why is she doing this?
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by vir on Sunday, May 21, 2006 and has 9 replies.
hey,
I have recentaly met this cancerian woman. she has been in a long term relationship, but it ended. when we met she hit on me (i'm a woman) her relationship was with a man.
One thing led to another, and before long we were seeing each other frequently. Anyway at some point something happned and I ended it. Since then we decided that we would be friends.
However, every time we would meet, she would hit on me again and again. Once we were at a party, and I respected the whole friends thing. I was talking to this guy and gave him a hug, later that evening I touched her arm as we were leaving and she said don't touch me, everyone said that you and that guy were kissing. I was totally alarmed by this, simce i'm not into guys, and I reasssured her that I didnt kiss him, then she was fine.
The following day I was thinking - but we are not together, why am I justifying myself to her, moreover why is she getting possesive. Anyway, everytime we met after our break up she hits on me. I get annoyed with this, and ask her what she wants from me - she says friendship. I tell her none of my friends act like you do towards me - are u telling me you want to be with me or something? she denied it.
I'm not one to stay in a none productive relationship and have made this clear to her time and time again. On and on this goes, I told her on numerous occassions that I need time and space form u. And everytime we met up after these breaks she is just the same. the last time we met - she told me when we were together that she was writing alot of poetry, but that she never showed it to me, and since we have split up she hasnt been able to write any. once again I ask what do u wnat from me? again she says friendship.
by this point I ve had enough, and i have told her, look you need to sort it out. i'm doing my thing, i need to a long break from you, so have decided on a year away from her. what do you think, help would be appreciated, she still means alot to me and i would liek to be able to hand with her without this back and forth thing. any suggestions?
I have recentaly met this cancerian woman. she has been in a long term relationship, but it ended. when we met she hit on me (i'm a woman) her relationship was with a man.
One thing led to another, and before long we were seeing each other frequently. Anyway at some point something happned and I ended it. Since then we decided that we would be friends.
However, every time we would meet, she would hit on me again and again. Once we were at a party, and I respected the whole friends thing. I was talking to this guy and gave him a hug, later that evening I touched her arm as we were leaving and she said don't touch me, everyone said that you and that guy were kissing. I was totally alarmed by this, simce i'm not into guys, and I reasssured her that I didnt kiss him, then she was fine.
The following day I was thinking - but we are not together, why am I justifying myself to her, moreover why is she getting possesive. Anyway, everytime we met after our break up she hits on me. I get annoyed with this, and ask her what she wants from me - she says friendship. I tell her none of my friends act like you do towards me - are u telling me you want to be with me or something? she denied it.
I'm not one to stay in a none productive relationship and have made this clear to her time and time again. On and on this goes, I told her on numerous occassions that I need time and space form u. And everytime we met up after these breaks she is just the same. the last time we met - she told me when we were together that she was writing alot of poetry, but that she never showed it to me, and since we have split up she hasnt been able to write any. once again I ask what do u wnat from me? again she says friendship.
by this point I ve had enough, and i have told her, look you need to sort it out. i'm doing my thing, i need to a long break from you, so have decided on a year away from her. what do you think, help would be appreciated, she still means alot to me and i would liek to be able to hand with her without this back and forth thing. any suggestions?
Love conquers all..
any cancer ladies out there who could help???
yea i'm a virgo,
but the reason i ended it was because, she decided to to do something with a guy whilst with me, she told me she did. but it wasnt the same. and i can understand to a certian degree, its not easy to come to terms with feelings about being with a woman, when u have only been with men. but i dont want to confuse her, so i am more cold towards her, so its easier for her to not have me as a confusion.
I asked her if what do u want from me? and she says friendship - that hurts me. but i accept it. but then she hits on me again, and that hurts also - confuses me.
but the reason i ended it was because, she decided to to do something with a guy whilst with me, she told me she did. but it wasnt the same. and i can understand to a certian degree, its not easy to come to terms with feelings about being with a woman, when u have only been with men. but i dont want to confuse her, so i am more cold towards her, so its easier for her to not have me as a confusion.
I asked her if what do u want from me? and she says friendship - that hurts me. but i accept it. but then she hits on me again, and that hurts also - confuses me.
