Oh God!

This topic was created in the Libra forum by Chatz on Tuesday, April 10, 2007 and has 73 replies.
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Ok well as I've decided that its all just too hard with Libra, along comes along LIbra 2 - OMG nooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!
I swore I'd never even consider another!!!! What to do???? He's actually chasing ME!!! Very easy on the eye, tall, and yeah, what more can I say but Im not even remotely going to be over Libra 1 for a long time....what to do???
Just from nowhere this guy has appeared....less than 24 hours after deciding 6 months is long enough to wait for things to improve with the one who has toyed with me for too long.......what is a girl to do? He's calling me, he sent me a rose for goodness sake - that's 5,000% more than "the love of my life" has done in 6 months!!!!
Atom come quickly!!!!
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Wow! The mermaid tail really worked! MAYBE that's what will happen with me (Libra Girl 2 out of the blue). SO confusing, isn't it!!!??
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Ummmmmmm yeah...and now texts from Libra 1...oh noooo I wanna hide Sad
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Nah. Then we couldn't see you blush!
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LOL....Oh but I can do that in my hiding spot Tongue
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And now Libra 1 is using words I use....he's never used "hindsight" before...suddenly its his favourite word...argghhhh LOL
*confused*
Might have to eat some chocolate!!
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Wow... These are the days of our lives (with Libras)... LOL!
So, do you think you like this new one? If not, then cut it off before it starts, so you don't have to worry about putting yourself in this situation again...? Eek...
"Might have to eat some chocolate!!"
Mmmmmmmm, chocolate would be good right now. Chocolate solves everything!
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OMG, my sista from down unda!...my Libra used "hindsight" in an email this morning. Freaky.
shoves a KitKat through the internet channel Doh, it got trapped on the Barrier Reef!
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What is going on Chatz?? I thought things were going well with Libra 1?? Libra 2?? You are too much... but have fun. All libras are slightly diff. Look at my ex and my current libra. Look at HP and her new libra..they seem to come in two's!!
Things are going well here. Just spent 2 glorious days with my libra. No extra (sexy) stuff at all.. and that was not my wishes.. believe me!!! but oh well. Had lots of fun none the less and he did ask to kiss me before I left.. so that was good. I thought I wasn't going to get any affection. We played video games and indoor basketball, went to the movies, went to an expensive fondu resaurant, went to the shooting range, played pool, watched TV, stayed up Monday night playing cards.. (which he whipped my butt in all the ametaur sports previously mentioned.. but I guess it's ok... he paid for everything) He has totally spoiled me and I know he spent a lot of $ $ on me in 2 days. But I don't get to see him much, so I guess it is ok. I met his dad for the first time in 7 years.. so that was cool! I was nervous as heck.. but I got through it!
So anyway.. there is my update!
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Chatz, Chocolate (and coffee) answers all things.
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Ooooh thanks for the kitkat...yummm!!!!
Brats, its about time you came back to visit....glad things are going well for you smile Brats, you get all the fun things with your LIbra that I would like to do and I get the stuff you want too.....how bout we smack their heads together??? LOL
Me? ummmm things are going ok with Libra 1 but that's just it...its only ok....still now he's trying to pull me back in knowing how I feel, knowing that he won't/can't give me what I want and that its pure hell seeing him only once or twice a week or fortnight, chatting a few times during the weeks, etc.....dunno, I just dunno. Alcheme? I don't know..he seems really nice and where on earth he sprung from?? sheesh, I dunno LOL....to be honest though, Libra 1 has made me see r/ships in a different way and its going to take some time for me to move on..he won't let me walk and deep down we all know I don't want to and until I do decide its over for good? Im stuck in limbo. Chatted with him last night for an hour - was a bit strained coz of where my head is right now but he can think about it a bit too....I know he will, he normally does....no doubt we'll catch up with eachother over the weekend but grrrrrrrrrr life is even more complicated now. Guess whatever will be will be smile

LOL HP...hindsight huh?? its not a word one would use everyday...freaky!!!
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Limbo's okay. In hindsight.
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don't you start!!! LOL
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Stuck for another 6 months huh??? If you wanna run, run now... Big Grin
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"If you wanna run, run now... "
That is what I was thinking. LOL!
