So...what happened?

Posted by notyourtype
What's your sign? Do you happen to be a Gemini or an Aqua?
Regardless, I know this is going to sting, but this guy never saw you as anything more than a buddy to confide in. Any romantic interest that transpired was simply from your end. Besides chatting to you for hours, he never really did anything to suggest he liked you (in a romantic sense), and you were never direct about your feelings for him, so it's not even a case of him leading you on and then "dropping" you.
Libras are typically big chit-chatters. Just because someone chats you up for hours on end, doesn't necessarily mean they like you... it just means they like TALKING to you. I don't doubt there was a lot of chemistry between you two, and I'm sure he felt it, too, which was why he enjoyed conversing with you so much. But while the emotional chemistry was present, perhaps he feels the physical or sexual chemistry was lacking. Or maybe it's a completely different reason; only he will know.
Basically... "what happened" was you got carried away and misinterpreted his friendliness for interest, while he got busy with life, met a new girl he's actually interested in, and has lost the desire to speak with you as frequently as before. Sucks, but it happens, and you just have to move on. I would suggest distancing yourself from him, as you will only be more hurt every time you speak and he mentions the other girl.

Posted by Girlfidelity
Hello! I just wanted some insight on a situation that has happened recently. I fully understand that I may have read signs wrong and/or let myself get swept away, but any advice helps
About 3 months ago, I met a libra man through mutual gaming friends. Mind you, we live several states apart. We IMMEDIATELY hit it off, our chemistry was great and we had so many things in common. For a few weeks, we constantly chatted for hours on end and eventually the subject got into my prior relationships (they've all ended terribly) and I ended up telling him everything, even things that involved emotions ( which is a major no no). Well, he told me he wanted to be there for me and if I ever needed someone he was there. Lovely!
We became so close he started disclosing things about himself and eventually would come to me when he was going through emotional things. We kind of depended on each other. So then it turned into a weird stage where we would fall asleep in the phone together just so we could wake up and say good morning, he would always tell me his schedule and when he would be available, Etc. We eventually talked about that and both agreed that we wanted no pressure and wanted things to be natural and organic.
About a month ago (2 months into our friendship) he starts backing off and being distant. When I talked to him, he sounded bored. I just let him be because I figured he was stressed from work and didn't mention any of my concern. About a week ago he starts talking to me again as his normal friend and tells me about a girl he met near him. Talk about a kick in the chest!
So after a few days I finally told him that it bothered me and asked him questions about what happened between us. He simply said he always saw us as just friends and that our relationship just evolved into what it is now. There was nothing fir me to really do at that point, so I said fine and we are still friends.
Any reasons why he would just drop what we had? His mood toward me changed almost overnight. I know he met a girl he is getting to know but I feel like we had such a deep connection and I don't want to give up too easily. I can give more details about my reactions to him if it helps!

Posted by Girlfidelity
Thanks, Notyourtype! Your response answered everything quite eloquently
I apologize if the message seemed so fleeting, it was pretty late in the night and I was half awake.
I'm an Aquarius, by the way.
Also, I never said (to whomever mentioned this) that he committed a crime, I don't believe I spoke ill of him, I just don't know much about Libras and how they interact. I simply wanted insight on whether there may have been something that I could have done or if I just let myself get carried away.
And a "real relationship" because there has been no face-to-face is a subject I won't delve into, but we never agreed to have that title in the first place. We both agreed to just let things be and he said we would just let the relationship evolve on it's own...just seems like he devolved his side on his own without letting me know.

Posted by WaterCup
I re-read the OP, it doesn't sound Aqua to me. Aquas have a matter of fact tone even in writting. Must be a water sign, I vote for Pisces.

