Ex Cappy Man - WTF...

This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by neatsta on Tuesday, October 29, 2013 and has 3 replies.
Apart from a long list of weird and random things going on this week with regard to ex's...
I innocently made contact with a cappy ex a few weeks ago, as he messaged me months ago and I noticed I never replied when I was cleaning out my phone. We had NC for a good year, other than this random message he sent me months ago.
He had LOTS of issues when things ended, and he started dating this female friend of his after me (it was a bit of a rebound thing for him I reckon, as she was chasing him pretty hard the whole time we were together). Anyway, it turns out she broke up with him a few weeks ago (which I genuinely had no idea about) and so he has reappeared a bit actively in my life again, for a reason yet to be determined.
He has been super keen to catch up - and he has been instigating catching up in person. There has been some dirty/flirty messages, which makes me think he is looking for a hook-up, yet he knows I'm not that girl and wouldn't entertain that in the slightest, and denied it when I called him out on it.
I always thought when cappy's were done with you, that was it - game over, see ya later. Any ideas why one would resurface, if it isn't to hook-up? It's more than just a "friend" resurfacing thing, as he knows I don't remain active friends with my exes.
Part of me thinks I'm being used (which I don't like, and would like to put a stop to), and part thinks he might have realised what he lost (he said this other chick was everything I wasn't and I gathered he didn't respect her much).
I'm thinking I need to call him out on it and just ask wtf is going on? Any thoughts?
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Posted by CluelessCancer
Yet she broke up with him, he didn't leave her.
I'd be careful.


He broke up with me, which is why I was surprised by the resurface. And I gathered she broke up with him, but he wasn't 100% happy with the relationship. He said he got a taste of his own medicine, which "put things into perspective" for him - I can't see how he wouldn't be rebounding though.
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Posted by Chance15
sounds fishy..he might be using you for a rebound..'any port in a storm' was the phrase that came to mind. he didn't respect the other girl that he (possibly?) broke up with you for..it doesn't follow that he respects you much less deserves yours. just my take
i guess it's possible that it put things in perspective for him..if it were me, i would just slow play it until he either demonstrates it or loses his patience and reveals himself for what you've hinted at.


Yeah. Something is definitely fishy about it. If it wasn't for his recent singledom, I would say hands down he was looking to reignite something. I've replied to his contact (so if he is thinking that he knows I'm open to it), but I have not initiated contact/meetups/etc. I am actively in the dating pool, which I have told him as I'm not the girl that will wait around for you to muck me around.
We always had an insane connection, and I guess I'm thinking if he is wanting to get back together I would be open to the discussion, but I would rather not be messed around by him on some random ego trip. He is worth the benefit of the doubt, but he really needs to take action to remove the doubts.
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