A Leo male has gotten my interest....2 (Page 3)

*** one thing leo males do feel caustphobic if girls make moves on them they prefer to make the moves .leo males are also scared about serious relationships it takes a long time for us to commit . now that you mention it ***

AHHhh Ha! This is what I have been saying. Leo men Do NOT like girls taking the lead. I regret ever inviting the leo out but it was an experiement. A failed one. It freaked him out.

I think you really have to give them their space and let them sniff you out before they will settle down with you.

LS,

He could very well have a girlfriend. However, I find it odd the only time he said he had a girlfriend was when I talked about other guys. These other guys I was talking about are customers that come up to the foodstore where I work. It's not like I see these guys every day either.

No, I will not pursue anything with him. I don't like games either. In a way I feel he played a game with me. Like as long as I acted like I didn't like him, then when I did, he backed off. Now all of sudden he has a girlfriend, he says. I will not play second fiddle to any girl so therefore I will not do anything to him. No, he isn't a bad guy, but I do think he has to learn to set boundaries, especially if he has a girlfriend. Sure you can flirt with others even when you are in a relationship, but he went a little bit further than that. Anyway, I'll move on. Today, has been a better day for me. I only have to deal with him for a little over a month, and then I'm done. I won't have to see him again.

Chocolate,

No, I won't trip over Leo. It just stunned me he suddenly had a girlfriend. No, we didn't go out or anything. I would have been mad if he continued to pursue me and then I found out he had a girlfriend. It's not that I'm upset. I've been more sad, because as I saw it, he and I were a great match. Sure it was the beginning stages, but there are some people you just click with. I clicked with him, and him me. Yes, I do sometimes get attached quickly, but only if I feel comfortable around the person, which takes a lot of time. It didn't with Leo. Infact, it went so quickly that I was surprised myself. Yeah, alright, I shouldn't have been talking about other guys when he was around, but I didn't see the harm. He and I weren't even dating so he shouldn't have been bothered by it, unless he does really like me. Right now, I don't know what to think of him. I forgot about his pride, so that was an error on my part. However, I didn't think I could hurt his pride either. I guess I did. I won't talk much with him. Whether he'll ever come to me remains to be seen. However, I couldn't deal with the unknown now. Yes, he said we'll talk at work but I don't know if he means he wants to talk to me or he was just being polite and ended the text with saying "We'll talk at work". Well, it's a lesson learned again. Boy, 2006 has been so up and down, it's laughable if it wasn't so tragic. I don't mean only about relationships, but life in general. 2007 can't come fast enough.

Oh Mystical..this is awful news. I cant believe our luck with men..and i agree that?s its totally tragic. You can mail me if you need to talk about it x

Well, there is nothing more about anything moving forward regarding this Leo since he suddenly told me on Friday he has a girlfriend. He's never mentioned her once ever. Oh well, life does go on. I didn't know what to call another thread so I figured I'd continued on this one.

Yesterday, I did go to my internship place because I had to get a book about Psychiatrics law. I could have gone actually today to retrieve it, but I thought yesterday if I see him then I'll act normal. If I didn't see him, then no harm done. Just my luck when I go there at 2 in the afternoon what do you think happens? He's there talking with another nurse. I said hi to both of them and acted my usual happy-go-lucky self but I was stressed. The nurse asked me what was I stressed for. I replied back in a half-serious voice and looking at him: "I'm always stressed when it comes to mini projects I have to get done" and then I laughed and so did both of them. He could tell there was something up but didn't say anything. When I asked the nurse which laws they use, he butted in with trying to help me out. So I go on reading the different laws. Suddenly there are two patients who have to have butterflies put in their hand (that is so they can liquids in them). Now I'm a nursing student and I'm also educated as a Medical secretary so I know how to put those in. It's his job to do since he's the doctor and the other nurses have trouble putting them in. I tell him good luck and then I start explaining to him how to do it. He looks puzzled at me because how did I know all this when all I am is a nursing student. He doesn't know I have several educations. So I talk to him very calmly and he's says: "So you're also a Medical secretary". While he's saying that he looks down and starts to smile. I told him I'm full of surprises and he laughed. I told him to just stay calm and it will go fine. He didn't ask me to join him. Infact, he got lucky because someone from the lab came and did it for him much to his relief. You see, he doesn't know that much about me so it stunned him that I just wasn't a nursing student. I had decided to stay myself and not change whatsoever. He is a doctor and I am a nursing student so I was only giving him some hints. Another doctor looked at me strangely because she too knew what I was saying about putting a butterfly in was true. I told her I'm a Medical secretary and she too was astonished. She asked why wasn't I being able to practice such a technique.

