I don't even know why I bother anymore

Posted by Cancer2448
@heart. Trust me when I say I'm not rich. I work at golf course and barely make enough to live on. I really hope the money I make wasn't a factor for her deciding if we should continue. I have a huge heart! I "raised" $ 1000 and more worth of stuff for this libra girl's sister when her house got burned down....and now we are no longer friends. She ignores me. That's what I got in return! So please don't question about my heart. I'm starting to understand why nice guys finish last!

Posted by Greentea
Leave her to some ass hole who will just dick her and leave her, then she'll find your value. Hopefully by then, youve found someone who is way better looking.

Posted by Cancer2448
@heart. Trust me when I say I'm not rich. I work at golf course and barely make enough to live on. I really hope the money I make wasn't a factor for her deciding if we should continue. I have a huge heart! I "raised" $ 1000 and more worth of stuff for this libra girl's sister when her house got burned down....and now we are no longer friends. She ignores me. That's what I got in return! So please don't question about my heart. I'm starting to understand why nice guys finish last!

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Posted by Cancer2448
@heart. Trust me when I say I'm not rich. I work at golf course and barely make enough to live on. I really hope the money I make wasn't a factor for her deciding if we should continue. I have a huge heart! I "raised" $ 1000 and more worth of stuff for this libra girl's sister when her house got burned down....and now we are no longer friends. She ignores me. That's what I got in return! So please don't question about my heart. I'm starting to understand why nice guys finish last!

You need to be calm. Move on and meet other women, there are lots of them out there and they will all fuck with you the same way. The moment you show interest, they're no longer interested. Most women just want attention and their need is satisfied once you give it to them. Unfortunate but true.

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Once I again I went on a first date, this time with a cancer girl. Took her to a fancy restaurant, than a Dave and buster's for games and stuff. I thought things went well. She brought up making bets when we played games, if I won she would give me a kiss at the end of the night. If she won, I would do a cartwheel in the parking lot. Both of us won, so that was settled. Then came thanksgiving break. So we travelled to see each other families, but she texted a lot over the break, even snapchat. When we both got back I started asking her out for a second date....first try, nope " i can't I work that day." Ok what's your next week schedule like? " I'm off Tuesday but have projects to do." Ok no big deal. That was Sunday. Well I got my schedule today and wanted to ask if she was off Friday. I first asked how her day went....never got a response for 4 hours. I go on her Facebook and she's commenting back and forth with this guy. I sent a funny snap to her earlier today. She viewed it but didn't send anything back. I don't understand, things I thought were going well enough for a 2nd date to happen in the future. And now I'm being ignored by her! What the heck!

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Posted by incandescentcancer
Just women being idiots, move on and date someone else. It just usually means they aren't looking for a relationship and you're relationship material. I have been through this Manu times.

Posted by incandescentcancer
Move on and meet other women, there are lots of them out there and they will all fuck with you the same way. The moment you show interest, they're no longer interested. Most women just want attention and their need is satisfied once you give it to them. Unfortunate but true.

Contrary to what most female dxp members may say, this is the sad reality IRL.

Posted by Heart
If it were me, in the early part of dating it would be just a coffee, walks, and long conversations over wine. Wait before spending money on her, as much as you would love to show off.

NEVER take a date to a restaurant until you have at least 2-3 dates with her under your belt. The number of stories I've heard of women just going through the motions, for either a free meal or night out, with no intention of seeing the man ever again, is shocking. Those first few dates should be about getting to know each other - not about impressing her with your money.

Posted by Greentea
Leave her to some ass hole who will just dick her and leave her, then she'll find your value. Hopefully by then, youve found someone who is way better looking.

Unfortunately, it's another sad reality that, I'm sure, the majority of female dxpers have been through themselves but are reluctant to admit it.

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Posted by truecap
It's not inappropriate with her to be responding to the other dude on Facebook, by the way. It was only one date afterall and at this point you should both be keeping your options open.

Just wanted to point that out.

Posted by notafollower
Cancer woman here -
I am sorry you are going through this, she is honestly scared to settle. Let me explain to you why. We have this idea of the person were supossed to be with & when a guy who makes us happy comes along, although we might think theyre great etc , deep down were always thinking you lack something. Tbh, if you care about her you have to be very persistant speaking from my own experience. Im the type of girl who easily gets lads interested & ive never had a problem w that, yet ive only been in a relationship w one guy. What was diff in him? Persistance . & the reason why im not w him anymore is because he was very manipulative. So combine persistance w pure intentions/honesty & youll see the outcome.
Then again, you could go find another girl and i wouldnt blame you because its hard to win a cancers heart. But the outcome will deff be worth it. Once youve managed to do it , well be loyal , caring, fun & we will love you unconditionally. No joke - prob the reason why my ex still messages me almost every week after ages. Cause He knows he wont find better. Good luck!

