Life - what’s must important?

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Okay, from what I'm reading I'd say it looks more like you are just switching from one form of control to another one.

In other words: stop making shit so complicated. If you feel like saying I love you just say it. It's not rocket science.

Love bombing isn’t about control or saying I love you. It’s basically ego boosting and saying whatever you want for a positive outcome.

I usually say nothing and basically get nothing.

There’s no control over it.

Whoever I’m currently talking to, I don’t love. This is my problem.

You are looking for a way to 100% get what you want aka control it in the form of taking whatver is necessary to ensure you get.

That is control. You don't want to control the other person as a whole. That's all, but it is still control.

Everyone wants what they want, yes I am selfish and only interested in want I want. Basically what i do isn't working so I'm trying a different technique that plenty seem to like.

Its a basic theory in evolution, not control!

There are many different ways to go about proving something, here are a few: direct proof, proof by contradiction, proof by induction.

I will be using induction to deduce my calculations and prove a theory!

I'm not sure that proof by induction can be applied to humans and their behaviour but I think that's just you trying to sidetrack anyway.

Point remains: it is still mostly control.

On top of that you seem relatively uninterested in knowing whether or not the reaction you get is genuine and not the product of your technique, which implies the risk that you no longer get what you want once you drop the role-playing.

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Whatever happened to just being genuine?

Always games.

Nobody respects genuine people, they think we have an agenda

even if we're just trying to be friends.

I have been taught over and over by experience that if I encounter a person who thinks I have ulterior motives when I do not, I should steer clear, because that means _they_ have those motives, but I keep forgetting.

To me it says they have no interest in you as a person, purely as a character to play out in their story.

I even read WaterRooster make a status about this the other day.

People can be genuine, wrong, and delusional all at the same time though lol

Yes, they can.

I think the cautious and the bold have things to learn from each other.

I agree, I’m not arguing that people should be completely loose cannons saying the very first thing that comes to mind without thinking, but I would argue that it’s better to lean that direction than the direction of being too reserved and cautious. But that’s just me, everyone has their own style , own preferences

Do you think there's compatibility going on here too...like some people are just more comfortable expressing the feelings as they come instead of waiting until each feeling has been rolled over and examined. And it's kind of no-harm, no-foul in the grand scheme if opposites come into contact and have feelings but can't get it to the level of steady relationship because their style s are too different. Or it could/should be, but hurt feelings get involved, and we blame.

Ok I think I understand what you’re saying but for some reason it took me a few reads to get it. I think I get what you’re saying, sometimes things just naturally move faster with certain people, feelings are more or less reciprocated, and nobody has a problem with the compliments and spilling of guts, whatever. And then sometimes those things just run their course and turn sour but it doesn’t mean it was coming from some malevolent, manipulative place. And with other people things might just move slower and doesn’t lead to that kind of stuff early in a relationship. And don’t get me wrong, I could totally see how people could and do use Love Bombing in a completely fraudulent, purposefully manipulative way. I’m pretty sure love bombing is usually combined with negging or some other buzzword for a speedball of manipulation, but Idk the details lol. I just don’t think it’s usually that way when someone is giving lots of attention and compliments, infatuated

Yep. I was thinking that two really cautious people catching feelings for each other aren't gonna freak each other out with "too much" affectionate language upfront, but it's going to be an extremely long courtship. Two really expressive people catching feelings are gonna share more sooner, but they won't be freaked out. The sharing of thoughts will speed up the bonding process. The downside is they skip past learning about everyday compatibility and how they handle crises and things that the cautious couple will learn before they even say "I love you" the first time. They're the couples who get married right away and either shock everyone by staying together 50 years or get a divorce in a week.

I think most people are in the middle, though, not on either extreme. I'm on the fast side of middle.

This is my issue, I go with the flow of a guy usually, so if he love bombs me or says a bunch of feelings and I think they are cute, I say them back.Things move really quickly. If I meet a guy who doesn't admit anything, then I don't either. It takes forever and the guy ends up getting frustrated with me but STILL doesn't admit anything. I NEVER ask them how they feel about me and so they usually don't either. This is where I'm super retarded with emotions. I never know whats right or how to be vulnerable.

Half the time I don't even know my feeling until something goes wrong. When I actually care, I realize I have feelings for the person. If I don't care, I just let them go and start over, which is why I've been called an ice queen and heartless before.

But since I usually don't manipulate situations, I think people need to deal with their own feelings and not burden me with them since I never burden them with mine. Like if someone has feelings for me and it's not reciprocated, its not my problem, they just didn't develop on my end. What am I supposed to do in this type of situation? I'm not gonna lie to them and just settle.

I think you need to focus on learning to recognize what you're feeling and accept it, whatever it is, at any given point. There are a lot of people out there who are a lot better than me at advising how to do that. It's something I work on for the opposite reason (I feel a lot and a lot of contradicting feelings.)

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I just... feel like I can be myself around you.

All those times we fought before, I didn’t mean it. It’s just you have such a hold over me.

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Okay, from what I'm reading I'd say it looks more like you are just switching from one form of control to another one.

In other words: stop making shit so complicated. If you feel like saying I love you just say it. It's not rocket science.

I love you.

*Drops Mic*

Hello! He will cut you off talking to him like that! I already know! He isn't one to get love bombed LMAO

And I've quickly gathered these sentiments from this short spurt of words 😄

But I have something for you too 😁

LMAO Feel free to say it! I'm trying to learn how to do it. I never got the response that you got, so I guess it really doesn't work when women do it

But I'm all ears and open to suggestions!

Naww it's too early 😉

DAMMMIIIIITTTT!!!!!

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Well ask my libra ex

Last night I was a hateful narcissist who ignores his boundaries that has done nothing but hurt him

Today I was the beautiful love of his life that he wants to be with

Awesome approach to mindfucking someone

Love bombing isn't toxic like this, there isn't negative words associated with it, At least I think. If anything it gets attention because people miss it once it's gone.

i don't see anything wrong with love bombing. aries sun/pisces venus did this to me and though it didn't work out in the end, got nothing negative to say about the whole experience.

don't like it when people only like me when they get to find out more about me.

got a date with a pisces sun later but it's weird how he's online 10 mins ago and didn't message me.

now i have space to overthink and consider ghosting *sighs*

EDIT: nvrmind it's fine, he's picking me up 😂😂

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Well glad it ended up working out!

Damn I stay online and never message people. I didn’t know that was a problem 😩😬

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