First times..........
"I'm sure it is totally possible, but I think that may signify that I am having sex with someone I am not in love with, meaning I am never comfortable enough to do that."
Subconciously it is a fear of losing control, of someone else having that kind of power over you. Your afraid to open up sexually and you are probably more motivated to be the one pleasing and not the pleas-er.
I had a similar situation where I only came when I was on top and after the girl came. I had to satisfy her before I would let myself be satisfied. It first started as an inability to come quickly and I would usually only come if the sex lasted several hours. I was able to overcome that later but the problem still existed in that I would hold it back until I could tell my partner was completely satisfied then I would switch up the position/angle/tempo and could make myself come. I was always primarily focused on each sexual experience being completely satisfying to my partner, I later learned that the satisfaction for a lot of women, especially in a relationship comes from them satisfying you also.
More recently, I have learned to open up sexually and for the first time am with someone that can make me come on top, and from head which has never happened previously. Whenever I was getting head I was thinking about how I would rather be pleasuring the girl instead of her pleasuring me. I also always had a inclination towards and maintained a dominant position in sex. As I gained more experience I could make a girl come for the complete duration of the experience including full body orgasms but realized that I need to allow myself to be pleasured as well.
"What happens if a guy can't come..does he really frustrated? At himself or at the situation? Does that mean he's not capable?"
Typcically it means that they are too focused on the situation and the pleasure of their partner and are actually fearful of relinquishing that control to allow themselves to open up.
Subconciously it is a fear of losing control, of someone else having that kind of power over you. Your afraid to open up sexually and you are probably more motivated to be the one pleasing and not the pleas-er.
I had a similar situation where I only came when I was on top and after the girl came. I had to satisfy her before I would let myself be satisfied. It first started as an inability to come quickly and I would usually only come if the sex lasted several hours. I was able to overcome that later but the problem still existed in that I would hold it back until I could tell my partner was completely satisfied then I would switch up the position/angle/tempo and could make myself come. I was always primarily focused on each sexual experience being completely satisfying to my partner, I later learned that the satisfaction for a lot of women, especially in a relationship comes from them satisfying you also.
More recently, I have learned to open up sexually and for the first time am with someone that can make me come on top, and from head which has never happened previously. Whenever I was getting head I was thinking about how I would rather be pleasuring the girl instead of her pleasuring me. I also always had a inclination towards and maintained a dominant position in sex. As I gained more experience I could make a girl come for the complete duration of the experience including full body orgasms but realized that I need to allow myself to be pleasured as well.
"What happens if a guy can't come..does he really frustrated? At himself or at the situation? Does that mean he's not capable?"
Typcically it means that they are too focused on the situation and the pleasure of their partner and are actually fearful of relinquishing that control to allow themselves to open up.
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