Confusing Lib

My supervisor is a Libra and when I met I could tell he was attracted to me.. I didn't react to it until I saw him staring at me one day and I was shocked to find he was really attracted to me. Since then he stared at me with these come to bed eyes. And I started to like him.

He waited on me for a whole hour to catch the bus and then he kept doiing favors for me. Whenever I was around him there would be this energy that made me feel he liked me. Always made intense eye contact.

Then, I found out he was married and I confronted him about it and then ignored him for a week. During that time he would still show signs of liking me but i was cold with him. but inside i was burning with attraction for him. Finally i told him i wanted to know what it felt like to kiss him and he made it happen.

The kiss--he held back, he hugged me, held my hands

Then the next day when i saw him his facial expression could not deny that he liked me.

He's always nervous around me and makes deep eye contact.

But then he never makes any moves on me just keeps looking at me with come to bed eyes.

and i asked him, is it just an ego thing and he said no, if it wasn't mutual he would not have kissed me. but still didnt make any moves.

I ignore him at work mostly because we don't want anyone to know we like each other.

but he keeps giving me these signs especially the come to bed eyes and when i'm around him i just feel this intense energy that he puts out that he likes me.

i saw him last night and he came over to me when it wasnt even necessary so i sent him a text saying how he's such a sexy man and that he was looking good.

he has not responded and he saw me at work and he just avoided me.

what's up with that?

Ummm

The man is MARRIED

How old are you? This sounds childish.

By the way, married men are not worth it so please get away while you still can. There are no attachments yet so "Run, Forest, run!!"

...HE'S MARRIED.

Quit being a dumb bitch about it. kthx.

Posted by WaterCup
How old are you? This sounds childish.

LMAO! +1. Who says "come to bed eyes". Lol. Maybe he just stares at you hard, but really who says that though? LMAO!

Posted by aquarius09

Posted by WaterCup
How old are you? This sounds childish.

LMAO! +1. Who says "come to bed eyes". Lol. Maybe he just stares at you hard, but really who says that though? LMAO!

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LMAO. Maybe he has a lazy eye & OP is mistaking it for an invitation. Btw, why do people here always make a big deal when someone stares at them? So what, it's not like you're the sun & are "unstarable". Or a ghost. This is ridiculous.

So this guy is friendly and nice and you cannot see past that because you have a fantasy going in your head.

Wake up.

I'm like him in real life...hopefully none of the men I was friendly with found their way around dxp and posted about me.

Is dangerous what you want..... I can understand what you want, in your mind is also a curiosity how will be.... etc.. the same as it was with that kiss... but did you asked yourself what will be if you fall inlove deep with him if the "event" will happen and then he will rejecting you because he will know he can't be with you ? ... I can tell you, this thing will kill you, so run away now of him when is the right time ! Other way you may know the big pain in this story...

I hope your walking away, I don't know why, you would want to kiss him, when he can't offer you anything, but a quick lay

As a Gem, I really just want to understand the game he is playing.

I can tell he likes me and is attracted to me.. so if he's so unavailable why is he showing signs he is?

Never never NEVER date in the workplace.

Posted by Lissanth
As a Gem, I really just want to understand the game he is playing.

I can tell he likes me and is attracted to me.. so if he's so unavailable why is he showing signs he is?

Is is important, though? Unavailable is unavailable. Many Libras can't shield their feelings well.

Posted by Lissanth
As a Gem, I really just want to understand the game he is playing.

I can tell he likes me and is attracted to me.. so if he's so unavailable why is he showing signs he is?

Not to be mean, but why does it matter, the man is married, who cares where he's getting at, He's Married

At the end of the day, he can have you

But you can't have him cause he Married

Take a look at that for one minute, he gets what he wants, and your left with nothing

If he was really interested in you he would have gotten a divorce, and showed you the papers that he is divorced

He wants a wife and a side chick, if that's what you want then fine

Strike #1929302358304 against Gemini chicks.

Posted by Lissanth
As a Gem, I really just want to understand the game he is playing.

I can tell he likes me and is attracted to me.. so if he's so unavailable why is he showing signs he is?

Because he is a cheater. What is so hard to understand about that? I swear the geminis that come on this site are some of the dumbest people I've ever met. Please don't get involved with this guy or you'll ruin your life.

As it was said the man is married. Falling for a married man will get you in nothing but the trouble. He belongs to another woman. Period. No point wondering what if? when? why does he act like this? he will act as he please. Don't want to be rude but you can easily be just a game for him, temporary fantasy.

Do Gems always go after unavailable men/pine after them?

