Posted by saggurl88And I've quickly gathered these sentiments from this short spurt of words 😄Posted by AnomalousPosted by Antiphates
Okay, from what I'm reading I'd say it looks more like you are just switching from one form of control to another one.
In other words: stop making shit so complicated. If you feel like saying I love you just say it. It's not rocket science.
I love you.
*Drops Mic*
Hello! He will cut you off talking to him like that! I already know!He isn't one to get love bombed LMAO
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But I have something for you too 😁
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Posted by ElvisStalinWoodsThe club is not an ideal place to have meaningful conversation. It’s too loud to hear shit.Posted by LadyNeptune
I’m confused why them asking for some drinks was such a turn off? That’s the club culture. Buy drinks for the ladies then they grind on your dick on the dance floor. It’s only polite to offer to get her a drink as part of your approach.
If the goal was an easy hook up with no $ $ spent, next time have a bro’s night in and y’all can sit on the couch and swipe right on tinder.
Most likely they pull this shit on men they have no interest in/ don’t find attractive. If they have to suffer your conversation might as well get a drink out of it. Women have a game plan in place for creepers when we go out.
Eh, perhaps I'm a cheapskate.
That's why I don't do clubs usually. If I'm interested in someone, I gotta find out she's interesting and worth talking to before even dropping a dime, unless I'm in full party-dont-give-a-fuck mode. Otherwise, there's gotta be a little banter first, I'll be fucked if I'm just donating to the drink fund of some really uninteresting character.
Like, even a date, I'm obviously gonna know something about you before we sit down and meet. I've already decided by that point that I can endure more than 5mins with you. I'll pay for the first date.
To think your presence just demands reward before I even know if we'll get on well for more than a minute just baffles me. I'm exchanging with a human, not giving a roaming dog treats to pet it.click to expand
Next time hit more of a lounge vibe where you can actually hear AND SEE each other!
Clubs hold a different objective. Most women traveling in groups at a club are there for free drinks and to dance (some to hookup). So if you don’t offer a drink your not getting a dance or anywhere really.
I honestly think they weren’t interested in you all and that’s why they demanded drinks in order to scare you off, which was the outcome.
Don’t be salty they were better game players than y’all. And next time hit a lounge instead of a club. You’ll have a better chance of sealing the deal AND less of a chance of having to pay an entrance fee.
Posted by PhangusNope! His ass will learn the hard way. Trust.Posted by ElvisStalinWoodsPosted by PhangusPosted by ElvisStalinWoodsPosted by PhangusPosted by ElvisStalinWoodsPosted by PhangusPosted by ElvisStalinWoodsPosted by maidenPosted by ElvisStalinWoodsPosted by Sunmoonrising
Im alittle more on your side tbh. And im a female. Seems like the women were abit babyish to me unless you came on very heavy. But even so to demand drinks is rude. Maybe you could have offered. Go somewhere where and be a gentleman you should be fine.
Pretty much this. Few times I've gone out in a place like that, I work things out and have a fun and welcoming approach. Once I knew they felt entitled to drinks before even being spoken to, my approach was pretty much careless when I came back at em. Like "fuck you, I'll show you what using someone for what I want is" ...I did not.
As someone mentioned, they probably picked up on my utter disdain for her.
I was gonna respond to that too.. I also felt that "drinks or no talky" is super rude.. so either the whole brood is immature OR the girl you spoke to doesn't know how to handle being approached by men,and her other friends know it. And since the other two were already watching you they probably watched everything you and your friends did that night (drunk) so when you came back over all drunk and the friend started dancing w you the other two were probably (correctly) like stranger danger! And bailed her out...
Immaturity and she probably just hated spending the night watching her friends getting approached and receiving no attention. Hence why she jumped on the opportunity the moment I came back. Whereas the friends probably saw wingman closing in on everyone and knew we were just trying to pick up when cycling back to them like an hour before last call lol.
