Virgo W, Aries M
If you are that strong, aware, no illusions, don't hold grudges, and all of the above about how you know what, when, where and how to relate to people ... then why ask if you should be friends with him?
My point that has baffled you ... is you come off as if you know your direction, vibrant and confident .. then ask whether you should be friends with somebody .. in other words, your actions don't match your words. And this only happens when people are blind.
Not meaning to come down on you .. just pointing it out. People do this all the time, and I point it out every time, so this isn't necessarily exclusively towards you.
If a man, out of nowhere, started accusing you, which you obviously had enough awareness to discern that he must be the cheater if he's pressuring you ... when you ask him, he hits you.
This is enough for you to realize that he's a complete tosser, for you do indeed slap his azz silly and break up with him. So, if you realize that he's a loser (intimately), then why not have enough sense to realize whether you should be friends or not?
There's sense in all aspects of life, except when we're blinded by the one we want to love ... when we want to love somebody, we totally ignore what our senses tell us.
If a person can discern who's good for thier intimate love life (which is way more important than friendships) .. then why don't they have the ability to judge who they should be friends with?
And yet ... you can't and will ask this question. So, my point was, it's because you still want him romantically. When we have feelings for somebody romantically, is when we are blind. We aren't blind to any other people in our lives .. not family, not friends, not collegues.
You want him .. that's why you ask a question that you should already know.
My point that has baffled you ... is you come off as if you know your direction, vibrant and confident .. then ask whether you should be friends with somebody .. in other words, your actions don't match your words. And this only happens when people are blind.
Not meaning to come down on you .. just pointing it out. People do this all the time, and I point it out every time, so this isn't necessarily exclusively towards you.
If a man, out of nowhere, started accusing you, which you obviously had enough awareness to discern that he must be the cheater if he's pressuring you ... when you ask him, he hits you.
This is enough for you to realize that he's a complete tosser, for you do indeed slap his azz silly and break up with him. So, if you realize that he's a loser (intimately), then why not have enough sense to realize whether you should be friends or not?
There's sense in all aspects of life, except when we're blinded by the one we want to love ... when we want to love somebody, we totally ignore what our senses tell us.
If a person can discern who's good for thier intimate love life (which is way more important than friendships) .. then why don't they have the ability to judge who they should be friends with?
And yet ... you can't and will ask this question. So, my point was, it's because you still want him romantically. When we have feelings for somebody romantically, is when we are blind. We aren't blind to any other people in our lives .. not family, not friends, not collegues.
You want him .. that's why you ask a question that you should already know.
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"are you aware of your inability to listen to the woman you are with?"
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Possibly true. Perhaps we all are born with this instinct of being numero uno.
"do you find you have to make alot of compromises to make a long term relationship work "
True for myself. Love can melt much of the resistance, though. Inherently, I dont like stability and prolonged spells of relative peace and prosperity ( with me being the center ) because it adds to the pressure of delivering consistently on all dimensions which means that I wouldn't be getting enough space and spare energy to explore things unknown. Keeping one person happy all the time is a difficult proposition for sure. And a woman has to exploited into believing that shez happy, a trade which we Aries are not adept at unfortunately.
" have you always been aware of your tendancy to control?"
Yes, I am fully aware. Am always plotting a rebellion even when forced to stay quiet.
"are you aware of your inability to listen to the woman you are with?"
I have been accused of this a number of times. But it has more to do with my inability to detect and process the subtle. Am too occupied or too helpless.
"and are you prepared to do so?"
I dont think so. Am not looking for an anchor but a crusader. But why would she come to me ?
"my ex tried very hard to change "
That a male has to do in order to succeed in relationships. I really dont know how to strike a balance - one moment I may go overboard with genuine love,support and admiration almost bordering slavery, and the next I am your next cage Gorilla. I feel that permanence of any form ( including sentiments ) would rob me of any chance of staying objective. One change which I have brought about in myself is to criticize in mute and to express displeasure as a newsreader would - in a dispassionate manner.
Aww shucks
if we could all learn to oblige the bad character traits that were meant for us
not in a passive and neglectful way
but a way to acknowledge them as the pair of good and bad ones that are perfect one's for us
Ex.
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if we could all learn to oblige the bad character traits that were meant for us
not in a passive and neglectful way
but a way to acknowledge them as the pair of good and bad ones that are perfect one's for us
Ex.
I know my ideal would be too honest for comfort
after all,
you take the good with the bad, or nothing at all
right?
you take the good with the bad, or nothing at all
right?
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What kind of an stupid question is this..??
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