is this the right thing?
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by CuddleBug1288Posted by virgoOPPP
so it's finally happened.
there was some unfortunate statement said and i lost my mind.
it all started when i finally posted a couple pic with the capricorn sun/pisces moon as some kinda power move to create a shield against other females from throwing themselves at him. and my forever jealous gemini sun/gemini moon aunt (who btw i haven't been seeing in person for months) called me up to ask about him. she tells me just out of nowhere that 'i don't like the look of him. he looks secretly married or with kids. or it could just be for your money."
then i told her maybe she's jealous of me.
then she BLOCKS me LMFAO.
you call me up, say something insulting about someone you've NEVER MET and you're the one who blocks me?
classic gemini.
and female family members are especially nasty too (and i'm staying home right now even though we've had plans to move out) but i lost my mind, got super emotional yesterday and told the cap sun/pisces moon all about it. so later on he's gonna pick me up and we'll see where it goes.
but i did the right thing, right?
people and their mouths. 😠😠
I got to "as some kinda power move" and couldn't. When you go in with some questionable motives...what do you expect? Quit making yourself out to be in such a poor me mentality and maybe you'll figure more things out.
YOU make your days as blue or grey as they are, everyone and everything else are just factors and sometimes you need to play puzzle and figure it out.
whatever my motives are
does anyone have the right to react the way they did other than wishing me happiness?
think about thatclick to expand
Maybe think about why you're so reactive about it. Instead of telling randoms on the interwebs, maybe try communicating and listen, not just replying, to what your family and loved ones are saying. They are not out to get you I'm sure.
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man its worst, once i was complementing a girl on her shoes and she was like. "ah yeah? ah let's have a chit chat together😋😘".
LET ME BREATHE
Posted by MrsElleCappysnatchInteresting. I benefit from the laziness of others.
This usually means you've outgrown the current situation and you have to challenge yourself for bigger and better things.
I've been there.
Some people are comfortable with exactly where you are and end up stunting your growth.
Keep doing you, this is just part of this process.
You can do better than the situation you’re in. Cut it out.
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Stop trolling.
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Stop trolling.
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Posted by MrsElleCappysnatchYeah I've felt alot of that over the past 10 years.Posted by DMVPosted by besarlalluvia
Use your experience to sell yourself elsewhere. If that doesn't work then you're not as good as you think. Value yourself!!
Maybe that's what I need to come to grips with.
I'm not as good as I think.
My old boss told me that and I hesitated to believe her.
Shyt, maybe she was right.
I need a new profession.
Wrong. You are even better than you think. That is why they don't want you to move on. Mediocre management love people like you because you make their job easier.click to expand
I get used with no reciprocity.
Im used to no reciprocity in my personal relationships but I have to get used to it in my workplace. I denied it for awhile. Thinking things would get better. Someone would finally see my worth.
Posted by BAVPosted by aquarius09Posted by PhantumPosted by aquarius09Posted by peachy06
Serve you right for leaving your ex gf for another woman. 👍🏼
The key point most people overlooked is precisely that. People you cheat on your partner with aka enablers ironically are also distrustful of the cheater. LOL. I don’t think she trusts you. If you can leave your girl for another woman you will do the same to her some day. There is nothing satisfying about “winning” such a person, especially for a guarded Aqua.
I had a Libra dude (go figure another Venusian who doesn’t know how to be single) who was willing to leave his gf for me and I ghosted him prior to him pulling the plug. I can’t stand people like that, let alone love them, who leave unhappy relationships until they find someone else. She doesn’t trust you and that’s why she’s inconsistent.
Did you entertain the Libra dude until he offered to pull the plug on his girlfriend and then decide he sucked? Cheating is cool but leaving the cheating situation is not?
I didn’t know he had a girlfriend. He came clean when he, in his head, made the decision to leave her. I was surprised to find that he had a gf and I’m the type of person who gets immediately repulsed by cheater. I immediately lost attraction for him and left the scene.
