Please help!! Cancer man turning cold and distant
I have started to date this cancer man a month ago and he was so enthusiastic and affectionate. He met me almost on a daily basis (cancer likes to cling) and he even already brought me to meet his friends and family just during the first few dates. Howeve...
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by ariesgirl88 on Thursday, September 7, 2017 and has 91 replies.
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Posted by CanerJasonYes I know what you mean but I can't help it when i fall for one
You're still a fire sign though, dear. Fire will never understand water - the combination is always steam (anger, frustration, ect). You're a fire sign - looking for that next advancement is your thing. Cancer is a water sign, deep water, like the ocean. We like to be still and just flow - until we get riled, then you will see a sea storm like no other. The differences may just be too much for you two to ever understand one another.Posted by ariesgirl88Posted by CanerJasonI am a sun in Aries. Moon in Leo. Venus in Taurus. Mars in capricorn. Mercury in Pisces and ascendant in cancer. I don't think I am a typical Aries, definitely not as domineering and risk taking. I am homely too. Value stability and I also need to feel love.
Your'e an Aries? How would fire, impatient and moody be possibly able to take the time to understand a deep water sign like Cancer? Cancer men are emotionally deep, need to feel loved, want to be at home. How did you even meet a Cancer man? Was the ocean on fire?
It's been 2 months dating my cancer man. But I feel that I am losing it.I dont know how else to advance anymore. I am trying my best to get to know him but I don't know how. Every time when I intiate and be nice, he becomes cold which makes me feel sad and I feel that perhaps I shouldnt have done that. My ego feels bruised (maybe my moon Leo is affecting). Sigh.
Yet. My conflict avoidance nature is preventing me from trashing things with him. I just don't know how to start the topic. It's like. I feel I don't have a right to. I don't know if I am being too clingy or paranoid or am I expectating too much.
And our conversation always goes back and forth between who should message more. He said he is busy and so he didnt text and claimed I can. I don't know. Most of my friends who have seen our texts are abled to tell that I am showing more care and enthusiasm while texting. But I just can't do this alone. It has to be reciprocated.
With that said it's so sad to say that currently at this stage, I know I feel more deeply for him. I want him to want me, but I have no idea how esle I can do that. I don't want him to think that I am.desperate and definitely doesn't want him to take me for granted. So I can only act like I am totally cool with him not texting.click to expand
that's why I am trying to bridge the gap, understand him and work things out. Posted by pinkbird03I am not sure too. But I know I was pretty quiet and reserved. Met the sister and bffs a few times thereafter too and they seem okay with me. So I really dont know.
It seems like things went downhill right after you met his family and friends. My guess is that they don’t like u too much and that impacted his feelings somewhat. Not entirely though because he keeps talking to u.
Posted by bittercupcakeHi thanks for your feedback. But when you say I gave up the goods too soon, are you referring to I show my interest for him too soon? Sigh. But to me I was merely reciprocating to his advances and I am not someone that's into playing games too. I did what I feel like at that moment which is to let him know that I am interested in him too.Posted by ariesgirl88Wow you have nearly identical placements to my ex Aries. But he had Libra moon and I don’t know if his Asc is Taurus, Cancer, or Leo.
I am a sun in Aries. Moon in Leo. Venus in Taurus. Mars in capricorn. Mercury in Pisces and ascendant in cancer.
You got too attached to this guy though. It’s not just about chasing, because men can reciprocate the chase and still be interested. But you gave up the goods too soon...and is probably seeking out someone else whose a bit more of a challenge.click to expand
But I guess that's something i have to learn. Sigh.
Posted by nikkistarPosted by ariesgirl88Ok, one, don't say this is the first guy you have dated, and then list out 2 other boyfriends -_-Posted by nikkistarPosted by onedayDo you even know who the fuck I am? Not being an asshole, is not in my vocabulary.Posted by nikkistarDon't be such an asshole, she's trying to figure this out and she clearly cares for the guy.
The very first post from a month ago, made me die laughing, and then the subsequent posts after as well. You literally post and then quote things about Cancer men as if you know them, and you really don't. lol
Let me be more blunt here, cause I can laugh even more. You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does. Every assumption she has stated about men, and Cancer traits sounds immature and juvenile. It's this goofy ass shit, that girls don't understand, and I'm not gonna sit here and say "aww poor girl".
Thank you so much for your feedback, I really appteciate it. You seem to really understand cancer man. I am sorry if I have come across as assuming, and whatever assumptions I have made about cancer men and all which were untrue were actually bits and pieces of informations which I have read and picked up from all over the internet.
Please believe me that I am really trying to know more about my cancer man and that's the sole reason why I am seeking help from this forum.
I understand what you mean by "You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does" I guess I just couldn't help it but to feel disappointed when I was feeling ill and vulnerabe last week.
I am really new to this dating thing. This is actually the 1st guy I have dated other than my 2 ex bfs (both of them were pretty straightforward) That's why I am not responding well to this whole ambiguity. I am having this dilemna in wanting to move things forward and yet I am afraid of getting myself hurt therfore I may seem to be really calculative over who do what, who initiate what and etc.
Thank you once again! Any insights are rrally appreciated
You really, really, need to learn patience with any Cancer man. It is who they are.
For the communication aspect, and I have stated this multiple times across the board, and most of the Cancer men agree with this. If they are busy, their level of communication dies significantly. The phone just isn't their priority in life. So don't ever expect for them to be in constantly communication all the time. You will see them text everyday, call you everyday, and then for 2-3 days in a row, they answer a text once, and no calls. That doesn't mean you are forgotten, it just means they are exactly as they say, busy.
They don't play games, and they don't like people playing games. And don't push them and nag them to be or do things that aren't them. Go with the flow, is the best way I can describe it. What will happen, will happen on its own accord without pressure.click to expand
Hi. By saying this is the first guy I have dated I actually meant dated and got intimate with but not being in a official relationship. Not sure if it makes sense to you.
Thank you so much for sharing. I am really not into playing games too. But I was at a lost of what to do because I didn't want to act wrongly and scare him off or ruin things. But I have asked him if we are dating exclusively 2 days ago when he texted me after not contacting for 9 days.
I know there are mainly 2 different school of thoughts here:
1. Giving cancer the space they need, don't rush and all.
2. Treat ourselves as prize and don't wait around for man.
And sometimes i get confused about what to do too. How to achieve a balance between the 2.
And deep down in my heart i need to know if I am the only one he is seeing/intimate with at the moment. And I don't think that's too much to ask for.
He hasn't reply and that's okay. I.will give him the time/ space he needs to and for now since I have already asked, I can only let go and let god. I will stay positive and have faith.
Thank you everyone once again. Have a good day.
Posted by ariesgirl88Posted by pinkbird03I am not sure too. But I know I was pretty quiet and reserved. Met the sister and bffs a few times thereafter too and they seem okay with me. So I really dont know.
It seems like things went downhill right after you met his family and friends. My guess is that they don’t like u too much and that impacted his feelings somewhat. Not entirely though because he keeps talking to u.click to expand
Was there any other major events that occurred right before he stopped talking to you as much?
Posted by sakuraflowersYes my dear. And having a mercury in Pisces is making it even harder for me to communicate my needs. I have difficulty expressing my unhappiness also.Posted by ariesgirl88That, I think, ultimately is the problem with this Sun/Moon/Rising combo. I'm also an Aries Sun with Leo Moon and Cancer Rising. You have certain expectations and/or desire for progress or results, but at the same time, you don't want to come across as pushy or demanding.Posted by nikkistarPosted by onedayDo you even know who the fuck I am? Not being an asshole, is not in my vocabulary.Posted by nikkistarDon't be such an asshole, she's trying to figure this out and she clearly cares for the guy.
The very first post from a month ago, made me die laughing, and then the subsequent posts after as well. You literally post and then quote things about Cancer men as if you know them, and you really don't. lol
Let me be more blunt here, cause I can laugh even more. You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does. Every assumption she has stated about men, and Cancer traits sounds immature and juvenile. It's this goofy ass shit, that girls don't understand, and I'm not gonna sit here and say "aww poor girl".
Thank you so much for your feedback, I really appteciate it. You seem to really understand cancer man. I am sorry if I have come across as assuming, and whatever assumptions I have made about cancer men and all which were untrue were actually bits and pieces of informations which I have read and picked up from all over the internet.
