IS HE ANNOYED AT ME?? OR IS HE JOKING?

this is about a guy who i know for a fact likes me..

he called me a couple of days back.. i was out and coming home late from work so i missed his call, i then messaged him saying sorry i can't speak right now i'm out and wont be back till later ill call you back if i can, but don't wait for my call...(just incase im home too late in the middle of the night)..he said "thats ok"

next day he might have thought i would get to call him but the same thing happened..as in i was out till late..and i texted him telling him im sorry but im out again so wont be able to call you today either...

and when i was out it was snowing..and the roads were very icey of course...

he messaged me back after i said i could not call him a couple of hours later
and he texted saying " i hope you slip lol"..but he put the lol in it...

so is that like a guys sense of humour— is it supposed to be funny? i certainly wasnt laughing but then i don't know what way i should take that comment

it was such a random comment as well...

or is he being serious? that he secretly hopes i do slip??

Yeah, it's truth. But it's not literal truth, it's figurative truth. He's irritated you can't call him and like they said above, he's pouting. While trying to make a joke out of it, he's letting you know how he feels. But he really doesn't mean it, just take his feelings into consideration. That's all he wants. I think you're doing great by informing him you won't have time to call, so that's very considerate on your part and I guarantee he appreciates it.

Like Cali said, jab back with some related humor yourself. Like, "yeah, with these work hours, I'm going to end up slipping right into the crazy house!" If you were in an established relationship, I'd say "wishing I was slipping and sliding with you!" (I love double entendres!) I'm sure you can come up with something funnier, though. Either way, it will make him laugh and feel reassured at the same time.

On the other side of the coin, though, I once dated a cancer who whined about my hours and responsibilities (not giving him enough attention) and eventually I broke it off because I got tired of hearing that. His remarks would get ruder and cruder. But, hey, I'm a career woman, so don't complain about my job! 🙂

even though you all pretty much think the same as me...
if it makes it clearer this is how it went :
after he called and i missed the call

me: sorry im out so will call u later
him: ok thats fine
me: but don't wait for my call

next day

me: its so cold outside
me: sorry i didnt ring bak yesterday i was late home
me: and its the same scenario today

three hours later
him: hope you slip lol

Posted by caliberquick
i'm going to say..

both.

he doesn't truly want you to slip and hurt yourself, unless he's mental.

but you didn't make time to call him for a few days, so yes, he's annoyed. he obviously likes you and you're not giving him what he wants. he's being pouty.

that's when you come back with a witty, sarcastic retort. try to understand his humor, it'll bring you closer if that's what you want.

LOOOL at the unless he's mental
haha i like that word "pouty".. unfortunately i became the same level of pouty as him as i ended up messaging him after he said "i hope you slip"..

i said
"i dont really find that funny"..and then "but forget it"

so i was too annoyed myself to think of responding to him in a witty or sarky way

:/ :s
and then i sent lots of angry facess and then the day after i said "for your knowledge i did end up slipping a hundred times"

he didnt reply to anything i said
not even with a im only jokinggg or nothing

so i dont kno what to think really now

Posted by FoxGlove
I'm going to agree with Caliberquick, here. He's being funny and (obviously) does not wish you bodily harm -- buuuuut, he's probably a little annoyed. That's ok, though -- he's still being playful, so he's not *that* annoyed. 😉 Sometimes I find the Cap humor (ie -- the men) is a little bit barbed, and there's often a grain of truth to it. I mentioned to my Cap friend, who I didn't get to call back the other day that I was sorry we'd not gotten a chance to catch up. I got back "and here I thought you were avoiding me." So, yeah -- a little bit barbed, and I think he did wonder if I was.

i hope he doent wish me bodily harm :/:s 😡 that would be enough for me to be angry at him for another whole lifetime to be honest

so hes on the safe side as long as he didnt mean it

looool your friends comment definitely sounds barbed lol.. what is it with these cappyss

but anyway i just found what my "friend" said quite offensive and then reacted accordingly

so unfortunately not in the way people on this board are telling me to respond to him
i just said "i dont find that funny"


and then sent lots of angry emoticonss

of course he just ignored what i said anyway which didnt make it any better

Posted by msmarilynmanson
I dont know what his intentions were but if it were for comdedic purposes, he needs to keep his day job. Translation-it wasnt funny.

