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Nov 19, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 187 · Topics: 27
I feel a lot better today about my aqua man situation. I played it a little cool with him at work on Sunday, but he told me he wanted to hang out with me this week before his trip...I explained I had a busy schedule bet. work and school but to call me if he wanted coffee sometime. I called him yesterday with a car problem question, and he called me later to talk and asked if I wanted to meet up with him for coffee eearly this morning before work...I'm starting to see some changes and growth in our friendship, which is fun and interesting to see it develop....I think I'm ok with the way things are and I like that he is respecting me, it probably won't stop me from falling for him though! But A Muse for A Libra, you have a point about figuring out if he could even provide me with what I want to begin with- at this point it is a No. I want to continue our friendship, but I will probably always hope that it could lead into something more...I can't help but find this guy to be so interesting and adorable...even the fact that he is a little on the dorky side... I find it endearing!
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Nov 30, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 1327 · Topics: 32
"they were going for shock value..."
ya' think?
Personally I have no problem with a girl getting her clam cleaned by an arachnid, but damnit to hell she'd better stop seeing him after we start doing it together
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Aug 11, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 5176 · Topics: 77
For those of you who don't know the history....
Libra 1 and I were friends, then fwb's he got emotional about me first, when I wasn't and then, I got emotional about him and he wasn't, so eventually we remained very close friends. I was there for him through two relationships etc. We are just really close, but had a fall out and didn't really talk for a few months. He and I will only ever be friends.
Libra 2, I met on DXP, we had a what started out as a great relationship. Long distance that eventually ended because I didn't feel as though he was there when I needed him most and others were including Libra 1. The one who wants me back, but my feelings for him are not as they were romantically as I will probably always care for him.
Taurus, have known for almost 2 years, live in different cities, initially went out with a group of friends a couple times. Mad chemistry and eventually and finally went out on a date after several attempts previously when both our schedules clashed. Still major chemistry time will tell. He is a great guy.
Scorpio, initially went out a couple times, crazy jealous and kind of possessive and stalkish... LOL!!! Drama over the past month. Cut off friendship all together with him, but something keeps bringing us back together... Crazy but intriguing lately for some reason. Deep in my heart I know he won't be a good mate for me in the long run, but he has recently opened up and confessed he is in love with me and have been persuing strong. I on the other hand am not in love with him, however there is something very intriguing about him that keeps me interested to an extent. I like the similar bluntness we share and the crazy sarcasm that he says most others don't get, but, I am a scorp as well after all.
Still, no one that sparks my heart the way it should be sparked... I agree with KG I am concentrating on my business and new position I just accepted until my business is off the ground, so I am not persuing either. I will continue to go out with the Scorp and Taurus from time to time, which leaves me lonely still.
I did go out with a Leo recently, great time, no chemistry. Great guy though. Sighhhh!!!!
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Nov 25, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 447 · Topics: 68
The same with me. Whenever I felt doubtful or unsure, he would always find a way to make me feel like I had no need to worry. But the disappearing always brings back insecurity.
I always get a gut feeling to suspect someone might be deceiving me or being insincere and I'm usually right and as much as I wanted to brainwash myself into believing he was doing something wrong to potentially hurt what we have, I couldn't. I couldn't hate/dislike him even I wanted to because he seemed too invested, even more than me.
I know that when he warned me that the timing wasn't right, for the both of us.
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Aug 11, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 5176 · Topics: 77
Okay you guys remember my crazy, possessive and jealous scorp friend who I had to cut off all together? He is back and persuing harder than before, confessing he is in love etc However, we went through some major drama with some unexpected issues of his unbeknowing to me... Long story short, as he has been seriously opening up and persuing lately. Something is intriguing and I again, am entertaining his company... Nothing serious, just friends for now. As crazy as he is, he is very intelligent and has a lot of great charactoristics, and the regular scorp guy sick sense of humor that has opened a new kind of interest.
I am not in love with him or anything, but I recently like having him around. Hmmm, could it be the gifts and the attention?
BTW, two ex libras have reappeared and a long lost bull. When the attention rains it pours. The scorp is busy just as I am, but he makes all this extra effort to see me. He continuously makes me laugh and is so open we have a blast together. However, I stress my problem with his jealous an possessive nature. We are not in a relationship and if we were, that would still be a problem with me. I need to be trused or it aggrevates me.
Thoughts?
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Aug 11, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 5176 · Topics: 77
a muse a libra, yup, the libra that has been in my life reappeared a couple times after I thought I would never hear from him again.... Recently he reappeared out of the blue like we just talked yesterday after a couple months, but when he finally saw me, he huged me like we haven't seen eachother in years...
Attraction will always be there. Nothing more for us not on my part, he on the other hand is always open to an intense sexual encounter, because we scorps are just so good with libras in that area... LOL!!! But nah....
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Oct 13, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 436 · Topics: 12
Yes, leaving someone is a very difficult thing to do. You don't have to be married to have difficulty making that choice. It's just hard to do because there is still a good side of them you love and cherish and once fell in love with that has NOTHING to do with the player side of their behavior.
Fumi_, that was nice to hear a happy ending for your mother and father. Too bad more situations like that don't turn out the same.
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Aug 20, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 995 · Topics: 34
LA is not really the place to find a sincere love. Most men work a lot and have very little time or need for relationships since there are so many desperate women who have nothing but looks to offer. You have to date smart there. That means that if a red flag appears, you run away FAST! You weed out the losers and users by being aloof. Make them work to be with you. Don't pay attention to what they say only to their actions.
I left LA mostly because I accomplished what I wanted to do with my career but my personal life was lacking. If you're there for your career, focus solely on that. Perhaps you'll get lucky with a decent relationship in the meantime.
Btw, there is no right or wrong in relationships. If mistakes were made and you still wanted to be together (which is what it takes), you would have worked things out. As it happens in LA, he chose a superficial relationship. They are a lot less work since the lingerie model obviously doesn't make demands on him. Once she does, he'll dump her and get another. It's not a reflection on you as a person. Learn how to judge a man who is sincere and wants the same as you before you allow yourself to get deeply involved. These things happen in every city. We're living in a throwaway age.
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Oct 31, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 315 · Topics: 44
"Often we find ourselves trusting our friend and totally honest with them bcoz we are not trying to sleep with them. thats exactly what builds the bond and thats exactly what creates all troubles in a love relationship - we are afraid to be honest."
That can't be anymore true.