Do caps chase when you don't?
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Do caps chase when you don't respond to them much or avoid them, I've noticed that. That if you don't spend enough time with them & you're out doing your own thing that's when they want to give you attention. But when you want to give them attention, they run. I live with him btw.
I read this as 'do cops chase when you don't?' which would have been a much more interesting and relevant thread.
Some people don't like to feel tied down or smothered so they only show interest when they have enough space. Don't think that's a sign-related thing and it's also probably not a good thing for relationships.
Some people don't like to feel tied down or smothered so they only show interest when they have enough space. Don't think that's a sign-related thing and it's also probably not a good thing for relationships.
But I barely smother him. He's usually at work most of the day. I try to give him space but the minute I want to spend time with him he thinks I'm too demanding or clingy.
Help me give him space! I live with him.
That doesn't sound like a Cap thing, to be honest. Does he have a venus/mars sign in an air sign or fire sign?
His Venus is a Scorpio and his Mars is a Pisces
I'm a cap with mars in pisces and venus in sag square pluto. It's possible that he may chase you if you just cut you some slack, but you asking this question makes me wonder if you don't have a nagging feeling that you are smothering him anyway, in some way. And also, you say I barely smother him, not I don't smother him, so maybe leave him alone more day-to-day, but if you feel insecure...then talk to him.
Posted by HappyCapper
I'm a cap with mars in pisces and venus in sag square pluto. It's possible that he may chase you if you just cut you some slack, but you asking this question makes me wonder if you don't have a nagging feeling that you are smothering him anyway, in some way. And also, you say I barely smother him, not I don't smother him, so maybe leave him alone more day-to-day, but if you feel insecure...then talk to him.
*if you just cut him some slack
What do you mean French?
Posted by FrenchKpricornPosted by HellothereAriesx3
What do you mean French?
show him that you are the boss, if you are trynin to play the victim or the girl who need attention, the cruel mode gonna automatically start,click to expand
I'm with you on independent, but "the boss"? I'm not so sure. You really think so?
And how do you ignore a person while being their boss at the same time?
He's doesn't like the boss idea. He needs to be that apparently. He has power struggle issues. So I guess ignore him, not be there when he's there since he thinks I'm up his ass, & going out to do my own thing with out him right?
But what if he gets used to it
Posted by HellothereAriesx3
He's doesn't like the boss idea. He needs to be that apparently. He has power struggle issues. So I guess ignore him, not be there when he's there since he thinks I'm up his ass, & going out to do my own thing with out him right?
That's what I would have done...unless you think it's veeery serious and you need to point blank talk to him about your relationship. I mean, how long are you going to put up with walking on egg shells around him? A week? A month? Five years? 20? Are you fine with that? You are 50% of this relationship and you have issues too, apparently, and if those issues are things you can not live with, then you need to talk to him. Imo.
My 18 year old son, a freshman in college, is an aries and always up my butt. He gets jealous of my griends. He wants to know where I am all the time. He won't let me watch a movie because he talks all through it. If I don't answer my phone, he calls every 5 minutes until I do.
Smothering.
Smothering.
*friends*
Posted by HellothereAriesx3
Help me give him space! I live with him.
Didn't we have this conversation a while back?
Posted by HellothereAriesx3
But I barely smother him. He's usually at work most of the day. I try to give him space but the minute I want to spend time with him he thinks I'm too demanding or clingy.
Work is not space.
Caps need alone time to recharge. There are times we don't want to see anyone. Don't want to talk to anyone. Don't want to look at anyone. I love having the house to myself sometimes.
Posted by HellothereAriesx3
But what if he gets used to it
Insecurity. That's why he feels smotheted.
Posted by HellothereAriesx3
the minute I want to spend time with him he thinks I'm too demanding or clingy.
When Aries wants it, they want it NOW.
Give him time to come in the house, change clothes, have a drink, watch a little TV in peace and quiet. Let him do this. Let him unwind and shake off the stress of the work day. Then, he will be recharged and more willing to give you some attention.
His moon is s Capricorn.
Thank you all for your posts. I don't feel alone. I just left everything behind to start my life with him too in a mother state. I don't know anybody, I don't have any friends here. I'm I like the boondocks. Nothing around here. I'm isolated. Gave up my apartment, and school for him. I'm just a mess because of all this.
