This may sound mean.but how do I get rid of libra?

This topic was created in the Libra forum by theleoman on Tuesday, January 21, 2014 and has 109 replies.
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I have only seen this Libra girl 2 times and she will not leave me alone> She now claims to be in love with me now. I only spoke to her on the phone for about 10 times see her twice, that was enough for me .
She was to demanding for attention expecting me 2 call and reply to text at anytime of day,it turned me off and I told her i was not interested .Plus it she seem way to attached and way to fast.
40 calls later and 40 text with no response from me she is still acting like everything is good and even states she knows I am not interested but is still saying things like its good terms although know its not.
I sent one text saying in a formal way discontinue calling this phone its harassment.
I basically want nothing to do with this person and she feels like i am obligated to talk to her.
She comes up with the most bizarre reasons that i should continue communicating with her i want her out of my life
Any tips?
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Yes I "hit" but it was her attitude that made me "quit" The truth has already been told & we were not dating either. The things is a few phone calls and text every day not matter what.Yes it has become harassment.
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she was aware of FWB but its overbearing and its been over sorry 100 text since jan 12 and i haven't replied to any text or calls. But I made her aware of my reasons why she promised not to call or text but is still doing it. Can I tree-truck her again YES . Will I tree-trunk her again NO. was it worth it NO. has this happened before NO.Do i want it to stop YES.
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Posted by Sweeetz
Posted by geminicandIe
I am curious to know their age...


Okay. That is the second time you asked what I was going to ask, lol. I was just thinking she may be really young.
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over 30 years of age. Adults Yes
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Posted by theleoman
Yes I "hit" but it was her attitude that made me "quit" The truth has already been told & we were not dating either. The things is a few phone calls and text every day not matter what.Yes it has become harassment.



Did you make it clear from the beginning that you were not looking for a commitment?
Be clear and honest with her one last time. Tell her that you are not interested in continuing any type of relationship with her. Don't be ugly, just direct. She should then disappear.
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Posted by duchessedenemours
As much of an ass as he sounds to be, you can't solely blame him for the sex thing. Women should be self aware enough to know if they can handle sex without a commitment.


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They need to take responsibility for their actions.. You're the one that gave it up! It was consensual so don't act like he owes you anything!
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Posted by geminicandIe
Posted by theleoman
she was aware of FWB but its overbearing and its been over sorry 100 text since jan 12 and i haven't replied to any text or calls. But I made her aware of my reasons why she promised not to call or text but is still doing it. Can I tree-truck her again YES . Will I tree-trunk her again NO. was it worth it NO. has this happened before
NO.Do i want it to stop YES.


It would be easier if you just paid a Hooker for sex, don't you think?
I swear, men are dumb. But so are the women. If she gonna spread them like that, at least find someone to pay her bills and dinners and gifts. SMH!
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Usually this is how things started off in the "see how things goes" she is also the one who kept calling us friends, but even as a friend or more than a tried its text and call overload
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Posted by geminicandIe
It's okay, though. Sounds like his ego needs to be taken down a notch.


I am not lying I went back to my phone to check.
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If it's gotten this bad and she still hasn't gotten the hint after you've been firm with her the best thing to do is file a restraining order.
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Posted by Sweeetz
Yeah, emotionally she can't handle it. Leoman, google the story of Steve McNair. I'm not saying your Libra is capable of something like that but playing with someone's emotions won't end well. Maybe you haven't told her firmly enough and you are keeping the door open in case she calms down and you can revisit the sex again.


Yeah, something is not right. He even said "I don't wanna be mean". I imagine that he is going passively-aggressively about it and not assertive enough. Killing her softly, etc...
What an awkward situation. If worse comes to worst, he can change number and even notify authorities. She may need expert help.
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From what I've read it doesn't seem like he's being passive-aggressive... some women just need to take a hint.
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Posted by Sweeetz
Yeah, emotionally she can't handle it. Leoman, google the story of Steve McNair. I'm not saying your Libra is capable of something like that but playing with someone's emotions won't end well. Maybe you haven't told her firmly enough and you are keeping the door open in case she calms down and you can revisit the sex again.