But, from the sounds of it (below), this time it sounds like Chatz is the one in the wrong place for a relationship...
"to be honest though, Libra 1 has made me see r/ships in a different way and its going to take some time for me to move on..he won't let me walk and deep down we all know I don't want to and until I do decide its over for good?"
That being said, wasn't HP kind of / sort of in this place when she met he new good Libra that she is now all hot and heavy with?!? Maybe I am remembering incorrectly... Long day, but a lot achieved. More to do when I get home... LOL!
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thelibran, I think he knows Im trying to run, hence he's trying harder now and I think I'll just give r/ships a miss for a while....coz you're right Alcheme, Im not in the right place now, mind you I'd change in a heartbeat for HIM. Geeze its been 12 months since I finally ended things with that overbearing Gemini and Im more confuzzled than ever - I really thought this guy would break but I give up....he's doing all the work now and I will continue to see him until such time as Im ready to walk away for good but for now I guess FWB will be ok...who knows....just too tired to worry about it much anymore.
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thelibran...THAT is exactly what the Libran guy said on our first meeting...run, run fast...perhaps I should have just listened!!! He obviously knows what he does Sad
The sex is great though and he does treat me well when we see eachother, guess that's ok for now LOL
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The worst thing will be to get stuck btween 2 librans. Hard for you as well as for them.. So better play safe....
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for them??? sheesh LOL...I don't think I'll get stuck on number 2 as nice as he is and good looking? OMG yum but nah!! It will take a LOOOOOOOOONG time to remove feelings for #1....he knows it too Sad
Anyway thanks....Im slowly moving one leg at a time to try and run!!
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"That being said, wasn't HP kind of / sort of in this place when she met he new good Libra that she is now all hot and heavy with?!?"
No, you're right. I almost didn't give this guy a chance.
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Chatz, I say give this #2 guy a chance. Isn't it a great feeling to be chased rather than wondering/hoping/fretting over someone who can't get the hint that we want to be pursued (because we're putting more into it than they are).
You have every bit of control to walk away from #1. The feelings that you feel for this guy will go away once you find a MAN who makes you feel like you are the only person who matters.
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***You have every bit of control to walk away from #1. The feelings that you feel for this guy will go away once you find a MAN who makes you feel like you are the only person who matters.***
I concur HP.... smile
Seriously Chatz, if number one isn't ready or at the level you need him to be at this time, it isn't his fault or yours, just timing is all.
Give number 2 a chance. He is atleast persuing you... That is when you know a Libra is serious, ooops, wait let me take that back, they ALL persue in the beginning. However, if number two shows he is interested in you as far as dating and commitment wise. It can be a pleasant experience. Trust me... smile Nothing like a sure Libra MAN who knows what he wants.
The indecisive ones should be left alone to decide...
Just my 3 cents. It can be heavenly. Hehehe. Ahhh FL here we come!!!

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Hmmmmm yes well number 2 is more than serious - sheesh!!!
Libra 1 is still aloof and still only throwing me the crumbs while he sits at home brooding about something lately. Dunno, wish I could help but he doesnt seem to want me around until he's ready to see me. Never known him to be THIS quiet though...maybe he realises Im messed up coz of him, well actually he does but I find it hard to believe he'd now be acting like this because of it. I worry about him but as he has said a few times "don't feel bad, Im not worth it"....guess I can only be rejected so many times with "Im not ready for a r/ship, don't know when I will be" but see him on singles sites every damned day/night of the week, still searching for "the one" no doubt.
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr@how he makes me feel so great when we are together then NOTHING until he's good and ready.
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
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Well I went to lunch with Libra 2 - OMG!!! He is so NOT damaged and knows what he wants...OMG what to do!!!!
*is in dilemma* LOL........just got back to work and he has text me 3 times already....OMG I am NOT used to this - amazing what the last 6 months have done to me....geeeeeeze!!!
Ok time to sit back and watch the games begin but on that note, the last thing I'd want to do is hurt this guy - he is so genuine and sweet and OMG!!!
*gets some more chocolate*
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And to think this all started just because I started swimming to Australia. . .
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Please Atom, hurry!!!! We can run away to the Gold Coast together!!!
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You better believe it! BUT we'd have to add our comments to the Libra Board once in a while. . .
