Leo Sun/Cancer Moon man in relationship with Libra Sun/ Aries Moon lady

Posted by Tomboyyyy

Posted by saggurl88

I will weigh in a little, I have a cancer moon.

I think it's selfish of him to ask you to put off grad school. You have the time now to do it. What's the rush in starting a family? People have a good 20 years to start one.

Once you start having kids, grad school will be back burnered. It takes 18 years to raise a child. Fitting in grad school in between that is doable, but unnecessary when you can take the 2 years now to do it and get your career started.

Is there a reason why his phone bothers you? This is a trust issue, and you should be wondering why you don't trust him. He can hang his phone from the ceiling every time you come over, stack books over it, hide it under his bed, or basically do whatever he wants with it, and it shouldn't be that big of a deal. It's his phone. Phones are just like emails and bank accounts, as far as I'm concerned. Do you have free access to those?

As for the other stuff. These are things you need to talk it out with him about, and find compromises for. If he is in his feelings and takes too long to get over things, you guys need to talk openly about how long is a good enough time for him to work through it and be willing to clear up the issue.

If you say things that you don't mean in the midst of the fighting that is hurtful for him, you should be figuring out why you do this and the reasoning behind it. Why would you expect him to not believe it, if he's supposed to believe everything else you say when you aren't angry.

If you're going to have a long relationship, you're going to need to talk extremely openly with him and work through the hard topics. You two seem to have a good start, but you leave things unfinished. He was hurt, and said he was rethinking things, which is normal, and now he says they are back on track. But you have doubts now, even though he admitted that it was his feelings that were holding him back, but now that things are better he feels more secure.

You two should find balance in your emotions for each other and try to be even more open and set boundaries for when things get bad. Obviously being stubborn doesn't work for you. You guys need to create a space for each other to openly communicate and listen to each other, without automatically being hurt by it. Going to lick your wounds is healthy, but things are left unfinished. You need to create solutions to how you can overcome what's hurtful, and be honest with each other about it. It seems like you guys already communicate well, but it needs to include the tough stuff as well. The more you are able to lay everything out on the table, the easier it gets.

You two starting a life together will be a big step, and many people do marriage, career and family. Figure out what order you are comfortable with, but you two need to be on the same page. There shouldn't be sacrifices made right now. Starting a life together should be crushing goals as a team, not putting them off for later.

He wants her to be at his beck and call but not return the effort. Her going to grad school will get her an out and expose her to more of the world which will make him look more and more scummy and he likes the attention she gives because it makes him feel better about himself. Saying he wants a family is breadcrumbs IMO.

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Posted by Tomboyyyy

Posted by saggurl88

I will weigh in a little, I have a cancer moon.

I think it's selfish of him to ask you to put off grad school. You have the time now to do it. What's the rush in starting a family? People have a good 20 years to start one.

Once you start having kids, grad school will be back burnered. It takes 18 years to raise a child. Fitting in grad school in between that is doable, but unnecessary when you can take the 2 years now to do it and get your career started.

Is there a reason why his phone bothers you? This is a trust issue, and you should be wondering why you don't trust him. He can hang his phone from the ceiling every time you come over, stack books over it, hide it under his bed, or basically do whatever he wants with it, and it shouldn't be that big of a deal. It's his phone. Phones are just like emails and bank accounts, as far as I'm concerned. Do you have free access to those?

As for the other stuff. These are things you need to talk it out with him about, and find compromises for. If he is in his feelings and takes too long to get over things, you guys need to talk openly about how long is a good enough time for him to work through it and be willing to clear up the issue.

If you say things that you don't mean in the midst of the fighting that is hurtful for him, you should be figuring out why you do this and the reasoning behind it. Why would you expect him to not believe it, if he's supposed to believe everything else you say when you aren't angry.

If you're going to have a long relationship, you're going to need to talk extremely openly with him and work through the hard topics. You two seem to have a good start, but you leave things unfinished. He was hurt, and said he was rethinking things, which is normal, and now he says they are back on track. But you have doubts now, even though he admitted that it was his feelings that were holding him back, but now that things are better he feels more secure.

You two should find balance in your emotions for each other and try to be even more open and set boundaries for when things get bad. Obviously being stubborn doesn't work for you. You guys need to create a space for each other to openly communicate and listen to each other, without automatically being hurt by it. Going to lick your wounds is healthy, but things are left unfinished. You need to create solutions to how you can overcome what's hurtful, and be honest with each other about it. It seems like you guys already communicate well, but it needs to include the tough stuff as well. The more you are able to lay everything out on the table, the easier it gets.

You two starting a life together will be a big step, and many people do marriage, career and family. Figure out what order you are comfortable with, but you two need to be on the same page. There shouldn't be sacrifices made right now. Starting a life together should be crushing goals as a team, not putting them off for later.

He wants her to be at his beck and call but not return the effort. Her going to grad school will get her an out and expose her to more of the world which will make him look more and more scummy and he likes the attention she gives because it makes him feel better about himself. Saying he wants a family is breadcrumbs IMO.

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