It's not my usual place, started drinking off work stress at a pub and somehow was into the idea of going to a club renown for cheap drinks *barf*
You’re still on this charity kick, which means this shit will happen to you again when you meet a woman you consider beneath you but still try to fuck her. You might trick a few, but not all. Women have pride too.
Don't worry, I won't be shoring up on a club anytime in the near future lol. Charity approach was in trying to find a quick mend for cockblocking my friend while not caring anymore. Unfortunately, that woman had lost her human quality to me, when she made it clear that we were just free drinks on legs.
If that’s all it takes to dehumanize someone you’re the problem.
Well, I lose all my respect for her, in other words. Perhaps saying her humanity is wrong. Her entitlement just turned me way off. I don't owe her shit and I'd rather have someone blow me off than tell me I need to buy drinks to talk to them.
Why the hell did you go back to women you had lost all respect for? It turns out you were more desperate for ass than they were, so I guess you should have bought those drinks.
Ego and easy pickings, to end wingman's tantrum, basically. I definitely wasn't planning to get ass from her, just get her out of the way and entertain enough to get my friend an in with the others.
And you don’t see that you’re the bad guy?click to expand
Posted by MissKrabsWell typically if a guy approaches you drop some small talk and then he offers to get you a refill. Normally being this abrupt and blatant isn’t the actions of a woman whose interested.Posted by LadyNeptune
I’m confused why them asking for some drinks was such a turn off? That’s the club culture. Buy drinks for the ladies then they grind on your dick on the dance floor. It’s only polite to offer to get her a drink as part of your approach.
If the goal was an easy hook up with no $ $ spent, next time have a bro’s night in and y’all can sit on the couch and swipe right on tinder.
Most likely they pull this shit on men they have no interest in/ don’t find attractive. If they have to suffer your conversation might as well get a drink out of it. Women have a game plan in place for creepers when we go out.
It's prob a cultural thing but i can't imagine anyone decent to blatantly asks for drinks in order to talk. But i see it in american movies all the time so maybe there is normal.click to expand
Which is why I think they were just there to chill and dance and the thick girl was mad they were approached by dudes creeping so she shut it down by demanding drinks and being rude.
Allow the foundation to be built.
Try not to see everything through an emotional lens.
Work on your insecurities but focus on your strengths while getting to know him.
Relax. Breathe. Trust your decision making. Enjoy.
Try not to see everything through an emotional lens.
Work on your insecurities but focus on your strengths while getting to know him.
Relax. Breathe. Trust your decision making. Enjoy.
Posted by Klh1203Yeah I've had a former Cancer friend for 20 years. Sometimes they overthink too and need reassuring. Especially after him being wrong about not liking you as much as he did. He probably went back into his shell but that doesn't always mean he doesn't wanna be bothered. The situation you put together in your head is probably exactly what he's doing so somebody has to take the lead or this might not go anywhere.Posted by AnomalousPosted by Klh1203Posted by Anomalous
So if you know he likes you, then what makes you second guess that?
For instance I saw him Monday night and he didn’t even bother to suggest another date after.
And I feel like he isn’t opening up to me like he should, like he’s not telling me how he feels about me. I’m never usually like this I think I’m being really needy, I’m not showing him this side though.
Another thing is I said to him I can’t wait to see him next and all he said was I didn’t expect to enjoy your company as much as I did. I don’t know just makes me think he doesn’t want to see me .
See, he likes you more than he thought, so if you make the second move, then you could really see that you aren't alone. He seems taken aback and doesn't know how to respond so swim in your direction and see how he takes it. Or do nothing and just overthink more about the same thoughts until he moves.
Go with the flow but give him a rift to swim with first
Thank you. This situation has taught me that I always think I know everything but I actually don’t sometimes my “Pisces senses” are just me over thinking, then when I do over think I put a whole situation together from my thoughts and bring it to life then cut people off. He’s a cancer so it just makes me think he should be a bit more forward than he isclick to expand
Posted by CreativeCapLol yeah never a good indicator that he’s willing to spend more $ $ on his entrance fee to the club than on the girl he’s trying to get with.Posted by LadyNeptune
I’m confused why them asking for some drinks was such a turn off? That’s the club culture. Buy drinks for the ladies then they grind on your dick on the dance floor. It’s only polite to offer to get her a drink as part of your approach.