Please believe me that I am really trying to know more about my cancer man and that's the sole reason why I am seeking help from this forum.
I understand what you mean by "You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does" I guess I just couldn't help it but to feel disappointed when I was feeling ill and vulnerabe last week.
I am really new to this dating thing. This is actually the 1st guy I have dated other than my 2 ex bfs (both of them were pretty straightforward) That's why I am not responding well to this whole ambiguity. I am having this dilemna in wanting to move things forward and yet I am afraid of getting myself hurt therfore I may seem to be really calculative over who do what, who initiate what and etc.
Thank you once again! Any insights are rrally appreciated
Stop putting focus on that. Sometimes, it may be best to just take a leap of faith. The results may surprise you.
IMO
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I don't want to be demanding, pushy because i am not certain where i stand too. Sometimes I am direct and most of the times I face this internal struggle on how to articulate my thoughts and feelings. Not sure if it makes sense.
And yes I took that leap of faith when I asked him if we are dating exclusive. I may either 1. Scare him off . Or 2. Get a response I desire. Regardless of the outcome, I think I will have a better idea of how and where to move things.
Keep the faith and positivity for now!
Posted by pinkbird03Nothing happened. I guess he just got busy with work? And I am not sure if he got unhappy when I asked him if he was really that busy.Posted by ariesgirl88Posted by pinkbird03I am not sure too. But I know I was pretty quiet and reserved. Met the sister and bffs a few times thereafter too and they seem okay with me. So I really dont know.
It seems like things went downhill right after you met his family and friends. My guess is that they don’t like u too much and that impacted his feelings somewhat. Not entirely though because he keeps talking to u.
Was there any other major events that occurred right before he stopped talking to you as much?click to expand
Posted by ariesgirl88Haven't read everything but for a cancer to show his family is a pretty big thing. He might have thought that he went too quick too fast. He might be processing things in his mind. It can take time for a cancer to be fully open and emotionally available. Our emotions take time to ignite and there's not much you can do about it apart from being yourself. Give him time but don't let him drag you, if you feel you need an answer ask for it (gently). But I would suggest you don't rush, distract yourself with other things, make sure what you want is clear in your mind. And yes most cancers can be crap at communicating.Posted by pinkbird03I am not sure too. But I know I was pretty quiet and reserved. Met the sister and bffs a few times thereafter too and they seem okay with me. So I really dont know.
It seems like things went downhill right after you met his family and friends. My guess is that they don’t like u too much and that impacted his feelings somewhat. Not entirely though because he keeps talking to u.click to expand
I actually had a relationship with an aries for a couple of years. She always complained that I was too slow.. Typical thing would be a) she wants to talk about something going on with us b) I listen c) I respond a week after. It made her go through hell in the beginning but there was nothing I could. I had to let my feelings to settle so I could give her the right answer. With time she got my modus operandi and by the end she knew me better than myself.
Posted by sakuraflowersThat's if he even likes me enough to give me the answer I want to hear. As far as I know he is someone straight forward too.Posted by ariesgirl88
Yes my dear. And having a mercury in Pisces is making it even harder for me to communicate my needs. I have difficulty expressing my unhappiness also.
I don't want to be demanding, pushy because i am not certain where i stand too. Sometimes I am direct and most of the times I face this internal struggle on how to articulate my thoughts and feelings. Not sure if it makes sense.
And yes I took that leap of faith when I asked him if we are dating exclusive. I may either 1. Scare him off . Or 2. Get a response I desire. Regardless of the outcome, I think I will have a better idea of how and where to move things.
Keep the faith and positivity for now!
Yeah, I can relate to that also. I have Taurus Mercury and I fluctuate between direct and emphasis on wording, depending on the situation and the person.
He might give you the answer you want to hear, but not the answer you're looking for, because you might be forcing him to decide, before he is ready.click to expand
You know its like every time we meet up with or without his friends, things are good, then it will always end up with lotsa kissing cuddling and intimacy. But I am not one that take this lightly and casually and as mentioned I have only gotten initmate with my bfs so this whole thing actually feels foreign/wrong to me.
How I wish I can reverse the time and let things progress slower without the physical intimacy aspect cause no doubt I think things have gotten complicated because of that.
Posted by sakuraflowersNo. But we were only in couple mode and sleeping together at the weekends. And too busy during the week. So it wasn't something out of the ordinary to have the next convo a week after. It was hard for me to give a straight answer in matters that concern the heart. It's easier now, I grew up and it takes me less or no time to know what I want.Posted by carrazedaDid you tell her that you'd need to a week to get back to her?Posted by ariesgirl88Haven't read everything but for a cancer to show his family is a pretty big thing. He might have thought that he went too quick too fast. He might be processing things in his mind. It can take time for a cancer to be fully open and emotionally available. Our emotions take time to ignite and there's not much you can do about it apart from being yourself. Give him time but don't let him drag you, if you feel you need an answer ask for it (gently). But I would suggest you don't rush, distract yourself with other things, make sure what you want is clear in your mind. And yes most cancers can be crap at communicating.Posted by pinkbird03I am not sure too. But I know I was pretty quiet and reserved. Met the sister and bffs a few times thereafter too and they seem okay with me. So I really dont know.
It seems like things went downhill right after you met his family and friends. My guess is that they don’t like u too much and that impacted his feelings somewhat. Not entirely though because he keeps talking to u.
I actually had a relationship with an aries for a couple of years. She always complained that I was too slow.. Typical thing would be a) she wants to talk about something going on with us b) I listen c) I respond a week after. It made her go through hell in the beginning but there was nothing I could. I had to let my feelings to settle so I could give her the right answer. With time she got my modus operandi and by the end she knew me better than myself.
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Posted by ariesgirl88Posted by pinkbird03Nothing happened. I guess he just got busy with work? And I am not sure if he got unhappy when I asked him if he was really that busy.Posted by ariesgirl88Posted by pinkbird03I am not sure too. But I know I was pretty quiet and reserved. Met the sister and bffs a few times thereafter too and they seem okay with me. So I really dont know.
It seems like things went downhill right after you met his family and friends. My guess is that they don’t like u too much and that impacted his feelings somewhat. Not entirely though because he keeps talking to u.
Was there any other major events that occurred right before he stopped talking to you as much?click to expand
As a cancer myself, I’d actually find comfort in you asking because it shows you care about me.
Cancers are jealous creatures. Did anything slightly make him jealous maybe when u were out or even on social media?
Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86LOL, I just saw this.Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Says the woman that cant sustain any long term relationship cause of her goofiness.Posted by nikkistarLmaoooPosted by onedayDo you even know who the fuck I am? Not being an asshole, is not in my vocabulary.Posted by nikkistarDon't be such an asshole, she's trying to figure this out and she clearly cares for the guy.
The very first post from a month ago, made me die laughing, and then the subsequent posts after as well. You literally post and then quote things about Cancer men as if you know them, and you really don't. lol
Let me be more blunt here, cause I can laugh even more. You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does. Every assumption she has stated about men, and Cancer traits sounds immature and juvenile. It's this goofy ass shit, that girls don't understand, and I'm not gonna sit here and say "aww poor girl".
You’re a nobody!
Judging by the background of your pic and how Unkept your man looks, you’re part of a struggle love. Poverty. Worry about that bitch.
I can't even deal with the level of juvenile, immature shit that comes from you. Congrats, you just showed why you are single, for life.click to expand
Bitch you know nothing about me. And your weak ass thinks being with man means shit. Your a bum, your man is a bum and you NEED a man because your worthless. Work on changing your background because right now It’s dirty as fuck. Trash pot. Hype cuz you dating a fucking BUM...lmaoooo anybody can date a bum, holla at me when you pull a BOSS.
Posted by ShadowcatWhat’s up?Posted by bkbella86😒
You showed too much interest. Fall all the way back. Learn from this. Don’t initiate and don’t ask a man out l. You’re the prize, you have to act like it.click to expand
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeBecause Nikki bought her dirty struggle loving ass in here.
why is this 5 pages, she's an aries, this isn't going to work
NEXT
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeLmaooPosted by bkbella86but the shade made me chucklePosted by CaramelizedCoffeeBecause Nikki bought her dirty struggle loving ass in here.
why is this 5 pages, she's an aries, this isn't going to work
NEXTclick to expand
Posted by bkbella86ayyyyyyyyyy lmaoPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86LOL, I just saw this.Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Says the woman that cant sustain any long term relationship cause of her goofiness.Posted by nikkistarLmaoooPosted by onedayDo you even know who the fuck I am? Not being an asshole, is not in my vocabulary.Posted by nikkistarDon't be such an asshole, she's trying to figure this out and she clearly cares for the guy.
