Posted by greylaternThis did a lot for me emotionally, thank you. I think I need to work on slowing my roll and trusting the process. It’s been whirlwind for me in recent weeks because of unrelated factors & after getting feedback on here I can see that I clung too hard too quickly and need to curve that if I’m going to render any success with this guy.
@aquariancrybaby
Your spiraling emotionally and your going to take your cancer with you.
Your smothering him.
Chill out. Cheer and support the poor guy. You know damn well he misses you too. What your doing is torturing him. If you become to distracting and he becomes not functional, you will blow up the relationship.
The fact you miss him so much that is causes you pain, means you love him just as much correct? The opposite of pain is Joy. Focus on that instead and go about your day knowing that you are lucky enough to have found someone like that. Cheerish it and express that to him instead.
Keep these in mind when your feeling down.
When you think he isn't there know that he is.
When you think you are not talking to him, know that you are.
Send him stuff about your day and ask about his. Time it if possible after the bulk of his day is done.
Send him a picture or meme that you will know he would love or laugh at.
Give him glimpses of things to look forward to when he gets home.
Most importantly Send him your love, support, and passion. Not the pain but the source of it. The love and joy you feel.
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Posted by EffortlessNot hardly.Posted by CancerOnTheCuspYou have a lot to learn about the ugly changes going on in Europe.Posted by EffortlessLet's allow the fire inspectors determine what happened.
Construction Workers were not present at the time of the fire. Fifty bucks says this was intention, and 100 bucks says it was Mohammed's sons doing the arson.
Per Journalist report of Sotiri Dimpinoudis
"At the time of the fire, no construction work was going on at the iconic cathédrale Notre-Dame de #Paris church. #NotreDame #France"
Source:
https://twitter.com/sotiridi
I sincerely hope this was not intentional.click to expand
Posted by Arielle83Posted by giaHe’s insecure and he’s testing your feelings.Posted by Arielle83
Call his bluff and say “ok break up then”.
Say it apathetically and don’t react to what he says next.
He’ll either say you’re done or he’ll say he’s joking.
If he says you’re done, go home and block his number.
If he says he’s joking, say you’re not and go home and block his number.
Thank you!! I'll try this next time. I tried this with my virgo male bestie who is eerily similar to my virgo boyfriend in nature - the extreme stubborn behavior, the threats if things are not done as per their wish, the impulsive aggressive actions, blaming the other person, ugly mouth when teased even a bit, 0 ability to take jokes on them but 100% ability to bully someone else, assuming they are more intelligent than everyone else. Only difference is that since my friend is 5 years older to us he is a wee bit matured now.
You advice worked on my friend each time he did the exact same thing but I doubt if it will work on my boyfriend because he's even more sensitive and egoistic than my virgo friend. But I'll still try it the next time.
Oh and I forgot to mention, I did try this on my virgo guy, last week. He was asking me to email him something I had genuinely deleted but he thought I am making excuses. So he said "I've begged you 100 times and I am warning you that you're making me mad and it will lead to a breakup". I playfully said "okay then breakup". He immediately blocked me from everywhere. Phone,sms, whatsapp,facebook. Hours later he texted a big paragraph on how he's done with me forever and I'm dead for him because I've hurt him way too much. The next day we had to meet in college and we always sit together. I didn't expect him to sit with me but he looked for me when he entered the class and sat next to me. He looked at me and sternly said that we are just best friends now and no amount of begging or explanation will change his mind. That pissed me off because I couldnt believe he could do that over such a small thing. He said he was mad at me for not sending him the email but what made him take the breakup step was the fact that when he said he'll breakup I replied "okay then breakup" so that made him mad and hurt. He said I take him for granted. I got mad at him and I started crying lol. Then he came and hugged and yeah.
He wants a reaction.
I’m saying to do that to give yourself space from him to see what you want.
Not to see if he’ll beg for you.
It’s all push and pull to see who has the upper hand.
