I think im losing my mind over him...
Posted by 7thHouseI was thinking of asking him in April if he decided or not....I am lessening our contact until then. Do you think he will know by thenPosted by Gem03
**I posted this before but for some reason, the full post wouldn't show idk why**
I have been friends with him since 2016, platonic. He would always compliment me and hug me, told me he wanted to keep me for himself. I kept him at an arm's length, I just brushed it all off, I was getting over someone. Then from May 2018 till December 2019, we lost contact.
In December 2019, we reconnected again. We talk literally every single day. About his dreams, my ambitions, religion, politics... just about everything. In January, he asked me to be his girlfriend, I jokingly brushed it off and declined, no matter, we still talked every day.
Around this time a close family member passed and he was there for me, he listened to me when I needed to vent, and was supportive.
We hung out in person, I was at his place, we cuddled (he initiated). He kept his hands on me at all times (waist, shoulder, face or hand), called me pet names, cooked for me.
The next time we hung out was yesterday and we were cuddling (same shit as before) and he started kissing my neck (first time ever). I came clean about my feelings he told me he'll think about it and he isn't sure if he wants a relationship bc his last one was a nut job. I was like that's okay, I would still be friends even if he said no. We cuddled more and then I left
Did I misjudge him? Does he like me?
He has Virgo sun+moon+venus
Give it time and don't overthink. You already communicated your feelings. Now it's up to him.click to expand
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i realise this is a me thing, but you know, i don't need to hear your compliments. unless i know you, keep them to yourself.
Posted by aquarius09Posted by PhantumPosted by aquarius09Posted by peachy06
Serve you right for leaving your ex gf for another woman. 👍🏼
The key point most people overlooked is precisely that. People you cheat on your partner with aka enablers ironically are also distrustful of the cheater. LOL. I don’t think she trusts you. If you can leave your girl for another woman you will do the same to her some day. There is nothing satisfying about “winning” such a person, especially for a guarded Aqua.
I had a Libra dude (go figure another Venusian who doesn’t know how to be single) who was willing to leave his gf for me and I ghosted him prior to him pulling the plug. I can’t stand people like that, let alone love them, who leave unhappy relationships until they find someone else. She doesn’t trust you and that’s why she’s inconsistent.
Did you entertain the Libra dude until he offered to pull the plug on his girlfriend and then decide he sucked? Cheating is cool but leaving the cheating situation is not?
I didn’t know he had a girlfriend. He came clean when he, in his head, made the decision to leave her. I was surprised to find that he had a gf and I’m the type of person who gets immediately repulsed by cheater. I immediately lost attraction for him and left the scene.click to expand
It wasnt like this. I told her from the start that I am with someone, she continued knowing the truth. After a month I told her that I am leaving my gf, independently of her (of the Aqua).
After 10 days of mostly no contact, I realized that SHE is the one who needs constant reassurance, that she is needy at times (Venus in Cap, mine in Gem). Texted her that I needed this time off to recalibrate myself and that I still love her. Her reply: I love you too, we should go outside the town on a weekend to rediscover ourselves coz we lost it a bit. In the meantime, she left the city because of the corona and texts me that she loves me from time to time. I tell her the same, but I am not sure how to proceed with her being away...
So, she has venus in Cap, I have it in Gem.. what do you make of it?
Posted by jeane
i realise this is a me thing, but you know, i don't need to hear your compliments. unless i know you, keep them to yourself.
Quick update: Leo guy says he's a routine guy and that he needed to rest that's what he went quiet😏
Also, the sex caught him off guard... whatever that means, lol. He has been moving very slowly with things which I've also wondered about if he is really interested. This situation makes me wonder that even more.
I'm also noticing in our conversations that he's kind of shy/uneasy about talking about his thoughts/feelings and other things which surprises me about this Leo-Libra.
Any way. Just gonna pull back a little and not get my emotions so involved until I know what he wants
Also, the sex caught him off guard... whatever that means, lol. He has been moving very slowly with things which I've also wondered about if he is really interested. This situation makes me wonder that even more.
I'm also noticing in our conversations that he's kind of shy/uneasy about talking about his thoughts/feelings and other things which surprises me about this Leo-Libra.
Any way. Just gonna pull back a little and not get my emotions so involved until I know what he wants
After reflecting, I decided that people get what they deserve. Period. I cant control what comes in my life and when. I cant control other people or management. People are going to people.
No journey is the same.
I cant find happy at work, so I went and found it elsewhere.
No journey is the same.
I cant find happy at work, so I went and found it elsewhere.
Posted by GODZThis is a great outlook. I agree 100%
I had my first zero at the age of nine,
I've been punished four hour because i run in the stairs,
I had been fired of my school because I went in short, lol that one literally broke me mentally for two years.
I had a top grade but school decided to erase it and put me in retake for no particular reason.
I understood like meritocracy is a legend because you can be the best if someone don't like you they can just put you down.
If you are in a system when an other human has to choose you, you'll have chance to be destroyed for no particular reason.
There is some rare field with military discipline where ppl has respect and don't destroy you.
But imo you shouldn't focus that much on your work, invest in renting an apartment because at the end it's only money who count.
Idk your situation but you and your husband can try to by one, then two it will probably took like 10 years but you'll get happy to have that safety and never receive order or get judging ever.
Plus the happiness that you'll have when you finished to redesign those house and see that first pay on your account gonna make you forget those useless promotion
When its comes to my creativity, no closed doors, no rejection, I hit the mark every time. When it's a one woman show, I have success.
When it comes to teamwork and putting my fate in others hands, nothing but stress and disappointment and rejection.
Agreed, I've been turned down by the last 3 jobs for a promotion and hoping that the next job would see my worth. Never happens. People gonna people. Bias or whatever. All of it is out of my control
Posted by GODZ
man its worst, once i was complementing a girl on her shoes and she was like. "ah yeah? ah let's have a chit chat together😋😘".
LET ME BREATHE
Posted by MrsElleCappysnatchInteresting. I benefit from the laziness of others.
This usually means you've outgrown the current situation and you have to challenge yourself for bigger and better things.
I've been there.
Some people are comfortable with exactly where you are and end up stunting your growth.
Keep doing you, this is just part of this process.
You can do better than the situation you’re in. Cut it out.
Or
Stop trolling.
Or
Stop trolling.
Posted by ArilovesAquYes.
And I wanted to open up a dialogue and see where it goes. This is a mostly incoherent middle of the night thought so bare with me 🤣 I don’t even know where it’s going. Just thinking out loud.
I’ve been observing my coworkers for several years and I think there is a strange correlation between their choice of spouse and how they operate in the workplace.
Those with passive spouses treat colleagues like children. Less flexible to cooperation and working as a team, only wanting to do things their way because they think they know best.
Those who seem to treat their spouses as equal are more affable in general usually. They’re not as attached to certain outcomes. Is there resentment when you’re the sole decision maker in a relationship?
Obviously I’m not in anyone’s home and don’t see how they interact. I’m basing my opinions solely on how they speak about their spouses. A lot of people vent about their spouses now and then, sometimes just jokingly, but you can tell when there is a certain level of resentment.
I’m mostly wondering for myself. Does my relationship with my spouse play a role in how well I work as a team.