How do you get him to be your lover & friend?
ElectroAqua, you're good with me. Just teach me how to make more emoticons lol.
Actually, I have a sincere belief that Virgo males are users and want their mates and everyone else to go along with their plan. Good to see it pointed out in me.
However, it's not like I am proposing something that's not fun and progressive. I'm not asking a man to barter and trade with me. You change my oil, I'll mend your socks. We grow with our girlfriends based on how much we have in common with them. The ones who don't like the same conversation and activities are not the ones we hang out with or call on the phone the most.
I have a few girls (Virgo, Cancer, Scorpio) who will jump up at the chance to go somewhere fun with me. Especially if I have it planned out, and there is some fun involved. They don't see me as bossing them for their time, or controlling their day and activities. Why would a man see it that way?
Most of the men I have gotten to know are outgoing people. So, why would they say no to me and my activities when I know they enjoy doing those things. Ok, maybe it's wishful thinking that I will be committed to watching a tv show but I have had male friends who kind of sorta invite themselves over to do these things, I don't say no. Pop the corn, chill the drinks and let's do this. I am the kind of friend that my girls are to me when I need a roll dawg.
The only difference in my plan is that I want something more stable and secure than occasionally chilling with someone. I want to cuddle because it's understood not for you to work your way up after three visits to cuddling with me. When I get randee I want to know in my mind that come Wednesday it's on and not try and flirt with Mr. Head Games to see if he wants to come over or feels like company. I'll have my romantic friend.
I don't want to seem bossy or controlling just organized and committed to hanging and chilling. I am open to it being 2 nights during the week and both Saturday and Sunday. I think most men would be satisfied with that kind of stability that doesn't impose or make him feel noosed. I could be wrong.
Actually, I have a sincere belief that Virgo males are users and want their mates and everyone else to go along with their plan. Good to see it pointed out in me.
However, it's not like I am proposing something that's not fun and progressive. I'm not asking a man to barter and trade with me. You change my oil, I'll mend your socks. We grow with our girlfriends based on how much we have in common with them. The ones who don't like the same conversation and activities are not the ones we hang out with or call on the phone the most.
I have a few girls (Virgo, Cancer, Scorpio) who will jump up at the chance to go somewhere fun with me. Especially if I have it planned out, and there is some fun involved. They don't see me as bossing them for their time, or controlling their day and activities. Why would a man see it that way?
Most of the men I have gotten to know are outgoing people. So, why would they say no to me and my activities when I know they enjoy doing those things. Ok, maybe it's wishful thinking that I will be committed to watching a tv show but I have had male friends who kind of sorta invite themselves over to do these things, I don't say no. Pop the corn, chill the drinks and let's do this. I am the kind of friend that my girls are to me when I need a roll dawg.
The only difference in my plan is that I want something more stable and secure than occasionally chilling with someone. I want to cuddle because it's understood not for you to work your way up after three visits to cuddling with me. When I get randee I want to know in my mind that come Wednesday it's on and not try and flirt with Mr. Head Games to see if he wants to come over or feels like company. I'll have my romantic friend.
I don't want to seem bossy or controlling just organized and committed to hanging and chilling. I am open to it being 2 nights during the week and both Saturday and Sunday. I think most men would be satisfied with that kind of stability that doesn't impose or make him feel noosed. I could be wrong.