Aries man first date - from a cappy woman

Posted by emeraldgem

@gia - "Call me crazy but this is the only sole reason why I haven't had him off the hook yet. Some part of me feels or rather prays that he too would mature with time and we'd mature as a couple if only I hold onto some more patience and only so I know how to handle his immaturity."

Ok - I'm calling you crazy. You are basing how he is going to turn out because of how OTHER people turned out. How is this even rational?

Maybe he will change and mature but maybe NOT. Wanna stick around and find out? He's the one who has YOU trained. Good luck undoing it. Stand your ground and make him change (because that always works) or go and be with someone who is already mature.

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i did. now i'm cast away

Have @_Dazed turned your eating him offer down?

🤦‍♀️

Why do you keep crawling away from me my baby cockroach?

Let’s go 🥰

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i did. now i'm cast away

Have @_Dazed turned your eating him offer down?

🤦‍♀️

Why do you keep crawling away from me my baby cockroach?

Let’s go 🥰

You stink of pickle juice...🤢

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The ending of a rship is like a death for some people....it takes time to grieve the loss 😥💔

True. But with death comes rebirth.

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How do you usually get women? Do they have to come on to you? I know Pisces have the innocence thing going for them but damn! You seem so shy.

What's need for you to be comfortable enough to move forward? The risk of not seeing her again since class is ending, isn't even enough, huh?

You two have spent plenty of time together outside of class right?

hmm I'm just myself.

they come to me .

if it's someone who is attracted to me but is passive they just try to occupy my space as much as possible...aka always being around/ in my perimeter for no reason..as so I've been told by others who have told me that I don't notice these things.

aggressive types like fire and some ai signs have directly hit on me/asked for physical affection.

I usually have no clue until lips are coming towards me lol

Yeah I can tell, or you have a clue and still just wait. This is gonna get you and the Gemini to do a super slow dance. She will end up losing interest if she is sticking around without any moves being made. Your idea of saying something to get it started is a good thing. Don't back out now and second guess yourself

maybe she's already lost interest?

I don't know it seemed liked she friend zoned me last week...and then things were a little weird between us afterwards.

she also said she was in a bad mood lol 'so I just gave her space.

the energy was alright between us last night.

pretty light/semi playful like it is usually

You sure are trying to weasel yourself out of making a move. It's your love life lol

If she said she was in a bad mood then she was. Last night was good, so take it for what it is. If she lost interest you wouldn't see her at all.

I mean she has to kind of see me once a week because she's auditing the same class as me haha.

and one of her current mentors is one of my current professors.lol

smh, you seem to want to be talked out of it instead of encouraged lol You gave it your all. The note is still a bad idea

so should I tell her sometime before I leave for Spain next week?

we are hanging out with another friend of hers this Saturday.

we are all going to another library at another university and getting some work done.

You should have a chat with her by yourself, not in a group setting. Go grab a coffee or something together after the meet up. And throw it out there then, casually. Being non chalant and confident in this type of situation helps a lot.

I'm confident in my ability to please... but not so much in the delivery.

I'm only masculine presenting aka tomboyish.....

I'm not exactly assertive when it comes to hitting on someone.

she seems to want to dominate me actually

so it may be one of the things I have going for me.

I get it. But someone needs to make a first move. It sounds like she is very flirty and your not because you’re unsure of what she’s doing.

That doesn’t help much with either one of you.

And sorry to put my opinion in on Gemini’s. I’m just trying to help since I have a pretty good idea about them.

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Posted by Aquistorm

Capricorn Moon > Capricorn Sun

Cap moons are just plain evil.

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking

So Next Wednesday is the last day of real class that the gemini and I will have together and I've decided to move forward and officially ask her is she would be down to be friends with benefits.

I need tips on how I should do this

I'm thinking about passing her a note in class ( right before I leave for the airport) which will read something on the lines of:

Hey ****,


Thank you again for all of the support and indirectly encouraging me to take more risks. You've made this last month or so very interesting.

I'm writing this letter I guess to say that I recently realized I think you're kind of cute and I'm very much attracted to your brain.

I'm perfectly happy with keeping things the way they are between us but I must admit I'd love to cook dinner for you sometime , talk about theory , give you a neck massage and maybe cuddle afterwards.

Let me know if you're down with to be friends with benefits. You of course again can define what those benefits would entail but regardless I'm looking forward to having more adventures with you in the future.



See you after break.

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****

I feel like you want more with this gemini but just settling with FWB because you know she's straight and doesn't want to end up with a girl, is that true?

Also why don't you text her instead of writing a note? You can start a convo and bring that up just to see her reaction, it's less confrontational.

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Posted by emeraldgem

@gia - ""Stand your ground and make him change (because that always works)" - does that really always work? Like, with a stubborn af controlling immature virgo?"

NO! I said that because that NEVER works.

This is where you draw your line in the sand. If you don't face this controlling fuck down and say you will not have him dictate your choices then you deserve each other. He has you all twisted around "he said "I am not asking you to unfollow all guys but only the ones I have a problem with because of you.If you have to choose them over me then Idgaf to a person like you" No - you are not choosing them over him, he is choosing to walk away from a situation he can't control. And you know what? LET HIM GO. Why on earth are you tolerating this? Because you hope he may change sometime in the future? Get out of your fantasyland and face reality.