LOOL thanks
a couple of other people were telling me to lighten up and that i dont have a sense of humour because i dont find that funny
i was thinking right because him telling me he hopes i have an accident is so hilariouss

ohhh hahahahhaha

Posted by truecap
Yeah, it's truth. But it's not literal truth, it's figurative truth. He's irritated you can't call him and like they said above, he's pouting. While trying to make a joke out of it, he's letting you know how he feels. But he really doesn't mean it, just take his feelings into consideration. That's all he wants. I think you're doing great by informing him you won't have time to call, so that's very considerate on your part and I guarantee he appreciates it.

Like Cali said, jab back with some related humor yourself. Like, "yeah, with these work hours, I'm going to end up slipping right into the crazy house!" If you were in an established relationship, I'd say "wishing I was slipping and sliding with you!" (I love double entendres!) I'm sure you can come up with something funnier, though. Either way, it will make him laugh and feel reassured at the same time.

On the other side of the coin, though, I once dated a cancer who whined about my hours and responsibilities (not giving him enough attention) and eventually I broke it off because I got tired of hearing that. His remarks would get ruder and cruder. But, hey, I'm a career woman, so don't complain about my job! 🙂

ye i know what you mean as in he's a bit annoyed and wants to express that annoyance by saying something.kind of like how we all say things out of anger but then dont actually mean it..something that might upset the other person enough or have some kind of effect but if it actually happens obviously its not something that we really want to happen

i just became confused because a lot of people were telling me to lighten up and that hes teasing and all of that but to me because it was totally out of context (maybe not completely because i was out on the icey roads) i felt that it was him expressing his deeper feelings.

looool clearly he doesnt really appreciate my texts enough for him to say what he did
i mean i cant help it if im out can i??

and haha at your "i wish i was slipping and sliding with you" if only you told me that at the time..its a bit too late to say it now lol
especially after i reacted angrily by saying

"i dont find that funny"

what would you say i do now then??

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Oh. And we love it when you can give as good as you get. Playfully, of course.

so you think there was some resentment or some other kind of hostile feeling behind his comment??

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Oh. And we love it when you can give as good as you get. Playfully, of course.

and what does he need to feel vulnerable about?
its not like im purposely not spesking to him..and i would have called him back at some point ( i dont know about now though)

so whats the problem

Personally, I think its resentment and a bit of anger. I wouldnt have found the comment funny either, especially if I was out on an icy road. I think you need to chill it with him for a minute, in all honesty.

My Cap friend tries to hide his anger with humor, but I know what time it is. You can hear it in his voice, even if he tries to laugh.

I dont think this is a good sign. I find the more "available" you are for some of them, the more they cant handle you not being available. Or maybe its them and dependency issues, idk, but I wouldnt take it lightly.

I don't think I would have been bothered by that...I would have just kind of shrugged/laughed it off...But then again my sense of humor is diffrent..It was his way of expressing disappointment and would have read between the lines..

Posted by lnana04
Personally, I think its resentment and a bit of anger. I wouldnt have found the comment funny either, especially if I was out on an icy road. I think you need to chill it with him for a minute, in all honesty.

My Cap friend tries to hide his anger with humor, but I know what time it is. You can hear it in his voice, even if he tries to laugh.

I dont think this is a good sign. I find the more "available" you are for some of them, the more they cant handle you not being available. Or maybe its them and dependency issues, idk, but I wouldnt take it lightly.

its good that there are at least some people who back me up here
there are a lot of people off ths forum who are using the same lines such as "lighten up its just a joke".. and "theres no big deal here" and "you have no sense of humour" ..

so the problem is that opinion is sooo divided....therefore its harder to know what is actually on his mind :s :/

do you think hes dependent on me? i doubt it..because as much as he's been calling me quite frequently recently..there have been many times when we would not contact one another for a couple of months in between even

but recently for some reason he's increased how much he calls me

Posted by Caplove
I think he was annoyed that you didn't call him that night and that was his way of jabbing you and letting you know that he wanted your attention. No, I do not think he really wanted you to fall down. But yeah, I'd be REALLY annoyed by it too, even though it was a joke, a bad one! I would just back off for awhile as well.

i mean again you're thinking what i have been thinking all along and especially from when i first read the message...

but then at the odd moments there are some doubts in my head as to whether i'm taking this too seriously or that he did really mean it in a funny way..mostly because people even some of my friends are saying he didnt mean it in that way and all of that

and thankss lolll..i really dont like the fact that people are making it out like i have no sense of humour..to me its the same as saying "i hope you fall flat on your ass" or "i hope your finger gets stuck in a door" lol

but he isnt taking me seriously when i messaged him sayin "i didnt find that funny"
he just left it at " i hope you slip lol"

Posted by Striking
I don't think I would have been bothered by that...I would have just kind of shrugged/laughed it off...But then again my sense of humor is diffrent..It was his way of expressing disappointment and would have read between the lines..

