's not into you anymore, but it might be just sexual and you probably scared him away with the intensity.
Idk if it's just me or I see many people expecting a Cancer to certainly fall for them once something intimate has been going on, just because Cancers are known to be emotional. Yes, we are, but we can easily toss aside our moments' desires and move on without catching feelings. We do not necessarily fall in love with everyone we fvck, the chances are even slimmer if the other turns out to be too demanding.
Just give him some time and don't be pushy or he'll just disappear without a trace.
And please kill all your expectations...
Cause nothing in life is promised except death. /Yeezy/
Well my situation is confusing, because my Cancer guy was the first to say I love you, I know that he's in love with me, says that he wants to marry me and for him to have his baby in the future, yet he won't commit to me. Wtf is all that about?!
what do y mean he won't commit,what behavior of his shows this ?
We rarely see each other, maybe 2-3 times a month, and only for sex. Yet we talk about baby and marriage quite often. I had a pregnancy scare back in December, and he was so happy. He has expressed to me that we're not official, and that he knows how we view our "relationship" is not in sync, so I guess I am the stupid one to expect more than he is willing to give at the moment.click to expand
Posted by Finbuff
@malloryor...we shouldn't hijack Leonessa's thread but I have to disagree to some degree. Unless this guy of Jkats is a real disingenuous loser, I don't believe he'd say 'I love you' if he didn't mean it. I have not, and never would say that to some woman just to have sex with her. That's a line, as a Cancer, I don't cross. Even if I'm asked, I'd avoid the subject before I'd say it, and I've been in that situation many times. Although I guess just being a Cancer doesn't mean it guarantee's integrity and honesty on his part, so she should be aware of possibly being deceived.
Posted by SensitiveBlues
I need to treetruk a crab cause if it leads to this kind of insanity it's worth it!
This board is ridiculous
Crab men got the voodoo dick
Or something but I want a taste