Cancer woman dating Capricorn man

This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by Lestoyloy on Wednesday, March 29, 2017 and has 13 replies.
I started talking to a cap man. We went to high school together but wasn't friends then. We reconnected on facebook recently, last Wednesday and instant attraction. He states he always had a crush on me but just assumed I wasn't interested in him. So Wednesday and Thursday we literally spent the whole day talking on the phone about everything and laughing so hard. It was like we are soulmates. Now I live in Florida he lives in Texas. He travels for work and has a child in Florida so he frequently is in town. On Wednesday he already made plans for our first date. He has a house in Texas in which he lives with his dad and his daughter. So Friday came we didn't talk but he text me in the afternoon saying he just left his accountant office and it was a long day for him in which I just wrote back I agreed. So I called him later now with no reply. I text him good morning on Saturday with no reply. On Sunday I didn't text him or call him. On Monday I text him saying that we both agreed we wouldn't assume anymore so I'm asking what's going on. I got no reply. This morning I woke up and had a message on facebook stating that on Friday his dad fell down the stairs, he's in his 70s, and it's been a lot going on with him but he is not ignoring me. So I replied back I hope everything is okay with him. In which I got no response. What's the deal with this cappy? I mean I don't know what to do at this point. I feel as I was just about to get over this heartache he comes back slightly. Am I being played?
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His dad is hurt, probably worrying him a lot, he told you what had happened and probably appreciated your kind reply.

Im sure he will get back to you when he feels his dad is well enough xx
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I agree gob. I know us cancer can be clingy but I'm a busy woman myself. Being a single mom working full time and going back to school I really don't have a lot of time to be clingy. I can even respect the time he spends on the road for work and even living in a different state. However I feel that the last message he sent about his dad could've came on Saturday instead of Wednesday morning, simple respect goes a long way. I do agree poppy and brandy that his dad is hurt. I can definitely respect that. If it was my mom I wouldn't be worried about him either but I would be respectful in answering at least a phone call or text message. We shall see how it goes. Thank you all for your response.
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So he text me this morning because I guess he realized that I deleted him on facebook, didn't want to go in my obsession mode. He wrote "U deleted me? ? I hope u weren't upset, I really got a lot goin on. I didn't expect for this to happen. Don't be mad, I'm going to make it up to u promise." My reply was " I did delete you because I was a little hurt. But can't be upset because now I know what happened. Just wish you would have told me a little sooner and not have me here with my mind wondering." So his last response was "I told u I would never disrespect u...we just really start back talking, I'm not about to bombard you with craziness. Don't be upset, plz I'll make it up promise". Then some smiley faces and kisses.

Can't lie my wall is back up and This crab has retreated back in here shell. But a little bit of security was all I needed. And he seemed genuine so I just have to wait and see
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So he text me this morning because I guess he realized that I deleted him on facebook, didn't want to go in my obsession mode. He wrote "U deleted me? ? I hope u weren't upset, I really got a lot goin on. I didn't expect for this to happen. Don't be mad, I'm going to make it up to u promise." My reply was " I did delete you because I was a little hurt. But can't be upset because now I know what happened. Just wish you would have told me a little sooner and not have me here with my mind wondering." So his last response was "I told u I would never disrespect u...we just really start back talking, I'm not about to bombard you with craziness. Don't be upset, plz I'll make it up promise". Then some smiley faces and kisses.

Can't lie my wall is back up and This crab has retreated back in here shell. But a little bit of security was all I needed. And he seemed genuine so I just have to wait and see
I understand you when you say you would like common courtesy from him, just to let you know what's going on so you're not left in the dark.. I tell my cap this. He doesn't like to burden me with his stress.. I get that but I tell him he's never a burden.. He's gotten better with it but he still goes quiet at times. Their focus is usually on 1 thing at a time.. and unfortunately you aren't top priority at the moment. When there is a lot on their plate, especially when it involves family, they have their way of shutting off the world. It's not intentional to you.. & they will eventually tell you they aren't ignoring you purposely.. (like your cap did) It's just how they are.. I tell my cap that I'm here for him then give him breathing room, and he appreciates it... I also make it clear that I don't want him to shut me out when he's stressed.. that I'm here for him for the good and the bad parts of our relationship.. Life gets hard but that's why we're together; to be each others backbone when shit gets too unbearable to handle on our own. In my time, of being with him, they don't really like "help".. they have a "can do" attitude that whatever they put their mind to, and invest their time in.. they will & can achieve it alone. lol.. Okay. Caps are generally very slow paced and aloof.

