Should I get the hint or forgive him?

This topic was created in the Gemini forum by imkatherinehannah on Sunday, February 23, 2014 and has 3 replies.
He's a Gemini, but he can be very emotional and don't really know to properly act upon his own emotions. Sometimes he will hurt people and he won't even understand why. Everyone in his life things he's cold, but I just know it's who he is and I adapt. (I'm ascendent Gemini myself and I love it. My adaptability is pretty awesome!)
I have known him for a long time. We talk every day, he calls me his best friend and I mine.
However lately he's been hurting me a bunch by neglecting aspects of our friendship.
He stood me up a few times because his girlfriend, a friend of mine, is needy. If she knew we had plans, she would whine and force him to go see her instead. He apologized and all but did it again many times.
I also asked him to come hangout with me a couple of times. He had an excuse each time. Too tired, wanna watch a movie at home instead. Then, the same night I would get on Facebook and see that he lied to me to go spend time with his girlfriend or another friend.
I confronted him about it, and he apologized. Told me that he doesn't know what to do to make everyone happy.
Sick of the lies, being stood up and him not owning to his excuses, I told him I'd give him his space.
He's been trying to talk to him for a few days but I'm playing the busy card. He's upset but talking to him doesn't work and I don't know what else to do.
Should I get the hint or give him more chances?
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Do you think the chances will change him? Give him more chances so he can disappoint you more and you become resentful towards him? No. It will only enable his behavior. If you want your friendship to remain intact I would just drop it and give him all the space he needs. Don't worry about it too much... yes you guys are best friends but it's obvious you've come to a divergent between your friendship. Give him his space and if he wants to hang out let him initiate and put the effort into everything.
The point of a relationship is that BOTH people put effort into it and if one person is not there is no point in continuing. I'm not saying to stop your friendship I'm just saying keep him in your heart and move on to hanging out with other friends while he figures out his life. If he wants to see you or needs help he'll come your way.
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Give him all the space he wants. He's been inadvertently giving it to himself by putting you off, and now that you're giving it, he doesn't like it.
Too bad. Guys like him thrive off of multiple chances and then screwing them all up. They do it because they know they can and will get away with it, and here you are, letting him make plans again and again and ditch them again without any repercussions.
Also, giving him the excuse of not being able to "handle" his emotions, like he's some un-evolved 5 year old speaks a lot of the situation. He's an adult, no?
Excuses are being made for shitty behavior and now that he's being held responsible, he doesn't like it. Stand your ground. You show others how to treat you.
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