One Mad Libra
I am trying to see the situation from her point of view. If any other friend was all over me one week, and cancelling out on me the next, I would suspect some hidden anger.
Which is what I think is happening here -- why she blew up at you for "no good reason."
But I think there is a reason. If I know that someone likes me "as a girlfriend" when I just like them as a friend, I always feel somewhat tense. As if it's my responsibility to maintain the proper friendship boundaries -- which, quite frankly, is a drag.
That's why I'm not friends with my exes. It's not that I don't like them.
Someone at work was a friend, and then started to like me, and took advantage (I felt)by talking about things that only a boyfriend or girlfriend should talk about. I am furious at him, and yell at him for picky things -- because I feel that I can't be relaxed around him.
I hope this makes sense, Atom. The fact is, you *do* think she's gorgeous and I'm sure she senses that. Being a Libra, she likes to have you around. But she is the one responsible for the boundaries, that's why you get this crazy behavior.
And I'm sure she wonders why you put up with it.
Which is what I think is happening here -- why she blew up at you for "no good reason."
But I think there is a reason. If I know that someone likes me "as a girlfriend" when I just like them as a friend, I always feel somewhat tense. As if it's my responsibility to maintain the proper friendship boundaries -- which, quite frankly, is a drag.
That's why I'm not friends with my exes. It's not that I don't like them.
Someone at work was a friend, and then started to like me, and took advantage (I felt)by talking about things that only a boyfriend or girlfriend should talk about. I am furious at him, and yell at him for picky things -- because I feel that I can't be relaxed around him.
I hope this makes sense, Atom. The fact is, you *do* think she's gorgeous and I'm sure she senses that. Being a Libra, she likes to have you around. But she is the one responsible for the boundaries, that's why you get this crazy behavior.
And I'm sure she wonders why you put up with it.
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aquas wont have any feelings till you become their best friend. so you are in right track. And they are not ready to talk about everything in one go. takes them time and mood. Sometimes they wont talk to you for days. means nothing. they will be back as normal in a while. Patience... you can ask him if he keep imagining having sex(not making love. dont try to put it mildly) with you and all bcoz moost of them normally keep doing diff simulations of future events inside their head. You can catch him there and then drag him out. Else it takes a lot of time.
Treat him like your best friend. unless he see you as one, he wont begin to have feelings for you.
Treat him like your best friend. unless he see you as one, he wont begin to have feelings for you.
lol... we always prefer to stay at home. we are always tired. and we prefer to have more time alone with our partner than running around the streets. I see its slightly different for a libra girl.
*******The females who don't know he's married again....why aren't they taking the time to get to know who he is and what he's about before laying down with him? What happened to, let's get to know each other first? If he walks, I guess they would have their answer right? Without the drama.***** Players. Some are so good that they've written stories about them, made movies too, where the men lead a double life. I know of an incident first had where an acquaintance of mine found out she had a step brother who is only a few years younger and a sister that is 8 years younger. He hid this 2nd family for over 19 years. How you ask? I ask myself that same question. His career probably made that possible but....I won't go into that. There are many relationships and marriages right now where the wife and neither the girlfriend know anything about each other. Although this example may be classified more as a "cheater" ....he had to be doing a lot of playing to get there and probably still does. So what are the tell tale signs that a guy is a player upon meeting them? Clues you can observe and watch for as you "get to know them".
IrishLibra....here's some characteristics from the book I have. And if you have a specific question, feel free to ask...
EMOTIONAL/INTERPERSONAL
glib and superficial
egocentric and grandiose
lack of remorse or guilt
lack or empathy
deceitful and manipulative
shallow emotions
SOCIAL DEVIANCE
impulsive
poor behavior controls
need for excitement
lack of responsibilty
early behavior problems
adult antisocial behavior
EMOTIONAL/INTERPERSONAL
glib and superficial
egocentric and grandiose
lack of remorse or guilt
lack or empathy
deceitful and manipulative
shallow emotions
SOCIAL DEVIANCE
impulsive
poor behavior controls
need for excitement
lack of responsibilty
early behavior problems
adult antisocial behavior
you can research me irish libra 
hi gia63lo,
I agree, long distance relationships are difficult - i think your decision in breaking it off before leaving was a good thing and so did you apparently however, Mr. Aries talked you into changing your mind - no biggie though. I believe that you both needed to experience this situation to have a better understanding of why it will not work. He realized that he too was not able to follow through and he let you know. About having the girlfriend before hand? - one will really never know that answer hon. Best to just accept that it happened and make peace with it.