yes everyone is different with regards to something like this
but a lot of women i have spoken to have said that its not really funny and they would not taken it like a haha thing

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Also, agree to back off for now. Let him come to you. You don't wanna come off as needy. And if it upset you, it upset you. Don't go pandering to him. Communication is huge and it just might be that this is a dealbreaker for you guys. Or not. Just relax and see where it goes. Be you.

trust me the last thing i come off is as "needy" lolll... seeing as i'm the one who hasnt been able to return his calls
and im not going to say anything more

its not actually a "new" thing... we've been friends for a while
and i actually do this quite a lot..but not intentionally... so my friends are sayin well he should know you by now and be used to it

iuts only because i know me and him can talk for hours on end
so i wait for a good time (being a busy person) when i can spare a lot of time to talk to him

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Think this is where having a Cap Merc comes into play. I would've taken it as humor thru disappointment and would've made a similar joke back to reassure him.

He appreciates that you're keeping in touch thru text or he may not have responded at all. This sounds like a new-ish relationship from what you've said and while he's giving you the benefit of the doubt, all he *really* knows is that you blew him off two days in a row.

I absolutely LOVE my Cap Mercury! People never know what I'm going to say! It's fun to surprise them sometimes. Especially when I'm prim and proper one minute and down right raunchy the next! lol!

he should apologize for saying something stupid like that, stop texting him

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Posted by candy10
even though you all pretty much think the same as me...
if it makes it clearer this is how it went :
after he called and i missed the call

me: sorry im out so will call u later
him: ok thats fine
me: but don't wait for my call

next day

me: its so cold outside
me: sorry i didnt ring bak yesterday i was late home
me: and its the same scenario today

three hours later
him: hope you slip lol

wtf? Who says something like that?

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the problem for me right now is i dont know how to play this out lol

it would have been so much easier if 100 percent of people that ive spoken to thought he was in the wrong..and that he said something that shouldnt have been said...however its not like that

so its difficult to tell whether he did mean it as a joke and has the same sense of humour as those other people who dont see he did anything wrong do...

and he knows i didnt react to it well yet he did nothing

Posted by aquapiscescusp
he should apologize for saying something stupid like that, stop texting him

ye iv expressed my dislike of what he said but every message i sent he ignored

and once he just said lol

you know what its funny how different people react to situations in complete opposite ways

some people are telling me that he meant it to be funny and didnt mean anything by it and that i should be the one calling him because im the one who brushed him off

so now im confused ,com

Posted by 88NNPISCES
Candy10,


I know you are getting confused with the comments, some people think it is funny, and some don't. none of us know him as well as you do. YOU have the answer in your hands believe it or not, because you are the one who knows him.

Good luck and go with what you already know, you really don't need reassurance from anyone.

I don't think any of us came right out and said it was funny what he said to her. We gave her a cap viewpoint on the possible reasoning behind his statement. And, we commented that we would have recognized it for what it was and handled it with humor or a smart ass remark.

I had thought I posted an additional response. I suppose it didn't post for some reason. But, I tried to say once he realized SHE didn't think it was funny, he should have softened up and backtracked. Once she told him she actually did slip, he should have responded with an apology and covered his ass.

Candy, you handle it with what is comfortable for YOU!!

"some people are telling me that he meant it to be funny and didnt mean anything by it and that i should be the one calling him because im the one who brushed him off"
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And for the record - the CAPRICORNS on here said, albeit different ways, he was showing his disappointment/irritation/annoyance and MASKING it as a barbed joke. No, he wasn't trying to be funny. It was a barb. He was trying to get his point across.



And my opinion says since he hasn't responded OR apologized, I would say eff him and leave him alone!

He probably won't apologize because he doesn't think he's done anything wrong (in his head anyway) which explains the "lol." Ugh. Did you tell him that it hurt your feelings? It's one thing to joke around, but if if hurts someone's feelings, he should apologize when you've told him it bothered you.




I mean, everyone has a different sense of humor and that's fine but when people cross the line or make someone feel uncomfortable (and are made aware of it) they should try to rectify the situation if they want to stay friends. That would be his chance to say, "I'm really sorry, I was only playing with you."

