Loving/Wanting Someone You Can't "Have"?
I've never wanted or loved someone I couldn't have, until 3 months ago. I'm 41 and in love with a man who ignites me intellectually but would NEVER be able to give me what I need emotionally or physically. He's NOT emotionally-intelligent/connected or physically affectionate/romantic. Not to mention, evasive. Kinda sucks.
Have YOU ever been through this?
He revealed to me recently that he's considering more with me, but I know that he knows that he just wouldn't add up.
In a way, I wish we'd never met. But then, I feel excited about the new awakening inside of me from having met him.
But I can't even begin to play with the thought of a potential relationship because I know deep down inside, he would exhaust me.
I'm a SAG. He's an Aqua. Just a brand new experience that that truly touched my heart to it's core.
Have YOU ever been through this?
He revealed to me recently that he's considering more with me, but I know that he knows that he just wouldn't add up.
In a way, I wish we'd never met. But then, I feel excited about the new awakening inside of me from having met him.
But I can't even begin to play with the thought of a potential relationship because I know deep down inside, he would exhaust me.
I'm a SAG. He's an Aqua. Just a brand new experience that that truly touched my heart to it's core.
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Word. I am not going to sit here and make it seem like prejudice and racism not being the same thing isn't a bit mystifying since you can't engage in racist thought without being prejudiced. But they are different in an absolute sense.
But bear with me some:
Prejudice and racism both refer to a negative view of one group of people based solely on their membership in that group. Right?
In that sense both prejudice and racism sprout from the same seed but racism is in fact a special form of prejudice.
Prejudice is when a person negatively pre-judges another person or group without getting to know the beliefs, thoughts, and feelings behind their words and actions. A person of any racial group can be prejudiced towards a person of any other racial group because there is no power dynamic that must be observed....legal and institutional (societal) authority need not be examined. There is no power dynamic that need be involved for someone to be considered prejudiced.
Bigotry is a stronger form of prejudice, a more severe and uncompromising mindset marked by hatred and intolerance and often accompanied by discriminatory behavior (verbal attacks against that group, physical attacks on that group, trolling because of that group identity, etc) . As racial justice educator and writer Debby Irving stated: It’s arrogant and mean-spirited, but requires neither systems nor power to engage in."
Racism spefically, involves the maintenance and utilization of prejudicial attitudes and thoughts, institutions and/or systems, or bigoted behavior towards members of an ethnic group for the conscious/unscious purpose of keeping that ethnic group subordinate:
Debby Irving states:
"Racism is the system that allows the racial group that’s already in power to retain power. Since arriving on U.S. soil white people have used their power to create preferential access to survival rights and resources (housing, education, jobs, voting, citizenship, food, health, legal protection, etc.) for white people while simultaneously impeding people of color’s access to these same rights and resources.Though “reverse racism” is a term I sometimes hear, it has never existed in America. White people are the only racial group to have ever established and retained power in the United States."
When looking at say Liam Neeson:
What was prejudiced? The unstated but likely belief that all blacks are equally culpable for each others crimes. What was bigoted?: His devotion to those prejudices to the point that he sought to wage violence because of them...was bigoted behavior. What was racist?: Maintaining innocence in the face of overwhelming evidence of prejudice and bigotry.
Dazed helped me a little, but I think this will too, in understanding this stance.
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Douglas MacArthur, only because I nicknamed my sister's dog "Doglas MacArffur"
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From your hormones/period? If I'm at work, Pamprin or Midol helps a little. If I'm at home, a warm towel over them feels relieving.
Are you preggers? When I was they got to sore and touchy I couldn't lay on my tummy anymore and that was at like 5 - 6 weeks, before I even realized I was pregnant.
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Should get someone to gently rub them. Hold them for you. Someone with soft hands. Like myself. Probably do you some good.
And how are you gonna hold your blunt with soft hands on boobs, massaging them. It makes no sense!
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If you post pics online (DXP specifically) it stops them hurting. Fact.
I'll try the Advil first and then see what happens
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