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Sorry for your pain ((((hugs)))) . We've all been there and it sucks! Try to keep your pain private as well as your frustrations, resentments, and anger. The best way to get even with him and get OVER him is to not give him the satisfaction of knowing he has hurt you this much. The pain is a learning and growing process so let's look at the positive things that come out of all of that. First of all you now know you're going to do your best to NOT let someone else put you in a situation like this again and you're going to be smarter the next time around. You'll be more observant of "red flags" and listening to them rather then ignoring them from now on.
As you look back and reflect on the events that led up to this point you probably look back on all the red flags you did get in the past and ignored that was telling you he was lying before you found out he was lying right? Well, now you'll be more attentive and paying attention to those red flags in the future when you're with someone new. This guy has now made you smarter and MUCH stronger. Be thankful for that!!!
It's understandable that you're just not willing to extend yourself right now to wanting to be with anyone new. That's normal. But allow yourself a bit of a break and then show this guy that HE is the one that lost out NOT YOU !!! Be glad you didn't invest more time with a guy that would spend years lying too you and hurting you again and again! It hurts when the trust is broken and all that you thought was there has suddenly gone. But everything happens for a reason and the universe just stepped in and saved you from a big mistake with this guy.
Show him that he doesn't deserve your tears and replace him with someone who is RIGHT for you and deserves you. Don't allow your anger and bitterness for this guy turn other opportunities off or away from you. The best revenge is getting on with your life as soon as possible and don't put up with any more lies from anyone! Trust is EARNED and you should allow people to SHOW you they can be trusted. It's difficult to do when you like to see the good in everyone. This is why it hurts so deeply. You trust openly and I am like that too. It wounds deeply when that trust is gone or violated, that's for sure! But please don't let this guy change the good in you. Just be Smarter and stronger now that he's given you some good tools thru this experience that you'll use for the rest of your life. More ((((hugs))))) and good luck !
As you look back and reflect on the events that led up to this point you probably look back on all the red flags you did get in the past and ignored that was telling you he was lying before you found out he was lying right? Well, now you'll be more attentive and paying attention to those red flags in the future when you're with someone new. This guy has now made you smarter and MUCH stronger. Be thankful for that!!!
It's understandable that you're just not willing to extend yourself right now to wanting to be with anyone new. That's normal. But allow yourself a bit of a break and then show this guy that HE is the one that lost out NOT YOU !!! Be glad you didn't invest more time with a guy that would spend years lying too you and hurting you again and again! It hurts when the trust is broken and all that you thought was there has suddenly gone. But everything happens for a reason and the universe just stepped in and saved you from a big mistake with this guy.
Show him that he doesn't deserve your tears and replace him with someone who is RIGHT for you and deserves you. Don't allow your anger and bitterness for this guy turn other opportunities off or away from you. The best revenge is getting on with your life as soon as possible and don't put up with any more lies from anyone! Trust is EARNED and you should allow people to SHOW you they can be trusted. It's difficult to do when you like to see the good in everyone. This is why it hurts so deeply. You trust openly and I am like that too. It wounds deeply when that trust is gone or violated, that's for sure! But please don't let this guy change the good in you. Just be Smarter and stronger now that he's given you some good tools thru this experience that you'll use for the rest of your life. More ((((hugs))))) and good luck !
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