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Posted by LittleStar_IIPosted by Whorpio
I think I definitely need to work on my own boundaries but people act like I have such an impact on their life, and get all depressed if I act distant. If I bear no attachment to them then I can easily block them. But if they’ve showed compassion to me in the past I forever feel indebted to show compassion to them even if I don’t feel it.
I’d really need a specific example but
When you are distant - what is the cause for the distance? Is it busyness or just disinterest?
Is distance a need or a coping mechanism or just the way you want to operate?
How have you communicated this to them?click to expand
An example is someone begging me to call them everyday because they get depressed and I help them out of that depression by being the highlight of their day. That same person threatens to commit suicide if I end the friendship. Or someone telling me they really need to talk to me because they’re in a horrible mood. I believe we have the power to choose our emotions, so I get sucked into these peoples messes so I can try and teach them to look on the bright side of things so they can eventually react more independently.
The distance is usually from disinterest. I like variety and purgatory to me is just talking to the same people everyday about the same things I’ve already told them my opinion and solutions on.
I consider it a need, because I feel like I can’t breath when they are all over me on a daily basis.
Some I communicate it to directly. Like “I know you’d like to talk everyday but I have other friendships I need to nurture”. Others I just don’t respond and then a few days later tell them I was busy.
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Posted by smolIn decreasing order of how much of my thoughts they occupy..
Mine,
Out of affection:
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So if they were sooo sure that they won't get back together aka separation, why is Will so butthurt ??!
It makes sense why August is hurt bcz he thought Jada left Will and they were going to be together so obviously he got hurt when she left him.
Will - Libra Scorpio Moon
Jada - Virgo , Virgo moon
August - Virgo, Sag Moon
What do u guys think about this whole love triangle??
It makes sense why August is hurt bcz he thought Jada left Will and they were going to be together so obviously he got hurt when she left him.
Will - Libra Scorpio Moon
Jada - Virgo , Virgo moon
August - Virgo, Sag Moon
What do u guys think about this whole love triangle??
August says that he got Will's blessing to be with Jada... So why is Will so upset?
I don't really get the whole nothing because to me the narrative is as follows:
- Jada & Will separate (they both said they were done w each other and thought would never get back together)
- August is introduced to the family and connects with Jada
- August sees the amicable separation but still asks Will if it's okay and supposedly Will is ok with it
- Jada leaves August to get back w Will
- August is broken hearted so he breaks all communication with Jada completely ( very Virgo thing)
Years pass and this comes to light....
Now that it's in the media, Will is acting all like what happened?? And it seems he sees it as cheating. Whereas Jada and August see it as Will and Jada were separated.
So why is Will acting so hurt about this ? I'm confused. Is it because of his Scorpio moon who just doesn't want to think that no matter what Jada was a someone else regardless if they were together or not.
I don't really get the whole nothing because to me the narrative is as follows:
- Jada & Will separate (they both said they were done w each other and thought would never get back together)
- August is introduced to the family and connects with Jada
- August sees the amicable separation but still asks Will if it's okay and supposedly Will is ok with it
- Jada leaves August to get back w Will
- August is broken hearted so he breaks all communication with Jada completely ( very Virgo thing)
Years pass and this comes to light....
Now that it's in the media, Will is acting all like what happened?? And it seems he sees it as cheating. Whereas Jada and August see it as Will and Jada were separated.
So why is Will acting so hurt about this ? I'm confused. Is it because of his Scorpio moon who just doesn't want to think that no matter what Jada was a someone else regardless if they were together or not.
Posted by LittleStar_III don't think they're in an open relationship. I think they've reached a deep level of loyalty where it's like IF you do cheat I will still be with you. I will be hurt and there will be problems but I will not leave you. That's NOT an open relationship. But people can't understand that level of unconditional love and loyalty so they call it an open relationship.
I think they’ve always had a somewhat open marriage but society doesn’t want to see that because it ruins the narrative.
I don’t give a fuck. They can do what they want.
Also open relationship is more click bait than loyalty and life partnership.
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Posted by PhoenixStormDamn def not relationship goals I agree!!! And I didn't notice the difference in language between the I and we from Jada and Will... Good point on that.
I don’t think August is hurt at all. Lol I think he used this “entanglement” as a publicity stunt to promote his album. I think Jada was used and doesn’t even realize it. That’s just my opinion.
And I never realized how imbalanced the marriage is between Will and Jada (although they are both actors, so I could obviously be way off base with my observation) but Jada seems self centered while Will seems relationship centered. She was all like “MY healing, MY childhood trauma, I wanted to feel good, hadn’t felt good in long time and the part about nobody can give permission except her”. While Will kept talking about unconditional love, etc.. and she said she didn’t consider it a transgression which shows she feels no remorse or regret. (Again, just my thoughts)
HOWEVER.. when he had said “I’ll get you back” and she said “you already did” that makes me wonder if it’s one of those situations where they have both cheated and they both know they’re not enough for each other, but they hold onto what’s familiar and continue to try to “one-up” each other.. which is toxic as hell. They are definitely not “relationship goals” for me.
But if that's true about August he must be an amazing actor because his voice shaking and him saying words like he was broken and felt like he died and was a different person after... Damn that's very deep to protend.
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Posted by xy_sighThere's part of that that I truly understand. It's very enticing and enthralling to be with someone to state we will be together nno matter what, no matter the transgression.... And I will be hurt and there will be hell to pay but we promise we will not abandon each other.Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by LittleStar_II
I think they’ve always had a somewhat open marriage but society doesn’t want to see that because it ruins the narrative.
I don’t give a fuck. They can do what they want.
I don't think they're in an open relationship. I think they've reached a deep level of loyalty where it's like IF you do cheat I will still be with you. I will be hurt and there will be problems but I will not leave you. That's NOT an open relationship. But people can't understand that level of unconditional love and loyalty so they call it an open relationship.
Also open relationship is more click bait than loyalty and life partnership.
That's an interesting way to look at it.
Man. If that's unconditional love, I don't want it in a romantic relationship.click to expand
Thats intoxicating for those with abandonment issues I suppose.
And there is a nobility to that type of loyalty.
But I also wonder how healthy is it... To suffer alongside someone with a pact like that. I wonder if the threat of leaving an unhappy relationship is also something that actually keeps it together.
Yet with that there's deep trust that that person is always trying to be a better version of themselves so their goal is not to see how much they get away with bit to be able to make mistakes and be human still knowing they have their partner beside them.
Scorpio moon...enough said. He was alllllll in even after him saying he was done with her...unless she did something horrible to him...he was never done. Just my observation but they are both actors so all this could just be to help make them relevant again.