When can you tell it's over
I dont think its that when we act out of our nature that things get complicated, its when we ASSUME why someone does something because of why we would do it or we assume why someone didnt do something that we would.
We have to give people the right to be themselves even if its different from who we are, and we must learn to trust actions that are different than ours to mean the same thing as ours when that is the intent of the action. For example diamond rings and vacations are both wonderful gifts, just because you would give rings doesnt mean that someone giving a vacation is any less sincere or they mean anything different in their giving than you do when you give a ring. Complications come in any situation when people decide that someone must be exactly like them to be sincere and anyone who wouldnt do what they do or say what they say or even react how they want to what they put out is wrong or inferior or insincere. I think people just need to take more time to get to know one another so that we can judge one another by where the other person is coming from and not by who we are and what we would do. Especially men and women. Its stupid to expect a man to act exactly as a woman would in a relationship. And truthfully if you cant learn to be in a relationship with a man as a woman or a woman as a man, with all of the differences, then you will never have a successful relationship.(Sorry I dont know the dynamics of differences in sam sex relationships)
We have to give people the right to be themselves even if its different from who we are, and we must learn to trust actions that are different than ours to mean the same thing as ours when that is the intent of the action. For example diamond rings and vacations are both wonderful gifts, just because you would give rings doesnt mean that someone giving a vacation is any less sincere or they mean anything different in their giving than you do when you give a ring. Complications come in any situation when people decide that someone must be exactly like them to be sincere and anyone who wouldnt do what they do or say what they say or even react how they want to what they put out is wrong or inferior or insincere. I think people just need to take more time to get to know one another so that we can judge one another by where the other person is coming from and not by who we are and what we would do. Especially men and women. Its stupid to expect a man to act exactly as a woman would in a relationship. And truthfully if you cant learn to be in a relationship with a man as a woman or a woman as a man, with all of the differences, then you will never have a successful relationship.(Sorry I dont know the dynamics of differences in sam sex relationships)
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RIGHT ! That would be an F !!!!!"
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