The Leo and His Den!
don't sweat it too much, take what you can from everyone on the board and use what works, sounds like he's very dominate, so he may be using his dominance to make you yield by making you come to him first which is not a bad thing but make sure you don't find yourself doing that all the time, don't allow his habits to control you.
You can balance things out by and I know its hard for a scorpio to do but you can balance it out by not putting too much pressure on him to make you happy, he will make you happy no matter what because leo's are good at that but if pressure is put on him then he may rebel, he's not tripping about you expressing yourself but what I find turns a leo male off is criticism and making it his fault in some way.
When your with him then of course be with him, enjoy him but when you leave his presence try to let him go, give him the space and time to miss you, if your always doing the chasing and your always coming to him then you start to set up this unbalanced situation and pretty much give him all the power, you may have to show him that its okay to yield a bit but your only going to do that by not being so available. Although some leos can be very selfish, they truly know how to love so give him a chance and by all means don't hide how you feel, leo's don't respect people they can push around, over power or doormat types. Nothing wrong with a bit of tension.
You can balance things out by and I know its hard for a scorpio to do but you can balance it out by not putting too much pressure on him to make you happy, he will make you happy no matter what because leo's are good at that but if pressure is put on him then he may rebel, he's not tripping about you expressing yourself but what I find turns a leo male off is criticism and making it his fault in some way.
When your with him then of course be with him, enjoy him but when you leave his presence try to let him go, give him the space and time to miss you, if your always doing the chasing and your always coming to him then you start to set up this unbalanced situation and pretty much give him all the power, you may have to show him that its okay to yield a bit but your only going to do that by not being so available. Although some leos can be very selfish, they truly know how to love so give him a chance and by all means don't hide how you feel, leo's don't respect people they can push around, over power or doormat types. Nothing wrong with a bit of tension.
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yes I am a libra.. He is back... just as the comment said earlier like nothing is wrong.. and no time has elapsed. I do accept him just was wondering more about understanding how men get close and process things- Not complaining or freaking out about it just wanting to get an insight into how the intimacy thing works for men. I know everyone isnt the same just because of their sex... but the general process... and the rubberband theory is a male state... women have lots of other issues but this one seems as though its a guy thing....
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Whoa, alot of water against the air now.. lol.
What I do not understand either, about Libra men is why they seem not to want a relationship and then keep popping up in the lives of the women who liked them. I believe this is very torturous for the women invovled and it is as if he either doesn't realize the extent of the damage, or that he purposely did it. Alot of people in that situation would think he purposely did it, but could never know why. I myself have been frustrated by this one many accounts; it is like, a withdrawal, but with an arm that sticks out at the side.
What I may gather about this or deduce is that he may not want a relationship but may not want to lose a friend in his life. Or a person, once loved, whatever. Sometimes I find myself contacting an "ex", but when he doesn't reply, THEN I get the message. Maybe I am going too far to reach out to him again when it is over. But soon, he will contact me still. Maybe other signs are like that too?
So, regarding the air sign men who leave the ladies hanging, maybe they aren't into psychology, or figuring out how the other party thinks - they don't even study astrology. I must assume, that it would be very difficult for them (all signs, not especially libra) to figure out what a partner wants. But the best conclusion I can think of, is that the scenarios are all part of our life path. We are fated to learn the difficult lessons that they will teach us, because we can learn no other way.
What I do not understand either, about Libra men is why they seem not to want a relationship and then keep popping up in the lives of the women who liked them. I believe this is very torturous for the women invovled and it is as if he either doesn't realize the extent of the damage, or that he purposely did it. Alot of people in that situation would think he purposely did it, but could never know why. I myself have been frustrated by this one many accounts; it is like, a withdrawal, but with an arm that sticks out at the side.
What I may gather about this or deduce is that he may not want a relationship but may not want to lose a friend in his life. Or a person, once loved, whatever. Sometimes I find myself contacting an "ex", but when he doesn't reply, THEN I get the message. Maybe I am going too far to reach out to him again when it is over. But soon, he will contact me still. Maybe other signs are like that too?