If he's telling you, he's not going to disrespect you, or hurt you, believe him. It's hard to understand cap men, but I will tell you 1 things for sure, 2 things for certain, they are honest, and if you ask, you will get your answers.. the hard truth sometimes.. but they will never steer you wrong.

That being said..

Give him space for a bit.. he needs to be there for his dad.. He will be back for you if you truly mean something to him.
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So he text me this morning because I guess he realized that I deleted him on facebook, didn't want to go in my obsession mode. He wrote "U deleted me? ? I hope u weren't upset, I really got a lot goin on. I didn't expect for this to happen. Don't be mad, I'm going to make it up to u promise." My reply was " I did delete you because I was a little hurt. But can't be upset because now I know what happened. Just wish you would have told me a little sooner and not have me here with my mind wondering." So his last response was "I told u I would never disrespect u...we just really start back talking, I'm not about to bombard you with craziness. Don't be upset, plz I'll make it up promise". Then some smiley faces and kisses.

Can't lie my wall is back up and This crab has retreated back in here shell. But a little bit of security was all I needed. And he seemed genuine so I just have to wait and see


So you delete him & he can respond within a 24 hour period, yet he couldn't over last weekend? It that seems ok to you?

Good luck. Hope things work out for the best with you 2.

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Well I've been deleted him he just realized I did

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Posted by Lestoyloy
So he text me this morning because I guess he realized that I deleted him on facebook, didn't want to go in my obsession mode. He wrote "U deleted me? ? I hope u weren't upset, I really got a lot goin on. I didn't expect for this to happen. Don't be mad, I'm going to make it up to u promise." My reply was " I did delete you because I was a little hurt. But can't be upset because now I know what happened. Just wish you would have told me a little sooner and not have me here with my mind wondering." So his last response was "I told u I would never disrespect u...we just really start back talking, I'm not about to bombard you with craziness. Don't be upset, plz I'll make it up promise". Then some smiley faces and kisses.

Can't lie my wall is back up and This crab has retreated back in here shell. But a little bit of security was all I needed. And he seemed genuine so I just have to wait and see
I understand you when you say you would like common courtesy from him, just to let you know what's going on so you're not left in the dark.. I tell my cap this. He doesn't like to burden me with his stress.. I get that but I tell him he's never a burden.. He's gotten better with it but he still goes quiet at times. Their focus is usually on 1 thing at a time.. and unfortunately you aren't top priority at the moment. When there is a lot on their plate, especially when it involves family, they have their way of shutting off the world. It's not intentional to you.. & they will eventually tell you they aren't ignoring you purposely.. (like your cap did) It's just how they are.. I tell my cap that I'm here for him then give him breathing room, and he appreciates it... I also make it clear that I don't want him to shut me out when he's stressed.. that I'm here for him for the good and the bad parts of our relationship.. Life gets hard but that's why we're together; to be each others backbone when shit gets too unbearable to handle on his own. They Caps are generally very slow paced and aloof though. BUT, If he's telling you, he's not going to disrespect you, or hurt you, believe him. It's hard to understand cap men, but I will tell you 1 things for sure, 2 things for certain, they are honest, and if you ask, you will get your answers.. the hard truth sometimes.. but they will never steer you wrong.

That being said..

Give him space for a bit.. he needs to be there for his dad.. He will be back for you if you truly mean something to him.
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Thank you. I honestly believe him and willing to give him space. Truth be told, I agree with him. We just started talking and getting to know each other and typically if a man this early started talking to me about drama I would be turned off. Don't think with him I would but nevertheless I typically would. I'm 35 and my life is completely drama free and boring and love that
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So he text me this morning because I guess he realized that I deleted him on facebook, didn't want to go in my obsession mode. He wrote "U deleted me? ? I hope u weren't upset, I really got a lot goin on. I didn't expect for this to happen. Don't be mad, I'm going to make it up to u promise." My reply was " I did delete you because I was a little hurt. But can't be upset because now I know what happened. Just wish you would have told me a little sooner and not have me here with my mind wondering." So his last response was "I told u I would never disrespect u...we just really start back talking, I'm not about to bombard you with craziness. Don't be upset, plz I'll make it up promise". Then some smiley faces and kisses.

Can't lie my wall is back up and This crab has retreated back in here shell. But a little bit of security was all I needed. And he seemed genuine so I just have to wait and see


So you delete him & he can respond within a 24 hour period, yet he couldn't over last weekend? It that seems ok to you?

Good luck. Hope things work out for the best with you 2.