Posted by BlackMamba
Does anybody else hate the OP???

Damn this vagina!

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Does anybody else hate the OP???

Damn this vagina!

Only u and it seems like you want a response from him

I don't! I just can't handle his weakness!

sheez dude needs to get some cajones!

I wanna know what you call strong or your idea of masculinity is

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Does anybody else hate the OP???

Damn this vagina!

Only u and it seems like you want a response from him

I don't! I just can't handle his weakness!

sheez dude needs to get some cajones!

I wanna know what you call strong or your idea of masculinity is

My idea of Masculinity is never treat a woman like a princess. Ever!

I'm African we're second class citizens. Shrugs

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Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMember
Crab goes with Fish, you whackos.

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Does anybody else hate the OP???

Damn this vagina!

Only u and it seems like you want a response from him

I don't! I just can't handle his weakness!

sheez dude needs to get some cajones!

I wanna know what you call strong or your idea of masculinity is

My idea of Masculinity is never treat a woman like a princess. Ever!

I'm African we're second class citizens. Shrugs

This is an unnecessary thought process. Granted he is going overboard with his rush to the rescue approach but there's no harm in treating a woman decently. If she doesn't reciprocate, eventually you move on.

Did I say treat her indecently?

Men like this kid end up being jaded! He needs to know who to give his kindness towards. He thinks every chick deserves it!

Cut your losses man! You try and you move on! It's not neuroscience

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Posted by Cancer2448
She honestly cancelled the original first date scheduled. I left her alone for a couple days, and starting texting again. She said she cancelled because she needed to come out of her shell. She was afraid of getting hurt! Huh I guess after going on a date and getting her back on her feet. She thinks she's too good for me now! Unbelievable

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Posted by LillyPetal
My co-worker, who just recently got out of a relationship, was dating a guy who showered her with gifts, spending $ 50 on a necklaced once and they barely knew each other a month. He took her to the beach, the Renaissance Fair, and he paid for everything. She texted me telling me she felt bad that he keeps spending all that money on her. I told her that she was so used to paying for everything for her other boyfriend (who used to blatantly ask to borrow money from her and ask her to drive her places) and that maybe she should just enjoy it because she deserves kind treatment. I told her that, if she still feels uncomfortable, she can gently suggest that he let her pay once in a while. Anyway, she's moving out of state now, and he got upset because he thinks she is going to find another guy. She didn't feel like dealing with him so she dumped him. Now, he's invested all of that in her, and for what?

I don't feel comfortable taking things from people, but that was how I was raised. But I am aware that it IS a level of investment, and I don't want guys making an investment thinking it will lead to something more. Pisces guy dated a girl for TWO WEEKS and was already making her bed in breakfast until one day he walked in on her and her ex doing it in her bed! Just...no. Men. Embrace the friend-zone. Let the woman stand on her own so you can see her as an individual. When you pour so much into us, it goes to our heads. It honestly does.

What's his number?

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My co-worker, who just recently got out of a relationship, was dating a guy who showered her with gifts, spending $ 50 on a necklaced once and they barely knew each other a month. He took her to the beach, the Renaissance Fair, and he paid for everything. She texted me telling me she felt bad that he keeps spending all that money on her. I told her that she was so used to paying for everything for her other boyfriend (who used to blatantly ask to borrow money from her and ask her to drive her places) and that maybe she should just enjoy it because she deserves kind treatment. I told her that, if she still feels uncomfortable, she can gently suggest that he let her pay once in a while. Anyway, she's moving out of state now, and he got upset because he thinks she is going to find another guy. She didn't feel like dealing with him so she dumped him. Now, he's invested all of that in her, and for what?

I don't feel comfortable taking things from people, but that was how I was raised. But I am aware that it IS a level of investment, and I don't want guys making an investment thinking it will lead to something more. Pisces guy dated a girl for TWO WEEKS and was already making her bed in breakfast until one day he walked in on her and her ex doing it in her bed! Just...no. Men. Embrace the friend-zone. Let the woman stand on her own so you can see her as an individual. When you pour so much into us, it goes to our heads. It honestly does.