Thanks for the story and of course I do not want to end up like that. I have been more than clear I quote her" I know you dont want nothing to do with me"
Prior communication had nothing to do with being relationship and did not lead her on in anyway. Her text today stated that she is leaving the door open for me.
I will be banning myself from sex moving forward but the really issue is what can be said to her if anything to turn this butter off
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Posted by geminicandIe
I don't think he is firm enough.
I'm beating him up with Gemini words of mass destruction and he hasn't lashed out yet, lol.
Leoman, step up to the plate!
I want you to pick up the phone right now and tell her what you've told us. Keep it short and concise. Tell her that if she doesn't stop, you will have no choice but to notify the authorities.
That should calm her down and keep her away.


LOL "mass destruction" ......"Tell her that if she doesn't stop, you will have no choice but to notify the authorities."I sent that in a text message already
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Posted by geminicandIe
Posted by theleoman
she was aware of FWB but its overbearing and its been over sorry 100 text since jan 12 and i haven't replied to any text or calls. But I made her aware of my reasons why she promised not to call or text but is still doing it. Can I tree-truck her again YES . Will I tree-trunk her again NO. was it worth it NO. has this happened before
NO.Do i want it to stop YES.


It would be easier if you just paid a Hooker for sex, don't you think?
I swear, men are dumb. But so are the women. If she gonna spread them like that, at least find someone to pay her bills and dinners and gifts. SMH!
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LOL
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This story reminds me of 'fatal attraction' movie.. it has a potential to be one lol. I agree with the girls, you need to be more firm and direct
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So say.. Please cease communication phone or text any further communication will be deemed criminal harassment and will be pursued in criminal court Section 102(3)is not enough?
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Posted by geminicandIe
Leoman, you do sound kinda meek and mellow. I know you want the easy way out, where you just text her and she backs off. And you are not enough of a jerk to call her names, etc...
But seriously, you have 2 choices :
1.) Change your contact info and pray for her
2.) Notify authorities to have a talk with her. Although technically she isn't threatening anything crazy, but it is still harrassment because you want your peace. They will take the measure to ensure "no contact".



I guess I will be force to (2) the situation
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Posted by Sweeetz
Posted by theleoman
So say.. Please cease communication phone or text any further communication will be deemed criminal harassment and will be pursued in criminal court Section 102(3)is not enough?


Apparently not for her.
Question, you didn't pick up on any instability on her part during those 10 phone conversations you two had?
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No not at all, they were not long conversation and she was more asking when we can meet type of thing and she is still asking if i want to come over an such even after the criminal harassment text
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Posted by geminicandIe
Keep record of everything and notify authorities. Ultimately, we are not responsible for somebody else's obsessions and feelings.


I am keeping all records and will notify authorities.
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Posted by Sweeetz
So Leoman, you told her to cease all contact. Did you tell her why? Did you let her know why you no longer wanted to see her? Like everyone else said it's not your fault she can't take a hint, but I'm curious if she was made aware of why you don't want to see her anymore.
Maybe she's harassing you just to teach you a lesson for dumping her. Maybe she's just toying with you? I mean if she's really this crazy then surely you picked up on that before you slept with her, no?


Yes I told her to cease all contact .I did tell her why in a text message, our personality clash and how she feels obligated that i must respond to every text and call despite the time and that i can not commit to what she feels is necessary for friendship.

Next came the criminal harassment text.
I did not pick up on any hints or i definitely would not have met i dont do crazy
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Posted by geminicandIe
Leoman, how was the sex? What did you do to drive her crazy? Are you THAT hot and amazing?
Lol, I kid, I kid. I'll stop harassing you nowWinking


Thanks for making me LOL in exchange for that laugh I will tell you all of my secrets ... I kid I kid lol
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Posted by utopian
Posted by geminicandIe
Posted by Sweeetz
I think Utopian is being a smart alec. He's making fun of the women in this
thread.


Hahahaha, quite possiblysmile



Most certainly not. Leo is secretly enjoying the harassment.
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Despite the notion that leos enjoy drama its not true maybe other peoples drama but not our own..and not this guy ..we like our peace ever see a lion sit under the tree.. its like that
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Posted by Sweeetz
Posted by geminicandIe
If a girl is crazy, then she is yelling and threatening harm and what not.
Ofcourse, there is different type of crazy. I would just hope that her dignity steps in and reality takes over. No worse turn off than a man who doesn't want you:/


Yeah, that's why it seems so weird to me. I thought maybe she's just toying with him. Idk. Maybe the best thing is for him to change his contact info.
Leoman, are you afraid of this chick? Does she know where you live or any other personal info that could help her find you?
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Her calls are blocked but i can see them and the text messages go through, no other personal information but she does know my name
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Posted by xtina
Posted by duchessedenemours
As much of an ass as he sounds to be, you can't solely blame him for the sex thing. Women should be self aware enough to know if they can handle sex without a commitment.