The very first post from a month ago, made me die laughing, and then the subsequent posts after as well. You literally post and then quote things about Cancer men as if you know them, and you really don't. lol
Let me be more blunt here, cause I can laugh even more. You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does. Every assumption she has stated about men, and Cancer traits sounds immature and juvenile. It's this goofy ass shit, that girls don't understand, and I'm not gonna sit here and say "aww poor girl".
You’re a nobody!
Judging by the background of your pic and how Unkept your man looks, you’re part of a struggle love. Poverty. Worry about that bitch.
I can't even deal with the level of juvenile, immature shit that comes from you. Congrats, you just showed why you are single, for life.
Bitch you know nothing about me. And your weak ass thinks being with man means shit. Your a bum, your man is a bum and you NEED a man because your worthless. Work on changing your background because right now It’s dirty as fuck. Trash pot. Hype cuz you dating a fucking BUM...lmaoooo anybody can date a bum, holla at me when you pull a BOSS.click to expand
My bum Finance Manager ass is gonna sit over here with her bum ass boyfriend, and laugh at you.
P.S. LOL @ you being materialistic. LOL @ you making assumptions LOL @ you being single for lyfe
Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86ayyyyyyyyyy lmaoPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86LOL, I just saw this.Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Says the woman that cant sustain any long term relationship cause of her goofiness.Posted by nikkistarLmaoooPosted by onedayDo you even know who the fuck I am? Not being an asshole, is not in my vocabulary.Posted by nikkistarDon't be such an asshole, she's trying to figure this out and she clearly cares for the guy.
The very first post from a month ago, made me die laughing, and then the subsequent posts after as well. You literally post and then quote things about Cancer men as if you know them, and you really don't. lol
Let me be more blunt here, cause I can laugh even more. You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does. Every assumption she has stated about men, and Cancer traits sounds immature and juvenile. It's this goofy ass shit, that girls don't understand, and I'm not gonna sit here and say "aww poor girl".
You’re a nobody!
Judging by the background of your pic and how Unkept your man looks, you’re part of a struggle love. Poverty. Worry about that bitch.
I can't even deal with the level of juvenile, immature shit that comes from you. Congrats, you just showed why you are single, for life.
Bitch you know nothing about me. And your weak ass thinks being with man means shit. Your a bum, your man is a bum and you NEED a man because your worthless. Work on changing your background because right now It’s dirty as fuck. Trash pot. Hype cuz you dating a fucking BUM...lmaoooo anybody can date a bum, holla at me when you pull a BOSS.
My bum Finance Manager ass is gonna sit over here with her bum ass boyfriend, and laugh at you.
P.S. LOL @ you being materialistic. LOL @ you making assumptions LOL @ you being single for lyfeclick to expand
So your dirty ass Is taking care of a BUM...lmaooo keep exposing yourself
Ps: I’m not single
Posted by bkbella86LOL k. RIGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHTPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86ayyyyyyyyyy lmaoPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86LOL, I just saw this.Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Says the woman that cant sustain any long term relationship cause of her goofiness.Posted by nikkistarLmaoooPosted by onedayDo you even know who the fuck I am? Not being an asshole, is not in my vocabulary.Posted by nikkistarDon't be such an asshole, she's trying to figure this out and she clearly cares for the guy.
The very first post from a month ago, made me die laughing, and then the subsequent posts after as well. You literally post and then quote things about Cancer men as if you know them, and you really don't. lol
Let me be more blunt here, cause I can laugh even more. You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does. Every assumption she has stated about men, and Cancer traits sounds immature and juvenile. It's this goofy ass shit, that girls don't understand, and I'm not gonna sit here and say "aww poor girl".
You’re a nobody!
Judging by the background of your pic and how Unkept your man looks, you’re part of a struggle love. Poverty. Worry about that bitch.
I can't even deal with the level of juvenile, immature shit that comes from you. Congrats, you just showed why you are single, for life.
Bitch you know nothing about me. And your weak ass thinks being with man means shit. Your a bum, your man is a bum and you NEED a man because your worthless. Work on changing your background because right now It’s dirty as fuck. Trash pot. Hype cuz you dating a fucking BUM...lmaoooo anybody can date a bum, holla at me when you pull a BOSS.
My bum Finance Manager ass is gonna sit over here with her bum ass boyfriend, and laugh at you.
P.S. LOL @ you being materialistic. LOL @ you making assumptions LOL @ you being single for lyfe
So your dirty ass Is taking care of a BUM...lmaooo keep exposing yourself
Ps: I’m not singleclick to expand
HAAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86LOL k. RIGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHTPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86ayyyyyyyyyy lmaoPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86LOL, I just saw this.Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Says the woman that cant sustain any long term relationship cause of her goofiness.Posted by nikkistarLmaoooPosted by onedayDo you even know who the fuck I am? Not being an asshole, is not in my vocabulary.Posted by nikkistarDon't be such an asshole, she's trying to figure this out and she clearly cares for the guy.
The very first post from a month ago, made me die laughing, and then the subsequent posts after as well. You literally post and then quote things about Cancer men as if you know them, and you really don't. lol
Let me be more blunt here, cause I can laugh even more. You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does. Every assumption she has stated about men, and Cancer traits sounds immature and juvenile. It's this goofy ass shit, that girls don't understand, and I'm not gonna sit here and say "aww poor girl".
You’re a nobody!
Judging by the background of your pic and how Unkept your man looks, you’re part of a struggle love. Poverty. Worry about that bitch.
I can't even deal with the level of juvenile, immature shit that comes from you. Congrats, you just showed why you are single, for life.
Bitch you know nothing about me. And your weak ass thinks being with man means shit. Your a bum, your man is a bum and you NEED a man because your worthless. Work on changing your background because right now It’s dirty as fuck. Trash pot. Hype cuz you dating a fucking BUM...lmaoooo anybody can date a bum, holla at me when you pull a BOSS.
My bum Finance Manager ass is gonna sit over here with her bum ass boyfriend, and laugh at you.
P.S. LOL @ you being materialistic. LOL @ you making assumptions LOL @ you being single for lyfe
So your dirty ass Is taking care of a BUM...lmaooo keep exposing yourself
Ps: I’m not single
HAAHAHAHAHAHAHAclick to expand
Get to work bitch....that bum is depending on you.
Worthless trash
Posted by bkbella86I am at work. I get paid to troll your single fo lyfe ass. LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86LOL k. RIGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHTPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86ayyyyyyyyyy lmaoPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86LOL, I just saw this.Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Says the woman that cant sustain any long term relationship cause of her goofiness.Posted by nikkistarLmaoooPosted by onedayDo you even know who the fuck I am? Not being an asshole, is not in my vocabulary.Posted by nikkistarDon't be such an asshole, she's trying to figure this out and she clearly cares for the guy.
The very first post from a month ago, made me die laughing, and then the subsequent posts after as well. You literally post and then quote things about Cancer men as if you know them, and you really don't. lol
Let me be more blunt here, cause I can laugh even more. You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does. Every assumption she has stated about men, and Cancer traits sounds immature and juvenile. It's this goofy ass shit, that girls don't understand, and I'm not gonna sit here and say "aww poor girl".
You’re a nobody!
Judging by the background of your pic and how Unkept your man looks, you’re part of a struggle love. Poverty. Worry about that bitch.
I can't even deal with the level of juvenile, immature shit that comes from you. Congrats, you just showed why you are single, for life.
Bitch you know nothing about me. And your weak ass thinks being with man means shit. Your a bum, your man is a bum and you NEED a man because your worthless. Work on changing your background because right now It’s dirty as fuck. Trash pot. Hype cuz you dating a fucking BUM...lmaoooo anybody can date a bum, holla at me when you pull a BOSS.
My bum Finance Manager ass is gonna sit over here with her bum ass boyfriend, and laugh at you.
