So...what happened?
Posted by Girlfidelity
Hello! I just wanted some insight on a situation that has happened recently. I fully understand that I may have read signs wrong and/or let myself get swept away, but any advice helps
About 3 months ago, I met a libra man through mutual gaming friends. Mind you, we live several states apart. We IMMEDIATELY hit it off, our chemistry was great and we had so many things in common. For a few weeks, we constantly chatted for hours on end and eventually the subject got into my prior relationships (they've all ended terribly) and I ended up telling him everything, even things that involved emotions ( which is a major no no). Well, he told me he wanted to be there for me and if I ever needed someone he was there. Lovely!
We became so close he started disclosing things about himself and eventually would come to me when he was going through emotional things. We kind of depended on each other. So then it turned into a weird stage where we would fall asleep in the phone together just so we could wake up and say good morning, he would always tell me his schedule and when he would be available, Etc. We eventually talked about that and both agreed that we wanted no pressure and wanted things to be natural and organic.
About a month ago (2 months into our friendship) he starts backing off and being distant. When I talked to him, he sounded bored. I just let him be because I figured he was stressed from work and didn't mention any of my concern. About a week ago he starts talking to me again as his normal friend and tells me about a girl he met near him. Talk about a kick in the chest!
So after a few days I finally told him that it bothered me and asked him questions about what happened between us. He simply said he always saw us as just friends and that our relationship just evolved into what it is now. There was nothing fir me to really do at that point, so I said fine and we are still friends.
Any reasons why he would just drop what we had? His mood toward me changed almost overnight. I know he met a girl he is getting to know but I feel like we had such a deep connection and I don't want to give up too easily. I can give more details about my reactions to him if it helps!
It appears to me that you have never seen him face to face?
Well, it's not a "real" relationship. Yes, it's a real friendship, but if you ar
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OMG!!! This is an almost identical thread to the one you posted back in October 2013.
Is this the same Aries guy putting you on this pedestal or are you just unlucky?
If it's the same guy and you have put up with it for this long what the fuck are you asking advice for ??
Is this the same Aries guy putting you on this pedestal or are you just unlucky?
If it's the same guy and you have put up with it for this long what the fuck are you asking advice for ??
Eh, idk, not all aries are the same. I'm friends with an Aries who was/is interested in me. We're similar in many ways and that's partly a reason why I was never attracted to him. I've known a few aries that have intimidated me with their behavior, but there's also the calmer ones. It just depends on what kind of pisces you are and what kind of aries you meet! It's all about what works best for /you/, not what works best for your sign.
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Hence why I have my own company. There's no room to hide in a small company. When someone comes from a large company it's typical that they immediately try to offload something which they don't want to do. I tell them to look around and ask who is going to do it. If they can't get out of that mindset, they don't stay.
Posted by Willyynillyy
Pinklibra I know. I've racked my brain as well. And no he doesn't follow me on anything. I guess snapchat. But what are the odds he'll answer a snap. 0.
LibraSid.... Yes. I reacted badly. What can I say? I'm trying to make amends which I can't do when I'm being ignored. Weird but I actually have a lot of friends where he lives so in that month I was there about 3 days a week for 3 weeks. And I saw him when I was there. Still. I know I overreacted.
The "Unbelievable" statement says the rest to you. Read more into it, it says sooooo much.
Now you won't get a response if at all until he is ready. Perhaps it's time to give him that space that you know he needs..
AND if you can't deal with that and be patient then this guy is certainly not the one for you. At this point he has no commitment to you and you feel he does, you've dated a half dozen times but there is no obligation to give you anything in his mind.
Keep pushing and apologising and you will be shut our further...it's the way I would react! You would come off as loopy in my mind!
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Posted by munchkinPosted by Scenic
I'm 5'2. There's probably not many guys under my height but having one as a partner would probably be a bit of a downer. I won't lie, the physical side of our relationship would be hurting. The tallest I've dated is 6'3, and I really enjoyed that. The other two are around 5'10 which is underwhelming but not an issue. I'd say 5'7 is the point where I'd start feeling disappointed.
??? 5'10 is underwhelming? At that height for someone 5'2, he'd need to squat down to kiss you.
If I was 5'2, 5'7 would be my upper limit, because I wouldn't want to feel like a little kid needing Santa to put me on his lap so I can kiss him.click to expand
Nah, only the 6'3 guy was out of my reach. : ) 5'10 sounds tall compared to my height, but standing next to a guy that height, I find that there's not a big difference. Nothing that makes me think 'wow, he's tall!'. I mean, my mother says she's 5'6/7. Standing next to her, I think we're the same height, but we're not. 5'10 is only a few inches taller than her. That height difference would be more noticeable than with my mother, but not by much.
I don't know if this has any real basis in fact but I remember this coming up in discussions around that age. What I always believed was the statutory rape question comes into play when one participant is over 18 and one under, except if they were within 4 years of each other. This is what teen boys told each other though. That always sounded reasonable to me so I accepted it.
No.