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They need to take responsibility for their actions.. You're the one that gave it up! It was consensual so don't act like he owes you anything!
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They are both adults. He owes her nothing especially when they were never in a relationship. She opened her legs without any sort of commitment and it was consensual. She probably was thinking that having sex was gonna get her the guy, but some women are dumb like that. Sex doesn't get a guy to fall in love with u or even stay with you. If she can't handle casual sex, then maybe she should give it up, not him. He doesn't have to turn into an abstain from having sex until ms. Right comes along. He can stick to having sex with women who truly are looking for casual sex and nothing more.
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Posted by geminicandIe
Still waiting on Leoman's number....I just wanna sexually harass himTongue
Lol, sorry, I'm trying to stoppppp.



Is online friends with benefits safe? lol
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Posted by aquarius09
Posted by xtina
Posted by duchessedenemours
As much of an ass as he sounds to be, you can't solely blame him for the sex thing. Women should be self aware enough to know if they can handle sex without a commitment.


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They need to take responsibility for their actions.. You're the one that gave it up! It was consensual so don't act like he owes you anything!


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They are both adults. He owes her nothing especially when they were never in a relationship. She opened her legs without any sort of commitment and it was consensual. She probably was thinking that having sex was gonna get her the guy, but some women are dumb like that. Sex doesn't get a guy to fall in love with u or even stay with you. If she can't handle casual sex, then maybe she should give it up, not him. He doesn't have to turn into an abstain from having sex until ms. Right comes along. He can stick to having sex with women who truly are looking for casual sex and nothing more.
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...and this is my thing she feels im obligated and forced to communicate with her
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Posted by geminicandIe
Posted by theleoman
Posted by geminicandIe
Still waiting on Leoman's number....I just wanna sexually harass himTongue
Lol, sorry, I'm trying to stoppppp.



Is online friends with benefits safe?
lol


But of course, sugar pie! Welcome to dxp, just what you need in times like these, ha!Devil
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hahaha the way this progresses, he may talk about you soon.. you know there is this gemini chick lol
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Posted by theleoman
Posted by aquarius09
Posted by xtina
Posted by duchessedenemours
As much of an ass as he sounds to be, you can't solely blame him for the sex thing. Women should be self aware enough to know if they can handle sex without a commitment.


+100
They need to take responsibility for their actions.. You're the one that gave it up! It was consensual so don't act like he owes you anything!


+1000
They are both adults. He owes her nothing especially when they were never in a relationship. She opened her legs without any sort of commitment and it was consensual. She probably was thinking that having sex was gonna get her the guy, but some women are dumb like that. Sex doesn't get a guy to fall in love with u or even stay with you. If she can't handle casual sex, then maybe she should give it up, not him. He doesn't have to turn into an abstain from having sex until ms. Right comes along. He can stick to having sex with women who truly are looking for casual sex and nothing more.



...and this is my thing she feels im obligated and forced to communicate with her
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Change your number and call it a bad experience. Next time thread carefully. Assess the person on whether they can handle casual sex encounters or not before opening up your life (where u live, phone no.) to them since you can't keep moving from house to house. Phone no. can be changed, but even then it's a hassle. Some women set out for casual sex but have no capacity for coping with what's to come.
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Posted by geminicandIe
A gemini+leo=never getting anything done. Bring the CRAY onsWinking lol!
And lib911, I am doing all sorts of tests on this leo meat hunk. When I'm finished with him, he's gonna wish for that Libra girl hahahaTongue


bwahaha smile
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Posted by Sweeetz
Dang Utopian. Where are you guys meeting these clingy Libras? I have never behaved this way over a guy and I have Scorp Venus. The "stalking" Venus. I don't believe I have heard of Libras clinging this hard to someone. I must be missing out on something :/


I am still here dear, spying from time to time smile
I personally don't know any 'stalker' libra women.. I think we can be little clingy - in small healthy doses, but 'stalkerish'? not really
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hahahaha, I can't stop laughing over here! u guys are too funny Big Grin
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Posted by Sweeetz
Someone called 911! Lol. Hey girlie smile. Good to see you. I'm more of a lurker these days as well.


