is looking at porn/naked photos cheating?
Posted by hydorahPosted by AbbyNormalPosted by hydorahPosted by AbbyNormal
I found it amusing and adorable that my ex fiancé had girls gone wild dvds and nothing worse than that lol. Especially after my first love was a porn addict who downloaded thousands of images to MY computer—mfker had them categorized into folders there were so many!!! So as long as a dude isn’t going overboard, who the fuck cares. I’d rather be his porn but I know that I can’t always be around when he wants to get loose. I can be.... just sayin’.... for the right guy, I am one phone call away lol and if we are in love, you probably have a photo/video or two of me you can always fall back on lol
You think they're different, then you are wrong. They're both addicted to porn the same way.
BTW girls gone wild seems worse to me because it's very young girls exploited for money by this pornographer, probably drugged, degrading themselves at such a young age for the world to see. They were barely consenting. It's the worst example of porn I've seen.
OTOH the dude who categorized it in folders showed a real aesthetic appreciation for the art, in addition to trying to control his inner chaos through higher functioning skills. This is comendable, except for the fact that he shouldn't have saved porn pics on someone else's computer.
I disagree completely. First of all, my ex fiancé and I got engaged in his early 20s and I found these at his parents house while helping him clean. Buried away, old dvds of women around his age since these girls are found drunk at bars and concerts from what I recall. I’m not saying they aren’t exploitative, I’m just saying they are rather harmless in content in comparison. He wasn’t a grown adult watching these. When we moved in together, they didn’t come with lol. He had me and work to occupy nearly all of his time, and we were very active so nothing needed. No harm there in my POV.
My first love was and is a sex addict. That’s a problem for me. Someone who that is all they think about, that rubbed themselves raw sometimes. That disgusts me. No self control. It’s not like he wasn’t getting sex either. And the sheer amount of pictures I found on my computer was appalling. No art there, sheer bulk quantity. I see nothing beautiful, impressive, etc about it. This is someone who still asks me to see my body parts as a married man, at least once every time we chat. To me, he is worse because he was/is constantly objectifying me and other women. My ex fiancé was/is harmless so it comes down to the person and intention.
I prefer the second guy, even if it's obvious he's an addict. There's something glorious about engaging your demons frontallyclick to expand
Difference between us then. My ex fiancé used pics and vids of me if we weren’t actually doing it. That I prefer. I’d rather someone less focused on sex and more on the real world, probably why I’m on my celibacy journey rn. I think there’s much more important things to life than what kinds of porn I can find. It’s a difference in personality. My first love still fantasizes about leaving his wife for me too, but the thought of ever having to have sex with him again is repulsive. I know them both intimately and I know myself, so the choice is clear for me.