You gotta step back and clear your head of this drama.click to expand
Posted by greylaternThank you for your reply. You're spot on about literally having to teach each other about our different personality. Communication is the most essential key here and he's not too good at that. I am all up for a fair argument or discussion but when he's angry he just won't listen to one word you say but just keep exploding his angry feelings. He gets highly impulsive, aggressive and ugly mouthed. If you say something bad on the scale of 1/10, he'll hurt you back on the scale of 10/10. That's how he behaves when angry. I call him out on this behavior. I tell him he's too impulsive and irrational when angry and he internally agrees with me. He is way too high on personal attacks.Posted by giaVirgos picses work just fine.Posted by NoName282Posted by giaPisces and Virgos don't get a long
My title says it all - how frustrated I am. How can someone lack even basic to basic sense of understanding ?!?! Is this a Virgo thing or my boyfriend is just being a controlling jerk? He has to have everything his way and if I don't, then he gets so mad that he doesn't even hesitate breaking up. You'll laugh at the immaturity if I give you 1 example which happened less than 5 minutes ago.
We both are working on an important project which is expensive and we are equally contributing but he's paying from his card and I have transferred my amount of share to his account. We are supposed to buy some important parts for the project today and we can't delay it any further so he's suppose to make the payment today. Yesterday, I changed my whatsapp display photo and he said that it looks bad and i am must change it. I changed it to something else and again he said it looks bad. So I asked him for his opinion because he has tonnes of photos of me clicked by him. He picked out one and asked me to change it to that. Now the thing with that photo is that he altered the original photo and edited and increased the size of my boobs and ass (weird, IK!!).
I have cousins and family on whatsapp and they are pretty conservative(I told him about it) and so I put up the original photo as my DP and not the altered one which he asked me to. HE STOPPED TALKING and it didn't make sense to me because i told him the reason!! Half an hour ago I texted him that he's gotto pay now for the project else we'll be screwed. He said "first change your DP, or forget about the project".
I can't believe that the guy lacks basic sense of understanding. Is this typical of a virgo guy? How do i handle this? I can't let him control me this way. He clearly lacks understanding,even basic sense of it. A relationship can never ever work this way. Please don't bash him,I've done that already. I just need some good suggestions on how to handle this behavior.
Thanks!!
(talking from experience - my parents)
I have read it all over the internet that it can be either a hit or a miss relationship. It all depends on how much can you adjust.
Do you mind sharing some bits about their relationship? as to why and how they don't get along? Feel free to ignore if it's too personal xD
.... after you realise you litterally have to teach each other about yourselves, point of view, and stick to your guns/call each other on our shit. You will have to stop filter as much and speak your mind with a explaination. Opposition relationships can be actually worth having. Communication is key. My picses friend taught me to ease up and stop being so critical. I was the one who engaged this way admittedly. I was new to astrology, so I was very inquisitive in general. The important thing is I worked to understand her and spoke my mind without jugdement on either end.
You already pointed out he is spoiled. Controlling because he has always had his way. It was allowed without concesqunce. Is it his fault he was trained that way? No. It's adult time now.
Anyone else might kick him to the curb but God bless picses. You need to set your boundaries. Remind him when he crosses the line of said line. Focus on understanding and the exchange rather then result at first. Avoid personal attacks.
If things get toxic, don't care how much you care walk away. When you do though let him know why. That way he can't ego up and find a excuse as to why you left other then the truth. Which is his behavior( words and actions).click to expand
Posted by Gemitattinaah
Does the picture has anything to do with a project?
Posted by CancerOnTheCuspAgain, you don't know shit.Posted by EffortlessNot hardly.Posted by CancerOnTheCuspYou have a lot to learn about the ugly changes going on in Europe.Posted by EffortlessLet's allow the fire inspectors determine what happened.
Construction Workers were not present at the time of the fire. Fifty bucks says this was intention, and 100 bucks says it was Mohammed's sons doing the arson.
Per Journalist report of Sotiri Dimpinoudis
"At the time of the fire, no construction work was going on at the iconic cathédrale Notre-Dame de #Paris church. #NotreDame #France"
Source:
https://twitter.com/sotiridi
I sincerely hope this was not intentional.
I literally passed through Keleti station a week before a bunch of migrants showed up. I had locals in several places sharing "discomfort" with the conduct of "migrants".
It's one of those potential powder keg things.
I don't engage in conspiracy theories except as entertainment.
That said....
It's one thing to put up with politically correct bullshit, it's quite another to have an incident on the scale of Notre Dame as an international act.
If the inspectors determine it was intentional, Charles Martel might rise from the grave.click to expand
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