If the goal was an easy hook up with no $ $ spent, next time have a bro’s night in and y’all can sit on the couch and swipe right on tinder.
Most likely they pull this shit on men they have no interest in/ don’t find attractive. If they have to suffer your conversation might as well get a drink out of it. Women have a game plan in place for creepers when we go out.
I’ve honestly have had mediocre experiences when I exchange contact info with men who don’t offer to buy drinks. They call/ text and just want to shoot the breeze. Don’t offer dates and if they do, it is usually to a park or something that requires little to no money.click to expand
On the flip side I’ve spent the whole night drinking and dancing with a ‘cute’ dude only to find it’s a train wreck once the lights go on.
Alcohol and dimly lit spaces aren’t a good mix.
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Posted by LadyNeptuneThat definitely was my cue to exit stage left... I was like "heroin!? My gawd, man." I think the drugs were to lure me outta da club.... I turned down drinks from them as well. And, they kept watching and following me. I'm like why me? I'm not white. Look at all the girls in here. I'm a black girl, LMAO!!!Posted by VenusAquarius
So harsh up in here...
I have no advice. I didn't hook-up or try to in clubs. I only came to dance alone.
But, geez. I still had problems. Like two scary brazillian dudes following me around. One asking me what drugs I like and barely speaking english... "coke, heroin..." like he had it all. LOL, I got the fuck up outta there. I think I saw them plotting my kidnapping, Lol. Oh, and I was 35.
So, your lil situation ain't shit, Lol. Cause I got more from my twillight zone experiences.
Lol. I’ve been offered coke and weed but wow, heroin? That’s heavy. Like how would that even work? Where in the club would you shoot up.
I’m interested in logistics 😆😂click to expand
Some additional points I’d like to make.
27 is not too old to go to the club. I’m 31 in a relationship and I go 2xs per month. No shame in this game. Gotta get my cardio in 💃
Fat girls apparently give the best head and then cook you a bomb ass meal afterwards. Some food for thought...
When you assume the wingman role you must remember, no good deed goes unpunished.
27 is not too old to go to the club. I’m 31 in a relationship and I go 2xs per month. No shame in this game. Gotta get my cardio in 💃
Fat girls apparently give the best head and then cook you a bomb ass meal afterwards. Some food for thought...
When you assume the wingman role you must remember, no good deed goes unpunished.
Crabs catch fish that swim past them not the other way around.
Posted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by saggurl88Posted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by saggurl88Posted by virgoking
Here is the rules if she is hot as you said she is. If a women is hot and she older than 28 never been married or really thirsty for a relationships something is wrong with her.
Seriously??? Married by 28??? No one is getting married by that age anymore! Where have you been?? 😂😂😂😂
But something is odd about her chatting up his mom and she doesn’t even know her.
Oh yes they do. Some people right here where I'm at is younger than 28 and already married.
I meant the current generation. It was common with your generation.
😆You make me feel ancient the way you worded that.
Naw I was saying some youngins I know that's in their 20s in this generation is married already. I would think if you in your 20s you come from this generation.
But I get what you saying. It is rare to see 28 year olds getting married this day and age. Nothing like how it was back in my days where young women in their 20s forces a man at her will to marry her.click to expand
lol at women forcing me to do stuff.
Statistics don't lie. People just don't see the value of marriage until they've got their career started. Times change.
Half of Americans ages 18 and older were married in 2017, a share that has remained relatively stable in recent years but is down 8 percentage points since 1990. One factor driving this change is that Americans are staying single longer. The median age at first marriage had reached its highest point on record: 30 years for men and 28 years for women in 2018, according to the U.S. Census Bureau.
As the U.S. marriage rate has declined, divorce rates have increased among older Americans. In 2015, for every 1,000 married adults ages 50 and older, 10 had divorced – up from five in 1990. Among those ages 65 and older, the divorce rate roughly tripled since 1990.