So, regarding the air sign men who leave the ladies hanging, maybe they aren't into psychology, or figuring out how the other party thinks - they don't even study astrology. I must assume, that it would be very difficult for them (all signs, not especially libra) to figure out what a partner wants. But the best conclusion I can think of, is that the scenarios are all part of our life path. We are fated to learn the difficult lessons that they will teach us, because we can learn no other way.
lol... no wonder they all think you all are crazy. 
He offs his phone means he's overwhelmed. He gets overwhelmed because it's like a tornado going through and takes a while to settle. They don't or can't handle an angry person at the other end anymore.
I think they think it's "wrong" because he sees the woman in his life as the guide; he is allowed to play games and she isn't because she is supposed to be the "stronger", "stabler" party. That's why he liked her in the first place.
"sincere BS artists"
That's a creative term; a humbled libra would laugh and agree, because what may happen inside them is all those BS thoughts that are affecting his behaviour. You got it right when you say sincere. A most superficial compliment from a libra (most usually, male to female) is sincere, because they catch the most personally alluring aspects of you and tell it to you in a form of admiration. No-one can resist that, that's why it's called charm. But it's the yes/no, withdrawing/moving forward thoughts that makes everything jumbled. Afterall, the scales are tryng to balance.
I think they think it's "wrong" because he sees the woman in his life as the guide; he is allowed to play games and she isn't because she is supposed to be the "stronger", "stabler" party. That's why he liked her in the first place.
"sincere BS artists"
That's a creative term; a humbled libra would laugh and agree, because what may happen inside them is all those BS thoughts that are affecting his behaviour. You got it right when you say sincere. A most superficial compliment from a libra (most usually, male to female) is sincere, because they catch the most personally alluring aspects of you and tell it to you in a form of admiration. No-one can resist that, that's why it's called charm. But it's the yes/no, withdrawing/moving forward thoughts that makes everything jumbled. Afterall, the scales are tryng to balance.
I think what makes expectations so double high for a libra, is the fact they come off like the men in romance novels or stories. So, the ladies EXPECT him to be perfect. But he isn't; he's like other guys, but he gives the illusion of perfection - that is what he wants to be but being human, perfection is not least possible, especially with emotions and fear they have not resolved due to the reliance on outward charm, and harmony since their youth.
Yes or no is the most complicated question any libra can handle.
aquabrat, your libra switched off the phone bcoz he probably figured out you were playing with him. You will have to pay for every last bs you do to a libra. We will balance it off smoothly at some point of time. Sometimes it will be in the form of sarcastic comments. Sometimes it will be a charming statement with a double meaning.
We trust everyone in the beginning until they f@# $ things up. A bit of lie, a bit of hiding, a bit of vulgur gestures or talks, a bit of anger, traces of prejudice, mental blocks against listening to our perspective(of course we dont expect u to follow everything but we want our partner to listen carefully).... any of these can give you away and from there on we will be dead careful about whom we are dealing with. This is the part where Aries and other libra's wins a libra easily. This is the same part where gemini start her lies and goes down the drainage hole and aqua hides things and display her stubbornness and get sidelined. This is the same place where scorpio throw that emotional spell on libra to hide things.
Its always others who screw it up in the beginning. Then its a fight to attain balance. most times we do it without hurting the other person if they realize their mistakes and comes forward and confess why they screwed up. Still nothing will be the same as before. We will never be the same person again.
aquabrat, your libra switched off the phone bcoz he probably figured out you were playing with him. You will have to pay for every last bs you do to a libra. We will balance it off smoothly at some point of time. Sometimes it will be in the form of sarcastic comments. Sometimes it will be a charming statement with a double meaning.
We trust everyone in the beginning until they f@# $ things up. A bit of lie, a bit of hiding, a bit of vulgur gestures or talks, a bit of anger, traces of prejudice, mental blocks against listening to our perspective(of course we dont expect u to follow everything but we want our partner to listen carefully).... any of these can give you away and from there on we will be dead careful about whom we are dealing with. This is the part where Aries and other libra's wins a libra easily. This is the same part where gemini start her lies and goes down the drainage hole and aqua hides things and display her stubbornness and get sidelined. This is the same place where scorpio throw that emotional spell on libra to hide things.
