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Libra. Libra & Gemini are supposed to be a good match.. ROFL

I get on great with the females, but relationship wise, the males and I just don't see eye to eye.

I feel the same way about Gemini men! Just relationship wise

Funny how it works that way eh! I wish it wasn't so cause Libra men are truly so dreamy and I attract a shit ton of them.

Hmm yeah I’ve fallen for it a couple times myself 😬 I tell myself never again but I said that last time too lol 🤦‍♀️

I've said never again soooo many times.. but you guys are my kryptonite!!

The Leeb came knocking again and I'm trying really hard not to cave. I am good at sticking to my guns but that boy has ways around everything! -_-

Oh nooooo! Hun you’ve done so well and come so far please put yourself first!! So much harder to get over anyone without distance 😬

I know. I have been doing really well (on the surface at least, not inside though). And so far I have been sticking to my guns and not giving him an inch. Still haven't seen him at all yet, but that's what he's trying to make happen :/

Do you know why at all? Would it be easier to delete him from social media for the moment? Everyone is different but my last breakup I found it easier that way, I even deleted pics so I wouldn’t have to see them lol 😬 #drastic

I blocked his number and he had me blocked on social media since the last time he tried to find his way in and I wasn't having it. We argued, he blocked me.. fine. Then he started texting me to argue more, so I blocked his number. Now he unblocked me on Facebook so he could try again. We hadn't spoken for 3 weeks previous to this and I have not seen him.. except on my way to work in the morning, I often drive by him walking to work which sucks. I thought about just blocking him on Facebook when I woke up this morning.. but for some reason I don't want to hurt his feelings that are fragile right now. Why do I fkn care though? I know I shouldn't.. he never cared about my feelings.. but that is how he always gets me. Acting like the wounded puppy and I fall back in every damn time.

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Posted by Raakac

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That's the thing tho.

I have a year not speaking to him.

Why bother is my question.

the real question is why the fuck are you calling him a friend if you're having thoughts like these about him?

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i dunno, dude said he didnt think yall were compatible & didnt even save your number.

then when we call you out, you tell us he’s actually “very demanding” & put pressure on you... yadda yadda. why would you even be interested in someone like that?

you said you blocked him for a month & now its “a couple weeks”.

none of this looks promising. to me, it clearly looks as if yall are not compatible.

I don't think any of this will actually clear up unless they hash things out IRL and actually see how the other person thinks and acts. Miscommunications and misunderstandings can come up really easily if the relationship is strictly online.

Just meet up and see what happens. And if he's not willing to meet up then just cut your losses and move on, OP. And be more careful about how you conduct yourself moving forward.

Yeh I know.

Oh btw I did finally call. And guess what when I did it said he was on another call. And me being me was like it's maybe another female. But anyway he didn't pick up and texted "I'll call u back"... he called back 20 minutes later. I didn't pick up. I was busy at the shops..Then got home n just had to do other things. So I left it basically.

Then an hour later he messaged on WhatsApp and was like apologising for missing my call and asked if I was alright.

To which I replied "Yeh". And that was tht

Girl you haven't picked up a single phone call from this dude. It's not hard. At this point nobody cares what you think he was doing while he was on his own phone call and nobody cares that you got busy. This bullshit has been going on for way too long. He's been making 95% of the effort and you've done next to nothing to encourage him that you're actually serious about him. I don't know what else to tell you. Put your ego away and just call him. Stop fucking around with him.

LOOOL well this isn't like you lol. You're running out of patience

I'll call him tomorrow it's too late in the night now. Happyyyyy

You have to keep in mind that as someone else said in this thread, his job requires him to take a lot of phone calls. So especially because this is the case, it's really very unlikely he would purposely not pick up your phone call, and especially not if he's already in the middle of a phone call anyway. And it's not reasonable to assume that it's automatically anorher girl that he's talking to. I think you're getting really overly stressed for nothing, especially seeing that you're pessimistic about the whole thing. He even texted you after his call was done to ask you if you were okay. What more do you want?