What's his number?

Which one? Her ex that made her drive her everywhere?

oh no the good one ....the generous one

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Posted by Cancer2448
Once I again I went on a first date, this time with a cancer girl. Took her to a fancy restaurant, than a Dave and buster's for games and stuff. I thought things went well. She brought up making bets when we played games, if I won she would give me a kiss at the end of the night. If she won, I would do a cartwheel in the parking lot. Both of us won, so that was settled. Then came thanksgiving break. So we travelled to see each other families, but she texted a lot over the break, even snapchat. When we both got back I started asking her out for a second date....first try, nope " i can't I work that day." Ok what's your next week schedule like? " I'm off Tuesday but have projects to do." Ok no big deal. That was Sunday. Well I got my schedule today and wanted to ask if she was off Friday. I first asked how her day went....never got a response for 4 hours. I go on her Facebook and she's commenting back and forth with this guy. I sent a funny snap to her earlier today. She viewed it but didn't send anything back. I don't understand, things I thought were going well enough for a 2nd date to happen in the future. And now I'm being ignored by her! What the heck!

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by Cancer2448
Once I again I went on a first date, this time with a cancer girl. Took her to a fancy restaurant, than a Dave and buster's for games and stuff. I thought things went well. She brought up making bets when we played games, if I won she would give me a kiss at the end of the night. If she won, I would do a cartwheel in the parking lot. Both of us won, so that was settled. Then came thanksgiving break. So we travelled to see each other families, but she texted a lot over the break, even snapchat. When we both got back I started asking her out for a second date....first try, nope " i can't I work that day." Ok what's your next week schedule like? " I'm off Tuesday but have projects to do." Ok no big deal. That was Sunday. Well I got my schedule today and wanted to ask if she was off Friday. I first asked how her day went....never got a response for 4 hours. I go on her Facebook and she's commenting back and forth with this guy. I sent a funny snap to her earlier today. She viewed it but didn't send anything back. I don't understand, things I thought were going well enough for a 2nd date to happen in the future. And now I'm being ignored by her! What the heck!

Hey guy, the following can apply with a woman of any zodiac sign:

Don't invest so much right off the line.
You don't know what's going on in her head/going on in her life. Chances are she doesn't have her shit together, or just wasn't into you--not problem with you, and you're probably better off (as in you could be wasting your time and stressing yourself overthinking about a female who fits either of the two cases I mentioned).
Chalk it up to having a nice time with a member of the opposite sex and move on.

And once again, don't invest too much in any woman so early on.

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Posted by Cancer2448
Once I again I went on a first date, this time with a cancer girl. Took her to a fancy restaurant, than a Dave and buster's for games and stuff. I thought things went well. She brought up making bets when we played games, if I won she would give me a kiss at the end of the night. If she won, I would do a cartwheel in the parking lot. Both of us won, so that was settled. Then came thanksgiving break. So we travelled to see each other families, but she texted a lot over the break, even snapchat. When we both got back I started asking her out for a second date....first try, nope " i can't I work that day." Ok what's your next week schedule like? " I'm off Tuesday but have projects to do." Ok no big deal. That was Sunday. Well I got my schedule today and wanted to ask if she was off Friday. I first asked how her day went....never got a response for 4 hours. I go on her Facebook and she's commenting back and forth with this guy. I sent a funny snap to her earlier today. She viewed it but didn't send anything back. I don't understand, things I thought were going well enough for a 2nd date to happen in the future. And now I'm being ignored by her! What the heck!

Hey guy, the following can apply with a woman of any zodiac sign:

Don't invest so much right off the line.
You don't know what's going on in her head/going on in her life. Chances are she doesn't have her shit together, or just wasn't into you--not problem with you, and you're probably better off (as in you could be wasting your time and stressing yourself overthinking about a female who fits either of the two cases I mentioned).
Chalk it up to having a nice time with a member of the opposite sex and move on.

And once again, don't invest too much in any woman so early on.

This is exactly why I think being a douchebag pays. In today's world, being nice to a woman I think is no longer a requirement.

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Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
One doesn't have to be a douchebag IMHO. One can be a gentleman who doesn't suffer fools gladly.

