How do you get him to be your lover & friend?
YES!!!!
That's exactly the invisible wall I want this romantic-friendship to take on. That of being THE OTHER WOMAN/MAN. Hammer on the nail.
I will not do that though, I want someone who can take photos with me, be out in public with me and won't be depressed about his unhappy situation. I want things to remain as light as possible. But like any other friend of mine, I will be there in hard times, just don't want to walk into certain kinds of hard times expecting to have fun.
I like the idea of the 4mos rule. The plan is basically between May 1st and Oct 1 (at most). I am aware that I may go through 2-3 friends during these warm months. That's fine. I am going to try hard to prevent that though. Yes, people get bored with routine, and yes people grow feelings. Nothing is completely controllable. But, I guess at that point we have to call a time-out and discuss things. That would put a huge damper on the fun and security the plan will bring, things might turn awkward too. If possible I'd rather we hide the feelings til after the summer.
That's exactly the invisible wall I want this romantic-friendship to take on. That of being THE OTHER WOMAN/MAN. Hammer on the nail.
I will not do that though, I want someone who can take photos with me, be out in public with me and won't be depressed about his unhappy situation. I want things to remain as light as possible. But like any other friend of mine, I will be there in hard times, just don't want to walk into certain kinds of hard times expecting to have fun.
I like the idea of the 4mos rule. The plan is basically between May 1st and Oct 1 (at most). I am aware that I may go through 2-3 friends during these warm months. That's fine. I am going to try hard to prevent that though. Yes, people get bored with routine, and yes people grow feelings. Nothing is completely controllable. But, I guess at that point we have to call a time-out and discuss things. That would put a huge damper on the fun and security the plan will bring, things might turn awkward too. If possible I'd rather we hide the feelings til after the summer.