You need to relax, not jump to conclusions, not assume the worst of this guy, and be considerate of his job, his time, his whatever. Everyone has had completely ass experiences in the dating world but that's no excuse to make the other person do so much of the work and be inconsiderate of the fact that they have their own lives to live too and assume that they're just throwing you away. If you keep assuming that despite their constant efforts to show you that they're genuinely interested in you and taking you seriously, they're going to think you're crazy and jaded and have crazy insecurities that you need to get over.

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Posted by dilettante

i dunno, dude said he didnt think yall were compatible & didnt even save your number.

then when we call you out, you tell us he’s actually “very demanding” & put pressure on you... yadda yadda. why would you even be interested in someone like that?

you said you blocked him for a month & now its “a couple weeks”.

none of this looks promising. to me, it clearly looks as if yall are not compatible.

I don't think any of this will actually clear up unless they hash things out IRL and actually see how the other person thinks and acts. Miscommunications and misunderstandings can come up really easily if the relationship is strictly online.

Just meet up and see what happens. And if he's not willing to meet up then just cut your losses and move on, OP. And be more careful about how you conduct yourself moving forward.

Yeh I know.

Oh btw I did finally call. And guess what when I did it said he was on another call. And me being me was like it's maybe another female. But anyway he didn't pick up and texted "I'll call u back"... he called back 20 minutes later. I didn't pick up. I was busy at the shops..Then got home n just had to do other things. So I left it basically.

Then an hour later he messaged on WhatsApp and was like apologising for missing my call and asked if I was alright.

To which I replied "Yeh". And that was tht

Girl you haven't picked up a single phone call from this dude. It's not hard. At this point nobody cares what you think he was doing while he was on his own phone call and nobody cares that you got busy. This bullshit has been going on for way too long. He's been making 95% of the effort and you've done next to nothing to encourage him that you're actually serious about him. I don't know what else to tell you. Put your ego away and just call him. Stop fucking around with him.

LOOOL well this isn't like you lol. You're running out of patience

I'll call him tomorrow it's too late in the night now. Happyyyyy

You have to keep in mind that as someone else said in this thread, his job requires him to take a lot of phone calls. So especially because this is the case, it's really very unlikely he would purposely not pick up your phone call, and especially not if he's already in the middle of a phone call anyway. And it's not reasonable to assume that it's automatically anorher girl that he's talking to. I think you're getting really overly stressed for nothing, especially seeing that you're pessimistic about the whole thing. He even texted you after his call was done to ask you if you were okay. What more do you want?

You need to relax, not jump to conclusions, not assume the worst of this guy, and be considerate of his job, his time, his whatever. Everyone has had completely ass experiences in the dating world but that's no excuse to make the other person do so much of the work and be inconsiderate of the fact that they have their own lives to live too and assume that they're just throwing you away. If you keep assuming that despite their constant efforts to show you that they're genuinely interested in you and taking you seriously, they're going to think you're crazy and jaded and have crazy insecurities that you need to get over.

I know but obviously he doesn't know my innermost thoughts which is what I'm telling u guys. He won't ever find out this stuff that I'm thinking lol. He will just be like oh ok she didn't pick up but won't think anything of it or know about all those other things

Anyway iv dealt with an actual narcissist before this so u can imagine how it was then. That person wss constantly in and out of my life. And giving mixed signals 24/7 as a form of control. That can mess up even the strongest of people

Do you actually think that given your past behavior, this dude is just gonna shrug off the fact that you haven't picked up a single one of his phone calls?

I get that you're hella jaded because you've dealt with shitty people in romantic relationships but that's something you should clear up independently because nobody is going to want to date someone as jaded, selfish, unreasonable, or entitled, as you. So go fix it before you ruin your next try at a relationship.

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" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."

it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?

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" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."

it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?

Great. If u guys think it seems that way then he definitely will too. 😪.

No despite what everyone thinks it's not his attention I'm after only. I mean I do get a lot of attention from other guys aswell I wouldn't say in pursuing a relationship. As that is never a good idea in the first place. But I do want to properly get to know him. Im starting to feel a lot of guilt now. For the lack of contact with him and how he kept trying different way to get me to call him and open up to him

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