If he doesn't apologize you can either:

A. Realize that's the way he jokes around and just throw that stuff right back at him (see how he likes it!) LOL.
B. Ignore him until he apologizes
C. Stop being his friend






no i didnt tell him it "hurt" me ..i just expressed some hostility with some angry faces...and probabably the only thing i really said which would have made him thought ok she's not happy is the "i didnt really find that funny"

but he didnt say ANYTHING
but on a serious note i was expecting something from him and to say it was just a joke or something but then when nothing came i was surprised..and thats because in the past hes apologised strsight away and been really nice to me if he knows its upset me...

i dont even know how to take it still..because only a week ago i had some problems in my life that i needed help with and he was there calling me and saying if you want to talk im here and all of that stuff..and if someone can be that nice surely he wouldnt have meant this comment no?

right now im doing B.. C isnt really an option because we've been friends for too long and i've forgiven him for a lot lot worse than this trust me lol..and that was only recently

Posted by 88NNPISCES
Candy10,


I know you are getting confused with the comments, some people think it is funny, and some don't. none of us know him as well as you do. YOU have the answer in your hands believe it or not, because you are the one who knows him.

Good luck and go with what you already know, you really don't need reassurance from anyone.

yes truee i suppose..but sometimess a person can have a million and one facets to their personality and even if you've known them years and years you'll never truely know someone


so ye its hard

i hope he was joking

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Posted by 88NNPISCES
Candy10,


I know you are getting confused with the comments, some people think it is funny, and some don't. none of us know him as well as you do. YOU have the answer in your hands believe it or not, because you are the one who knows him.

Good luck and go with what you already know, you really don't need reassurance from anyone.

I don't think any of us came right out and said it was funny what he said to her. We gave her a cap viewpoint on the possible reasoning behind his statement. And, we commented that we would have recognized it for what it was and handled it with humor or a smart ass remark.

I had thought I posted an additional response. I suppose it didn't post for some reason. But, I tried to say once he realized SHE didn't think it was funny, he should have softened up and backtracked. Once she told him she actually did slip, he should have responded with an apology and covered his ass.

Candy, you handle it with what is comfortable for YOU!!

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yes i know no one here on this specific thread did..but people off this thread and even some of my friends were saying "its a joke, lighten up"...

but when i did say "i dont find that funny" he didnt backtrack or say anything he just chose to ignore me and not do any of the apology stuff...
maybe he thinks im still in the wrong for not calling him and why should he always be the one apologising and what not...

im going to leave it another week or something and then maybe give him a call...
its not about whats comfortable its about someone giving me respect..if that makes sense? and dependent on how he meant that comment..is what will decipher what i do next

Posted by truecap
"some people are telling me that he meant it to be funny and didnt mean anything by it and that i should be the one calling him because im the one who brushed him off"
____________________________________________________________

And for the record - the CAPRICORNS on here said, albeit different ways, he was showing his disappointment/irritation/annoyance and MASKING it as a barbed joke. No, he wasn't trying to be funny. It was a barb. He was trying to get his point across.



And my opinion says since he hasn't responded OR apologized, I would say eff him and leave him alone!

yes don't worry lol.. i got what you were all trying to tell me...
when i said some people are telling me it was meant ot be funny i meant other people i know..they didnt really read in to it as much as i did...or over analyse it they just to it on a shallow surface level and said hahahahah thats so funny hes joking ..as in they saw no "masking" in it or nothing like that

i dont know to be honest i did get annoyed but then im thinking...he did call me and at the end of the day i should have returned his calls anyway..

Posted by 88NNPISCES
like I said, I would have laughed so hard and faked I tripped to scare the heck out of him. Im sure he would have responded with something nice or an I am sorry for saying that. nothing wrong with that.

Altho I am an emotional person, I joke a lot so not every little thing bothers me. It is not like he put a curse on you or something like that, yeah it may have bothered him you didnt call, he must have been waiting for your call. But no big deal, time goes by and those are very minor things to be upset and worked up about.

Every person is diferent. If you try to understand another human being it will only cause frustration, try accepting him first for who he is and how he is and the understanding part will be much easier.

lol yes your reaction would have been a suitable one i guess...
and i wish instead of messaging him expressing any anger i would have looked at some of these suggestions..and maybe i would have actually got a response from him and maybe even figured out what he actually meant..
unless he brings it up in conversation which im not going to i guess we'll never know lol


its weird..because if he said it to me on the phone i wouldnt have expressed any kind of emotion lol..i would have been like oh haha very funny..so face to face im almost emotionless lol but when it comes to hiding behind a text message i can say whatever i want to and express it well

see if he called me up now and asked me if im ok or something id be like yess 😄 EVerythings fine lol

Posted by 88NNPISCES
Candy10, are you a VIRGO?

why do i sound like one—?