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I told her I was told by the school I wasn't allowed to mix the professions as I am now a nursing student. She thought that was stupid which I agreed. A little later on Leo had to let me know he has put in butterflies in Medical and Surgerical department. I guess it was his pride again getting in the way in him wanting me to know. He still seemed a little standoffish towards me yesterday but after finding out I'm not as dumb as he might have thought, he'll probably see me in a different light. As a friend.

Today, came and the head woman of the departement was between us. Where he originally wanted to sit would have been right across from me but that sit was taken. I felt him looking at me but I hardly looked at him. I did look at him when he talked though as I believe in giving respect when people talk. One of the times, he was talking he made sure he looked me straight in the eyes and held the look a little longer than usual. So I'm not sure what he's up to, if anything. So a little later on, I'm still being myself as I feel it's better for me not to change ever. I asked him if I could ask him a question. He said yes. I asked him why did he want to become a doctor. Is there someone in his family, like mom or dad who is a doctor. He smirked and then said his father is a doctor. I said: "Well, that explains it". He then continued by saying his mom is a nurse. I then snickered and so did he. He said he's always wanted to be a doctor, or a teacher. I said I'm always curious of why people do what they do and the professions they pick. I told him I have relatives who are doctors. He knew of them. He also wanted me to know he has taught Anatomy in college so if he wants to he can be a doctor who teaches. He seems to be opening up a little. However, he never asks anything about me. Also he's very stressed that one of the nurses told me that he looks so insecure in himself. I had began to notice that too but that it was only me who saw that. You know I can be very analytical. However, I do find it strange he hardly asks me anything. So a little later on, he came back in the meeting room and was talking to a nurses' aid about a patient. Then he all of sudden sits next to me. All I can say is he's very stressed.

I dont like the sound of him much, Mystical. Maybe keep communication to minimum, if he?s really keen im sure he will pursue you?! Fingers crossed the situation improves for you.

Sola,

I'll be talking to you real soon. I haven't forgotten you. Yeah, I'm keeping my eyes open. In any situation if you learn something than it wasn't all in vain.

PM,

I will. I'm not going to ruffle any feathers. All I wanted to do was show him nothing has changed even after I found out what I did on Friday. I never want anyone to see they can bother me. I'm very stubborn like that. What storm do you mean? At work? The more I see, the more I'm convinced.

PM,

It's true something is bothering him. However, I don't know him well enough to read him. I do know he doesn't particular care for the internship in the Pyschiatrics ward. Neither do I, but I'm making the best out of the situation. He seems so stressed out. It's like he barely gets his paper work done with at the ending of the day. Gosh, I hope I'm not adding to his load. However, I do think he'll realize when I'm gone that he'll miss me. Sometimes I hear noises in the hallway and at times it's him. I'm very alert when it comes to noises. So today when I heard noises I looked up and it was him walking. I looked at him but didn't do anything. He gave me a small smile. Another time I again heard noises (he was visiting the patients) so I looked up and it's him again. This time he didn't look at me. Also the third time I looked up because I never know who's coming and he didn't look at me. It's like when I just looked at him the first time, I guess he didn't like that. Well, I'm just being myself. Maybe he'll have a realization and then it's too late.

Kris,

No, I won't pursue any guy. I think what I have to do is just concentrate on finishing up my studies. I don't need anymore pressure than I already have. Relationships take a lot of work. So my mind is not set on that for now. This is why I think things go the way they do. Hopefully, when I least expect it, it will all work out. Well, things usually happen to me when I'm least prepared for it. LOL

PM,

You are so sweet. You know the saying: "You don't know what you have until it's gone". Well, this happened to me once many, many years ago regarding a guy. I didn't know what I had until he was gone. I promised myself from that time on that I was always going to be upfront and take a chance. If it failed well, then at least I tried and I don't have to live with regret.

Finally Chocolate you came. I was hoping you were still around. 🙂

Yeah, well, if he does talk to me I will be supportive of him as that is apart of me. Whenever I see someone needs to talk, I'm always there for them. Him being a guy, I don't know how much he'll open up to me though. Whether he'll put his pride aside remains to be seen. I don't mean that to be mean. I just get the feeling he thinks he's out of my league. As the days have gone on, I've realized so much.