P.S. LOL @ you being materialistic. LOL @ you making assumptions LOL @ you being single for lyfe
So your dirty ass Is taking care of a BUM...lmaooo keep exposing yourself
Ps: I’m not single
HAAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Get to work bitch....that bum is depending on you.
Worthless trashclick to expand
Posted by nikkistarDUH bitch and you better stay at work if you want to keep that bum in your background.Posted by bkbella86I am at work. I get paid to troll your single fo lyfe ass. LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86LOL k. RIGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHTPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86ayyyyyyyyyy lmaoPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86LOL, I just saw this.Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Says the woman that cant sustain any long term relationship cause of her goofiness.Posted by nikkistarLmaoooPosted by onedayDo you even know who the fuck I am? Not being an asshole, is not in my vocabulary.Posted by nikkistarDon't be such an asshole, she's trying to figure this out and she clearly cares for the guy.
The very first post from a month ago, made me die laughing, and then the subsequent posts after as well. You literally post and then quote things about Cancer men as if you know them, and you really don't. lol
Let me be more blunt here, cause I can laugh even more. You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does. Every assumption she has stated about men, and Cancer traits sounds immature and juvenile. It's this goofy ass shit, that girls don't understand, and I'm not gonna sit here and say "aww poor girl".
You’re a nobody!
Judging by the background of your pic and how Unkept your man looks, you’re part of a struggle love. Poverty. Worry about that bitch.
I can't even deal with the level of juvenile, immature shit that comes from you. Congrats, you just showed why you are single, for life.
Bitch you know nothing about me. And your weak ass thinks being with man means shit. Your a bum, your man is a bum and you NEED a man because your worthless. Work on changing your background because right now It’s dirty as fuck. Trash pot. Hype cuz you dating a fucking BUM...lmaoooo anybody can date a bum, holla at me when you pull a BOSS.
My bum Finance Manager ass is gonna sit over here with her bum ass boyfriend, and laugh at you.
P.S. LOL @ you being materialistic. LOL @ you making assumptions LOL @ you being single for lyfe
So your dirty ass Is taking care of a BUM...lmaooo keep exposing yourself
Ps: I’m not single
HAAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Get to work bitch....that bum is depending on you.
Worthless trashclick to expand
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This is why you run from dudes who move so damned fast. They're emotionally fucked.
Move on. If he comes back around, fine. If not, whatever. You didn't allow it to get to the point where you got yourself emotionally invested, despite this cunt bag behavior.
Aries and Cancer isn't a good match anyway.
Move on. If he comes back around, fine. If not, whatever. You didn't allow it to get to the point where you got yourself emotionally invested, despite this cunt bag behavior.
Aries and Cancer isn't a good match anyway.
Posted by bkbella86Well ya! Duh. Gotta support him emotionally and buy him gifts, just like he does for me. Cause you know, that's how relationships work, healthy ones. A back and forth. You know, you do for me, and I do for you.Posted by nikkistarDUH bitch and you better stay at work if you want to keep that bum in your background.Posted by bkbella86I am at work. I get paid to troll your single fo lyfe ass. LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86LOL k. RIGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHTPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86ayyyyyyyyyy lmaoPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86LOL, I just saw this.Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Says the woman that cant sustain any long term relationship cause of her goofiness.Posted by nikkistarLmaoooPosted by onedayDo you even know who the fuck I am? Not being an asshole, is not in my vocabulary.Posted by nikkistarDon't be such an asshole, she's trying to figure this out and she clearly cares for the guy.
The very first post from a month ago, made me die laughing, and then the subsequent posts after as well. You literally post and then quote things about Cancer men as if you know them, and you really don't. lol
Let me be more blunt here, cause I can laugh even more. You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does. Every assumption she has stated about men, and Cancer traits sounds immature and juvenile. It's this goofy ass shit, that girls don't understand, and I'm not gonna sit here and say "aww poor girl".
You’re a nobody!
Judging by the background of your pic and how Unkept your man looks, you’re part of a struggle love. Poverty. Worry about that bitch.
I can't even deal with the level of juvenile, immature shit that comes from you. Congrats, you just showed why you are single, for life.
Bitch you know nothing about me. And your weak ass thinks being with man means shit. Your a bum, your man is a bum and you NEED a man because your worthless. Work on changing your background because right now It’s dirty as fuck. Trash pot. Hype cuz you dating a fucking BUM...lmaoooo anybody can date a bum, holla at me when you pull a BOSS.
My bum Finance Manager ass is gonna sit over here with her bum ass boyfriend, and laugh at you.
P.S. LOL @ you being materialistic. LOL @ you making assumptions LOL @ you being single for lyfe
So your dirty ass Is taking care of a BUM...lmaooo keep exposing yourself
Ps: I’m not single
HAAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Get to work bitch....that bum is depending on you.
Worthless trashclick to expand
You so stupid. LMAO
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Posted by GC02Doubtful. If he was taking things slow, he wouldn't have given her the 6 mos- year girlfriend treatment within a few dates.
I feel for you Aries I really do. Us late June/beginning of July cancers can be major pains in the butt.
In my opinion he’s just trying to take things slow.
Regardless of sign, that's always a "run" warning. Guys like that exit just as quickly as they moved in because they're immature as shit and allow themselves to get swept up in the excitement of it all, only to suddenly stop and have buyer's remorse.
I went through the same shit with an ex and I likened it to a kid who just HAD to have that toy. Begged and pleaded with mom to get it. Once he gets it, he plays for it for a few and then tosses it into the toy box because he's over it.
That's essentially what guys like this do.
This is such a classic move and you can try to excuse it away by sign, but this isn't a sign thing, it's a "fuck no" situation.
If he hadn't moved so ridiculously fast, sure, maybe life's got a hold of him, but like Ssupes said, when a guy is truly into you, he doesn't do this shit.
I've got similar placements to the OP and she can ponder and work through the wtfery, but in the long run, Cancers are a terrible match because of this shit. I've gotten to the point where it's like yeah no, and exit stage left because immature and overly emotional dudes are a waste of time in the long run. Life's too short. They're okay friends, but fuck relationships. Nobody's got time for emotional manipulators and leeches.
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Posted by SupesYou're a prime example of what I've pointed out, dude.Posted by rockyroadicecreamLol. I’d rather spend 5 straight days getting to know someone than waste 5 months. If it takes 5 months to get to know someone well enough to keep wanting to see them, I’m out.
This is why you run from dudes who move so damned fast. They're emotionally fucked.
Move on. If he comes back around, fine. If not, whatever. You didn't allow it to get to the point where you got yourself emotionally invested, despite this cunt bag behavior.
Aries and Cancer isn't a good match anyway.click to expand
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Posted by SupesSorry, sweetie, but no. You're being naive and dumb again.Posted by bittercupcakeIsn’t that the purpose of the 5 days?Posted by SupesThat's why you screen them before you entertain them so you don't waste your time dating them.. including those 5 days.Posted by rockyroadicecreamLol. I’d rather spend 5 straight days getting to know someone than waste 5 months. If it takes 5 months to get to know someone well enough to keep wanting to see them, I’m out.
This is why you run from dudes who move so damned fast. They're emotionally fucked.
Move on. If he comes back around, fine. If not, whatever. You didn't allow it to get to the point where you got yourself emotionally invested, despite this cunt bag behavior.
Aries and Cancer isn't a good match anyway.
The 3rd, 4th and 5th date with my Aries was all in one weekend. You really get to know someone faster when you are around them enough to get comfortable.click to expand
You do not fully know someone in 5 days. You're just fixated on the honeymoon phase of it all. You know what the person really is like long term.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI had to move abroad because of work (no jobs at home base). She had a child from a previous relationship (which happened to be from ex-boss) so she couldn't move with me. Work at home is still not great which made it difficult to move back. Altogether it was difficult to build a future. We still tried ldr for three years but eventually decided to move on. It wasn't healthy for both.Posted by carrazedawhy did it end?Posted by ariesgirl88Haven't read everything but for a cancer to show his family is a pretty big thing. He might have thought that he went too quick too fast. He might be processing things in his mind. It can take time for a cancer to be fully open and emotionally available. Our emotions take time to ignite and there's not much you can do about it apart from being yourself. Give him time but don't let him drag you, if you feel you need an answer ask for it (gently). But I would suggest you don't rush, distract yourself with other things, make sure what you want is clear in your mind. And yes most cancers can be crap at communicating.Posted by pinkbird03I am not sure too. But I know I was pretty quiet and reserved. Met the sister and bffs a few times thereafter too and they seem okay with me. So I really dont know.