Posted by Caplove

Posted by candy10


its weird..because if he said it to me on the phone i wouldnt have expressed any kind of emotion lol..i would have been like oh haha very funny..so face to face im almost emotionless lol but when it comes to hiding behind a text message i can say whatever i want to and express it well

see if he called me up now and asked me if im ok or something id be like yess 😄 EVerythings fine lol

See, I hate that about text messages! Things don't come across like they do while speaking or can seem wrong when you can't hear the person's tone. If you would have heard him, this wouldn't have even been an issue. He probably was texting it and in his head had a little boy pouty voice (give me attention!).

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ye possibly not.....but then he rarely expresses hostility on the phone...he'll be like me and do it by text message aswell lol
hahaha aaawwwwww a little boy pouty voicee... but then when i did give him attention..mayhbe the wrong kind..
he ignored me lol

Posted by 88NNPISCES

Posted by candy10

Posted by 88NNPISCES
Candy10, are you a VIRGO?

why do i sound like one—?

lol, I was right woman.

you are a virgo and you are being very critical of his words, dont get worked up about every little minor thing.


Take care and good luck.

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ye im a virgo with a scorpio moon lol
i dont normally get that worked up but its not what he said...its how it felt when i read it ....
without even thinkin about how it could be a joke i just got upset about it
in hindsight maybe that was stupid of me

Posted by 88NNPISCES
ol, with passion eh.

It's alright girl, he pissed off your scorpio moon. lol

loooooooool
ye maybe... scorpions apparently get scarily angry lol
neways...i spoke to him today..i thought might aswell just call him now...can#t let these small things take over my life..like you said

and gues what the first thing he said was he had an accident with a big slab of ice..and he tripped up over it .....

strange eh? only a few days after his comment
lol

Posted by Caplove

Posted by candy10
loooooooool
ye maybe... scorpions apparently get scarily angry lol
neways...i spoke to him today..i thought might aswell just call him now...can#t let these small things take over my life..like you said

and gues what the first thing he said was he had an accident with a big slab of ice..and he tripped up over it .....

strange eh? only a few days after his comment
lol

Oh my gosh! Poor guy, hope he's okay. I'm glad you sorted it out with him and everything is okay. Now this can be your running joke with each other. 😛

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loooool he started his story with "i practically died today"..and he went in to a whole dramatic story lol i dont know if he wanted me to react accordingly..but you know how before i told u im emotionless on the phone lol

all i said was how funny as opposed to the typical girly reaction..omagoooood aree u ok?? are you hurt? dou want me to do anything for u? lol
ye hes ok lol


and hahahhahaaaaaaaa ye it can be a joke only me n him would get lol and the dozens of people i told about it lol

i dd say to him again how i found it strange how he told me he hopes i slip and then after i kept slipping a hundred times...and he goes to me he was literally laughing his head off :O
and then he goes so what exactly happened..and i told him it was just me slipping thinking i was going to fall flat on my face..n he goes ohhh thats nothing
its not like you did :O lol

Posted by 88NNPISCES

Posted by Caplove

Posted by candy10
loooooooool
ye maybe... scorpions apparently get scarily angry lol
neways...i spoke to him today..i thought might aswell just call him now...can#t let these small things take over my life..like you said

and gues what the first thing he said was he had an accident with a big slab of ice..and he tripped up over it .....

strange eh? only a few days after his comment
lol

Oh my gosh! Poor guy, hope he's okay. I'm glad you sorted it out with him and everything is okay. Now this can be your running joke with each other. 😛

+1


@ Candy10


awe poor guy, you see he was just joking otherwise he woudn't have told you that he slipped so you wouldn't be laughing. He might have already forgotten he told you that.. lol


& yes lady I am a scorp mooner as well that is why I said that.. lol

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yes im thinking he didnt make as much of a big deal out of it as i did lol...
ye true... of course he knows that slipping and tripping can end up with him nearly dying so i guess he wouldnt really wish that on me lol

and ooooooooooo are you??
koool 😄

im terrible though i heeard his story for like ten minutes and then said i had to go lol

Lol silly. Of course he didn't mean it literally. He was just giving you 'tude for not calling and/or constantly bugging him about not calling. Lol

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Posted by 88NNPISCES
ol, with passion eh.

It's alright girl, he pissed off your scorpio moon. lol

loooooooool
ye maybe... scorpions apparently get scarily angry lol
neways...i spoke to him today..i thought might aswell just call him now...can#t let these small things take over my life..like you said

and gues what the first thing he said was he had an accident with a big slab of ice..and he tripped up over it .....

strange eh? only a few days after his comment
lol

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Gotta love Karma!! 😛