I'm going to concentrate on my studies that's for sure. I'll be seeing him almost every day for the next month. So I'll see what happens. He's taught me a valuable lesson though.

Kris,

You made my day. Thanks so much. LOL

Chocolate,

The valuable lessons he taught me is just because a guy pursues you doesn't mean he doesn't have a girlfriend. Whenever I've been pursued before the guy didn't have a girlfriend. I would always find out in my own way if a guy has a girlfriend. I'd listen to what they said and observed them very well. This time I didn't look for the signs I usually do because I wasn't looking. Big mistake. Basically, because I thought he was so shy which it turned out he wasn't. The types of guys I usually go for are a little wild and this Leo just seemed so different. He also taught me that I still have the magic touch gaining guys attention as I had been really down regarding the Virgo guy.

PM,

No, I will not go back into the world of dead ever again. I've had enough pain this year alone regarding the Virgo guy that I don't ever want to go back there again. Yes, I am on the right track. Thank God I didn't go off track regarding the Leo because then it would have happened to me twice in one year which has never happened to me before.

Everything fits so perfect regarding him and I. It's so freaky. The sun-moon. Our educations. It's just such a shame he doesn't see a good thing in front of him. However, I will not stand in his way. He says he has a girlfriend and if he's happy with her then I'm happy for him.

Chocolate,

Yeah, the timing was just off. Not on my part though because I was ready. However, I have to look at it as there are better things heading my way.

** he doesn't see a good thing in front of him.

It isn't that he doesn't see a good thing in front of him. The problem is he is already in a committed relationship.

** However, I have to look at it as there are better things heading my way.

yep.

Well, since I'm bound for better things and it looks like he was a tester, then I'm ready. I'll take my time though. Also even if I feel very comfortable around a guy (which is what happened with Leo) I'll take it easy.

And if he isn't asking you out, he doesn't exist. (I know I should take my own advice on that .... 🙂)

LS,

Very true what you state. He says he has a girlfriend and so be it. She can have him and he can be committed for as long as he wants. I have no problem with that. I know that I'll find someone even better now.

"And if he isn't asking you out, he doesn't exist."

Very true. He's too scared to even visit me at the foodstore where I work. Friends do visit each other.

Yeah but he doesn't want to give you the wrong idea.

I know where I stand since he says he has a girlfriend. He wouldn't be giving the wrong idea. Infact it would show he has some balls (excuse the language) if he shopped at the foodstore. In my mind it would show he and I are friends. I can't be interested in guy that is taken as I have too much self respect to allow that.

I haven't read everything but I guess at least he's honest and upfront about the girlfriend situation..

First there has to be distance and regrouping. Once he trusts you intentions, I am sure he will come around.

MM,

He was finally honest with me on Friday which was almost two weeks later. I believe in being upfront so I don't like dishonesty. Everything is well though.

LS,

Well, he'll have a month to trust my intentions. If he comes around, as a friend, I won't stop him. As I love having friends.

I do love friends. I'll keep bringing as long as keep coming. LOL

Hi again,

Well, I've been taking very much into consideration what advice has been given so everything has been good. Oddly enough though, he seems to be opening up to me now little by little. Let it first be said before I start, I'm not after him as I know where I stand. Okay here I go.

Yesterday, he came rushing into the morning room. He made immediate eye contact with me. He said good morning and I said it back. I didn't do a thing more. Now since I'm a nursing student I can't always be in the morning meetings (even though that is when the interesting things happens) so I suddenly got up with my contact nurse (the one who I have to follow since it's she who is evaluating me) and I was gone. He didn't see me for hours. Later on, I'm in the meeting room reading charts. All of sudden he comes in and says very happy-go-lucky "Hi" and startled me. He hasn't said hi to me like this ever. Anyway, I said hi back to him. Then I asked him if he knew what today (meaning yesterday what the 15th was). He looked puzzled and said he didn't know. Then he asked if it was my birthday. I said no it isn't my birthday as it is in February. I told him it's his first month anniversary in the Psychiatrics ward so I congratulated him. He suddenly realized that he had been there a month. He said it's been slow but fun. I told him I'm done official in a month and I can't wait. I told him now he only has 3 months left and he laughed. I was in a very good mood yesterday as I was able to see an ETC (which is electric shock to the brain) on a patient. I know it sounds terrible but it doesn't look bad at all. With anything new, I'm like a little kid because I'm fascinated. He was smirking and laughing at my excitment over this ETC. He's seen so many of those but agreed it's exciting. I told him people always laugh at how I act when I'm excited and he said it's allowed to be that. Then I was being my natural self when I talk with friends and asked him how he was. He told me he wasn't done with work the night before (meaning Tuesday) until 7 pm and he had been at work all day. I told him he needs a secretary to help him out. He said he has one and he gives her a lot of work. Other than that he said he was fine. I was amazed at how he was acting as I had made up my mind to do nothing but be cordial. So after a little while he was in and out of the meeting room and I was reading. He still looks at me but I don't know why.