Hey Hey Sweet L! Good to see you too! I can't believe we are having a small reunion on this guy's thread lol! smile

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Posted by geminicandIe
Leoman, I am just kidding.
Well, not really. It's me. Your Libra girlWinking


LOL, you're too funny smile
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Posted by geminicandIe
Leoman, I am just kidding.
Well, not really. It's me. Your Libra girlWinking


I can see Leoman doing this right now lol
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Posted by Sweeetz
I just realized the TheLeoMan is the reason why I landed on DXP in the first place several years ago. He had a thread answering questions about Leo men. At that time I was getting over one. The thread was very helpful. I came here thinking my Leo was crazy. Turns out he just had an Aries moon Tongue. I didn't know much about astrology at that point. 3-4 years later that Leo guy is just a fart in the wind.

This Libra chick will eventually move on TheLeoMan. In the meantime change your number and do a psych test on your women before you give them the good "D" Tongue.


Thats some cool ish! Glad I helped!
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Posted by geminicandIe
Guys, do you think leoman is drafting his "do not contact" pm, right at this minute?
I'm getting kinda nervous :/


nah, he prob just clicked on HELP/FEEDBACK?
smile *still laughing here*
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Posted by geminicandIe
Well, no matter how good he was in the bedroom, I wouldn't respect someone who doesn't respect me back.
I would personally be turned off, but she could have some emotional issues and be even more attached!
It's actually kind of sad.

This behavior surprises me from a libra. She probably has a venus in scorpio or something.


It doesn't surprise me. I've seen it before.
And you all gotta remember, I work in a restaurant. That industry has the epitome of crazy all in one place. That's why so many of my experiences with signs are so extreme. I had a Libra chick that I worked with, insanely insecure, slept around like she was "empowered" but always woe is me because none of these guys took her seriously.
We don't know her side, but her actions are a little telling. This guy reminds me of my Leo friend who did the same shit. My friend was stringing some chick along as a fwb. She said she'd be fine, but she clearly wasn't. He went along with it, pretended to play dumb on the fact he was leading her on and knew she had a crush, but kept fucking her under the guise of fwb.
But when it came to holding accountability on his end of things, he was the victim and she was being crazy. No doubt she was, but I felt sorry for her because she was attempting fwb as a way to be with him to sate her crush, and he was just using that to his advantage to get laid.
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Posted by Sweeetz
His Libra must have Cancer moon and/or Venus. This doesn't sound like a Libra. I've heard us described as clingy but I don't know that to be true. How can we be clingy and flighty at the same time?


Hey, i am a libra with cancer moon but i have some dignity! I don't do that crazy obsessive cancer shit lol
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Posted by Sweeetz
I just realized the TheLeoMan is the reason why I landed on DXP in the first place several years ago. He had a thread answering questions about Leo men. At that time I was getting over one. The thread was very helpful. I came here thinking my Leo was crazy. Turns out he just had an Aries moon Tongue. I didn't know much about astrology at that point. 3-4 years later that Leo guy is just a fart in the wind.

This Libra chick will eventually move on TheLeoMan. In the meantime change your number and do a psych test on your women before you give them the good "D" Tongue.


She needs something shiny and nice to distract her. I'm sure a Chippendale's dancer would suffice.
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I just don't think this girl is a libra
This is too damn stalker crazy, they don't go that damn hard
Maybe a few days pass and try again, but naw she can't be a libra
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Posted by geminicandIe
Well, no matter how good he was in the bedroom, I wouldn't respect someone who doesn't respect me back.
I would personally be turned off, but she could have some emotional issues and be even more attached!
It's actually kind of sad.

This behavior surprises me from a libra. She probably has a venus in scorpio or something.


It doesn't surprise me. I've seen it before.
And you all gotta remember, I work in a restaurant. That industry has the epitome of crazy all in one place. That's why so many of my experiences with signs are so extreme. I had a Libra chick that I worked with, insanely insecure, slept around like she was "empowered" but always woe is me because none of these guys took her seriously.
We don't know her side, but her actions are a little telling. This guy reminds me of my Leo friend who did the same shit. My friend was stringing some chick along as a fwb. She said she'd be fine, but she clearly wasn't. He went along with it, pretended to play dumb on the fact he was leading her on and knew she had a crush, but kept fucking her under the guise of fwb.
But when it came to holding accountability on his end of things, he was the victim and she was being crazy. No doubt she was, but I felt sorry for her because she was attempting fwb as a way to be with him to sate her crush, and he was just using that to his advantage to get laid.
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This is a perfect description of men who take advantage of women and the women who let them, although you forgot the part where they ignore good guys for guys who just want to use them and then complain that all men are dirtbags.
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Posted by geminicandIe
Ahhh gotta love Aries chick telling it like it is!!
ROCKY, you rocksmile
I mean I'd go along with his story...if he didn't hit it twice. But he hit it twice, man. What was he doing in there second time around? It must have been good enough to hit it again.
But I have a feeling she was increasingly becoming demanding and wanted more time/sex/commitment and that's when he realized this is too much work for some pussy, you know? So he tried to dodge and evade, at first ignoring calls, texts and attempting to just disappear. Then the chick increasingly became crazy, needy and obsessed and then he sent "cease all contact" text and that's when she truly lost it!
Gotta love these kinda stories. They are a good lesson in human nature. Makes me kinda not want to fall in love with anybody. No fwb, nada. Just me and myself:/


