Learned a new thing about friendship
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I recently learned it’s easier to be friends with people who have the same emotional output as yourself, and people whose attachment matches your own.
For example, my closest friends are people who don’t express too many emotions and don’t require a lot of attention. I always seem to have problematic friendships with people who want to talk to me everyday and act super emotional (to me they are energy vampires but maybe they could get along better with other clingy people).
Is this just a thing for avoidant attachment style s, or do you think it applies to all attachment style s?
For example, my closest friends are people who don’t express too many emotions and don’t require a lot of attention. I always seem to have problematic friendships with people who want to talk to me everyday and act super emotional (to me they are energy vampires but maybe they could get along better with other clingy people).
Is this just a thing for avoidant attachment style s, or do you think it applies to all attachment style s?
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I fear this too
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"equitable distribution of these resources, and that the only way you can actually do that, is that then you have to have a political, economic system that facilitates that. And then you get into the issues of human rights, justice, economic justice, social justice, and good governance or democratic governance"
The bolded part sounds very similar to: "From each according to his ability, to each according to his needs". (I won't do other's homework for them, a simple search will tell you who uses that phrase regularly).
And the latter part of the sentence that follows is vague (intentionally or not).
There are plenty of historical examples, especially from the mid 20th century, that show you where that road leads, and its generally (or generously) paved with blood, deprivation, and true human suffering.
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The basic fault in that paragraph you quote is a blind spot to human nature, and at the root of that fault is envy, often accompanied by hate.
I see the terms "economic justice" and :social justice" as loaded terms, and when you dig deep enough, more often than not those using those terms are promoting the practice of taking the products of one person's labor and giving it to another who has not earned it, and when done by coercion (which is the inevitable requirement to make things "just" by whatever that word means according to the whim of the day) , is essentially institutionalized theft.
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The bolded part sounds very similar to: "From each according to his ability, to each according to his needs". (I won't do other's homework for them, a simple search will tell you who uses that phrase regularly).
And the latter part of the sentence that follows is vague (intentionally or not).
There are plenty of historical examples, especially from the mid 20th century, that show you where that road leads, and its generally (or generously) paved with blood, deprivation, and true human suffering.
There is even a contemporary example in Venezuela, which no one seems to want to talk about now, although the system being put in place there was lauded in the beginning until its bitter fruits became evident.
The basic fault in that paragraph you quote is a blind spot to human nature, and at the root of that fault is envy, often accompanied by hate.
I see the terms "economic justice" and :social justice" as loaded terms, and when you dig deep enough, more often than not those using those terms are promoting the practice of taking the products of one person's labor and giving it to another who has not earned it, and when done by coercion (which is the inevitable requirement to make things "just" by whatever that word means according to the whim of the day) , is essentially institutionalized theft.
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Posted by CancerOnTheCuspOk. I looked it up.
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There are plenty of historical examples, especially from the mid 20th century, that show you where that road leads, and its generally (or generously) paved with blood, deprivation, and true human suffering.
There is even a contemporary example in Venezuela, which no one seems to want to talk about now, although the system being put in place there was lauded in the beginning until its bitter fruits became evident.
The basic fault in that paragraph you quote is a blind spot to human nature, and at the root of that fault is envy, often accompanied by hate.
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Posted by smolIn decreasing order of how much of my thoughts they occupy..
Mine,
Out of affection:
taurus, pisces, leo, aquarius
out of fear of potential danger:
cap, scorpio, aquarius, leo, aries. gemini, sag
So if they were sooo sure that they won't get back together aka separation, why is Will so butthurt ??!
It makes sense why August is hurt bcz he thought Jada left Will and they were going to be together so obviously he got hurt when she left him.
Will - Libra Scorpio Moon
Jada - Virgo , Virgo moon
August - Virgo, Sag Moon
What do u guys think about this whole love triangle??
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Will - Libra Scorpio Moon
Jada - Virgo , Virgo moon
August - Virgo, Sag Moon
What do u guys think about this whole love triangle??
August says that he got Will's blessing to be with Jada... So why is Will so upset?
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- Jada & Will separate (they both said they were done w each other and thought would never get back together)
- August is introduced to the family and connects with Jada
- August sees the amicable separation but still asks Will if it's okay and supposedly Will is ok with it
- Jada leaves August to get back w Will
- August is broken hearted so he breaks all communication with Jada completely ( very Virgo thing)
Years pass and this comes to light....
Now that it's in the media, Will is acting all like what happened?? And it seems he sees it as cheating. Whereas Jada and August see it as Will and Jada were separated.
So why is Will acting so hurt about this ? I'm confused. Is it because of his Scorpio moon who just doesn't want to think that no matter what Jada was a someone else regardless if they were together or not.
I don't really get the whole nothing because to me the narrative is as follows:
- Jada & Will separate (they both said they were done w each other and thought would never get back together)
- August is introduced to the family and connects with Jada
- August sees the amicable separation but still asks Will if it's okay and supposedly Will is ok with it
- Jada leaves August to get back w Will
- August is broken hearted so he breaks all communication with Jada completely ( very Virgo thing)
Years pass and this comes to light....
Now that it's in the media, Will is acting all like what happened?? And it seems he sees it as cheating. Whereas Jada and August see it as Will and Jada were separated.
So why is Will acting so hurt about this ? I'm confused. Is it because of his Scorpio moon who just doesn't want to think that no matter what Jada was a someone else regardless if they were together or not.