Thank you all for your posts. I don't feel alone. I just left everything behind to start my life with him too in a mother state. I don't know anybody, I don't have any friends here. I'm I like the boondocks. Nothing around here. I'm isolated. Gave up my apartment, and school for him. I'm just a mess because of all this.
Posted by FrenchKpricornPosted by HappyCapper
And how do you ignore a person while being their boss at the same time?
i dont know lol, he's guy he's a capricorn sun moon cap like me, i've been with an aries and sometimes i admit pressuring her :p, but she wasnt scared or sad, she insult me back, and i was pretty happy about it she wasnt scared of losing me, because she know that i was her property, thats why she could do this, so i liked her more when we were fighting, but op, is scared when they are fighting, so its mean she dont trust her capricorns, thats why he dont careclick to expand
Yup. I see what you mean.
Posted by HellothereAriesx3
His moon is s Capricorn.
Thank you all for your posts. I don't feel alone. I just left everything behind to start my life with him too in a mother state. I don't know anybody, I don't have any friends here. I'm I like the boondocks. Nothing around here. I'm isolated. Gave up my apartment, and school for him. I'm just a mess because of all this.
That was your choice and nothing you can put on him, imo...if that's what you meant. For how long have you been living together?
Posted by ScorpiosHarmony
If you have to be this tactful with someone who supposedly chose to be in a relationship and live with you, perhaps there are deeper issues of compatibility...
Look closer
Exactly.
Posted by HellothereAriesx3
His moon is s Capricorn.
Thank you all for your posts. I don't feel alone. I just left everything behind to start my life with him too in a mother state. I don't know anybody, I don't have any friends here. I'm I like the boondocks. Nothing around here. I'm isolated. Gave up my apartment, and school for him. I'm just a mess because of all this.
I'm really starting to feel your clinginess.
Do you not work?
Get a job, go to church, find a hobby, take a class...do something besides sit and wait on him. Get out there and make some friends.
Not sure what you consider boondocks, ( I'm sure we have two different definitions), but I highly doubt there isn't anything to do there or within 30 minutes.
Posted by FrenchKpricornPosted by HappyCapper
And how do you ignore a person while being their boss at the same time?
i dont know lol, he's guy he's a capricorn sun moon cap like me, i've been with an aries and sometimes i admit pressuring her :p, but she wasnt scared or sad, she insult me back, and i was pretty happy about it she wasnt scared of losing me, because she know that i was her property, thats why she could do this, so i liked her more when we were fighting, but op, is scared when they are fighting, so its mean she dont trust her capricorns, thats why he dont careclick to expand
And if she's not standing up for herself, he will lose respect for her.
Thanks for calling my clingy truecap
If I give him space to go out with his friends without texting or calling him & when he comes home I don't sit around with him how is that clingy?
& I have stood up for myself but it's considered "bitching@ to him
No I mean I don't text or call him when he goes out I give enough space but you're right french. But I don't he care enough to notice.
Posted by HellothereAriesx3
Do caps chase when you don't respond to them much or avoid them, I've noticed that. That if you don't spend enough time with them & you're out doing your own thing that's when they want to give you attention. But when you want to give them attention, they run. I live with him btw.
Yes a Cap will do this...I caution with this statement b/c not all Caps are the same but there are a certain breed of Caps that behave this way.
It's very weird behavior (least I think it's weird) but some Caps can do all the good boyfriend stuff like being attentive, moving the relationship forward and at the same time have this way of running in the opposite direction in the relationship all the while moving the relationship forward.
If you're not the selfish type of woman that needs her space and is stingy with her time this can be very difficult to handle.
Just know throughout this relationship this pattern will persist. Although he's living with you ie moving things forward with you there could be this underlying fear of commitment and boredom that plagues him mentally and emotionally.
Chasing a woman is exhilarating and exciting but some men don't really KNOW how to behave once they've got her.
Chasing can make a man feel deeply attached to his female target, he'll equate those feelings with falling in love. He's chasing to most likely stave off feeling bored and caught which can make a man feel as if he's falling out of love with you so let him chase all he wants and you lean back and enjoy.
Just know you'll have to stay busy and you'll have to make your time with friends, work school/college, hobbies MORE of a priority b/c the less available you appear to be the more he'll feel comfortable chasing you, let him.
When you feel the urge to give him attention go and find something else to do, it's annoying that you can't give him attention without him running but you picked him, he's yours and you'll have to deal with it in your own way.