That's what I was wondering. Talking on the phone a lot, meeting, and BAM, "I'm over it?"
Eh, something's a little off in his story. Her behavior is still unacceptable, but I doubt he's that innocent. Like someone said, the title is kind of telling. "Not to be mean..." People who think having to do what needs to be done, usually involving cold, hard truth, and see it as "mean" are usually very indirect in their approach.
He's not the bad guy here, but I don't think he's being as clear as he claims. He wants us to give advice in how to magically fix a problem he created for himself. He's the source of the solution and we can't tell him any more than that. There is no secret involved whether she's Libra or not.
..and she's being dumb. I'm tired of reading these stories here about women trying to handle sex like men and can't deal. Unless you have a high sex drive, chances are you cannot just go out and get laid without wanting more from it. :/
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Posted by geminicandIe
Well, no matter how good he was in the bedroom, I wouldn't respect someone who doesn't respect me back.
I would personally be turned off, but she could have some emotional issues and be even more attached!
It's actually kind of sad.

This behavior surprises me from a libra. She probably has a venus in scorpio or something.


It doesn't surprise me. I've seen it before.
And you all gotta remember, I work in a restaurant. That industry has the epitome of crazy all in one place. That's why so many of my experiences with signs are so extreme. I had a Libra chick that I worked with, insanely insecure, slept around like she was "empowered" but always woe is me because none of these guys took her seriously.
We don't know her side, but her actions are a little telling. This guy reminds me of my Leo friend who did the same shit. My friend was stringing some chick along as a fwb. She said she'd be fine, but she clearly wasn't. He went along with it, pretended to play dumb on the fact he was leading her on and knew she had a crush, but kept fucking her under the guise of fwb.
But when it came to holding accountability on his end of things, he was the victim and she was being crazy. No doubt she was, but I felt sorry for her because she was attempting fwb as a way to be with him to sate her crush, and he was just using that to his advantage to get laid.


This is a perfect description of men who take advantage of women and the women who let them, although you forgot the part where they ignore good guys for guys who just want to use them and then complain that all men are dirtbags.
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Yeah, except that doesn't apply to the topic.
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btw where is he? lol he created a chaos, broke another heart and left smh
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The fuck is with this FWB wave in the last 2-3 days??
Gawd. Everyone's trying to keep theirs.
...Meanhile, I'm dropping mine, haha.
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Some girls I have been with i ended up knowing a very ver long time for year. This is different I seen her twice after meeting her in person this is not for me its simple. If this was the other way around I could imagine the difference in response. if i guy was texting down the girl
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I saw that
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Posted by geminicandIe
I think even those people who do successfully manage fwb have some inner demons. Like they do some internal defense mechanisms in order to justify it and be truly okay with it. I know this sag woman who took that route; she told me she took pleasure in breaking men's hearts and making them suffer. It turns out she was revenging against her father who abandoned her as a little girl. Now, she is happily married to a scorpio man but it took a lot of therapy to get her there...
The goal for all of us is just love.


I tried that fwb once, it lasted 2 weeks, didn't like it LOL
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You should know yourself and do only what you think is the best for you. If you think you are too emotional and get attached too fast (especially after good sex), don't do one night stands or FWB stuff. I have seen some women in their 30's and 40's still not knowing themselves enough and repeating the same vicious circle..
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I just do it because I want to get laid, haha.
I'm dropping it because the friend side of it isn't good anymore and combining that with the sex is just no bueno. No basic level of consideration? No more nookie, sorry pal.
As George Carlin once stated- respect the provider of thy nookie. Doesn't matter if you're committed or not. A basic level of respect and courtesy should always be there, even if it's just sex.
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