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but of course....I wouldn't let us dessert our dear Libran friends and those whom are mad enough to be in love with them LOL
Tongue
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But really, Chatz, TWO Libras would be ideal because you could balance one on each scale and BOTH would love that! Ha!
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Chatz,
Go for it! I almost didn't give this guy a chance and things are so great right now. It's scary, but it's so awesome right now.
He's pursuing you; isn't that 1000 times better than what you had with the stay-at-home rut guy?
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Lil' busy right now
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LOL Atom that's crazy but extremely funny
HP...yeah its nice to be pursued but he's too full on way too soon and he's way too smitten - sheesh....he's got us married off already and retired in some country town - argghhhh!!!!! He sends texts constantly and Im not used to that kind of thing (yeah thanks to the stay at home rut guy). Guess Im running scared now and won't be pursuing any more LIbrans nor any other men for that matter for quite some time.
Im done but still happy to chat on here....like I've said before, if Libra 1 wants me (which I know he doesnt coz he would have shown that by now), he knows where I am, and Im not going anywhere for a long time...grrrrr@the last 6 months....a damaged Leo...what could be worse??? ahhh yes, I know, a damaged Libran
Guys who are emotionally detached/unavailable should not be on the dating scene...grrrrr
Anyway, its Monday morning and Ive got to start thinking about getting on with my life again...forget the Libran - hmmm easier said than done but here goes
Have fun ladies and gentlemen smile
LOL QS - good to see you're "busy"
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Chatz,
Only you know where you are emotionally now... If you aren't ready for relationships again, then the right guy will come around when you are later. Perhaps some girl time/you time (as you have suggested) would be good at helping you to move on from Libra 1 and get back to that place again. Getting over someone can be a long and painful thing, but when you do and are ready to venture forth again, you will know it. I wish you luck in getting back there as quickly and painlessly as possible... smile
So, what do you intend on doing with Libra 2? Perhaps you can tell him you are not in the right place, right now... If he is REALLY that interested, perhaps he will wait around until you are?!? Or, perhaps he will just make a good friend (not fwb Winking)...
QS,
Apparently you haven't been "busy" enough if you have both the time and energy to post... Winking Just kidding...
Sounds like you two are having a great time. Can't wait to hear all about it!
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Thanks Alcheme....I know what the next few weeks/months are going to be like unfortunately....I already know Sad
Libra 2?? he sent a text at midnight telling me how much he misses me already, yada yada...again too much too soon and to be honest, I just wanted to be left alone in my own misery last night, not get a text like that - the only one I wanted was from Libra 1 but they aren't coming unless he's good and ready....I am going to tell Libra 2 tonight that Im just not ready for a r/ship and that I am happy to chat from time to time, even catch up (as we work close to eachother) but nothing more will eventuate. Just can't and don't want to.
Again, I know what the near foreseeable future is going to be like and I know Libra 1 will continue to try to play games with me when he's ready to throw me a few crumbs again. Planning to stay really busy this week but will say hi from time to time smile
Thanks again to you all for your support/advice, etc.....guess he was just too broken and now in the process so am I....bugger!!! LOL
Gotta get back to work - cheers to you all xx
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(providing shoulder to put your head on)
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Well Mr Wishy Washy finally made contact yesterday afternoon and again last night.....you know, one of those funny comment, flirty little texts he loves to send to clear the air so to speak...I haven't responded yet to last nights text - as he has left it 5 days since my last text??? Im sure he can wait, wait for me to come up with just the right answer LOL
Don't like playing games but I have to say I've been way too good to him - he's just using that......Im not quite thinking of him 24/7 anymore, its probably around 12/7 now....trying really hard to tell my brain to tell my heart "STOP IT"
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and thank you my dear Atom!!! You are a such a gentleman smile xx
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I just thought of something I want to point out. By stating that your not "in the right place" due to Libra #1, to try things out with Libra #2 your actually just surrendering control to Libra #1 and all of the negative emotions that go along with that relationship.
So.....by giving Libra #2 a chance your actually taking control of yourself and your situation....after all your just seeing where it goes. Your attracted to this guy, but put off by the pace. So, tell him....your sorry you have been evasive, your attracted to him and would like to see each other casually but he needs to calm down a little on the emotional pace as it is putting you off. If he says "No prob" and takes it to heart then I think you found yourself some good 'ol possiblity.