Posted by Cancer2448
Once I again I went on a first date, this time with a cancer girl. Took her to a fancy restaurant, than a Dave and buster's for games and stuff. I thought things went well. She brought up making bets when we played games, if I won she would give me a kiss at the end of the night. If she won, I would do a cartwheel in the parking lot. Both of us won, so that was settled. Then came thanksgiving break. So we travelled to see each other families, but she texted a lot over the break, even snapchat. When we both got back I started asking her out for a second date....first try, nope " i can't I work that day." Ok what's your next week schedule like? " I'm off Tuesday but have projects to do." Ok no big deal. That was Sunday. Well I got my schedule today and wanted to ask if she was off Friday. I first asked how her day went....never got a response for 4 hours. I go on her Facebook and she's commenting back and forth with this guy. I sent a funny snap to her earlier today. She viewed it but didn't send anything back. I don't understand, things I thought were going well enough for a 2nd date to happen in the future. And now I'm being ignored by her! What the heck!

Posted by LuckyLibra979You have to be a selective gentleman tho. U can't treat every woman the same some women don't like romance. Some do, some are bitches and will ignore u even on the date. Its a variety out there but the last thing u wanna do is come off soft

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Posted by aquarius09
OP, the girl is not interested in you. Her reason for going on a date can vary from giving you a chance to see what's out there to simply enjoying your company minus romantic interest.

YOU chose to spend so much money and do all the great things you did. She never told you to do that for her. Somehow you have this expectation/sense of entitlement that she should now reciprocate your feelings. That seems to be cancer male dilemma. I personally find cancer men in my life to be the type to buy someone's affection. I had a cancer guy friend who had a crush on me and after all his persistence I decided to give him a chance and went out with him. I only did it to get him off my back. He did go all out and I felt overwhelmed. After that date I told him that I don't think this is gonna work out and in his emotional outburst he said most of the things you're saying in your OP. Boy, oh, boy, did he go all crazy. He said, "WTF is your problem?! What kinda guy do you want anyways? The one that treats you like shit! I got your flowers and put candles all around! It took time to put candles all around. Who's fucking gonna do that for you? No one's gonna love you like I do" blah blah blah and once he was done I told him "Wow! You were trying to buy my affection...." Anyways after his outburst where his ulterior motive was showing, I didn't feel so bad.

im like this, it's not trying to buy someone's affections, its because we care so much we are very giving, especially if you have leo placements

i love to show love through taking care of my mate

problem is i also need reciprocation so when im not even getting a third of the effort im putting in

well it becomes a problem

so really we need to find people like us

people who love to shower their mates with attention and love

not cardboards or robots or users

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Posted by aquarius09
OP, the girl is not interested in you. Her reason for going on a date can vary from giving you a chance to see what's out there to simply enjoying your company minus romantic interest.

YOU chose to spend so much money and do all the great things you did. She never told you to do that for her. Somehow you have this expectation/sense of entitlement that she should now reciprocate your feelings. That seems to be cancer male dilemma. I personally find cancer men in my life to be the type to buy someone's affection. I had a cancer guy friend who had a crush on me and after all his persistence I decided to give him a chance and went out with him. I only did it to get him off my back. He did go all out and I felt overwhelmed. After that date I told him that I don't think this is gonna work out and in his emotional outburst he said most of the things you're saying in your OP. Boy, oh, boy, did he go all crazy. He said, "WTF is your problem?! What kinda guy do you want anyways? The one that treats you like shit! I got your flowers and put candles all around! It took time to put candles all around. Who's fucking gonna do that for you? No one's gonna love you like I do" blah blah blah and once he was done I told him "Wow! You were trying to buy my affection...." Anyways after his outburst where his ulterior motive was showing, I didn't feel so bad.

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Posted by aquarius09
OP, the girl is not interested in you. Her reason for going on a date can vary from giving you a chance to see what's out there to simply enjoying your company minus romantic interest.

YOU chose to spend so much money and do all the great things you did. She never told you to do that for her. Somehow you have this expectation/sense of entitlement that she should now reciprocate your feelings. That seems to be cancer male dilemma. I personally find cancer men in my life to be the type to buy someone's affection. I had a cancer guy friend who had a crush on me and after all his persistence I decided to give him a chance and went out with him. I only did it to get him off my back. He did go all out and I felt overwhelmed. After that date I told him that I don't think this is gonna work out and in his emotional outburst he said most of the things you're saying in your OP. Boy, oh, boy, did he go all crazy. He said, "WTF is your problem?! What kinda guy do you want anyways? The one that treats you like shit! I got your flowers and put candles all around! It took time to put candles all around. Who's fucking gonna do that for you? No one's gonna love you like I do" blah blah blah and once he was done I told him "Wow! You were trying to buy my affection...." Anyways after his outburst where his ulterior motive was showing, I didn't feel so bad.