Posted by HellothereAriesx3
& I have stood up for myself but it's considered "bitching@ to him
Seems you're just different. Question is: can you live with it? Can he live with your "clingyness? (I am calling it clingyness because that's what he seems to think. It may not be clingy from your pov, but...) Can you live with denying your personality and walk on egg shells around him for the rest of your life?
Posted by HellothereAriesx3
His moon is s Capricorn.
Thank you all for your posts. I don't feel alone. I just left everything behind to start my life with him too in a mother state. I don't know anybody, I don't have any friends here. I'm I like the boondocks. Nothing around here. I'm isolated. Gave up my apartment, and school for him. I'm just a mess because of all this.
Go out and meet people, there has to be a social network of some sort where people meet up, Google meet up (insert your city) and see what comes up. Even if you live in the boondocks there should be a city nearby that you can venture to
Join the gym and make it a point to socialize, do some volunteer work, get another job, sign up for dance classes, anything that requires you to be social then do it.
There could be imbalance building up between the 2 of you and because you left your whole life behind to be with him he's feeling the invisible pressure of being your whole life and he's bucking up against that because he still has his whole life intact, he has friends, work, hobbies etc and he's most likely feeling a plethora of emotions about you being there without a support system.
Go out and start creating your own life outside of the relationship and maybe this imbalance will subside. Being an Aries "fire" meeting people should be your strong point.
meetup (insert city)
Thank you tiki, I think you're right. I'll try. I live in the armpit of West Virginia. I'm going to have go out & enplore. Would it be wished for the other person if I tried talking to them to be friends or would it look desperate? I think I can always start out with I just moved here.
Thank you for giving me those great ideas
I believe your theory of just laying back & watching is a good one.
Thank you for giving me those great ideas
I believe your theory of just laying back & watching is a good one.
Lol you're funny French 😄
Don't people 30 & up go to those meet ups?
That's ^^ what I was trying tosay.
Posted by truecap
That's ^^ what I was trying tosay.
That was regarding Tiki's comment
Posted by HellothereAriesx3
Don't people 30 & up go to those meet ups?
I'm sure there are people that are 30 and up that attend these meetups. A friend of mine used to go to a lot of meet up events and eventually met the man she's currently dating but she wasn't looking for a boyfriend though, that was just an added perk.
I'm 23, I need to find people my age though!
Do you know his Moon sign? With Sun in Aries and Moon in Scorpio, you're a very Mars dominated person.
He has Sun in Capricorn which is ruled by Saturn. Mars - Saturn don't make a great combination in general.
Mars is young, virile and represents all things masculine and impulsive. OTOH, Saturn is ancient, cautious, cruel and cunning - Saturn dominated people are simply not impulsive. Saturn is also represented as sexless. So when Mars and Saturn come together it can be very unpleasant.
The only real saving grace is if he has a Moon sign that is somehow compatible with you.
He has Sun in Capricorn which is ruled by Saturn. Mars - Saturn don't make a great combination in general.
Mars is young, virile and represents all things masculine and impulsive. OTOH, Saturn is ancient, cautious, cruel and cunning - Saturn dominated people are simply not impulsive. Saturn is also represented as sexless. So when Mars and Saturn come together it can be very unpleasant.
The only real saving grace is if he has a Moon sign that is somehow compatible with you.
Posted by incandescentcancer
Do you know his Moon sign? With Sun in Aries and Moon in Scorpio, you're a very Mars dominated person.
He has Sun in Capricorn which is ruled by Saturn. Mars - Saturn don't make a great combination in general.
Mars is young, virile and represents all things masculine and impulsive. OTOH, Saturn is ancient, cautious, cruel and cunning - Saturn dominated people are simply not impulsive. Saturn is also represented as sexless. So when Mars and Saturn come together it can be very unpleasant.
The only real saving grace is if he has a Moon sign that is somehow compatible with you.
very good post!!
i've noticed that little detail too.
even wth mars/venus.
mars = mars is good together. mars/sun ect.
as stated in astrology.
which is why venus- venus.
they can still have libra or taurus in personal planets, ie. sun there, ect but if their other personal aspects/dominants /planets are in venusians energy it will work out wonderfully
that's why i see alot of libra dominant couples, or martian dominant couples.
like my close relatives who have taurus moons are with libra suns, and their personal planets are matching too.
it's a tiny detail but very good.
you gave up school and left everything behind to start your life with him?
now if you are already financially and emotionally independent, that's romantic. but it sounds like you are not. you are now completely depending on him and you are insolated. BAD MOVE
now if you are already financially and emotionally independent, that's romantic. but it sounds like you are not. you are now completely depending on him and you are insolated. BAD MOVE
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by incandescentcancer
Do you know his Moon sign? With Sun in Aries and Moon in Scorpio, you're a very Mars dominated person.