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Do I rock or what?
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"Do I rock or what?"
You definitely rock my world... Winking
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Ill show you my world if you show me yours smile
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"Ill show you my world if you show me yours "
I thought we already did that...several times... Did you have your eyes closed or something?!?!?
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I was trying to trick you into doing it again. Sad
SHOW ME YOURS NOW DAMMIT!
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get a room again guys!!! sheesh LOL
Ummm Nic, I have done that but I stated that I would like to be friends and that's it. Im doing ok here, honestly. Its nice to hear from Libra 1 that's for sure...glad he's thinking of me, however, yes I am getting on with my life but Libra 2 isn't the one for me...nobody is at present and Im happy with that.
As I said before, if Libra 1 one day gets his act together and I am still single, then woooohooooo that'd be awesome but in the meantime, Ive been going out over the past few nights with friends and just doing my own thing. THAT's the best medicine for me smile
Thanks nic, your advice has always been awesome but no more Libras after this one LOL
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"I was trying to trick you into doing it again."
"Trick me" into doing it again?!? Hello?!?! You're talking to a Scorp... WTF? All you really have to do to get them to do it again is look at them, or not look at them, or be in the same room, or don't be in the same room... Are you getting the picture yet?!?!?

"SHOW ME YOURS NOW DAMMIT!"
Make me... Winking
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"get a room again guys!!! sheesh LOL"
Mmmmmmmm... Damn, don't I wish...
"but no more Libras after this one LOL"
Ah! Don't swear off the entire species because of one genetic reject!!! There are really great, awesome, fantastic Libras, and you deserve to have one of your own...
But, perhaps a slight detour to Aries land might be in order, first. Burn off some of those pent up frustrations...
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LOL yes I do find Aries to have a more ummmm...how shall I put this? ok ummmm, alright, come right out with it....."GO GET EM" attitude, not to mention "FOLLOW THROUGH" attitude which is much sexier than the "hmmm let's see, shall I or shant I?, nah I'll leave it to the other person" attitude...
Oh and don't worry, I am still very much loyal to Libra 1 (geeeze now Im saying Libra 1 and 2 - sheesh!!!...there's only one!!!), but grrrrrrrrrrrr@indecisiveness and aloofness and shall I go on??? nah, didn't think so LOL
At least I can still laugh and for Godsake Alcheme and Nic what are you going to do??? Get a webcam perhaps??? or is that old news?? LMAO

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***I just thought of something I want to point out. By stating that your not "in the right place" due to Libra #1, to try things out with Libra #2 your actually just surrendering control to Libra #1 and all of the negative emotions that go along with that relationship.***
O'Wise one Nic... Damn no one could have said it betther. Yeah Chatz what he said. If you don't take control of the situation you will always be on this rollercoaster ride with Libra number 1. I understand that you don't want to persue the possibility with number 2, though, I must say unless he really isn't your type you could be missing out on something special. However, you keep going back and forth with the "I am doing my own thing and I am done" then he pulls you in again and it's "the who will contact who game etc. Emotions and giddiness" just to be let down again when he decides to step back.
This cannot be healthy. I hope I don't rub you the wrong way when I say this but, it is almost like you are holding on to a hopeless dream.
1. He has repeatedly told you he doesn't want/can't persue a relationship right now. Even if he loves you he can't do it and this is something you want "A Relationship" not a casual whatever. You told him this in the beginning.
2. See, the way people misread Libra men are, they tell you what they mean, but they are still so nice and into you when you are around them that you get this bright idea that the feelings can change (anything is possible this is true) but if they say they don't want a relationship etc. They don't, they are just great at making whomever is around them feel like the number 1 person in their world which confuses women. It is important to take their word than their action because they are naturally charming and giving and romantic.
So, because it is crystal clear you want what this man cannot give you right now. You can either continue to torture yourself by holding on - which continues to give him complete control of the situation.
Or, you can focus your valuable time where it will be appreciated in a way that you desire and deserve.
I know this is raw, but it is truth and at some point you should draw the line or continue on this roller coaster. Remember, if he loses control, it just might intrigue him to step up to the plate. However, you cannot expect him to step up to the plate and he has continuously told you that isn't what he wants right now. You know what I am saying?
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