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Today, I made sure I was going to be with the morning meeting as my contact nurse was going to be ahead of it so I sat next to her. Now Leo usually comes around 8.30, but again he comes rushing in at about 8.45 and places himself right next to me. There were other seats but he chooses to sit next to me like he used to before. All right then. No big deal. I was a little taken aback because all last week, he wouldn't come near me and hardly said anything. Yesterday he talks with me. I guess he's finally realizing I'm his friend and my intentions are all good as I'm not out to hurt him. He would occasionally take little glances at me but I acted like I didn't notice. Also when I looked in a direction so did he. It's a little weird this but I act like normal which I'm good at when I put my mind to it. I had my mid-evaluation today also so I was so nervous of the outcome. Thankfully I passed. YAY! I was so stunned that I passed that he looked at me worried. I had my cooler bag with me as I hadn't eaten lunch yet. He asked me if I was going to do exercises as some of the patients were going to do that. I said no, that I was going to eat. I followed with saying I had my mid-evaluation and I passed. He asked what that was. I told him that is an evaluation all nursing student have to go through to prove they can continue with the internship. He replied: "Of course you're qualified for that". I told him I thanked my contact nurse so much. Then I ran off to eat. Later on I saw him again and he sits by me again but I didn't say anything to him. He loves pancakes. The lady in the kitchen had made pancakes and he was eating up a storm as he was so hungry. I guess he might not have had lunch. He again does the little glances. However, when he is standing he'll look at me when he's talking and give me a little longer looks. At times I think he's just so tired he doesn't know what he is doing. When he talks, I'll look at him as I believe in looking at people when they talk. He gives the exact same respect to me when I talk. Oh by the way, yesterday, he remember how old I will be in February. I told him I wasn't looking forward to it. He just laughs but I'm dead serious. I told him I feel 10 years younger. He said that's a good sign. Anyway, I feel sometimes he looks to me for advice also. He does have a lot of work though. I won't be bothering him and had decided to lay low as what was suggested which I'll continue. If he talks with me, I'll talk with him, or be cordial.

I think he is just being friendly. He knows you know he has a girlfriend and that you won't get the wrong idea regarding his friendliness.

PM,

Thank you very much for your insight. I do think the hot and cold thing is peculiar. I'm on my guard though because I don't want to get caught up into something. Whether he comes to me or not is not the issue. The issue is he knows I'm his friend no what matter. I won't let him affect me ever. I let the Virgo guy do that, and it hurt me so much emotionally. Actually, I'm emotional drained this year. Therefore I can't let him have any affect on me. I will stay the same towards him as I don't want him to see any change in me. Yes, he is still not over his mental churning (love that expression 🙂 so I don't want to add to that. I don't get him anyway. Oh, you are absolutely right he's not the last male on the planet. Things will start to look up for me as I've become more open and willing to take more chances.

LS,

Very true. I'm a bright girl, and I know not to beat a dead horse. He's obviously smart enough to have picked that up about me. It's great he's being friendly with me. No problem with that on my part.

Chocolate,

You are very right, hun. He probably is trying to figure out why I haven't changed towards him. To be honest, the reason why I haven't is because I believe it's better to gain a friend than an enemy. Also I admire and respect him a whole lot. I'm being a "sweetie" because I want him to eventually see the real me, meaning I'm not out to hurt him. That I would always like to have him as a true friend, if he wants. I hope when I'm done at the internship on December 15th that he'll want to stay in contact with me but if not, it's been a worthwhile experience. My time in the Psychiatrics ward will always be remembered of a time when I knew a great doctor who caught my interest but due to circumstances never went any further. He will never be forgotten. I will stay the same genuine and sincere person I am. Hopefully, he'll realize I'm as real as they come and I don't play games. When I'm a person's friend, I'm their friend. He should eventually see this.