It seems like things went downhill right after you met his family and friends. My guess is that they don’t like u too much and that impacted his feelings somewhat. Not entirely though because he keeps talking to u.
I actually had a relationship with an aries for a couple of years. She always complained that I was too slow.. Typical thing would be a) she wants to talk about something going on with us b) I listen c) I respond a week after. It made her go through hell in the beginning but there was nothing I could. I had to let my feelings to settle so I could give her the right answer. With time she got my modus operandi and by the end she knew me better than myself.click to expand
Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Well ya! Duh. Gotta support him emotionally and buy him gifts, just like he does for me. Cause you know, that's how relationships work, healthy ones. A back and forth. You know, you do for me, and I do for you.Posted by nikkistarDUH bitch and you better stay at work if you want to keep that bum in your background.Posted by bkbella86I am at work. I get paid to troll your single fo lyfe ass. LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86LOL k. RIGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHTPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86ayyyyyyyyyy lmaoPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86LOL, I just saw this.Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Says the woman that cant sustain any long term relationship cause of her goofiness.Posted by nikkistarLmaoooPosted by onedayDo you even know who the fuck I am? Not being an asshole, is not in my vocabulary.Posted by nikkistarDon't be such an asshole, she's trying to figure this out and she clearly cares for the guy.
The very first post from a month ago, made me die laughing, and then the subsequent posts after as well. You literally post and then quote things about Cancer men as if you know them, and you really don't. lol
Let me be more blunt here, cause I can laugh even more. You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does. Every assumption she has stated about men, and Cancer traits sounds immature and juvenile. It's this goofy ass shit, that girls don't understand, and I'm not gonna sit here and say "aww poor girl".
You’re a nobody!
Judging by the background of your pic and how Unkept your man looks, you’re part of a struggle love. Poverty. Worry about that bitch.
I can't even deal with the level of juvenile, immature shit that comes from you. Congrats, you just showed why you are single, for life.
Bitch you know nothing about me. And your weak ass thinks being with man means shit. Your a bum, your man is a bum and you NEED a man because your worthless. Work on changing your background because right now It’s dirty as fuck. Trash pot. Hype cuz you dating a fucking BUM...lmaoooo anybody can date a bum, holla at me when you pull a BOSS.
My bum Finance Manager ass is gonna sit over here with her bum ass boyfriend, and laugh at you.
P.S. LOL @ you being materialistic. LOL @ you making assumptions LOL @ you being single for lyfe
So your dirty ass Is taking care of a BUM...lmaooo keep exposing yourself
Ps: I’m not single
HAAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Get to work bitch....that bum is depending on you.
Worthless trash
You so stupid. LMAOclick to expand
Lmao, you keep confirming that you’re getting used . Reiterating my point. Keep it up sugar mama.
Posted by bkbella86lololol.Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Well ya! Duh. Gotta support him emotionally and buy him gifts, just like he does for me. Cause you know, that's how relationships work, healthy ones. A back and forth. You know, you do for me, and I do for you.Posted by nikkistarDUH bitch and you better stay at work if you want to keep that bum in your background.Posted by bkbella86I am at work. I get paid to troll your single fo lyfe ass. LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86LOL k. RIGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHTPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86ayyyyyyyyyy lmaoPosted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86LOL, I just saw this.Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Says the woman that cant sustain any long term relationship cause of her goofiness.Posted by nikkistarLmaoooPosted by onedayDo you even know who the fuck I am? Not being an asshole, is not in my vocabulary.Posted by nikkistarDon't be such an asshole, she's trying to figure this out and she clearly cares for the guy.
The very first post from a month ago, made me die laughing, and then the subsequent posts after as well. You literally post and then quote things about Cancer men as if you know them, and you really don't. lol
Let me be more blunt here, cause I can laugh even more. You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does. Every assumption she has stated about men, and Cancer traits sounds immature and juvenile. It's this goofy ass shit, that girls don't understand, and I'm not gonna sit here and say "aww poor girl".
You’re a nobody!
Judging by the background of your pic and how Unkept your man looks, you’re part of a struggle love. Poverty. Worry about that bitch.
I can't even deal with the level of juvenile, immature shit that comes from you. Congrats, you just showed why you are single, for life.
Bitch you know nothing about me. And your weak ass thinks being with man means shit. Your a bum, your man is a bum and you NEED a man because your worthless. Work on changing your background because right now It’s dirty as fuck. Trash pot. Hype cuz you dating a fucking BUM...lmaoooo anybody can date a bum, holla at me when you pull a BOSS.
My bum Finance Manager ass is gonna sit over here with her bum ass boyfriend, and laugh at you.
P.S. LOL @ you being materialistic. LOL @ you making assumptions LOL @ you being single for lyfe
So your dirty ass Is taking care of a BUM...lmaooo keep exposing yourself
Ps: I’m not single
HAAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Get to work bitch....that bum is depending on you.
Worthless trash
You so stupid. LMAO
Lmao, you keep confirming that you’re getting used . Reiterating my point. Keep it up sugar mama.click to expand
And this right here, tells me everything I need to know about you. lololol
Posted by SupesLOL no, that's you. Not how the world works.Posted by nikkistarJust no.Posted by ariesgirl88Ok, one, don't say this is the first guy you have dated, and then list out 2 other boyfriends -_-Posted by nikkistarPosted by onedayDo you even know who the fuck I am? Not being an asshole, is not in my vocabulary.Posted by nikkistarDon't be such an asshole, she's trying to figure this out and she clearly cares for the guy.
The very first post from a month ago, made me die laughing, and then the subsequent posts after as well. You literally post and then quote things about Cancer men as if you know them, and you really don't. lol
Let me be more blunt here, cause I can laugh even more. You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does. Every assumption she has stated about men, and Cancer traits sounds immature and juvenile. It's this goofy ass shit, that girls don't understand, and I'm not gonna sit here and say "aww poor girl".
Thank you so much for your feedback, I really appteciate it. You seem to really understand cancer man. I am sorry if I have come across as assuming, and whatever assumptions I have made about cancer men and all which were untrue were actually bits and pieces of informations which I have read and picked up from all over the internet.
Please believe me that I am really trying to know more about my cancer man and that's the sole reason why I am seeking help from this forum.
I understand what you mean by "You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does" I guess I just couldn't help it but to feel disappointed when I was feeling ill and vulnerabe last week.
I am really new to this dating thing. This is actually the 1st guy I have dated other than my 2 ex bfs (both of them were pretty straightforward) That's why I am not responding well to this whole ambiguity. I am having this dilemna in wanting to move things forward and yet I am afraid of getting myself hurt therfore I may seem to be really calculative over who do what, who initiate what and etc.
Thank you once again! Any insights are rrally appreciated
You really, really, need to learn patience with any Cancer man. It is who they are.
For the communication aspect, and I have stated this multiple times across the board, and most of the Cancer men agree with this. If they are busy, their level of communication dies significantly. The phone just isn't their priority in life. So don't ever expect for them to be in constantly communication all the time. You will see them text everyday, call you everyday, and then for 2-3 days in a row, they answer a text once, and no calls. That doesn't mean you are forgotten, it just means they are exactly as they say, busy.
They don't play games, and they don't like people playing games. And don't push them and nag them to be or do things that aren't them. Go with the flow, is the best way I can describe it. What will happen, will happen on its own accord without pressure.
ANY man reguardless of sign will straight up lock down any woman he’s genuinely interested in. He won’t waste time either.
Stop making “excuses” for weak ass fuckboys. This girl is getting used because she’s naive.click to expand
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Posted by Supeslol. You seem to have poor or selective memory.Posted by rockyroadicecreamMy method works though.Posted by SupesYou're a prime example of what I've pointed out, dude.Posted by rockyroadicecreamLol. I’d rather spend 5 straight days getting to know someone than waste 5 months. If it takes 5 months to get to know someone well enough to keep wanting to see them, I’m out.
This is why you run from dudes who move so damned fast. They're emotionally fucked.
Move on. If he comes back around, fine. If not, whatever. You didn't allow it to get to the point where you got yourself emotionally invested, despite this cunt bag behavior.