Well I've been deleted him he just realized I did



How was he able to message you?

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You can message someone without being friends with them on facebook. I didn't block him just unfriended him
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Posted by Lestoyloy
So he text me this morning because I guess he realized that I deleted him on facebook, didn't want to go in my obsession mode. He wrote "U deleted me? ? I hope u weren't upset, I really got a lot goin on. I didn't expect for this to happen. Don't be mad, I'm going to make it up to u promise." My reply was " I did delete you because I was a little hurt. But can't be upset because now I know what happened. Just wish you would have told me a little sooner and not have me here with my mind wondering." So his last response was "I told u I would never disrespect u...we just really start back talking, I'm not about to bombard you with craziness. Don't be upset, plz I'll make it up promise". Then some smiley faces and kisses.

Can't lie my wall is back up and This crab has retreated back in here shell. But a little bit of security was all I needed. And he seemed genuine so I just have to wait and see
I understand you when you say you would like common courtesy from him, just to let you know what's going on so you're not left in the dark.. I tell my cap this. He doesn't like to burden me with his stress.. I get that but I tell him he's never a burden.. He's gotten better with it but he still goes quiet at times. Their focus is usually on 1 thing at a time.. and unfortunately you aren't top priority at the moment. When there is a lot on their plate, especially when it involves family, they have their way of shutting off the world. It's not intentional to you.. & they will eventually tell you they aren't ignoring you purposely.. (like your cap did) It's just how they are.. I tell my cap that I'm here for him then give him breathing room, and he appreciates it... I also make it clear that I don't want him to shut me out when he's stressed.. that I'm here for him for the good and the bad parts of our relationship.. Life gets hard but that's why we're together; to be each others backbone when shit gets too unbearable to handle on his own. They Caps are generally very slow paced and aloof though. BUT, If he's telling you, he's not going to disrespect you, or hurt you, believe him. It's hard to understand cap men, but I will tell you 1 things for sure, 2 things for certain, they are honest, and if you ask, you will get your answers.. the hard truth sometimes.. but they will never steer you wrong.

That being said..

Give him space for a bit.. he needs to be there for his dad.. He will be back for you if you truly mean something to him.
Thank you. I honestly believe him and willing to give him space. Truth be told, I agree with him. We just started talking and getting to know each other and typically if a man this early started talking to me about drama I would be turned off. Don't think with him I would but nevertheless I typically would. I'm 35 and my life is completely drama free and boring and love that
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Understandable.. They keep the "drama" at bay in general. Caps def don't like drama. Or craziness.. that's for sure! lol. I've learned my cappies ways over the span of getting to know him.. . You have to have a lot of patience & understanding with these men. & trust.

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So he text me this morning because I guess he realized that I deleted him on facebook, didn't want to go in my obsession mode. He wrote "U deleted me? ? I hope u weren't upset, I really got a lot goin on. I didn't expect for this to happen. Don't be mad, I'm going to make it up to u promise." My reply was " I did delete you because I was a little hurt. But can't be upset because now I know what happened. Just wish you would have told me a little sooner and not have me here with my mind wondering." So his last response was "I told u I would never disrespect u...we just really start back talking, I'm not about to bombard you with craziness. Don't be upset, plz I'll make it up promise". Then some smiley faces and kisses.

Can't lie my wall is back up and This crab has retreated back in here shell. But a little bit of security was all I needed. And he seemed genuine so I just have to wait and see


So you delete him & he can respond within a 24 hour period, yet he couldn't over last weekend? It that seems ok to you?

Good luck. Hope things work out for the best with you 2.

Well I've been deleted him he just realized I did



How was he able to message you?



You can message someone without being friends with them on facebook. I didn't block him just unfriended him


My point was you don't think he realized he was unfriended when he messaged you?

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No probably not cause facebook messenger is a complete different app than facebook. I go into messenger and click on his name from the last message, and it only shows if the person is currently online or not. It doesn't tell you whether you are still friends or not
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This is funny, I just reconnected with an old Cap male friend on facebook.

He reveal he had a huge crush on me then and wants to start dating me.

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This is funny, I just reconnected with an old Cap male friend on facebook.

He reveal he had a huge crush on me then and wants to start dating me.

Must be a thing with cap men and facebook. Well I hope it's not the same man lol
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This is funny, I just reconnected with an old Cap male friend on facebook.

He reveal he had a huge crush on me then and wants to start dating me.

Must be a thing with cap men and facebook. Well I hope it's not the same man lol
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I'm not into him so have at it, if it is him.Laughing

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