Virgo strapped in tight on a Libra rollercoaster..
"Seeing the positive instead of the negative definitely has its detrimental points, but isn't seeing things the opposite way even moreso?"
No .. not "seeing" it. I'm not talking about embracing the negative, I'm talking about acknowledgement of it's existence and properly putting it into perspective as being a part of his character. You keep going back to him, eventhough, you think you are acknowledging that he has negative traits .. but, you aren't really acknowledging this, because you said that you overlook pains caused to you by him, as if they don't exist.
There is no success in anything in life, without realization of failure, for if there is no realization of failure, then how will know how to proceed to overcome obstacles to gain your success?
You can't ... an obstacle will hit you in the face and you'll know not how to proceed because all past experiences with this ... you ignored.
Expertise comes with experience, does it not? If you never allow yourself to experience something, then how will you gain insight on how to conquer, or become wise?
That's great to look at people in a positive light .. however, you MUST acknowledge that every person also has darkness.
To say you forget about things this man does to hurt you .. and then go running back as if it never existed to embrace only his positive traits is a set-up you are causing yourself to fall off the same cliff.
Do you think a person only grows from positive input?
Let me ask you a question:
When you were in school and you took a test .. wasn't it because of your errors on the exam that made you go back and re-read chapters because apparantly, you didn't get it because you had errors.
We learn from mistakes .. that's why we make them. If we don't learn from a mistake and just ignore it, then what are we learning?
Nothing. We know not to run with untied shoelaces because we FELL from doing it and got hurt.
If you forget about pain caused you from another person, if you overlook and completely IGNORE what this man is doing to you to hurt you ... then you will NEVER be able to grow with him because no realization of the difference between right and wrong is in place.
No .. not "seeing" it. I'm not talking about embracing the negative, I'm talking about acknowledgement of it's existence and properly putting it into perspective as being a part of his character. You keep going back to him, eventhough, you think you are acknowledging that he has negative traits .. but, you aren't really acknowledging this, because you said that you overlook pains caused to you by him, as if they don't exist.
There is no success in anything in life, without realization of failure, for if there is no realization of failure, then how will know how to proceed to overcome obstacles to gain your success?
You can't ... an obstacle will hit you in the face and you'll know not how to proceed because all past experiences with this ... you ignored.
Expertise comes with experience, does it not? If you never allow yourself to experience something, then how will you gain insight on how to conquer, or become wise?
That's great to look at people in a positive light .. however, you MUST acknowledge that every person also has darkness.
To say you forget about things this man does to hurt you .. and then go running back as if it never existed to embrace only his positive traits is a set-up you are causing yourself to fall off the same cliff.
Do you think a person only grows from positive input?
Let me ask you a question:
When you were in school and you took a test .. wasn't it because of your errors on the exam that made you go back and re-read chapters because apparantly, you didn't get it because you had errors.
We learn from mistakes .. that's why we make them. If we don't learn from a mistake and just ignore it, then what are we learning?
Nothing. We know not to run with untied shoelaces because we FELL from doing it and got hurt.
If you forget about pain caused you from another person, if you overlook and completely IGNORE what this man is doing to you to hurt you ... then you will NEVER be able to grow with him because no realization of the difference between right and wrong is in place.
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He tells me he doesnt want to lose me and he really likes me but at the same does soooo many things that all add up to "I DONT REALLY GIVE A SHIT"
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Sorry to disappoint.
Sorry to disappoint.