I do know as an Aries myself that there is NO WAY that I will partake in a long distance relationship - I enjoy being with someone - connecting with them on all levels developing the relationship.
Know that what the two of you had was special, be glad for the moments that you shared and let go. Keep yourself open to the new adventures that are coming your way
*everything happens for a reason - it's all good.
wishing you the best!
I agree, long distance relationships are difficult - i think your decision in breaking it off before leaving was a good thing and so did you apparently however, Mr. Aries talked you into changing your mind - no biggie though. I believe that you both needed to experience this situation to have a better understanding of why it will not work. He realized that he too was not able to follow through and he let you know. About having the girlfriend before hand? - one will really never know that answer hon. Best to just accept that it happened and make peace with it.
I do know as an Aries myself that there is NO WAY that I will partake in a long distance relationship - I enjoy being with someone - connecting with them on all levels developing the relationship.
Know that what the two of you had was special, be glad for the moments that you shared and let go. Keep yourself open to the new adventures that are coming your way
*everything happens for a reason - it's all good.
wishing you the best!
if you want the truth, most men do not understand what love is. They may say i love you, but how easy is that? I can give you a load of sweet butter to get you to believe I love you becaue women likes to hear those words, but what meaning do they really have? Its in our biological wiring, our brain is more wired towards sex and lust. most men can't really distinguish between love and lust, let alone define love.
"Who would be crazy enough to BELIEVE some random email?"
ha ha...a couple of years ago when this email or one very much like it was making it's rounds...a male aqua pal of mine had recieved it. He called me and said he needed to see me about something VERY important. He brought me a copy of the email and was not sure of what to do about it. (Thought he was the only one who had recieved it). I told him it was a scam and he did not beleive me - okies I say, good luck with that!
THEY are out there and THEY are among us
ha ha...a couple of years ago when this email or one very much like it was making it's rounds...a male aqua pal of mine had recieved it. He called me and said he needed to see me about something VERY important. He brought me a copy of the email and was not sure of what to do about it. (Thought he was the only one who had recieved it). I told him it was a scam and he did not beleive me - okies I say, good luck with that!
THEY are out there and THEY are among us
CONT...
Tehy tend to live day to day and change plans frequently. Very little serious thought goes into thier future. They do not show concern about how little they have done with their lives.
They tend to be highly reactive to perceived insults. They are short tempered and hot headed and tend to respond to frustration, failure, discipline and criticism with sudden violence, threats and verbal abuse. They take offense easily and become angry and aggressive over trivalties and often in a context that appears inappropriate to others. Outbursts are usually short lived and they quickly resume acting as if nothing out of the ordinary has happened.
Sounds like alot of people I know...even ME at times~~LOL!!
Further...a diagnosis is made only when there is solid evidence that the individual matches the complete profile...has most of the symptoms listed.
They show no loyalty to gangs, groups, codes or principles. They look out for Number 1.
Characteristics can show up at an early age.
They have no desire to change..have no concept of the future, resent all authorities, including therapists, view patient role as pitiful, detest being in a position of inferiority, deem therapy as a joke and therapists as objects to be conned or threatened.
Tehy tend to live day to day and change plans frequently. Very little serious thought goes into thier future. They do not show concern about how little they have done with their lives.
They tend to be highly reactive to perceived insults. They are short tempered and hot headed and tend to respond to frustration, failure, discipline and criticism with sudden violence, threats and verbal abuse. They take offense easily and become angry and aggressive over trivalties and often in a context that appears inappropriate to others. Outbursts are usually short lived and they quickly resume acting as if nothing out of the ordinary has happened.
Sounds like alot of people I know...even ME at times~~LOL!!
Further...a diagnosis is made only when there is solid evidence that the individual matches the complete profile...has most of the symptoms listed.
They show no loyalty to gangs, groups, codes or principles. They look out for Number 1.
Characteristics can show up at an early age.
They have no desire to change..have no concept of the future, resent all authorities, including therapists, view patient role as pitiful, detest being in a position of inferiority, deem therapy as a joke and therapists as objects to be conned or threatened.
made a great point there haffo/outcast.
lesson: accept everyone for who they are and where they are.
there is no way one can possibly understand another human - we can only share with others what we need and if they can accomadate...great! if not, that is cool too.
lesson: accept everyone for who they are and where they are.
there is no way one can possibly understand another human - we can only share with others what we need and if they can accomadate...great! if not, that is cool too.