I don't mind being a temporary fantasy for him because i do the same in my head. i just want to know is he interested or not. we're not talking forever here. but i've been going over and over this in my head and i still can't come to any sort of conclusion. so any insights regarding why he would show these signs in person yet not respond to a text then seem to be angry/aggressive the next time we see each other?

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Do Gems always go after unavailable men/pine after them?

If Gems don't see forever in you, then they are more likely to be interested in you because you can't pin them down. it's a fantasy a temporary thing and gems get high on that because we like to float and not be weighed down. Also if the Gem is unavailable for anything serious for whatever reason then they would be attracted to someone unavailable because they could have that person's attention yet be free to do what they wanted to.

Posted by tiziani
Only you can know, really. This story is way too short for anyone to be able to say whether he is interested or not. It's not as if there is a textbook for extra marital affairs in an astrology context. Maybe he is interested in having sex with you and that's it. Up to you.

So that's the confusing part...Even if he just wanted sex, he still has made no moves to make it happen...he just sees me at work and gives me these bedroom eyes.

Lol...is that a rule or an exception? So my texting him and saying he's sexy is not a blatant come on? So then...I come unto him, he ignores my text, I think he's rejecting me, I ignore him..end of story?

Oh, and he seems to have no trouble talking to my friend and joking around with her and pulling on her hair yet when I'm there he gets all serious and he doesn't touch me or play with me, just looks at me, and gets all nervous. I mean what is that..

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Posted by Lissanth
Lol...is that a rule or an exception? So my texting him and saying he's sexy is not a blatant come on? So then...I come unto him, he ignores my text, I think he's rejecting me, I ignore him..end of story?

That does sound like a headache, yes. I don't know what your attraction is to this guy but if he's just in it for the attention then what's it worth really? Too much energy. Not to mention, as others have said, he is married. Unless that somehow adds to the "taboo" appeal for you.

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Well I can understand his need/want of attention because Gems are the same. We thrive on attention. So if it's to be a flirt then let's flirt what's with the one minute I like you and the next we're at war—

I think that "As a gemini" was said to get a "Go for it gurl, you two are compatible". Umm no, let him be compatible with his Mrs whatever sign she may be.

Married men will turn your life into a miserable existence, you hear me. Believe me, what you're hearing is the voice of experience. I've been there. You're fortunate because you know about his marital status & there's no involvement of feelings yet. So why the fuck would you want to get yourself in such a messy situation, knowingly? Don't be stupid. Do you know how many times I wish I could turn back the hands of time to the day when I met my lying ex? PLENTY. Unlike you, I spent years not knowing he was married. I got tangled emotionally & when I found out I was beyond heartbroken. The heartbreak was unbelievable. I'm still struggling to this day. Your thread makes me angry because I wish I knew the truth BEFORE. I wish I was you right now. I never would have looked at him twice have I known that he was married. But you still have a chance, so stop this foolery, put on your jogging shoes & RUN.

Posted by tiziani
Libra men do not make the first move. You have to wine and dine us.

I have to disagree here Tiz, dealth with many leebs, got married to one, they were all aggressive (in a good way) and made the first move.

Posted by Lissanth
I don't mind being a temporary fantasy for him because i do the same in my head. i just want to know is he interested or not. we're not talking forever here. but i've been going over and over this in my head and i still can't come to any sort of conclusion. so any insights regarding why he would show these signs in person yet not respond to a text then seem to be angry/aggressive the next time we see each other?

HELLO, he is married! Maybe his wife was there hence him not replying to your text. And maybe he gets angry because his wife could find out with your texting.

Posted by tiziani

Posted by Lib911

Posted by tiziani
Libra men do not make the first move. You have to wine and dine us.

I have to disagree here Tiz, dealth with many leebs, got married to one, they were all aggressive (in a good way) and made the first move.

You know, I was thinking about making a thread about this because I would genuinely like to hear about "libras made the first move" stories.

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You should 🙂 I am curious to hear other stories and experiences

I'm sorry to hear about your bad experience with a married man WaterCup.

At this stage, I'm just trying to understand what would make him act this way.

Not saying that I would and will act on it.

Posted by WaterCup

Posted by Lissanth
I don't mind being a temporary fantasy for him because i do the same in my head. i just want to know is he interested or not. we're not talking forever here. but i've been going over and over this in my head and i still can't come to any sort of conclusion. so any insights regarding why he would show these signs in person yet not respond to a text then seem to be angry/aggressive the next time we see each other?

HELLO, he is married! Maybe his wife was there hence him not replying to your text. And maybe he gets angry because his wife could find out with your texting.

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+1

man, these stories are sooo old... another one bites the dust

Posted by WaterCup

Posted by Lissanth
As a Gem, I really just want to understand the game he is playing.

