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Nov 11, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 384 · Topics: 58
Or tell them they are so narrow-minded and dull you can't bear to talk to them anymore. That would def piss them off (even though I've never met a boring aqua to be fair!)
The last aqua I dated broke it off because I said I wanted kids at some point. I think he took that to mean I was on a mission to impregnate myself right there and then.
My cap friend and me were thinking of some good ways to get rid of any guy - the two best were letting a wedding mag accidentally slip out of your bag when you're with him, or him seeing a piece of paper, again accidentally, where you've signed your name with his surname about a thousand times. Would love to see someone's face if I did that to them!
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Dec 31, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 218 · Topics: 26
Called him back to tell him i am not interested in contact, but I didn't get the chance...He brushed me off when I tried to have serious conversation...So I sent him an email and reconfirmed that if his intentions are for anything other than friendship, that I have no interest....No casual sex...I told him that I now realize that this was a rebound relationship and that he is emotionally unavailable...I said lets forget we were ever intimate and move on as friends....Did I do okay???
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Oct 13, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 436 · Topics: 12
It doesn't matter if he likes you a little, he likes you a lot, or he loves you and tells you he loves you. This kind of behavior makes absolutely no sense and is cruel and rude. And I've been going thru the same crap from a Libra that insists he loves me but yet doesn't want to spend time with me or communicate.
I tried giving him back the same behavior and the only thing that accomplished was more alienation between us. Yet when I try to end it with him he pleads with me that isn't what he wants (obviously he doesn't know what he wants)
Every time I make a suggestion of things we can do to be together he can't do it due to his BUSY schedule.But when he wants to see me on HIS time schedule (weeks have passed) I'm supposed to be available. I stopped being so available and no big deal I guess.
Now after distancing MYSELF from him he claims we would be seeing each other more regularly in the new year and in fact he'd make plans for the next few days we would do things together. I've not heard from him since Thursday. (#@*^% ##)
I refuse to make any further contact with him. I'm with you Lola, it's humiliating, degrading, insulting, and cruel. I've been patient and tolerant through all the BS excuses he can come up with in the past but what makes absolutely no sense at all is he is the one who came looking for me and keeps saying he wants the relationship.
I took him at his word until he proved to me time and again his words are meaningless. Which means probably everything else he says is just BS as well. I don't get it at all.
Why show intense interest and then vanish? Why is it soooo hard to make the effort on their part? I lead a busy life too that would choke most people but I can always find time for someone I love. But here I am continuing to vent about it and saying I'm over it but clearly ...I'm still pissed off. There is nothing worse then being a low priority except.........NO priority! OUCH!!
I like hugs.
Superficial ones.
Hmm not easy to answer HLG. Judging from me and my emotional cancer (personality taken into account too), if I'm angry in a fight is because I'm full of proof that I'm right. Yes if you shout back, I'm in the phase of I-don't-normally-argue-with-people-but-now-I-can-start-WW3. However with her and because I loved her as she was what I was looking for, I pushed myself out of the room and no matter who was right I always returned with something to ease the situation, unless it was sthg really unacceptable from her side.
Leo...calm down.
You sound kind of hysterical and obsessive. I don't mean that in a negative way, just trying to relate how you come across. Clearly I think he senses it.
Bottom line is, what do you want? If you want this man, then you must accept him for who he is. If what you listed above are your needs, and you draw the line at them being met, then find someone else. I'm guessing he doesn't show you the extra attention you're craving because he figures you already know how he feels about you.
Who cares if you were late and he got gripey? Blow it off, as he would you. Don't turn it into a contest. You're demanding that he state how he feels about you. What if he isn't ready to do that? He has that right. That's not one-sided or being an a**, that's just in his personality. If THAT doesn't fit your NEEDS and you cannot live with it then leave. But being overly-dramatic and emotionally demanding is going to back him into a corner.
I wouldn't even give it a week. I would just let it go. Find your happiness in something other than this man. If he wants you, and I think he does, he will attach himself to you. He needs to know that you are able to be your own person.
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I don't know whats wrong with these guys...Maybe they need their egos boosted once in awhile so they contact us again...I'm going through the same thing too...you want to tell them to get lost but once you start talking to them your heart melts again...I guess we have to look at it from a different point of view, if they loved us or liked us alot they would want to spend time with us, without the games...So I for one am moving on because I deserve better than this..And if we continue to let them treat us this way they will think that there is something wrong with us, because really why would we want anybody that treats us in this manner...