Why does it take you guys so long..

Posted by boxcarmirnta

Posted by jeane

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Posted by LordComplexity

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Bc love comes later... I'm not in love yet..

So you're just being deliberately deceptive because you're just that stubborn to refuse to accept what I am trying to say. Love is the whole point here. You wouldn't have made this topic and been saying all this shit if your intention was to just accept that he's not into you and that you were willing to be nothing more than friends.

Love does NOT come later. Because people typically DON'T get involved with someone unless they are hoping or know that they will fall in love with the person in the process. So while it is not a present condition, as a prospective one it is the whole core cause and point. Because otherwise if they know there is no chance. Then it won't go anywhere period. The "friendzone" exists in the sense that nobody is attracted to everybody else, thus there is explicitly going to be only 1 lover and everyone else is not feasible as anything more than a friend for one reason or another. The idea that being friends is the reason unto itself why you stay friends, is wrong.

But in other words, to say that there is no such thing as there being "no chance" with someone is just wrong. To the contrary it happens all the time, and even when someone does test the waters 9 cases out of 10 results in exactly that outcome anyways actually. If you weren't just already thrown into the no chance rung to begin with.

That's the point here. It's not because you are friends that he isn't into you. Rather because he isn't into you, you are friends and stuck that way end of story. To say that isn't possible, that it can't happen, that it doesn't exist. Is just you being in denial. Because there is a huge difference between not believing that someone is stuck friends just because they're friends. Which is fine and dandy. And believing that there is no such thing in someone just not being into you and thinking they would be into you if they just gave you the chance.

You're using connection to persist on chasing this guy. But connection has nothing to do with Love and THAT is the point. Because no matter how you try to rationalize it. He's not going to love you ever. So there's no reason to do so, to pursue him. To sum up what you're really trying to do when you say love has nothing to do with it. Is, you're trying to CHEAT. Love is the end game, but you're trying to side step it and say you and him can still be involved. But to be involved is the journey, you do the journey to reach the destination.

So yes, love has everything to do with it. It's a dead end, so there's no point nor right for you to pursue and try to drag this guy with you to said dead end because you're desparate.

Um.. He is into me.. It's just not going at a pace I'm used to. There is no friendzone. And i have absolutely no idea if love will happen between us... What i WOULD like to know is other things...like i said earlier.. I wanna hang out i wanna do fun shit wanna share and bond and fuck. Love isn't something i think about right out the gate and you can say whatever you want.. That won't change reality.

Oh also not desperate in any way.. I'm quite lucky to be able to land pretty much any guy i want.. No problems there.

So he does know that you're amazing but it isn't going as fast as you would like?

What's the rush? You guys are long distance, things are always going to be slower than if you were closer in proximity.

If you are both into each other then you know it's going to happen eventually. Just enjoy the process.

Yea you're right... I just get impatient, think it's my aries venus!

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Posted by Gob_Shite

Posted by boxcarmirnta

I AM awesome

Hence why you have exes, eh? Aqua mooners, such obnoxious pricks...

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