I can tell he likes me and is attracted to me.. so if he's so unavailable why is he showing signs he is?

Because he is a cheater. What is so hard to understand about that? I swear the geminis that come on this site are some of the dumbest people I've ever met. Please don't get involved with this guy or you'll ruin your life.

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+1!!! Actually the gems I met in real life say things like that. BTW, I saw you posted pics of yourself on dxp. I don't know how long you had them up for but I just saw them now. You are very pretty, my friend!!! I'm a very harsh critic of beauty, so you truly are beautiful!

Posted by WaterCup
I think that "As a gemini" was said to get a "Go for it gurl, you two are compatible". Umm no, let him be compatible with his Mrs whatever sign she may be.

Married men will turn your life into a miserable existence, you hear me. Believe me, what you're hearing is the voice of experience. I've been there. You're fortunate because you know about his marital status & there's no involvement of feelings yet. So why the fuck would you want to get yourself in such a messy situation, knowingly? Don't be stupid. Do you know how many times I wish I could turn back the hands of time to the day when I met my lying ex? PLENTY. Unlike you, I spent years not knowing he was married. I got tangled emotionally & when I found out I was beyond heartbroken. The heartbreak was unbelievable. I'm still struggling to this day. Your thread makes me angry because I wish I knew the truth BEFORE. I wish I was you right now. I never would have looked at him twice have I known that he was married. But you still have a chance, so stop this foolery, put on your jogging shoes & RUN.

Aww baby girl! You are stronger for having this experience and sharing it others so we can learn from it. I know you rather not have this heartbreaking experience but such is life.

Posted by Lissanth
I'm sorry to hear about your bad experience with a married man WaterCup.

At this stage, I'm just trying to understand what would make him act this way.

Not saying that I would and will act on it.

Don't be sorry, most of it is my own doing. But please DO NOT even get tempted to try it or you'll regret it for a long time. Why he acts this way is not important & you shouldn't even care. On to the next available guy, I plead.

Posted by Lissanth
I'm sorry to hear about your bad experience with a married man WaterCup.

At this stage, I'm just trying to understand what would make him act this way.

Not saying that I would and will act on it.

You just don't get it, do you... it doesn't matter what made him act this way!!! he is married!! Nobody here is psychic and knows why he behaves the way he behaves, we can just guess and none of it may be true

Posted by aquarius09

Posted by WaterCup

Posted by Lissanth
As a Gem, I really just want to understand the game he is playing.

I can tell he likes me and is attracted to me.. so if he's so unavailable why is he showing signs he is?

Because he is a cheater. What is so hard to understand about that? I swear the geminis that come on this site are some of the dumbest people I've ever met. Please don't get involved with this guy or you'll ruin your life.

+1!!! Actually the gems I met in real life say things like that. BTW, I saw you posted pics of yourself on dxp. I don't know how long you had them up for but I just saw them now. You are very pretty, my friend!!! I'm a very harsh critic of beauty, so you truly are beautiful!

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Oh hush! LOL, thanks my love 🙂

Posted by aquarius09

Posted by WaterCup
I think that "As a gemini" was said to get a "Go for it gurl, you two are compatible". Umm no, let him be compatible with his Mrs whatever sign she may be.

Married men will turn your life into a miserable existence, you hear me. Believe me, what you're hearing is the voice of experience. I've been there. You're fortunate because you know about his marital status & there's no involvement of feelings yet. So why the fuck would you want to get yourself in such a messy situation, knowingly? Don't be stupid. Do you know how many times I wish I could turn back the hands of time to the day when I met my lying ex? PLENTY. Unlike you, I spent years not knowing he was married. I got tangled emotionally & when I found out I was beyond heartbroken. The heartbreak was unbelievable. I'm still struggling to this day. Your thread makes me angry because I wish I knew the truth BEFORE. I wish I was you right now. I never would have looked at him twice have I known that he was married. But you still have a chance, so stop this foolery, put on your jogging shoes & RUN.

Aww baby girl! You are stronger for having this experience and sharing it others so we can learn from it. I know you rather not have this heartbreaking experience but such is life.

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One day I'll overcome it but sincerly don't want to see others hurting the way I did & still am.

Posted by aquarius09

Posted by WaterCup

Posted by Lissanth
As a Gem, I really just want to understand the game he is playing.

I can tell he likes me and is attracted to me.. so if he's so unavailable why is he showing signs he is?

Because he is a cheater. What is so hard to understand about that? I swear the geminis that come on this site are some of the dumbest people I've ever met. Please don't get involved with this guy or you'll ruin your life.

