When can you tell it's over
No, I am not Miss pyschic!
First off, for any woman, I LOVE YOU is just "words". Anybody can let the words "I Love You fall out of their mouth. Even if you or I say the words, they will fall out of our mouths. Words are different from "actions". You can show a man or woman more with "your" actions better than you can ever say with just words alone.
Unless another person is showing me love with their actions, then I am going to assume that I cannot just trust words alone and from that perspective, you have not earned my time, energy, effort or trust until you have proven to me, with the same actions that I am willing to prove to "you" that I love you.
However, no man owes us anything. He is not obligated to show us love with his actions. If he wants to fine, if not then that is fine to because in truth, it is not his responsibility to show you love. He does not owe it to you, and maybe, I am not positively for sure, if he feels pressured into have to constantly "prove" himself to a woman, he may consider that as too much pressure and just walk away.
Why? I don't know, maybe he feels as if you thinks he "owes" you something, or you are seeking love in return from him instead of letting him give you love on "his" own time and terms. In truth, the only person that can make you independent is you, and you are the only person who can make yourself happy. If you are seeking love from another person through neediness, desperation, or trying to "win" him over, he will still walk out.
Why do men walk away from love? I don't know, sometimes, they want you to love them but not be so wrapped up into them and their problems that you cannot deal with life yourself without them being around. Or sometimes maybe they do love you and you make them feel trapped or contained simply by loving him too much.
Just a suggestion. I would let him go, detach myself and I would simply not take him serious or allow him to ask me do "wifely" things for him if he has not earned my time or attention.
First off, for any woman, I LOVE YOU is just "words". Anybody can let the words "I Love You fall out of their mouth. Even if you or I say the words, they will fall out of our mouths. Words are different from "actions". You can show a man or woman more with "your" actions better than you can ever say with just words alone.
Unless another person is showing me love with their actions, then I am going to assume that I cannot just trust words alone and from that perspective, you have not earned my time, energy, effort or trust until you have proven to me, with the same actions that I am willing to prove to "you" that I love you.
However, no man owes us anything. He is not obligated to show us love with his actions. If he wants to fine, if not then that is fine to because in truth, it is not his responsibility to show you love. He does not owe it to you, and maybe, I am not positively for sure, if he feels pressured into have to constantly "prove" himself to a woman, he may consider that as too much pressure and just walk away.
Why? I don't know, maybe he feels as if you thinks he "owes" you something, or you are seeking love in return from him instead of letting him give you love on "his" own time and terms. In truth, the only person that can make you independent is you, and you are the only person who can make yourself happy. If you are seeking love from another person through neediness, desperation, or trying to "win" him over, he will still walk out.
Why do men walk away from love? I don't know, sometimes, they want you to love them but not be so wrapped up into them and their problems that you cannot deal with life yourself without them being around. Or sometimes maybe they do love you and you make them feel trapped or contained simply by loving him too much.
Just a suggestion. I would let him go, detach myself and I would simply not take him serious or allow him to ask me do "wifely" things for him if he has not earned my time or attention.
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I am a virgo female. We broke up early on in the relationship one month into it because he said something I didn't like and I ended up leaving to decompress and he thought I broke up with him and then stayed broken up with me for 2 weeks and I don't think I ever got over it...then the distance for so long added to the pressures to. He was wonderful to me but also I felt a bit distant at times. Did everything a man should do but getting him to open up was kind of hard he I think he used pot and alcohol to not have to deal with those things?
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Uh-oh...sounds like he's got escapism issues if he's smoking and hitting the bottle. Caps who are angry can become very cold, and I think Virgos do this too when they're angry, don't they? Sounds like communication might have been an obstacle for you guys. And with someone who's away a lot, communication is even more important. You should take this time for you, work on some things personally, hang out with your friends. If he comes back around later, and you're still interested, maybe you can try again. Unfortunately, if he's asked for time apart, there's not much you can do right now. If you try to contact him, it will most likely just annoy him.
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