Posted by WaterCup

Posted by Girlfidelity
Thanks, Notyourtype! Your response answered everything quite eloquently
I apologize if the message seemed so fleeting, it was pretty late in the night and I was half awake.
I'm an Aquarius, by the way.
Also, I never said (to whomever mentioned this) that he committed a crime, I don't believe I spoke ill of him, I just don't know much about Libras and how they interact. I simply wanted insight on whether there may have been something that I could have done or if I just let myself get carried away.
And a "real relationship" because there has been no face-to-face is a subject I won't delve into, but we never agreed to have that title in the first place. We both agreed to just let things be and he said we would just let the relationship evolve on it's own...just seems like he devolved his side on his own without letting me know.

You're searching for answers, clues or whatever, just like a detective. Detective, crime...get it? Your situation is simple, no need for sniffing dogs...he found somebody else. If he did that then it means he never saw you as more than just a friend. So you don't need to bother yourself trying to crack this case. Focus on what is happening NOW. He's with somebody else NOW. The past is not so important. NoW, nOw, Now is what is important. Forget astrology & think realistically to save yourself from further delusions.
I'm still shocked that you're an aqua lol.

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Posted by WaterCup
I re-read the OP, it doesn't sound Aqua to me. Aquas have a matter of fact tone even in writting. Must be a water sign, I vote for Pisces.

Yeah seriously! Get your aqua info straight. Aquas don't behave like that, in fact we can be friends with someone/love interest without wanting more. I wouldn't be bumped in her situation if the guy told me he saw me as just friends. I'd be super excited that we're still friends
I'm an aqua stellium and I have NEVER chased a guy who didn't want me or even the ones that wanted me. LOL.

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Posted by aquarius09
ON second thought, I'll stick up for my aqua girl here by attacking libras..yet again. LOL.
ALL of my libra male friends pull bullshit like this in the name of "lets go with the flow". They do what I call and normal people call "lead girls on". A libra friend of mine is actually doing that at the moment with a cancer chick who he isn't "feeling" (his words not mine). I told him to stop talking to her and he wouldn't listen because he says "We're friends. I like talking to her. She's nice, but I don't wanna date her". I'm like "She's not your fucking friend. She's your safety net to satiate your loneliness until someone more appealing comes along! We all know how you met her and that she likes you."
They met through a friend. Hit it off. He was initially feeling her because of all the non-stop conversations they had, but then three weeks later he got bored and now he doesn't want her more than friends. Meanwhile, did he tell her that explicitly? No! He doesn't wanna be the bad guy and make her cry by telling her that he doesn't like her more than friends, but at the same time he is maintaining their friendship because she offers comfort to him in his lonely hours while he has nobody! In libra terms, she is a safety net, not a friend. Fucking douche. Can't believe I'm friends with him. lol. At least I cuss him off. lol

Posted by notyourtype

Posted by WaterCup
Hey, what's that supposed to mean? The aqua bit lol.

I was curious because the OP kept mentioning a "deep chemistry", which I think is commonplace between Libras and Aquas, based on my personal encounters and those of other Libras I know.
I'm not versed enough in astrology to discern what someone's sign is based on their tone of speech or how they react to a given situation.

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
He was just friends. You mistook friendliness for interest.
These guys are good at that shit.
Move along. Nothing to see here.

Posted by WaterCup

Posted by aquarius09

Posted by WaterCup
I re-read the OP, it doesn't sound Aqua to me. Aquas have a matter of fact tone even in writting. Must be a water sign, I vote for Pisces.

Yeah seriously! Get your aqua info straight. Aquas don't behave like that, in fact we can be friends with someone/love interest without wanting more. I wouldn't be bumped in her situation if the guy told me he saw me as just friends. I'd be super excited that we're still friends
I'm an aqua stellium and I have NEVER chased a guy who didn't want me or even the ones that wanted me. LOL.

IKR. I don't even have an aqua stellium but I'm like that too. If you don't want me then I don't want you too. Bye.
This thread is embarrassing because she says she felt a deep connection & doesnt want to give up too easily. Yet he was upfront & told her that it has always been about friendship on his part. What's SO hard to understand about that? If she persist, then she'll be stalkerish. WTF? Keep it moving. Who cares what happened months ago? It's obviously not the case NOW. Some women just like to suffer even when things are made simple for them. Unbelievable.

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