To Missmorals.....lite hearted

Okay, Missmorals,
I have taken the 1st step with this scorpion man. A friend of ours at work has been trying to get us together for several weeks now. I am not sure if she has said to much to him as of yet but, it scares me anyway. It's been well over 15yrs. since I have been with anyone other then my stbx. And this man is so much younger then I am. Our friend gave me his # and I called him to see if he wanted to get together tonight. (He is getting his house ready for an inspection in the morning.)So he said, "Maybe later in the week." which our friend has made plans for a group of us to go out. I am so new to this and I don't call men as a habit. So I will take this as not a rejection from him b/c he was left with the chore of getting the house ready for selling (by his stbx), but at face value for what it is.
I guess my point is that I, being a cappy, (as if that isn't hard enough, on this romantic dreamer's heart.... LOL..... cursed from birth!!!), I have a hard time being lite hearted. Does this make sense, or am I just crazy?
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Gulf-lite, I can relate, being a Cap. as well, as far as being sensitive to rejection and wanting signs of interest from the other person. I think maybe what MissMorals is talking about... is when you try to draw them out, call them, or invite them to do something, and they can be so cautious, hesitant, and avoid contact?

MissMorals, what's going on w/ your Cap. lately that you're so down on him? Just curious... as last I knew, you were talking again.

This "new Cap." guy has already disappeared- true to form! He has vanished off of match.com, that is- profile GONE! We were in the middle of talking and flirting, and I have no other way to contact him. Wouldn't ya know it?! See... me being a Capricorn, this just makes me want to forget match.com altogether, with there being no reliability and it's so blind/anonymous and random! That's the negative, pessismistic serious Cap., who can't be light-hearted about meeting people, dating and romance!

Wow...a whole thread dedicated to me..I am touched..lol...Woohooo..
Right, well..regarding his comment about meeting up later in the week, take it as light-hearted cos he was probably busy with the house thing. No biggie..

How much younger is he? The 3 scorpio men I have come across have had no issue dating an older woman..but I don?t think its ever been for the long term..although this one I like in USA was previously dating a woman 5 years older than him and they were engaged..not anymore..leave it to your friend to organize this get together..see how he acts on that night..whether you guys have this chemistry, whether he stares at you blah blah..watch out for body language etc. You will know whether he?s interested. Don?t call him in the meantime..you?ve taken the first step and called him, now its his turn..

Try not to think about it too much..or it will drive you insane..they have this bloody ability to do that..even if you?ve just come across one, you won?t forget him..they get inside your head..and leave you yearning?I can?t explain but I am sure you know what I am talking about..I am pining for mine..just to even talk to him..

Lol @ cappy comment..is it really that hard being a cap..what is wrong with you guys..seriously!..lol

Hope this helps..let me know how you get on..and whether he has any brothers who are also scorpio..lol

capgirl, he may have blocked you from pulling up his profile..although if you really want to know, just go into search, you don't even need to log in and type in his screen name if you remember it...why do this you might ask? just as a for sure reason to write him off, if you still see that he's on, "active within 24 hours" you know he's into the whole game playing "let's see how many babes I can snag" thing

Well Capgirl..About the cap guy I was talking to..he confessed the other night after our week long break up that he was emotionally tangled with this other chick, although when we were flirting (5 months) they had broken up..They hadn't actually even met in real life..and he was the one saying you can't get emotionally involved with someone online..well hello..thats exactly what you've done..I do believe him but I didn't want to show the disappointment so I turned into friend mode..he's a good friend but I don't have those feelings for him anymore..they kind of evaporated..you'd know what I mean if you were a scorpio..we can switch off just like Caps can too..I am not writing him off completely but he knows where I am should he feel anything more than a friendship for me..He has to ask to meet and he has to make more of an effort..we don't speak as often as we used to but I am there for him if he needs a shoulder to cry on..we argue all the time (most of the time just playful banter) and I can just imagine that life with him would be pretty difficult as I am most of the time a bit crazy..we do have a good laugh together but he is way too sensitive and serious..He's basically a melancholy type..

APW~ I had thought that too. But I emailed match.com and even phrased the question as "if I block someone from contact, can they still see my profile?" And they responded, yes, they can still see your profile but you will be prevented from winking or emailing you. This Cap. had said that he'd only been on there a week and was "skittish" about the whole thing. And I did search w/o logging in, even cleared "cookies" and emptied out my cache or whatever you call it, and his profile is still gone.

I don't think that anymore... about always having "active w/in 24 hours". With the way match has its system set, with "cookies", it can even recognize you as being online or on their site, even if you don't log in! It will show me as "online now" even when I don't want it to! It ticks me off. And I log in there every day too, just out of routine/ and curiosity, like how I do w/ all of my websites. So, I don't necessarily have the same opinion of that anymore, as to guys being active on there as automatically being 'on the prowl' or trolling. Even if I had a great date that evening, I'd still be curious and want to see what was going on w/ my profile and who's viewed me, when I got back home later. If the always "active w/in 24 hours" were as you say, then I'd look like a true player too, and truth is, I'm about ready to scrap the whole thing.

