Understanding A PLAYER Virgo
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A Virgo friend is now dating my ex-leo (not THE leo but the one I was just refering too.) She gets crazy mad and frustrated that he won't take her problems serious or anything seriously. She throws temper tantrums and makes demands but the flaw is very simple ... they aren't compatible. She can explain what she wants until she is blue in the face and it won't change the situation. She can scream that he doesn't love her, that he is meantempered, selfish, manipulative, self-centered ... but I know it isn't true because I was with him for so long. He doesn't have a mean bone in his body. The thing is what she is seeing as a lack of love, lack of communiication is much, much simpler. It is a lack of compatibility. He is who he is. No amount of explaining will fix it. They love each other very much but neither of them is happy because they simply don't meet each other's needs. Ultimetly this relationship will fail because the foundation is not one of natural compatibility and acceptance.
Talking about the problem won't fix it. She can demand him not to make jokes when she is upset and it will work for awhile but eventually who he is will pop back up. He makes jokes to lighten the mood. He could easily throw it back on her and tell her she needs to stop worrying so much and lighten up but she would see that again as a lack of love. When people at base are so different, when their needs are different, she needs serious, he needs laughter ... how can it be fixed? It can't. They are just to different.
When I look back at my relationship with fire signs and how effortless and content they were, I can't help but reflect on a Virgo of my own. The Virgo I dated took everything I said and did very seriously and threw it back on me. He gave very tough love approaches. "Well you have to get serious about this and deal with the problem. You need to focus. You need to (insert serious of serious actions here) this." I would just get more and more depressed and upset. Why? Because fundamentally ... that isn't what I needed.
Talking about the problem won't fix it. She can demand him not to make jokes when she is upset and it will work for awhile but eventually who he is will pop back up. He makes jokes to lighten the mood. He could easily throw it back on her and tell her she needs to stop worrying so much and lighten up but she would see that again as a lack of love. When people at base are so different, when their needs are different, she needs serious, he needs laughter ... how can it be fixed? It can't. They are just to different.
When I look back at my relationship with fire signs and how effortless and content they were, I can't help but reflect on a Virgo of my own. The Virgo I dated took everything I said and did very seriously and threw it back on me. He gave very tough love approaches. "Well you have to get serious about this and deal with the problem. You need to focus. You need to (insert serious of serious actions here) this." I would just get more and more depressed and upset. Why? Because fundamentally ... that isn't what I needed.
that isn't what I needed. I needed someone to point out how silly my overreactions were. I needed someone more compatible. The fire signs never told me what to do or how to do it ... they offered advice without condescension and they just made fun of the situation till I put it in perspective. Then I was able to deal with the situation easily without any worry at all.
Without a doubt I am sure the Virgo I am referring to would be shocked if he knew I found him condescending. He probably wasn't. It was just that we dealt with our lives in such different manners I always felt put down by him.
I think compatibility is more than we both want to have seven children and love each other. Although that is part of it, I think it is just something that is naturally there or it isn't. It is a natural fit without having to do anything. The person meets your needs without doing anything in particular but live their life their way and for some reason, it works for you.
I don't think people can change their base of who they are which is why I constantly say if you have to try to hard, it probably isn't for you. There is probably a much better fit for you somewhere out there in the world where you will have peace and ease without worry.
I do think certain elements work better together and that astrology speaks to those underlying tendencies. Although other elements and signs can get along, the fundamental compatibility is missing making it more work and effort than if it is there.
Anyway ... Just some thoughts.
Without a doubt I am sure the Virgo I am referring to would be shocked if he knew I found him condescending. He probably wasn't. It was just that we dealt with our lives in such different manners I always felt put down by him.
I think compatibility is more than we both want to have seven children and love each other. Although that is part of it, I think it is just something that is naturally there or it isn't. It is a natural fit without having to do anything. The person meets your needs without doing anything in particular but live their life their way and for some reason, it works for you.
I don't think people can change their base of who they are which is why I constantly say if you have to try to hard, it probably isn't for you. There is probably a much better fit for you somewhere out there in the world where you will have peace and ease without worry.
I do think certain elements work better together and that astrology speaks to those underlying tendencies. Although other elements and signs can get along, the fundamental compatibility is missing making it more work and effort than if it is there.
Anyway ... Just some thoughts.
They sense the pussycat underneath...
eep! sorry for all the grammar/spelling mistakes.
One day I will proof read.
One day I will proof read.
"we have been,by the feminazis (of yore??)"
Oh puhhhleeeeeeease.
Oh puhhhleeeeeeease.
why do aquas like to play the disapering acts? one i know comes a goes for days, sometimes a weeks. One time I told him to loose my number, later he replied thst he wouldnt after we talked. He is very sweet, and romantic, he's just soo damn aloof. Sometimes i don't here from him and i really think he's gone. (were playing that game now as a matter of fact) Whats up with that?
Just don't jump to conclusions too fast, enjoy the friendship. If he wants more you will know, trust me.
Wow proverbs. I think you may have hit the nail on the head there. In my case, I can easily believe the truth of that.
I wonder if Leos ever get overthemselves and do right by the unintention victims of their vunerability.
thanks proverbs. I need to think on this.
I wonder if Leos ever get overthemselves and do right by the unintention victims of their vunerability.
thanks proverbs. I need to think on this.
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I wouldn't dream of shattering your little alpha male delusions.
I wouldn't dream of shattering your little alpha male delusions.
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