+1!!! Actually the gems I met in real life say things like that. BTW, I saw you posted pics of yourself on dxp. I don't know how long you had them up for but I just saw them now. You are very pretty, my friend!!! I'm a very harsh critic of beauty, so you truly are beautiful!

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Thanks 🙂

Posted by tiziani
How many Geminis does it take to shake a head?

Ooooooooooooooo

Posted by Lissanth
I don't mind being a temporary fantasy for him because i do the same in my head. i just want to know is he interested or not. we're not talking forever here. but i've been going over and over this in my head and i still can't come to any sort of conclusion. so any insights regarding why he would show these signs in person yet not respond to a text then seem to be angry/aggressive the next time we see each other?

He's Married, what interest can he even give you

Posted by Lib911

Posted by tiziani
Libra men do not make the first move. You have to wine and dine us.

I have to disagree here Tiz, dealth with many leebs, got married to one, they were all aggressive (in a good way) and made the first move.

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+1

What is wrong with you that you're entertaining any of this with a married man? Go find someone that's single.

Posted by Lissanth
I'm sorry to hear about your bad experience with a married man WaterCup.

At this stage, I'm just trying to understand what would make him act this way.

Not saying that I would and will act on it.

I don't think married people are any different from single people in experiencing feelings of attraction. The main diff is they've committed themselves to a life partner and will GENERALLY choose NOT to act upon attraction felt for another person.

I already mentionned earlier in the thread that many Libras are emotional "broadcasters." From what you've described, I would interpret that, while this man may very well be attracted to you, his feelings AT BEST are ambivalent. His new coolness towards you is probably a coping measure to "cool things down" between you.

Also, he's in a pretty delicate situation since he is married AND is also your supervisor at work. He may fear not only for his marriage but for his livelihood. Many companies outright prohibit employees dating if one of the employees supervises the other. He might worry that if he outright tells you he's uninterested in developing your relationship you might report him for sexual harrassment and/or contact his wife, making trouble for his marriage.

Honestly, if you can add 2 and 2, his behavior makes all the sense in the world.

In short, there are MANY reasons for him to have changed towards you. At the end of the day, it's not terribly important. You still have your job and your self-respect. No serious harm done. Let it be and move on.

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Posted by Lissanth
I'm sorry to hear about your bad experience with a married man WaterCup.

At this stage, I'm just trying to understand what would make him act this way.

Not saying that I would and will act on it.

I don't think married people are any different from single people in experiencing feelings of attraction. The main diff is they've committed themselves to a life partner and will GENERALLY choose NOT to act upon attraction felt for another person.

I already mentionned earlier in the thread that many Libras are emotional "broadcasters." From what you've described, I would interpret that, while this man may very well be attracted to you, his feelings AT BEST are ambivalent. His new coolness towards you is probably a coping measure to "cool things down" between you.

Also, he's in a pretty delicate situation since he is married AND is also your supervisor at work. He may fear not only for his marriage but for his livelihood. Many companies outright prohibit employees dating if one of the employees supervises the other. He might worry that if he outright tells you he's uninterested in developing your relationship you might report him for sexual harrassment and/or contact his wife, making trouble for his marriage.

Honestly, if you can add 2 and 2, his behavior makes all the sense in the world.

In short, there are MANY reasons for him to have changed towards you. At the end of the day, it's not terribly important. You still have your job and your self-respect. No serious harm done. Let it be and move on.

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Thank you for really listening.

Posted by Lissanth

Posted by CreoleGeisha

Posted by Lissanth
I'm sorry to hear about your bad experience with a married man WaterCup.

At this stage, I'm just trying to understand what would make him act this way.

Not saying that I would and will act on it.

I don't think married people are any different from single people in experiencing feelings of attraction. The main diff is they've committed themselves to a life partner and will GENERALLY choose NOT to act upon attraction felt for another person.

I already mentionned earlier in the thread that many Libras are emotional "broadcasters." From what you've described, I would interpret that, while this man may very well be attracted to you, his feelings AT BEST are ambivalent. His new coolness towards you is probably a coping measure to "cool things down" between you.

Also, he's in a pretty delicate situation since he is married AND is also your supervisor at work. He may fear not only for his marriage but for his livelihood. Many companies outright prohibit employees dating if one of the employees supervises the other. He might worry that if he outright tells you he's uninterested in developing your relationship you might report him for sexual harrassment and/or contact his wife, making trouble for his marriage.

Honestly, if you can add 2 and 2, his behavior makes all the sense in the world.

In short, there are MANY reasons for him to have changed towards you. At the end of the day, it's not terribly important. You still have your job and your self-respect. No serious harm done. Let it be and move on.

Thank you for really listening.

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