Aries and Cancer isn't a good match anyway.click to expand
Your method is "I'm going to throw everything out there and see what sticks." That's hardly effective.
Posted by SupesDude, so you speak for all men? So I can say I speak for all women than too?Posted by nikkistarLol. I’m a man. I know what happens when a man is truly into a woman and I know what we do when we’re just trying to get our dick wet. I know all the games.Posted by SupesLOL no, that's you. Not how the world works.Posted by nikkistarJust no.Posted by ariesgirl88Ok, one, don't say this is the first guy you have dated, and then list out 2 other boyfriends -_-Posted by nikkistarPosted by onedayDo you even know who the fuck I am? Not being an asshole, is not in my vocabulary.Posted by nikkistarDon't be such an asshole, she's trying to figure this out and she clearly cares for the guy.
The very first post from a month ago, made me die laughing, and then the subsequent posts after as well. You literally post and then quote things about Cancer men as if you know them, and you really don't. lol
Let me be more blunt here, cause I can laugh even more. You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does. Every assumption she has stated about men, and Cancer traits sounds immature and juvenile. It's this goofy ass shit, that girls don't understand, and I'm not gonna sit here and say "aww poor girl".
Thank you so much for your feedback, I really appteciate it. You seem to really understand cancer man. I am sorry if I have come across as assuming, and whatever assumptions I have made about cancer men and all which were untrue were actually bits and pieces of informations which I have read and picked up from all over the internet.
Please believe me that I am really trying to know more about my cancer man and that's the sole reason why I am seeking help from this forum.
I understand what you mean by "You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does" I guess I just couldn't help it but to feel disappointed when I was feeling ill and vulnerabe last week.
I am really new to this dating thing. This is actually the 1st guy I have dated other than my 2 ex bfs (both of them were pretty straightforward) That's why I am not responding well to this whole ambiguity. I am having this dilemna in wanting to move things forward and yet I am afraid of getting myself hurt therfore I may seem to be really calculative over who do what, who initiate what and etc.
Thank you once again! Any insights are rrally appreciated
You really, really, need to learn patience with any Cancer man. It is who they are.
For the communication aspect, and I have stated this multiple times across the board, and most of the Cancer men agree with this. If they are busy, their level of communication dies significantly. The phone just isn't their priority in life. So don't ever expect for them to be in constantly communication all the time. You will see them text everyday, call you everyday, and then for 2-3 days in a row, they answer a text once, and no calls. That doesn't mean you are forgotten, it just means they are exactly as they say, busy.
They don't play games, and they don't like people playing games. And don't push them and nag them to be or do things that aren't them. Go with the flow, is the best way I can describe it. What will happen, will happen on its own accord without pressure.
ANY man reguardless of sign will straight up lock down any woman he’s genuinely interested in. He won’t waste time either.
Stop making “excuses” for weak ass fuckboys. This girl is getting used because she’s naive.
What’s funny is you sitting here telling me about men. You don’t think we talk about all the shady shit we’ve done to chicks?!click to expand
LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOO
No, I don't speak for all men, but I do know Cancer men pretty god damn well. And there are a lot of cancer men on this board that believe so @Canceronthecusp @chrisiskodak and others that do.
You're a leo dude, trying to talk about cancer men. You guys aren't even in the same book on feels. lol
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeEvery person has their own neuroses. What you call a fuckboi, is not what I call one. Because the Cancers in my life, are loyal to me to a fault. Not a single one of them, has ever let me down when I have needed them the most.Posted by nikkistaryou just mentioned the worst fuk boi's on earthPosted by SupesDude, so you speak for all men? So I can say I speak for all women than too?Posted by nikkistarLol. I’m a man. I know what happens when a man is truly into a woman and I know what we do when we’re just trying to get our dick wet. I know all the games.Posted by SupesLOL no, that's you. Not how the world works.Posted by nikkistarJust no.Posted by ariesgirl88Ok, one, don't say this is the first guy you have dated, and then list out 2 other boyfriends -_-Posted by nikkistarPosted by onedayDo you even know who the fuck I am? Not being an asshole, is not in my vocabulary.Posted by nikkistarDon't be such an asshole, she's trying to figure this out and she clearly cares for the guy.
The very first post from a month ago, made me die laughing, and then the subsequent posts after as well. You literally post and then quote things about Cancer men as if you know them, and you really don't. lol
Let me be more blunt here, cause I can laugh even more. You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does. Every assumption she has stated about men, and Cancer traits sounds immature and juvenile. It's this goofy ass shit, that girls don't understand, and I'm not gonna sit here and say "aww poor girl".
Thank you so much for your feedback, I really appteciate it. You seem to really understand cancer man. I am sorry if I have come across as assuming, and whatever assumptions I have made about cancer men and all which were untrue were actually bits and pieces of informations which I have read and picked up from all over the internet.
Please believe me that I am really trying to know more about my cancer man and that's the sole reason why I am seeking help from this forum.
I understand what you mean by "You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does" I guess I just couldn't help it but to feel disappointed when I was feeling ill and vulnerabe last week.
I am really new to this dating thing. This is actually the 1st guy I have dated other than my 2 ex bfs (both of them were pretty straightforward) That's why I am not responding well to this whole ambiguity. I am having this dilemna in wanting to move things forward and yet I am afraid of getting myself hurt therfore I may seem to be really calculative over who do what, who initiate what and etc.
Thank you once again! Any insights are rrally appreciated
You really, really, need to learn patience with any Cancer man. It is who they are.
For the communication aspect, and I have stated this multiple times across the board, and most of the Cancer men agree with this. If they are busy, their level of communication dies significantly. The phone just isn't their priority in life. So don't ever expect for them to be in constantly communication all the time. You will see them text everyday, call you everyday, and then for 2-3 days in a row, they answer a text once, and no calls. That doesn't mean you are forgotten, it just means they are exactly as they say, busy.
They don't play games, and they don't like people playing games. And don't push them and nag them to be or do things that aren't them. Go with the flow, is the best way I can describe it. What will happen, will happen on its own accord without pressure.
ANY man reguardless of sign will straight up lock down any woman he’s genuinely interested in. He won’t waste time either.
Stop making “excuses” for weak ass fuckboys. This girl is getting used because she’s naive.
What’s funny is you sitting here telling me about men. You don’t think we talk about all the shady shit we’ve done to chicks?!
LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOO
No, I don't speak for all men, but I do know Cancer men pretty god damn well. And there are a lot of cancer men on this board that believe so @Canceronthecusp @chrisiskodak and others that do.
You're a leo dude, trying to talk about cancer men. You guys aren't even in the same book on feels. lol
funny i just mentioned them on a post above
i think they're insanely emotionally manipulative and mostly jack a $ $
but that's your ilk. so whateverclick to expand
Posted by SupesLOL says the dude that just said "ANY man reguardless of sign will straight up lock down any woman he’s genuinely interested in."Posted by nikkistarJust LOL.Posted by SupesDude, so you speak for all men? So I can say I speak for all women than too?Posted by nikkistarLol. I’m a man. I know what happens when a man is truly into a woman and I know what we do when we’re just trying to get our dick wet. I know all the games.Posted by SupesLOL no, that's you. Not how the world works.Posted by nikkistarJust no.Posted by ariesgirl88Ok, one, don't say this is the first guy you have dated, and then list out 2 other boyfriends -_-Posted by nikkistarPosted by onedayDo you even know who the fuck I am? Not being an asshole, is not in my vocabulary.Posted by nikkistarDon't be such an asshole, she's trying to figure this out and she clearly cares for the guy.
The very first post from a month ago, made me die laughing, and then the subsequent posts after as well. You literally post and then quote things about Cancer men as if you know them, and you really don't. lol
Let me be more blunt here, cause I can laugh even more. You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does. Every assumption she has stated about men, and Cancer traits sounds immature and juvenile. It's this goofy ass shit, that girls don't understand, and I'm not gonna sit here and say "aww poor girl".
Thank you so much for your feedback, I really appteciate it. You seem to really understand cancer man. I am sorry if I have come across as assuming, and whatever assumptions I have made about cancer men and all which were untrue were actually bits and pieces of informations which I have read and picked up from all over the internet.
Please believe me that I am really trying to know more about my cancer man and that's the sole reason why I am seeking help from this forum.