im like this, it's not trying to buy someone's affections, its because we care so much we are very giving, especially if you have leo placements

i love to show love through taking care of my mate

problem is i also need reciprocation so when im not even getting a third of the effort im putting in

well it becomes a problem

so really we need to find people like us

people who love to shower their mates with attention and love

not cardboards or robots or users

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Posted by aquarius09
My aunt has Leo placements and she showers me with affection and gifts and because I love her right back, I shower her with gifts and affection right back, but if I didn't like my aunt, I wouldn't reciprocate her sentiments but that doesn't make me a robot or a user.

actually it does if you stick around receiving such gifts knowing that you don't like your aunt.

that's a user.

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Posted by aquarius09
OP, the girl is not interested in you. Her reason for going on a date can vary from giving you a chance to see what's out there to simply enjoying your company minus romantic interest.

YOU chose to spend so much money and do all the great things you did. She never told you to do that for her. Somehow you have this expectation/sense of entitlement that she should now reciprocate your feelings. That seems to be cancer male dilemma. I personally find cancer men in my life to be the type to buy someone's affection. I had a cancer guy friend who had a crush on me and after all his persistence I decided to give him a chance and went out with him. I only did it to get him off my back. He did go all out and I felt overwhelmed. After that date I told him that I don't think this is gonna work out and in his emotional outburst he said most of the things you're saying in your OP. Boy, oh, boy, did he go all crazy. He said, "WTF is your problem?! What kinda guy do you want anyways? The one that treats you like shit! I got your flowers and put candles all around! It took time to put candles all around. Who's fucking gonna do that for you? No one's gonna love you like I do" blah blah blah and once he was done I told him "Wow! You were trying to buy my affection...." Anyways after his outburst where his ulterior motive was showing, I didn't feel so bad.

HOW in the world did you planned on getting him OFF your back by going out with you
knowing that he WANT you?

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Posted by aquarius09
OP, the girl is not interested in you. Her reason for going on a date can vary from giving you a chance to see what's out there to simply enjoying your company minus romantic interest.

YOU chose to spend so much money and do all the great things you did. She never told you to do that for her. Somehow you have this expectation/sense of entitlement that she should now reciprocate your feelings. That seems to be cancer male dilemma. I personally find cancer men in my life to be the type to buy someone's affection. I had a cancer guy friend who had a crush on me and after all his persistence I decided to give him a chance and went out with him. I only did it to get him off my back. He did go all out and I felt overwhelmed. After that date I told him that I don't think this is gonna work out and in his emotional outburst he said most of the things you're saying in your OP. Boy, oh, boy, did he go all crazy. He said, "WTF is your problem?! What kinda guy do you want anyways? The one that treats you like shit! I got your flowers and put candles all around! It took time to put candles all around. Who's fucking gonna do that for you? No one's gonna love you like I do" blah blah blah and once he was done I told him "Wow! You were trying to buy my affection...." Anyways after his outburst where his ulterior motive was showing, I didn't feel so bad.

im like this, it's not trying to buy someone's affections, its because we care so much we are very giving, especially if you have leo placements

i love to show love through taking care of my mate

problem is i also need reciprocation so when im not even getting a third of the effort im putting in

well it becomes a problem

so really we need to find people like us

people who love to shower their mates with attention and love

not cardboards or robots or users

If you wanna be like that, that's fine and dandy but don't think that the person you spent money on should love you back or date you. It's not that you have to find people like you, you have to find people who like you back in order to reciprocate your generous actions.

im also talking about after establishing a relationship, not prior.

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Posted by aquarius09
OP, the girl is not interested in you. Her reason for going on a date can vary from giving you a chance to see what's out there to simply enjoying your company minus romantic interest.

YOU chose to spend so much money and do all the great things you did. She never told you to do that for her. Somehow you have this expectation/sense of entitlement that she should now reciprocate your feelings. That seems to be cancer male dilemma. I personally find cancer men in my life to be the type to buy someone's affection. I had a cancer guy friend who had a crush on me and after all his persistence I decided to give him a chance and went out with him. I only did it to get him off my back. He did go all out and I felt overwhelmed. After that date I told him that I don't think this is gonna work out and in his emotional outburst he said most of the things you're saying in your OP. Boy, oh, boy, did he go all crazy. He said, "WTF is your problem?! What kinda guy do you want anyways? The one that treats you like shit! I got your flowers and put candles all around! It took time to put candles all around. Who's fucking gonna do that for you? No one's gonna love you like I do" blah blah blah and once he was done I told him "Wow! You were trying to buy my affection...." Anyways after his outburst where his ulterior motive was showing, I didn't feel so bad.