Its always others who screw it up in the beginning. Then its a fight to attain balance. most times we do it without hurting the other person if they realize their mistakes and comes forward and confess why they screwed up. Still nothing will be the same as before. We will never be the same person again.
no matter ho much you bend it in neon for anybody, they are never quite going to understand the true depth of a scorpio mind. I'm not claiming we are the only astros with a deep mind, but it's like wrapping you perseption around eternity as a concept
You can lie or be honest but you're too old to have good complexion anyway.
(( So, regarding the air sign men who leave the ladies hanging, maybe they aren't into psychology, ))
I think thats bcoz they are not into astrology. I always had the urge to go back to my scorpio at times when I was lonely. So suppose if a libra ends up in a solid and stable relationship soon after he break away from someone, he wont go back. He will go back after so many months to say a hello and keep things formal. May be a phone call for their next birthday or new year. And reality is that we dont always end up in a solid relationship soon after one is over. So we keep things here and there. All options open...
now taking my own case, I have been chasing this gemini for 3 years and 4 months. First 3 years she was scared of me. cant blame her. she was 19 when i met her and you can know how unstable they are at that age. Now she is slowly coming closer.
When I learned she was not interested, a year ago i met this aqua girl. Things were good till the day i figured out she is in love with a leo and leo just ditched her. So she says am her special friend. but she calls me everyday and I dont know how if it may mature into something. I just dont want to wait and waste my time. So I met this aries girl and seeing her for a month now. waiting for her to be back from her hometown and settle here from jan end. So there is another potential. In btween there is this libra girl who want to be with me once she finish her graduation this june and I have my old Aries friend who said she want to come back to whereever I am once her current contract is over. And at times my ex scorp gives me a call and asks me if she can move with me. If it was 2 years ago, I would have happily said Yes. now I dont want to take tat risk again. I am so bloody worried whats gonna happen. I dont know if gemini will ever get out of her fear completely or Aqua one fine day will say "ok I want u"(like she has said so many times in the past) after i end up with this Aries girl. Its so complicated since I dont know which is going to happen first. And if this one happens, how am i going to say a sorry to everyone else. So I play. Aries and libra dont know anything about rest of the girls around me. They dont ask and I dont say it. Its easier that way. Gem and aqua know everything thats going on with my life and they are still cool about it. I know i can be honest with them and they wont run away.
I think thats bcoz they are not into astrology. I always had the urge to go back to my scorpio at times when I was lonely. So suppose if a libra ends up in a solid and stable relationship soon after he break away from someone, he wont go back. He will go back after so many months to say a hello and keep things formal. May be a phone call for their next birthday or new year. And reality is that we dont always end up in a solid relationship soon after one is over. So we keep things here and there. All options open...
now taking my own case, I have been chasing this gemini for 3 years and 4 months. First 3 years she was scared of me. cant blame her. she was 19 when i met her and you can know how unstable they are at that age. Now she is slowly coming closer.
When I learned she was not interested, a year ago i met this aqua girl. Things were good till the day i figured out she is in love with a leo and leo just ditched her. So she says am her special friend. but she calls me everyday and I dont know how if it may mature into something. I just dont want to wait and waste my time. So I met this aries girl and seeing her for a month now. waiting for her to be back from her hometown and settle here from jan end. So there is another potential. In btween there is this libra girl who want to be with me once she finish her graduation this june and I have my old Aries friend who said she want to come back to whereever I am once her current contract is over. And at times my ex scorp gives me a call and asks me if she can move with me. If it was 2 years ago, I would have happily said Yes. now I dont want to take tat risk again. I am so bloody worried whats gonna happen. I dont know if gemini will ever get out of her fear completely or Aqua one fine day will say "ok I want u"(like she has said so many times in the past) after i end up with this Aries girl. Its so complicated since I dont know which is going to happen first. And if this one happens, how am i going to say a sorry to everyone else. So I play. Aries and libra dont know anything about rest of the girls around me. They dont ask and I dont say it. Its easier that way. Gem and aqua know everything thats going on with my life and they are still cool about it. I know i can be honest with them and they wont run away.