How do you get him to be your lover & friend?
bjou2u said:
"I don't mind the emotional drama - from a distance. In my face 24/7, I cannot handle. I need fun and lightness from time to time, not always serious or everyday routine. I told my lover from the get go that the thought of moving in with someone makes me nauseous, and marriage is still something that seems utterly alien to me. Like deep fried twinkies."
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If emotional drama brings about growth, I can;t knock it. But I am with you on that 24/7 in my face thing, not happening. That's good you discussed that with him early on about living together. It does not rob him of your time and attention. Just indicates a boundary line. I know what you mean about marriage seeming like a whole other level in life. I had to define how I want to be married just because I know if I do the blended family thing I would lose myself. I never had my young life thanks to being a hot mama at a young age. So, I intend to get that back. Loving a man completely is a big part of that and I want to do it as an individual not a group (with kids in tow).
"I don't mind the emotional drama - from a distance. In my face 24/7, I cannot handle. I need fun and lightness from time to time, not always serious or everyday routine. I told my lover from the get go that the thought of moving in with someone makes me nauseous, and marriage is still something that seems utterly alien to me. Like deep fried twinkies."
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If emotional drama brings about growth, I can;t knock it. But I am with you on that 24/7 in my face thing, not happening. That's good you discussed that with him early on about living together. It does not rob him of your time and attention. Just indicates a boundary line. I know what you mean about marriage seeming like a whole other level in life. I had to define how I want to be married just because I know if I do the blended family thing I would lose myself. I never had my young life thanks to being a hot mama at a young age. So, I intend to get that back. Loving a man completely is a big part of that and I want to do it as an individual not a group (with kids in tow).