I understand what you mean by "You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does" I guess I just couldn't help it but to feel disappointed when I was feeling ill and vulnerabe last week.
I am really new to this dating thing. This is actually the 1st guy I have dated other than my 2 ex bfs (both of them were pretty straightforward) That's why I am not responding well to this whole ambiguity. I am having this dilemna in wanting to move things forward and yet I am afraid of getting myself hurt therfore I may seem to be really calculative over who do what, who initiate what and etc.
Thank you once again! Any insights are rrally appreciated
You really, really, need to learn patience with any Cancer man. It is who they are.
For the communication aspect, and I have stated this multiple times across the board, and most of the Cancer men agree with this. If they are busy, their level of communication dies significantly. The phone just isn't their priority in life. So don't ever expect for them to be in constantly communication all the time. You will see them text everyday, call you everyday, and then for 2-3 days in a row, they answer a text once, and no calls. That doesn't mean you are forgotten, it just means they are exactly as they say, busy.
They don't play games, and they don't like people playing games. And don't push them and nag them to be or do things that aren't them. Go with the flow, is the best way I can describe it. What will happen, will happen on its own accord without pressure.
ANY man reguardless of sign will straight up lock down any woman he’s genuinely interested in. He won’t waste time either.
Stop making “excuses” for weak ass fuckboys. This girl is getting used because she’s naive.
What’s funny is you sitting here telling me about men. You don’t think we talk about all the shady shit we’ve done to chicks?!
LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOO
No, I don't speak for all men, but I do know Cancer men pretty god damn well. And there are a lot of cancer men on this board that believe so @Canceronthecusp @chrisiskodak and others that do.
You're a leo dude, trying to talk about cancer men. You guys aren't even in the same book on feels. lol
You ain’t even a freaking man! But you go see here and try to tell me what goes on inside another man’s brain. That’s just freaking hilarious.
You’re the most arrogant person on this board.click to expand
But I am the arrogant one. LMAO k.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI am actually air dominant with minimum water/fire/earth, and I almost think its on the verge of being too lopsided. It makes me lack an emotional reaction, and makes me almost too logical. I lack the ability to empathize a lot of times.Posted by nikkistarVery true, those fuc boi's are loyal, but you're also more water than me, i have zero patience.Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeEvery person has their own neuroses. What you call a fuckboi, is not what I call one. Because the Cancers in my life, are loyal to me to a fault. Not a single one of them, has ever let me down when I have needed them the most.Posted by nikkistaryou just mentioned the worst fuk boi's on earthPosted by SupesDude, so you speak for all men? So I can say I speak for all women than too?Posted by nikkistarLol. I’m a man. I know what happens when a man is truly into a woman and I know what we do when we’re just trying to get our dick wet. I know all the games.Posted by SupesLOL no, that's you. Not how the world works.Posted by nikkistarJust no.Posted by ariesgirl88Ok, one, don't say this is the first guy you have dated, and then list out 2 other boyfriends -_-Posted by nikkistarPosted by onedayDo you even know who the fuck I am? Not being an asshole, is not in my vocabulary.Posted by nikkistarDon't be such an asshole, she's trying to figure this out and she clearly cares for the guy.
The very first post from a month ago, made me die laughing, and then the subsequent posts after as well. You literally post and then quote things about Cancer men as if you know them, and you really don't. lol
Let me be more blunt here, cause I can laugh even more. You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does. Every assumption she has stated about men, and Cancer traits sounds immature and juvenile. It's this goofy ass shit, that girls don't understand, and I'm not gonna sit here and say "aww poor girl".
Thank you so much for your feedback, I really appteciate it. You seem to really understand cancer man. I am sorry if I have come across as assuming, and whatever assumptions I have made about cancer men and all which were untrue were actually bits and pieces of informations which I have read and picked up from all over the internet.
Please believe me that I am really trying to know more about my cancer man and that's the sole reason why I am seeking help from this forum.
I understand what you mean by "You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does" I guess I just couldn't help it but to feel disappointed when I was feeling ill and vulnerabe last week.
I am really new to this dating thing. This is actually the 1st guy I have dated other than my 2 ex bfs (both of them were pretty straightforward) That's why I am not responding well to this whole ambiguity. I am having this dilemna in wanting to move things forward and yet I am afraid of getting myself hurt therfore I may seem to be really calculative over who do what, who initiate what and etc.
Thank you once again! Any insights are rrally appreciated
You really, really, need to learn patience with any Cancer man. It is who they are.
For the communication aspect, and I have stated this multiple times across the board, and most of the Cancer men agree with this. If they are busy, their level of communication dies significantly. The phone just isn't their priority in life. So don't ever expect for them to be in constantly communication all the time. You will see them text everyday, call you everyday, and then for 2-3 days in a row, they answer a text once, and no calls. That doesn't mean you are forgotten, it just means they are exactly as they say, busy.
They don't play games, and they don't like people playing games. And don't push them and nag them to be or do things that aren't them. Go with the flow, is the best way I can describe it. What will happen, will happen on its own accord without pressure.
ANY man reguardless of sign will straight up lock down any woman he’s genuinely interested in. He won’t waste time either.
Stop making “excuses” for weak ass fuckboys. This girl is getting used because she’s naive.
What’s funny is you sitting here telling me about men. You don’t think we talk about all the shady shit we’ve done to chicks?!
LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOO
No, I don't speak for all men, but I do know Cancer men pretty god damn well. And there are a lot of cancer men on this board that believe so @Canceronthecusp @chrisiskodak and others that do.
You're a leo dude, trying to talk about cancer men. You guys aren't even in the same book on feels. lol
funny i just mentioned them on a post above
i think they're insanely emotionally manipulative and mostly jack a $ $
but that's your ilk. so whateverclick to expand
When most people want me to look at something on an emotional level, I can't. So it impedes a lot of my relationships with women because I can't agree with something that makes no logical sense to me.
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Posted by SupesNo, you use the splatter effect. Believe me, I'm not clueless to how many women you tried that crazy with here.Posted by rockyroadicecreamLOL, it’s called being upfront and not playing games. I’m a pretty good catch and I don’t need to use the splatter effect to pick up a check. I’ll put myself out there and I hope that they do the same. If we’re compatible great if not you’ll know sooner than later and you can go on about your businessPosted by Supeslol. You seem to have poor or selective memory.Posted by rockyroadicecreamMy method works though.Posted by SupesYou're a prime example of what I've pointed out, dude.Posted by rockyroadicecreamLol. I’d rather spend 5 straight days getting to know someone than waste 5 months. If it takes 5 months to get to know someone well enough to keep wanting to see them, I’m out.
This is why you run from dudes who move so damned fast. They're emotionally fucked.
Move on. If he comes back around, fine. If not, whatever. You didn't allow it to get to the point where you got yourself emotionally invested, despite this cunt bag behavior.
Aries and Cancer isn't a good match anyway.
Your method is "I'm going to throw everything out there and see what sticks." That's hardly effective.click to expand
Nevermind all those times you were all woe is me about that ish. I denied giving you my cell number and you drunk message me in a rage about how I don't think you're good enough.
So yes, your "technique" is far from effective. You're only touting its effectiveness because you paired off with a woman from a culture whose goal is to get married and have babies asap so she was down to get engaged within 3-6 mos.
Whatever floats your boat dude, but don't go around acting like that immature, unrealistic shit is something people should live by because it's not.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeNo, I think women can be logical, but many times they will let their emotions get the better of them. Not that men can't as well, but I have found that more times it is the women that cannot.Posted by nikkistarhmmm so you don't think women can be logical?Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI am actually air dominant with minimum water/fire/earth, and I almost think its on the verge of being too lopsided. It makes me lack an emotional reaction, and makes me almost too logical. I lack the ability to empathize a lot of times.Posted by nikkistarVery true, those fuc boi's are loyal, but you're also more water than me, i have zero patience.Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeEvery person has their own neuroses. What you call a fuckboi, is not what I call one. Because the Cancers in my life, are loyal to me to a fault. Not a single one of them, has ever let me down when I have needed them the most.Posted by nikkistaryou just mentioned the worst fuk boi's on earthPosted by SupesDude, so you speak for all men? So I can say I speak for all women than too?Posted by nikkistarLol. I’m a man. I know what happens when a man is truly into a woman and I know what we do when we’re just trying to get our dick wet. I know all the games.Posted by SupesLOL no, that's you. Not how the world works.Posted by nikkistarJust no.Posted by ariesgirl88Ok, one, don't say this is the first guy you have dated, and then list out 2 other boyfriends -_-Posted by nikkistarPosted by onedayDo you even know who the fuck I am? Not being an asshole, is not in my vocabulary.Posted by nikkistarDon't be such an asshole, she's trying to figure this out and she clearly cares for the guy.