HOW in the world did you planned on getting him OFF your back by going out with you
knowing that he WANT you?

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Posted by BlackMamba
i dont' shower him with gifts, but i am thoughtful of him, for instance i saw a throw that he really loves of mine for $ 10 at Fred Meyer. So i bought it, but i wont' give it to him.

that's just how my mind works, not like i need to give him a gift, but i think of him as a person, meeting his needs, like he needs gloves, and a hat, if i see a good price ill think about buying them, but i wont.

my problem stems from the fact that i took care of my siblings for the last 15 years in terms of "fun' activities, things, movies, coffees, etc etc...so it's become a habit to think about people in my life.

it has nothing to do with the Virgo...but i hate that the virgo makes me feel like i have to not be myself...i have to protect myself...

i want to be able to cook a lasagna just cause i want to please my dude without thinking how is he going to fuk this up.

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Posted by aquarius09
Yoru want him to reciprocate which he isn't. There's an ulterior motive. Him reaping the benefits you give him make him a user? How does that work?

i don't have ulterior motives, that's just how i roll, you can say we're incompatible. I'm a giver, he's a miser.

I've already explained to him what my motives are. Marriage and Kids. I'm highly attracted to him. I think he'd be a great dad, because he's smart, he can teach my kids math and science. To me that's important.

other than that what other motives do i have.

i just want to love and be loved.

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Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
One doesn't have to be a douchebag IMHO. One can be a gentleman who doesn't suffer fools gladly.

Tell me what's the incentive to be a gentleman? So that I can have the pleasure of taking care of a bastard she had with some douchebag before she met me?

O that's your take on fatherhood? Taking care of another persons bastard huh?

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Posted by aquarius09
OP, the girl is not interested in you. Her reason for going on a date can vary from giving you a chance to see what's out there to simply enjoying your company minus romantic interest.

YOU chose to spend so much money and do all the great things you did. She never told you to do that for her. Somehow you have this expectation/sense of entitlement that she should now reciprocate your feelings. That seems to be cancer male dilemma. I personally find cancer men in my life to be the type to buy someone's affection. I had a cancer guy friend who had a crush on me and after all his persistence I decided to give him a chance and went out with him. I only did it to get him off my back. He did go all out and I felt overwhelmed. After that date I told him that I don't think this is gonna work out and in his emotional outburst he said most of the things you're saying in your OP. Boy, oh, boy, did he go all crazy. He said, "WTF is your problem?! What kinda guy do you want anyways? The one that treats you like shit! I got your flowers and put candles all around! It took time to put candles all around. Who's fucking gonna do that for you? No one's gonna love you like I do" blah blah blah and once he was done I told him "Wow! You were trying to buy my affection...." Anyways after his outburst where his ulterior motive was showing, I didn't feel so bad.

Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by aquarius09
OP, the girl is not interested in you. Her reason for going on a date can vary from giving you a chance to see what's out there to simply enjoying your company minus romantic interest.

YOU chose to spend so much money and do all the great things you did. She never told you to do that for her. Somehow you have this expectation/sense of entitlement that she should now reciprocate your feelings. That seems to be cancer male dilemma. I personally find cancer men in my life to be the type to buy someone's affection. I had a cancer guy friend who had a crush on me and after all his persistence I decided to give him a chance and went out with him. I only did it to get him off my back. He did go all out and I felt overwhelmed. After that date I told him that I don't think this is gonna work out and in his emotional outburst he said most of the things you're saying in your OP. Boy, oh, boy, did he go all crazy. He said, "WTF is your problem?! What kinda guy do you want anyways? The one that treats you like shit! I got your flowers and put candles all around! It took time to put candles all around. Who's fucking gonna do that for you? No one's gonna love you like I do" blah blah blah and once he was done I told him "Wow! You were trying to buy my affection...." Anyways after his outburst where his ulterior motive was showing, I didn't feel so bad.

All this sounds great and I agree with most of what you said. But, women today for the most parts are spoilt and entitled. The disrespect men put up with is extraordinary, personally I maintain distance from most women both due to lack of trust and active dislike. I may reach a point where I use women purely for sex and keep them out of every other aspect of my life. Frankly, each day I hear women and their shallow nonsense that add sounds more attractive.

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