Do other Gems often feel let down by your friends?

Posted by wineaux

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson

**sorry for mentioning the L word on Gemini board.....how about "embrace" the real people?

we can wubz peoples!!

Oh, oh...sounds like someone has been spending a bit too much time mooning around the Cancer board.


I am just pulling your cork Wino. Been too long between Gemmy throwdowns for this little ram

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Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
it's not an astrological thing.

A Gem that I thought was a lifelong friend did a similar thing to me for no reason that I (or any of the common friends we have had for over 20 years) have ever been told. Just did it because he could I guess. Don't know and have stopped wasting my precious time caring.
Erase them from your life and love the real people.

**sorry for mentioning the L word on Gemini board.....how about "embrace" the real people?

Posted by Maddy
As of lately yes, and always maybe. That's why I don't have any close friends. I've been burnt a couple of times.
I try not to get close to anybody, this way I protect myself. I don't need help/advice from anybody. I learned to depend only on myself, it's easier this way. I deal w/ things on my own, and frankly I don't think anybody wants to hear about your problems either. Learned the hard way.
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i've been burnt by more than several friends, so Maddy, I feel your pain. I had what I thought was a very good friend back in HS. we were double's partners and hung out after tennis etc. she came from a broken family, so i took her under my wing. she(cappy)was everything i wasn't...soft spoken, shy, tentative and not very competitive. as a double's partner, she drove me nutts! i had to light a fire under her butt to get her to be mildly aggressive during our matches. although i was very aggressive and competitive, and often naturally showed emotion on the court, i held back a lot as i knew she wasn't comfortable with it. i did that for two years. i bent over backwards helping her improve her game and become a more confident individual overall.
i was so patient with her, even though i wanted to ring her neck sometimes. after i graduated, i tried to include her in family events and sent her Christmas cards. not once did she ever respond or thank me for my generousity and kindness when i'd see her on occasion. a few years back i ran into her and she brought up my last Christmas card and was complaining about a topic i had written about. I was like, you have got to be kidding me! after all i've done for you and you treat me with this type of disdain. this time around, my patience had worn thin. I reminded her all i had done for her over the years and that she was a total ingrate. we have not spoken since; don't care if i ever do again.
btw, i ran into my tennis coach at a meet a few months back. he asked if i had seen my HS tennis partner lately, and that she was such a "nice girl." I wanted to puke and tell him, if you only knew the type of person she really was.
But i sucked it up and smiled.
i am a very giving and caring individual. i'm not going to change. but as i age, i'm no longer bending over backwards for those who aren't worth my time or effort.