The very first post from a month ago, made me die laughing, and then the subsequent posts after as well. You literally post and then quote things about Cancer men as if you know them, and you really don't. lol
Let me be more blunt here, cause I can laugh even more. You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does. Every assumption she has stated about men, and Cancer traits sounds immature and juvenile. It's this goofy ass shit, that girls don't understand, and I'm not gonna sit here and say "aww poor girl".
Thank you so much for your feedback, I really appteciate it. You seem to really understand cancer man. I am sorry if I have come across as assuming, and whatever assumptions I have made about cancer men and all which were untrue were actually bits and pieces of informations which I have read and picked up from all over the internet.
Please believe me that I am really trying to know more about my cancer man and that's the sole reason why I am seeking help from this forum.
I understand what you mean by "You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does" I guess I just couldn't help it but to feel disappointed when I was feeling ill and vulnerabe last week.
I am really new to this dating thing. This is actually the 1st guy I have dated other than my 2 ex bfs (both of them were pretty straightforward) That's why I am not responding well to this whole ambiguity. I am having this dilemna in wanting to move things forward and yet I am afraid of getting myself hurt therfore I may seem to be really calculative over who do what, who initiate what and etc.
Thank you once again! Any insights are rrally appreciated
You really, really, need to learn patience with any Cancer man. It is who they are.
For the communication aspect, and I have stated this multiple times across the board, and most of the Cancer men agree with this. If they are busy, their level of communication dies significantly. The phone just isn't their priority in life. So don't ever expect for them to be in constantly communication all the time. You will see them text everyday, call you everyday, and then for 2-3 days in a row, they answer a text once, and no calls. That doesn't mean you are forgotten, it just means they are exactly as they say, busy.
They don't play games, and they don't like people playing games. And don't push them and nag them to be or do things that aren't them. Go with the flow, is the best way I can describe it. What will happen, will happen on its own accord without pressure.
ANY man reguardless of sign will straight up lock down any woman he’s genuinely interested in. He won’t waste time either.
Stop making “excuses” for weak ass fuckboys. This girl is getting used because she’s naive.
What’s funny is you sitting here telling me about men. You don’t think we talk about all the shady shit we’ve done to chicks?!
LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOO
No, I don't speak for all men, but I do know Cancer men pretty god damn well. And there are a lot of cancer men on this board that believe so @Canceronthecusp @chrisiskodak and others that do.
You're a leo dude, trying to talk about cancer men. You guys aren't even in the same book on feels. lol
funny i just mentioned them on a post above
i think they're insanely emotionally manipulative and mostly jack a $ $
but that's your ilk. so whatever
When most people want me to look at something on an emotional level, I can't. So it impedes a lot of my relationships with women because I can't agree with something that makes no logical sense to me.click to expand
Kinda like how I think men are more prone to being serial killers. lol
Posted by SupesThat's a relieve! I was worried about you for a moment...Posted by rockyroadicecreamAnd lol. I talk/text lots of people from here. Don’t think you’re special by any meansPosted by SupesNo, you use the splatter effect. Believe me, I'm not clueless to how many women you tried that crazy with here.Posted by rockyroadicecreamLOL, it’s called being upfront and not playing games. I’m a pretty good catch and I don’t need to use the splatter effect to pick up a check. I’ll put myself out there and I hope that they do the same. If we’re compatible great if not you’ll know sooner than later and you can go on about your businessPosted by Supeslol. You seem to have poor or selective memory.Posted by rockyroadicecreamMy method works though.Posted by SupesYou're a prime example of what I've pointed out, dude.Posted by rockyroadicecreamLol. I’d rather spend 5 straight days getting to know someone than waste 5 months. If it takes 5 months to get to know someone well enough to keep wanting to see them, I’m out.
This is why you run from dudes who move so damned fast. They're emotionally fucked.
Move on. If he comes back around, fine. If not, whatever. You didn't allow it to get to the point where you got yourself emotionally invested, despite this cunt bag behavior.
Aries and Cancer isn't a good match anyway.
Your method is "I'm going to throw everything out there and see what sticks." That's hardly effective.
Nevermind all those times you were all woe is me about that ish. I denied giving you my cell number and you drunk message me in a rage about how I don't think you're good enough.
So yes, your "technique" is far from effective. You're only touting its effectiveness because you paired off with a woman from a culture whose goal is to get married and have babies asap so she was down to get engaged within 3-6 mos.
Whatever floats your boat dude, but don't go around acting like that immature, unrealistic shit is something people should live by because it's not.click to expand
Posted by ShadowcatThat’s me. I like roles. Things work better that way. You see where it’s getting her right?Posted by bkbella86Too traditional.Posted by ShadowcatWhat’s up?Posted by bkbella86😒
You showed too much interest. Fall all the way back. Learn from this. Don’t initiate and don’t ask a man out l. You’re the prize, you have to act like it.click to expand
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeNone of usb were insane! It can work but there are caveats. I have a good amount of fire placements and I always have been attracted to fire girls. At the moment I'm dating a sag l. Before the aries I spent two years with a pisces that had a lot of aries placements (merc, venus and mars), she was probably aries dominant. Meaning that I probably understand the fire energy and myself have to deal with it. So many times I just speak too quick, too upfront, too blunt, or I just show an ego that actually I don't have. It's the leo mercury and venus working. A challenge in a relationship can be a good thing, can make you grow by overcoming it. But I think that both people need to be used to deal with internal challenges. If that's the case and there are good connections elsewhere then I don't see why any combination wouldn't work.Posted by carrazedaI think i asked you this before cause i couldn't believe you seriously dated an AriesPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeI had to move abroad because of work (no jobs at home base). She had a child from a previous relationship (which happened to be from ex-boss) so she couldn't move with me. Work at home is still not great which made it difficult to move back. Altogether it was difficult to build a future. We still tried ldr for three years but eventually decided to move on. It wasn't healthy for both.Posted by carrazedawhy did it end?Posted by ariesgirl88Haven't read everything but for a cancer to show his family is a pretty big thing. He might have thought that he went too quick too fast. He might be processing things in his mind. It can take time for a cancer to be fully open and emotionally available. Our emotions take time to ignite and there's not much you can do about it apart from being yourself. Give him time but don't let him drag you, if you feel you need an answer ask for it (gently). But I would suggest you don't rush, distract yourself with other things, make sure what you want is clear in your mind. And yes most cancers can be crap at communicating.Posted by pinkbird03I am not sure too. But I know I was pretty quiet and reserved. Met the sister and bffs a few times thereafter too and they seem okay with me. So I really dont know.
It seems like things went downhill right after you met his family and friends. My guess is that they don’t like u too much and that impacted his feelings somewhat. Not entirely though because he keeps talking to u.
I actually had a relationship with an aries for a couple of years. She always complained that I was too slow.. Typical thing would be a) she wants to talk about something going on with us b) I listen c) I respond a week after. It made her go through hell in the beginning but there was nothing I could. I had to let my feelings to settle so I could give her the right answer. With time she got my modus operandi and by the end she knew me better than myself.
My point i have yet to see this relationship last
i do have an aries coworker married to a crab
but im convinced they're both insane pplclick to expand
Posted by ShadowcatI agree he wasn’t but if she had let things play out maybe he would have. That’s why women shouldn’t chase.Posted by bkbella86The guy isn't acting like he had genuine interest to begin with. If you become distant just because someone acts like they like you, then honestly that sounds like a you problem(cancer).Posted by ShadowcatThat’s me. I like roles. Things work better that way. You see where it’s getting her right?Posted by bkbella86Too traditional.Posted by ShadowcatWhat’s up?Posted by bkbella86😒
You showed too much interest. Fall all the way back. Learn from this. Don’t initiate and don’t ask a man out l. You’re the prize, you have to act like it.
And it worked just fine in my case.click to expand
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