He has Sun in Capricorn which is ruled by Saturn. Mars - Saturn don't make a great combination in general.
Mars is young, virile and represents all things masculine and impulsive. OTOH, Saturn is ancient, cautious, cruel and cunning - Saturn dominated people are simply not impulsive. Saturn is also represented as sexless. So when Mars and Saturn come together it can be very unpleasant.
The only real saving grace is if he has a Moon sign that is somehow compatible with you.
very good post!!
i've noticed that little detail too.
even wth mars/venus.
mars = mars is good together. mars/sun ect.
as stated in astrology.
which is why venus- venus.
they can still have libra or taurus in personal planets, ie. sun there, ect but if their other personal aspects/dominants /planets are in venusians energy it will work out wonderfully
that's why i see alot of libra dominant couples, or martian dominant couples.
like my close relatives who have taurus moons are with libra suns, and their personal planets are matching too.
it's a tiny detail but very good.click to expand
The planetary grouping as per ancient texts are as follows: Moon, Jupiter, Venus and Mercury (the benefics) and on the other side Sun, Saturn, Mars, the north and south node (the malefics).
You have to look at who rules your Sun and Moon - the sun is how the world perceives you and the moon is your true self. Your challenge in this world is to find congruence and balance between those two sides.
Saturn and Mars are the most cruel of the malefics - both harsh and brutal in their approach to life. Mars the commander of the army of the Gods - the most courageous and virile the one who will battle for you and for what is just. Saturn, the old master, the lord of time (called Chronos in Greek mythology) - cruel, master of strategy and the lord of justice. Saturn believes in changing life through painful and brutal lessons with more pain being felt with more resistance. Saturn dominated people look aged when they are young and literally grow younger and more powerful as they age. These two planets are not compatible.
Other incompatibilities - Jupiter and Venus, Moon and Saturn, Sun and Saturn, Mercury and Mars, the nodes and the luminaries.
They are attractive to women who has things going on so when your are busy then they will start to pursue you!
Short answer...yes. Ignore a Cap man and eventually it will bug the hell out of him. He thinks he's top quality and whether or not he really wants you, once you show interest...he will think that you should ALWAYS want him.
Don't be surprised if you ignore him and he waits until he's made a major purchase or gotten a sizeable increase in income before he contacts you again.
Don't be surprised if you ignore him and he waits until he's made a major purchase or gotten a sizeable increase in income before he contacts you again.
Posted by FrenchKpricornPosted by MsTeeq1974
Short answer...yes. Ignore a Cap man and eventually it will bug the hell out of him. He thinks he's top quality and whether or not he really wants you, once you show interest...he will think that you should ALWAYS want him.
Don't be surprised if you ignore him and he waits until he's made a major purchase or gotten a sizeable increase in income before he contacts you again.
WTF WE ARE TOP QUALITY, #CAVIAR #TROLL #KANYE2020click to expand
LMBO!!! Hey FrenchKpricorn...if I upset you, do you promise not to speak to me until you receive a sizeable income increase? Then straight away, I should be the FIRST person you reach out to. MmmmKaaayyyyyy. Lol ha ha ha
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Posted by FrenchKpricornPosted by HellothereAriesx3
What do you mean French?
show him that you are the boss, if you are trynin to play the victim or the girl who need attention, the cruel mode gonna automatically start,click to expand
Ooooo! Someone explain more about this to me.
Posted by littlemegabytePosted by FrenchKpricornPosted by littlemegabyte
Yes. The cap I was involved with would fall off the face of the earth if I wanted to be near him and wanted his attention, but whenever I tell him to fuck off, he was like a horny dog, and being all aggressive and shit lmao.
stop being mean to capricorn men or you'll finish married to one of us
Yea because y'all don't like being treated nicely! You're treated nicely and then you disappear for months! Then when I sincerely want y'all to fuck off, there you always are ! Lolclick to expand
I don't agree with this. My cappie loves to be pampered. And to pamper.We are very kind to each other. But we trust that each will give the space when it's due, so I think it allows us to be that way. I can instinctively feel if either of us tried any games or mistreatment the other would leave very quickly.
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