MissMorals-- I hear you, on the sensitive/serious thing. Because I like to be saracastic, witty, crazy, and sassy, but with these guys, they can't just let it "roll off" and they get all confused and discouraged by a little challenge and wit! Then they disappear... and want to turn up again; you're pissed off bc. they've been ignoring you, so you give them a little "he!!" in a joking, sarcastic way, and they're hurt and off and hiding again! Is that what you've experienced? You just can't win! Unless you're miss sugary sweet, kiss their butt, type, and even then they're going to want to come and go on their own time and terms and expect you to just stay even-keeled and sweet about it all.

Yea... I like the scorpio approach to cap. men. I was chatting/emailing w/ a Scorpio chick for a long time who was dealing w/ a Cap. male- same shyt- and she had the same detached attitude as you, which is good.

Hello all, I hope all is well with everyone...needed to take a break very busy with work and personal life.

missmorals- girl you and I are just like.

Meet a Cap guy the other day and went out to eat and he was very confident, so confident that he was saying stuff like "He is going to make me his" LOL is what I did and he said that after the date I was going to call him. and I said to him very confident? and he said that people say he is overly confident and I said there is nothing wrong with that but when your confident gets shattered I hope that you can deal with it...

He also made the comment about I am going to call him and tell him how much I like him etc. and I said oh yea this was sunday of course and I have not pick up the phone to call him little do he know that I have no intentions on calling him. I also informed him that I know about Cappies etc...questions every action I could about there personality and he continued to hang in there, wanted to touch and kiss me but I would not let him I told him that I was not in the mood for that I showed no emotions what so ever.

He told me I waa fiesty and he likes that in a women.

He then asked me what do I think about him and I told him that I don't have a comment because I have not thought about that and he said "you have'nt and I said "no" I probably think about you tonight and decide whether I would go out with you again and then we left the restaurant and I gave him a hug and said thanks for the dinner and he said "I must have done something right I got a hug. duh the hug was for dinner duh...I did not tell him that. LOL....

I thought about him but I don't want him. not at all not even my type and the only reason why he want to date me is because he said that he always date big women and I was the smallest women he has dated in a long time...go figure..LOL....still don't want him...

I told him that anything he tells me that I am going to do I am going to do the opposite because one, I am not a child and 2, it really is not like that, 3 to confident I need to bring him back to reality or he will just get pissy mad at me and walk away if he as not already done that. It does not phase me anymore about them men and there personallity because my mind is made up.

This is my personal opinion on being in a relationship or being friends with someone anyone.

I just can't seem to fathom the idea of being with someone and having to watch what I say and be more sensitive to there needs then my own does not sit well with me. any realtionship or friendship is supported by each other, and communication. I need to be myself and say what is on my mind regardless. You know the saying "If you can't take the heat get out the kitchen" and that is how I feel about Cap men...they can dish it out but they can't take it they can do what they want be crital, analyze, disrepectfull and inconsiderate and you can't, because if you do then you will be hurting there precious feelings and they might go MIA until they get stronger. It is not fair not to any women and any women that has to deal with any man under those circumstances or more must be press for a man or weak themselves.

One last note, an old Scorpio male got in touch with me (don't date scropio men dare not, we will be fighting) and he has being trying to get me to come to his house for dinner and I won't go. Why? you ask don't go backwards only forwards, I was talking to him on the phone and he got sarcastic and I said to him "know I see why I stop talking to you" I said "both of us can't be sarcastic and he said can we take turns and I said "no" the only person who can be that way is me and started LOL...well he did not comment on it but he is still trying to get me to come to dinner...I told him straight up that I don't know if I want to date right know..I don't believe in leaving one relations and jumping right into another. Men and wom

Yo Capgirl..yep your pretty much right on the money there sweety..I can't and WILL NOT ever kiss ass and be sugary sweet..don't get me wrong, I can be ultra sweet to the people I love..but most of the time I am witty and dish out the cheeky smarts..he can't handle it..sometimes I think jeez man, relax..I didn't even mean it in a horrible manner..yet I am suppose to just take his derogatory remarks on the chin..whatever..I think I have more balls than him..So yeah I am emotionally detached..I thought I would feel some emotion but no I was perfectly fine..so yeah no biggie..Honestly talking to him is like walking on eggshells..

Scorpionlady..yep you and are very much alike..
I think scorpion guys are for me..I seem to love them lots..I am very level-headed and will take it in turns to be sarcastic should I ever date a scorpion guy..I love them..get on really well with them and they are bundles of fun..not to mention soppy as hell when you want them to be..What more could you ask for..as long as the power tripping stays to a minimum and both of you can come to an agreement..lol..But yeah, you do know when the right person comes along..
Cap guys..well I just don't think I have the patience to deal with that..Its too much of a headache..constantly watching what you say in case it offends the supersensitive brat..

Well would you believe...guess who asked me out to the theatre today..well dropped it in conversation..the cappy!..haha..just goes to show you, that all you need to do is ignore them..lol..he can sense I am drifting away..He got in a huff when he suggested a play at this theatre, hoping I would pick up the hint and say "would you like to join me"..instead I said "oh cool, thanks for that info, I will ask my friend if she's interested"..after which there was a long pause before I got the baby throwing his toys out of the pram treatment..lol..So then I said, well you could've just asked me, I presumed you were going with your friend..and he goes well nice to know who you put first!..pahleeeeze...anyway I said, cool, lets go and watch it..and he goes, no you go with your mates, I don't know if I will be able to go now!..WHATEVER!!!!


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