It wasnt like this. I told her from the start that I am with someone, she continued knowing the truth. After a month I told her that I am leaving my gf, independently of her (of the Aqua).
After 10 days of mostly no contact, I realized that SHE is the one who needs constant reassurance, that she is needy at times (Venus in Cap, mine in Gem). Texted her that I needed this time off to recalibrate myself and that I still love her. Her reply: I love you too, we should go outside the town on a weekend to rediscover ourselves coz we lost it a bit. In the meantime, she left the city because of the corona and texts me that she loves me from time to time. I tell her the same, but I am not sure how to proceed with her being away...
So, she has venus in Cap, I have it in Gem.. what do you make of it?click to expand
You told HER you’re leaving your gf (independent of Aqua)? Who are you lying to? Me or yourself. You’re a typical Gem venus. You left your girlfriend because you were entertained by another woman. Jokes on you because you left consistency (a stable gf)for an inconsistent side chick. You’re a rookie cheater though. Experienced cheaters secure something with a side chick and then leave the previous relationship.
As for her inconsistency, pay attention. She’s not that into you. As an Aqua, I won’t lift a finger for anyone unless I’m genuinely into you but I will sweet talk people because it’s effortless. Her I love yous don’t mean anything if she’s not putting the action.
Posted by Generous_LibraActually, as a Scorpio I sometimes get overly obsessed and clingy. Also I unconsciously am a bit controlling at times. As per my understanding Libras wants space and wants to keep their options open. Also libras don’t want to be controlled.Posted by EvilhunterPosted by Generous_LibraPosted by EvilhunterPosted by TimonPosted by Evilhunter
Timon - she broke up because she’s still in love win her ex
If she's inlove with her ex then I think you need to let her go. You don't want to be with someone who doesn't love you back.
May I ask what your sun and moon sign is? What's her moon sign?
Im Scorpio asc Capricorn and she’s libras born on 19/10
What her ex's placements?
You're probably plan B, she might hit you up if it doesn't work out with her ex, but that just my opinion.
Yes, I just now learnt about rebound relationships. I was her rebound. Now I understand everything. It’s all so clear to me now.
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I guess this is why we broke up. But today I am happy because I deleted her number last night and I feel so much at peace with myself which I wouldn’t trade for any girl who’s not worth my love. 😉
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Quick update: Leo guy says he's a routine guy and that he needed to rest that's what he went quiet😏
Also, the sex caught him off guard... whatever that means, lol. He has been moving very slowly with things which I've also wondered about if he is really interested. This situation makes me wonder that even more.
I'm also noticing in our conversations that he's kind of shy/uneasy about talking about his thoughts/feelings and other things which surprises me about this Leo-Libra.
Any way. Just gonna pull back a little and not get my emotions so involved until I know what he wants
Leos are not as emotionally effusive as most people believe, at least not until we know the person can be trusted. Basically if you like a Leo, don't pull back. That will only create more confusion.
Posted by STILLAnyone that assists a cheater in his philandering CANNOT do better and nor are they a decent human being themselves deserving of a good partner. That’s why they engaged themselves in such a mess. Good people who deserve better respect people’s commitments to other people.
You can do better than the situation you’re in. Cut it out.
Or
Stop trolling.
He doesn’t want another dick to be inside you. Not cause he has feelings for you or anything like that. He doesn’t want to bring disease into his marriage bed. At the end of the day he will ALWAYS put his wife first.
He’s possessive of you cause he views you as a possession. A doll he can take off the shelf and play with when he wants. While you have agreed to share him with his wife and whatever other side ho situations he has.
Your feelings of ‘love’ have no place in this arrangement.
He’s possessive of you cause he views you as a possession. A doll he can take off the shelf and play with when he wants. While you have agreed to share him with his wife and whatever other side ho situations he has.
Your feelings of ‘love’ have no place in this arrangement.