Oh I have sat down with her and discussed it many times, i'm not afraid of my feelings and even expressing them. As for others business well thats exactly what it is others business, unless an opinion is asked. she - like starts talking about how she had a dream of me and wasn't gonna say anything incase i thought she was weird.
i dunno about the victim thing - i'm certainly not a victim, I wouldnt belittle myself, you act a victim u will always be a victim, not my thing. I dunno what it is with this girl, she says stuff like: i never felt like the way i feel about u with my ex and i was with him for 6yrs, and we have only been togethr such a short time.
i dunno about the victim thing - i'm certainly not a victim, I wouldnt belittle myself, you act a victim u will always be a victim, not my thing. I dunno what it is with this girl, she says stuff like: i never felt like the way i feel about u with my ex and i was with him for 6yrs, and we have only been togethr such a short time.
I have been up front with her, and tolde her that i'm not gonna be anyones bit on the side. i even told her about my new girl - she got all weird about it. I mean i accept her being with guys. i'm not desperate, and i have moved on. she is strange - i mean she even said that if she saw me with another girl she would try to break it up. what does she want from me?
i accept friendship - and that is exactly how i treat her as a friend, but then she hits on me(way more than flirting,more physical contact). then when i say look, what are u doing? - she gets all weird, and says i'm not answering the question. then she gets all weird and says that i hurt her with my words - whatever, that wouldnt even be an issue if she didnt cross the line time and time again.
i accept friendship - and that is exactly how i treat her as a friend, but then she hits on me(way more than flirting,more physical contact). then when i say look, what are u doing? - she gets all weird, and says i'm not answering the question. then she gets all weird and says that i hurt her with my words - whatever, that wouldnt even be an issue if she didnt cross the line time and time again.
OK, a bit heated here. I AM WITH SOMEONE ELSE!!!! as for keeping an eye on her, no. its called hooking up every now and then. you dnt do that with ur ex's?
I have seriously had to reconsider this one - thats why i have told her please dont contact me - when u get ur head sorted drop me a line, but for now i would prefer that u dnt see u for a year. she gotta respect me - and my new life. i just want to find a way to be friends with her - without her hitting on me.
I have seriously had to reconsider this one - thats why i have told her please dont contact me - when u get ur head sorted drop me a line, but for now i would prefer that u dnt see u for a year. she gotta respect me - and my new life. i just want to find a way to be friends with her - without her hitting on me.
oh i have been very mean - i'm sure ur familar with a virgo when we are pissed off. so much so that i guess she got the message i hope so anyway. i mean i told her to f-off last time and that i dnt wanna see her anymre, and she is like calling me a few days later saying i know u told me to f-off, but it aint right blah blah blah.
This time i have been real hard on her. no response so far so hopefully things are going good. just incase i would like a contingency, cos cancerians just cling and cling
This time i have been real hard on her. no response so far so hopefully things are going good. just incase i would like a contingency, cos cancerians just cling and cling
Branh - ur cold that for sure. no u dont hook up with ex's. whatever dude, just cos someone hooks up with an ex doesnt mean its a sexual thing. but u truely got sex on the city on ur mind, perhaps u spend too much time in front of the box.
as for saying stupid, u should read some of your responses, they are actually stupid. Ur a virgo man - and ur giving advice on a cancerian woman. mmmm stupid, your too left brain in ur thinking. your have narrow mindset, i'm actually surprised that you manage to type without accusing urself of being stupid because ur typing the wrong words.
as for games, right like everyone resorts to shallow *mind* games, not everyone is mentally retarted - unlike urself who is well versed and practiced in ignorant mental self centeredness...
as for saying stupid, u should read some of your responses, they are actually stupid. Ur a virgo man - and ur giving advice on a cancerian woman. mmmm stupid, your too left brain in ur thinking. your have narrow mindset, i'm actually surprised that you manage to type without accusing urself of being stupid because ur typing the wrong words.
as for games, right like everyone resorts to shallow *mind* games, not everyone is mentally retarted - unlike urself who is well versed and practiced in ignorant mental self centeredness...
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