How do you get him to be your lover & friend?
I guess the main difference is being able to ensure I have a man to cuddle with and hang out with. I don't do much hanging out because the mind/head games just keep interfering. With platonic male friends you don't have those games. You have fun. I am rather busy to commit to continously being a perfect girlfriend so a relationship (wwhich seems to scare most men) is not what I am seeking. But, unfortunately wanting to plan activities that dont include sex makes men want to run away. Those are the kinds of men I don't need. So, I can't go through the natural process of letting it happen. Those men always find their way into my world.
I am not looking to replace my girlfriends or his boys. I just want a man to be my "roll dawg" and it doesn't have to be a me and him every time thing. I have girlfriends and he has boys. We all can make the weekends jump. Go bowling, camping, whatever. Just be out doing something and cuddled up. Then Sunday night prepare for the work week as usual. The weekend was fun and so will next weekend. Oh and don't forget Wednesday night 2-3hrs of quality time.
Maybe it's just me, but all of my relationships seem to start off on the same page and then somehow I read faster and the man is left two pages behind trying to not read further. Not sure if it's sex or just him not digging me that caused the change. Whatever it is, things go downhill sooner than I'd like. And there is this awkward phase of mind/head games that leads to insecurity worry and analyzing. Nothing fun about that.
I am not looking to replace my girlfriends or his boys. I just want a man to be my "roll dawg" and it doesn't have to be a me and him every time thing. I have girlfriends and he has boys. We all can make the weekends jump. Go bowling, camping, whatever. Just be out doing something and cuddled up. Then Sunday night prepare for the work week as usual. The weekend was fun and so will next weekend. Oh and don't forget Wednesday night 2-3hrs of quality time.
Maybe it's just me, but all of my relationships seem to start off on the same page and then somehow I read faster and the man is left two pages behind trying to not read further. Not sure if it's sex or just him not digging me that caused the change. Whatever it is, things go downhill sooner than I'd like. And there is this awkward phase of mind/head games that leads to insecurity worry and analyzing. Nothing fun about that.